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I love my bf rodney but recently (on the phone) if he says I have to go ill say ok but then kinda start to hate him, I dont know why I just get mad at him and sometimes I don't and sometimes I do. Is this normal, it has never happened before so can anyone please tell me why i am doing this, thnx

It sounds like you're just losing interest in the relationship. If he isn't doing anything wrong, then you have no reason to hate him other than... you don't like him as much as you once did. It may be that you are just going through a hard phase right now (which is normal, we all go through it) But if it doesn't stop, you may want to evaluate your relationship, or maybe your own personality.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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16/F Hollister_lover09
Iv been doing gymnastics for a couple of years now. At the end of my freshman year I got into it and i was doing really good. I mean i had a backhandspring in like a week, and was adding little tricks to it. Then I tore my ACL and missed 9 months of it. I started back up in Feb. But I came to notice, I think im not doing something right with my backhandspring.

Okay, I go over, But I leave my hands down and wait for ym feet to go over. Is this even right?

I'm pretty sure its not, But I cant remember, And i havent been to gymnastics since March maybe, but I;m going tonight. Can someone tell me if im doing it wrong, what can I do to make it better?

P.s if you do NOT do gymnastics and suggest reading something, I will rate low. I want a gymnast to answer. Thank you and sorry*

Hey! I've been tumbling for a while. I'm working on my whip through to double. I'm not going to tell you what all these other people have already told you, but in addition:

Make sure you keep your body HOLLOW and as tight as possible. If you do not have a hollow body, you will continue to have the same problem where your hands aren't snapping off the ground. Keep your arms tight by your soldiers untill you have completely finished your backhandspring and have rebounded. Make sure your arms are locked and your abs are in tight.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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13/f

I have to write my science in the news report for gcse tonight, and I have to do all of it tonight seeing as I can't concentrate at school.

I'm doing, 'Should Cannabis Be Legalised?'

I think it should, does anyone have any good 'fors'.
The report has to be 600 - 800 words long, about 3 a4 pages.

I'm totally stuck, does anyone know how to lay it out, what I should include, and any good tips?

Thanks in advance, xxx

Just in addition to that, you could say that it would bring more money into the government, because people would be required to pay taxes on it.

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...getfingered up the butt? I mean...ok, he might like to get fingered but NOT like men but still...isn t it kind of Gay?

I would probably start to wonder, but hey, it's whatever he's into.

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i have a small thingy and i was wondering if girls even care

The only girls that care are skanks that have been with a million guys. If a girl likes you, she isn't going to care. If she does, she is way to superficial to be worth your time. Some girls actually prefer it because it doesn't hurt as bad.

Sarah

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My parents completely ignore me. All the things that i do are never noticed or good enough for them. They are always too busy with work so they don't notice any of my accomplishments. Last week i tried something to get thier attention. I drastically colored my hair to see if they would notice. They said it looks ok and walked away. What can i do to get them to notice me?

They are your parents, I'm sure that they do care. They probably just have a lot of stuff to do and are very distracted. Don't change your appearance or do anything drastic. Talk to them and ask them why they are like this. They probably have a good excuse. Then, ask them if they want to watch a movie or play a board game with you one night. Plan a date and remind them so they don't forget.Try spending some quality time with them when they aren't busy.

Good Luck.
Sarah

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i like this guy who has a girlfriend. and a few weeks ago he told me he likes me. hes flirted with me a whole lot. well hes still going out with his gf, but he flirts with me even more now. like on the phone he tells me he cant wait till we hang out because im so fun and pretty and stuff. and he told me hes starting to like me alot more. but i feel bad flirting with him if he has a girlfriend, but its hard to stop flirting with him if i really really like him.
helppp me please.
ily

It sounds like this guy is just waiting to get a response from you before he breaks up with his girlfriend. He doesn't want to break up with her until he is sure that you like him and you will be there when he does.

You just need to talk to him and tell him honestly. If you want to date him, say that you really like him and you want to date him but he is going to have to work his situation out with his girlfriend. Don't keep sneaking around with him until he breaks up with her. He will have more respect for you if you let him know that you don't want to share him with another girl. Sit down with him and ask him if he wants a relationship with you. If he says that he does, tell him that you really like him, but that you can't see him while he has a girlfriend. Tell him that if he wants to end it with her, you will be there. Then, let him call you. Don't call him too much or hang out with him too much until he is done with her. After that, go for it.

If he doesn't want to break up with her and wants to flirt with you anyway, he isn't worth it. Even though he may seem wonderful, you have to look at it this way: He isn't willing to break up with his gf, but wants to flirt with you. If you ever do go out with him, whats to say he won't do the same thing to you.

Think about it and sit down and talk with him. Don't end the conversation until you know where you stand and have a plan on what you are going to do. Communication is key to having a good relationship, the sooner you start communicating, the better your relationship will be.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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how old do you have to be to get a job at a tanning bed?

It depends on the tanning bed. Usually it is 16, but it could be older. Very few will hire 15 year olds. Typically, it's 16 though.

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In book 6 of Harry Potter, do Harry and Ginny get together? How did that happen? (I am finishing book 5 right now)

Yes, Harry started to like her, and then one day at some party in the Gryffindor common room, they kissed, and now they are going out.

I love those books. I think I've read the 6th one 4 times now. I promise I have a life though lol


Mmm... she kinda just got lost in the scheme of things after the fifth book. They had a fling and then it stopped after the whole Room of Requirements thing happened and I guess Harry just forgot about her.

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help! im m/13 and ive only ever made out with a girl who wasnt my girlfriend and wasnt hot! whenever girls meet me they seem to be interested and curious and first then just get bored of me easily and dont really talk to me..... i have a little bit of difficulty talking to them but i get on well enough when there is a good topic.

For a 13 year old, you seem pretty ahead of the game. Every boy your age has trouble talking to girls. This is something that you will eventually grow out of. Just remember to be yourself and girls will like you. Try to act mature, but outgoing at the same time. That is really rare in a 13 year old, so if a guy is like that, girls will be all over him. I know I would have when I was 13. So don't worry about talking to girls right now. Just act naturally, and you will get the hang of it.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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Theres this guy I met on online and he asked me to hang out with him we were already spose to go out one night but he got arrested.I'm ready for a hookup (I'm a virgin) and he loves sex. I told him to call me but he said for me to call him. Is this worth it? I mean if I'm looking for a hookup now? Should I call him?
P.S. Even though we met online, my good friend knows him so I think its okay.

This isn't going to be the answer that you are looking for, but I would say no, he isn't worth it.

The first red flag would be... HE GOT ARRESTED. Is that the kind of guy that you really want to be hanging out with. You know that he will influence you to do things that you shouldn't.

Secondly, you met him online. Maybe your friend knows him, but you haven't ever met him, so you don't know what he's like. People change. A girl at my school this past year got raped by her best friend of ten years. It isn't safe to go off and have sex with random guys. Even if he is a good guy, you have no way of knowing who he has hooked up with or whether he has STDs or not.

Everyone I have ever talked to that has lost their virginity like this has regreted it. It will mean so much more if you wait and have sex with a guy that your dating and you really like. Also, people will have a great deal more respect for you that way.

Really think about this, it isn't a good idea, and the reality is, you are going to regret it. Maybe not now or next year, but at some point, you will. I promise. Think about the rest of your life knowing that your first time was with a criminal that you met on line, and you did it the first time you met him.

Really think about this before you do it, because it will inevitablly lead to problems for you.

Best Wishes.
Sarah

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M/15- I'm in the middle of nowhere and i can't find any girls to meet. Only the ppl in my neiborhood and it is small and it seems like no1 here is my age. I want to meet some1 but i feel like there is nobody here 2 meet. What do i do?

Don't go searching for girls, let them come to you. Get involved in everything that you can (sports, clubs, volunteer) Then be personable and nice to everybody. You also have to be outgoing. If you don't chase after girls, you will get a good reputation, and girls will want to be with you. Make yourself likeable and let them come to you.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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i'm 14, 15 in two months, and a female, and I sweat SO much under my arms, i've tried changing deodorants and everything, but it doesn't really work at all, like it goes through my shirt, and it's REALLY embarrassing.
any ways to get rid of it?

If it's available, go to the dermatlogist and tell them about your problem. They will prescribe extra strength deodorant. If not, take a shower at might and apply a heavy coat right before you go to bed. When you wake up in the morning, apply another coat. This helps a lot. Also, in the shower, leave the soap under your arms for a few minutes.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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Me and my boyfriend have been going out like 1 or 2 weeks now and we're gonna make out and he's most likely gonna feel me up haha I'm okay with it and everything haha.BUT he said I can feel him "down" if I want to so if I have the courage tonight haha how would I go about doing this without putting my hands down his pants or anything ? I just wanna get him exited haha thnkx a million !! [p.s. no lectures please haha]

Honestly, I wouldn't reccomend just "feeling him" because unless you jack him off, your going to give him blue balls. This sucks for a guy and usually means he will pressure you into giving him a hand job. If you don't want to do that, then I would suggest staying above the waist.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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theres this guy i like, hes one year younger than me and hes really hot. whenever i hang out with him outside of school (which is hardly ever) we flirt alot with eachother. but at school we flirt a little bit but then he flirts with other girls aswell. then one night he started texting me and some how we ended up talking dirty to eachother and we dirty texted eachother every night after that and now i really like him. but still at school he doesnt act any different. well my question is how can i tell if hes just doing this for fun or if he likes me?

He is probably just nervous around you when he sees you at school. It is much more comfortable in an outside environment where you aren't with a bunch of your peers. This probably means that he does like you. He is probably just intimidated by all the other guys that are around you at school. It sounds dumb, but you would be surprised. If he acts like he likes you outside of school, then don't worry about it. Ask him to hang out more, and eventually he will be comfortable enough to act the same way when he is at school.

Good Luck!
Sarah

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sometiems i see guys smoking these brown looking things with this white plastic thing at the end. what is this?

It's a Black and Mild. Just a type of cheap cigar.

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Okay well im a 14/f and i have a friend- ex friend now- but she texted me and was like i tolled everyone your secret! - and my secret is that im a lezbian- and she is the only one i tolled and i thought she was just kidding but she wasn't she tolled like veryone i know and so now everyone is like Oh god you are a lez sick your perverted , do you have a girlfriend , you should die lezbians and gay people shouldn't be aloud on earth ext.... but its starting to get to me and i dont know what to do can you help me??
love,
Stressed out!

Ok, to start out with people who don't deserve to be on this planet, 2tammy2 is probably the most hypocritical person I've seen on this site. You were being nice giving her a 2. I would get her banned. I would keep going but I don't want a perma-ban.

Now on to the ADVICE part of my ramblings...

Listen, at your age, people are very self concious. Everyone is going through a phase and are only looking out for themselves. By even admitting to yourself that you are a lesbian shows that you have way more maturity than anyone else your age. The next time they upset you, remember that you are better than them. Don't let it get to you. Be proud of who you are, because I know that you CANNOT help it. Anyone that is worth your time will accept you for who you are and won't care about dumb things like sexuality that aren't important. Think of it as an oppourtunity to find your real friends, which is hard for most to do in highschool.

Good Luck!
Sarah

Oh, and Tammy, please correct your own grammer before you correct others. No one will take you seriously if they can't read what you write.

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k so my parents [mainly no all my stepdad] doesn't let me do anything. if i ask to go to/have friends over like on a monday he'll be like well we'll see how your attitude is and maybe you can on thursday. and i'm like wtf. i haven't done anytihng all summer and it's starting to aggravate me. any ideas on what i can do around the house thats like fun and/or productive? i'm just so bored and i'm staritng to get really upset too, like i'll just sit here and cry. ag. any suggestions would be great :]

14/f

Find a summer project to work on. Set a goal for something that you want to get accomplished this summer, and set your mind on that. Make an excercise plan, so you can look great when you go back to school and have something to show for your summer. Lay out and work on your tan, or read a book. Ask your parents if you can start a community service project. Volunteer at a local hospital. Take a walk in your neighborhood if you get really bored. You can also do things like work jigsaw puzzles and things like that. Focus on making your days productive. Whether you are ust taking a walk, or you are volunteering somewhere, try to do something productive everyday. Go to bed at a reasonable time and wake up at a reasonable time. You will start to feel really good and healthy if nothing else.

Good Luck & Enjoy your Summer!
Sarah

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My best friend (D) told me not to long ago that she had sex when she was 12, now shes 14. I was shocked and disgusted too, because people always thought she was a whore. My other best friend told me that D told her that it happened more than once. Once in the bed, once in the shower, once on the beach, and once somewhere else, and a couple other times. This was all with her boyfriend (M). M died last year, and he was only 13. Anyway, she didn't tell me it happened all those times,because she knew I'd be even more disapointed I guess. When D told me about the first time, I told her I had lost respect for her. I think she is a whore. One time in class we were counting all the guys she dated, and I was naming random names and she would be like Yup. The total was 17. D turned 14 a few months ago. Would you agree that D is a whore? Also, would it be wrong to stop talking to her, because of that.

Calling someone a whore is very subective. It's all in the eyes of the beholder. I can definatly see how she got that title, but it is HER life and HER body. You can give her your input, but when it comes down to it, she makes the decision. Just because you don't agree with it doesn't mean that she has to think the same way.

The reality of it is, she needs a friend like you that will be a positive influence in her life. Don't drop the friendship because of that. You will realize later on in life that that kind of thinking is hypocritical. Your her best friend, you should be there for her no mater what. It's her life so let her make her own decisions.

Best of Luck,
Sarah

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There is this girl who i know used to like me a lot. Im not sure if she still does. I never thought i had feelings for her before, but now i realize i do... a lot. i think i may have came off as immature/annoying when i talked to her yesterday, and now she wont pick up when i call her, so i dont really want to talk to her and be annoying.. Do you think i still have a chance with her or shld i give it up?

I agree that you need to lay low for a little bit. Don't give it too much time though, because then you are giving her the impression that you aren't interested. Give it one or two days and then call her. If she doesn't answer, leave her a message. Be very mature and diplomatic when you leave it. Just say that you need to talk to her about something. When you talk to her, you need to be straight up with her. Tell her that you got the distinct impression that you were acting really dumb. Say that the truth is, you were only acting like that because you really like her. But be cute about it, not too serious. I know that it's hard to do, and in a teenage boys mind, it's completely gay, but take it from a girl that has dated a lot of guys, it isn't. It really does show a lot of maturity when a guy owns up to acting dumb and apologizing. Thats why girls always go for older guys. Ask her if you can have a chance to redeem yourself by taking her out one night. She will probably be thrilled since she did like you.

Trust me on this one.
Good Luck!
Sarah

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