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Hey.Im 15 and i like this girl..i told her how i felt and she said she couldnt really see us like bf and gf now because shes in a relationship and plus she doesnt want to screw up our great friendship...now i have been hearing from my friend who is also friends with her how she is having sex with this kid and that she is in "love" with him but he doesnt live in our town he lives like 45 minutes away and he has dropped outta school and is only 17! so i dont see why this kid is so great and im not for her..i got her a card for valentines day but didnt get a chance to give it to her and i think it will change something but i dont know. I love this girl to death but just want to tell her that i know what she is doing but i dont want my friend that told me to get mad at me and i dont want her to get mad at him. we are in hs so i kno that sex is commin but not for like 15 year olds especially with two straight bf she has done this and not told me. idk what to do please help

Aw. :[

Well, there must be something special about this kid, although he seems like a failure in life - he must be doing some good otherwise she wouldn't be with him. She may just not want to screw up your relationship, that's how I am with all of my guy friends, I can't ever see them as boyfriends, so I just like them as friends -- all equally. Sex shouldn't be coming ANYTIME soon for 15 year olds, so I completely disagree with that. I mean, why try with this chick if she's 15 having sex with a 17 year old drop out? I mean, you seem so much better then that. & You definitely deserve better then that.

If I were you, I'd just let "nature run it's course." You can't talk her out of the relationship with her boyfriend, if she doesn't like you in that way. Just try & spend more time with her, compliment her. & Just do all those things that boys do. :] You should give her the card, she'll like it. It's something sweet & you never knowww, she might be super happy that you gave it to her.

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I like my best friend a little, he just got out of a long and serious relationship. Way back last March he said that he liked me, but I don't think he still has those feelings for me...that was a long time ago. Anyway, I have a boyfriend, who I've been dating for over 7 months and I like him alot, but I also like my friend. Should I tell my best friend that I kinda like him or is it just a waste of my time?

I think you should definitely tell him. Although you may not be able to pursue a relationship with him since you have a boyfriend now, I'm sure that he'll be happy knowing that when he liked you, you liked him. :] Plus it may turn out that you like your best friend more then your current boyfriend, you just have to see where things go. But, I definitely think you should tell him, I'm sure he'll be extremely happy.

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My best friend just broke up with his girlfriend and it made me really happy, does that mean that I like him? Or do you think that I'm just happy because now he'll give me more attention?

I think that you're just happy because he'll give you more attention. That's how I am, whenever my friends boyfriends/girlfriends break up with them, because I know that they'll be coming to me more. =]

You might like him though, so you should always keep your eyes open. hehe.

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this may sound weird but i want my teeth white
and i was wondering what toothpaste you use and if it works! thanks i rate 5's

also any other suggetions would be nice

Crest White Strips don't really work for me. They really hurt my teeth & I just don't think it's worth the pain to have "white teeth" in like 30 days or whatever it says. It might not hurt for you, but you should definitely try it.

There's stuff called "Pearl White" & you can ONLY get it at Wal-mart. It works GREAT. :]

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I have a neighbor he is 16 and i am a girl who is 13 I really like him but there is an age differece now when your older it doesn't really matter how old you are but we hang out swim play bball football all that he came to all me softball games and everything the thing is he goes to a different skool than I do and there are really pretty girls there and everything and I don't know if he likes me or not he is nice has a great personality and can always make me laugh but the age difference keeps bothering me plus we are really good friends and if I tell him that I like him it mite screw up our frienship please help me!!!!!!!!!!

I definitely agree with the person below me. 16 & 13 isn't even THAT bad. & I'm sure that since he's spending so much time with you, he must LIKE you. :] I'm sure you telling him that you like him wouldn't hurt. Just try not to pursue a relationship if he doesn't want to, although it looks like he does.

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I've been playing softball for a really long time. (Since like first grade maybe? I don't remember) Now I'm in 8th. Well, I don't really know if I want to play anymore. I'm really shy, and usually I get stuck with people I either don't really like from my school, or people I don't know from the other middle school. So it's hard for me to communicate with them and make friends on the team. Also, the past year that I played softball, a lot of the boys showed up to the games, because the more "popular" people play. And it's embarrassing, especially since the boy I like came a lot too. And I'm definitely not the best player. My crush is obsessed with baseball, and he is really good, so if I quit, that might make him think differently of me? Maybe? Idk. But also, it's the only sport I actually LIKE, so if i quit, I wouldn't get as much exercise and go out after school. I don't know if I should continue playing or not. It just wasn't an enjoyable year for me, I mean i love playing the sport for fun, like with my friends and at home, but on a team, I just didn't like it. So should I quit or not? And also, what are some other sports I might want to try, if I do decide to quit? (Just so you know, i already tried soccer, and HATED it) Thanks so much, sorry it was so long!

Sorry it took me a while to answer this.
I definitely think you should stay in softball because you've always been doing it, and switching sports it might be harder to gain friends & what have you. This happened to me, I was in baton but quit because my best friend was in flags, and I wanted to hang out with her - which was stupid. & I ended up quitting flags & having to wait until next year to join again. =[ You might regret it in the future, but I really don't think you should switch sports, because you've been doing softball for 7 years and you're probably really good at it. If you're really uncomfortable and think you should quit, then maybe join another sport, like tennis, volleyball, or basketball. Those are probably one of the sports I would go for!!

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hey umm i was wondering.. im 12 and ive never worn a tampon before. but i want to start because i just think theyd be better andddd yea. everytime i try to put one in they dont go in. do you think that could maybe be because they are the super absorbancy ones? im pretty sure i just need a smaller one.. but im not really sure..

=] It's definately because you're using super absorbancy ones, they're probably way too big for you. The first tampon should be like the smallest you can possibly find, and then you can get bigger ones. Your vagina just isn't used to it. =[

I suggest; Tampax Pearl: Regular.
& Tampax: Juniors.

And I think you should use plastic ones, and not cardboard - because cardboard ones hurt really really bad.

Ask your mom to help you, I'm sure she'll know which tampons to get for you!

Link: http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/tampon.html

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Who wants to go to school for 6 weeks and then have 3 off then go back?

Not me I want to hear what everyone has to say on this though. It would affect Christmas, thanksgiving, traveling... and etc. You'd have some very cold 3 week breaks during the winter.. who wants that?

I just need some advice or whatever on this.

Be as honest and clear as possible please.

Well, personally I like that idea in a way. I'm sure you'd still get vacation for holidays like Christmas, Thanksgiving, Easter, & what not. But, they wouldn't be as long. I like the idea of going 6 weeks and having 3 off because, I have like atleast one absence a month from school, because I'm just tired & need a break it. At the end of the 6 weeks, you have a long vacation to look forward to, where you could easily fit in a vacation. But that would be like a year-round school & I don't think I'd like that, because you'd have to go to school during the summer & everything and that just wouldn't be fun. =]

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Hey what are some good british/european (english) band?!?! i like franz ferdinand, are there some good ones you could recomend?

coldplay.

my favorite band. they're amazing.

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hey ! do you know what that straightening stuff is called? like you spray it on your hair before you straighten it and its supposed to protect if from getting damaged? i saw it on that commerical with beyonce.. and i cant seem to find it anywhere!

I've never seen that commercial before, so I'm not exactly 100% sure. I know Beyonce does commercials only for, Loreal. :] So the product is definately by them. But I'm not 100% sure which one.. I found one site, which is Beyonce straightning her hair, but it's not spray -- it's actual stuff you put through your hair, I'm not sure if this is it though.

The product is called; Loreal, Studio Hot Kiss.
Link: http://caps.roxcafe.org/beyonce53.htm

I'm going to keep searching, so check back because I might edit the answer. :)


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hey im goin out with this guy & hes awsome and everything but i found out my friend likes him too & has liked him longer than i have...do i break up with him..orr wattt? =/

Heya. :] No you shouldn't break up with him. That's your friends problem, if she liked that boy before you even started dating him, she should've told you. She might just be jealous because she doesn't have a boyfriend, but if you like him - don't break up with him. If she was a true friend, she wouldn't have told you anything about her liking him before yall started dating. :] Just ignore it. If she gets mad, then so be it, her loss!

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My best friend likes me and says he is in love with me and i dont know what to do. I like him but just as a friend even a brother. i dont know what to do and its hard because i dont want things to change between us. so can anyone help me?

Just explain to him that he's more like a brother figure to you, and you don't want to further the relationship because you think of him more like a friend. =]

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what age is right for sex? i always thought not till your married. what do you think?

I, personally believe in abstinence, which is waiting until you're married. I'm not religious but it's just the fact of waiting for that special person, you know? In other peoples opinions, some think it's retarded to wait that long because you might get married to someone & turns out that there sex isn't "good." =] I don't think any age under 16 is "right." Like I hate 13 year olds that have sex, and then their boyfriends break up with them the next day.. When you have a stable relationship & you know you can trust that person. I think it's right. =]

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I had those little rhinestones that you can get from Claire's on my cell phone. Well they started to get old so I tried to peel them all off.

Now the sticky glue stuff that held them on is all over the back of my phone and I can't get it off. I've tried several different things but nothing can get the glue off. Do any of you know how to get it off? Please help, my cell phone looks disgusting noww!

Have you tried rubbing alcohol or nail polish remover? That happened to my sisters computer once, like I stuck little stickers all over it & got in loads of trouble, so I tried nail polish remover & it came off. =]

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I am 13 and my sister is 28, married and has 1 child. She is very clean, doesn't drink, doesn't smoke (Anymore). But she is depressed. She is in debt, and her husband is never home because of his job. He is a truck driver, so it's usually her and her baby which is 2 years old.

Every week that her husbands not home I have to go spend the night with her. It feels like a second home. One night, not to long ago, I went to her house to spend the night (of course) and she was crying. I asked her why and she started to tell me but didn't and I took it as if she was depressed or that she was alone and afraid because I wasn't there.

People have tried to steal things from her and her husband many times. Her neightbor thinks they sell drugs and take the money to buy all of the things she has. Which isn't true of course. She's in debt. My sister and I have never argued. I like to make her laugh because it makes me feel good that she can accually have fun.

Another thing is her weight. She's shorter than me and she is a little chubby. Everytime she see's herself in old photos she says she wishes she could look like that. One night I didn't want to spend the night with her and my mom made me go. The next day I found out that she was crying because she thought that I wasn't comming out. I really don't know what to do anymore. Can anyone offer any help?

Have you tried to talk to your sister? Tell her that it makes you upset, whenever she cries in front of you. You can't blame her - she just wants company. But if my sister made me stay at her house every single night her fiance wasn't there, I would be really pissed. & Of course she'd never force me to do that. Tell her, that you really care for her, but you don't feel that she should cry in front of you, because you get worried by it. =[

Also, try talking to your mom. See if maybe your sister & her child can stay the night at your house, instead of staying over there so you don't have to go there all the time. Tell your mom that you don't think it's fair that you have to go to her house everytime her husband isn't there. She's just dependent on you, you're probably the only person that she likes being around whenever her husband isn't there.. which isn't a very good thing. The only thing you can do is ask her why she's so dependent on you, and why she gets upset whenever you don't go over & stuff. Get your mom to talk to her toooo! =]

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I wasn't sure which category to put this under, so here it is. I got my 2nd whole pearced around january 15th. its now january 27th. ( 2 weeks i think lol ) i got it pearced with these earring in which are not real gold. My ear have been getting 'gunk' on the back of them. My ear are very senstive. I really want to take them out and change them into earrings that will not irriate my ears. Also i got my cartlidge pearced around December 23rd..and i'd also like to change this one. Would it be safe for me to change my 2nd whole now, like take it out really quick and putting in another earring?

i'd LOVE any help or advice you gave me!

As for your 2nd hole piercing, NO. You should not take it out -- not only will putting a new earring irritate it even more, you'll be in SO much pain. Trust me, I have my ears pierced the whole way up and I know exactly what it's like. You've only had your ears pierced for 12 days, which isn't even 2 weeks, and you're supposed to wait 6-8 weeks to take out your earrings & change them. That's exactly what happens, "gunky, crusty" crap will be on the back of your earring, but that's good -- that's whats supposed to happen, and even if you change your earring your ear will still have that gunky crusty stuff on it. Try and turn your earring a few times, and the stuff will just fall off. And NO it would not be safe to take out your cartilidge piercing, you're supposed to wait about 12 weeks, which is 3 months. It's only been one month.

If you really want, go back to the place you got your ears pierced & they'll tell you exactly the same thing, or talk to your mom about it & see what she's says. =]

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hey anybody here go tanning? i mean i do.. i just want to kno how long it takes before you actually start looking tan. And can it fade? thanks LOTS

Haha, I love tanning. But tanning is NOT great for your skin, it can cause skin cancer, so I honestly don't know what the person under me is talking about. I go tanning -- but my skins gay like I don't really turn tan for like about 2 weeks & I just get really burnt everyday I go, my skins super sensitive. Yes, tans fade, that's why you have to continuely keep doing it, like maybe only once a week -- just to keep your tan. Or, there are tanning beds out there that maintain your tan, and don't make you go any darker or lighter. =]

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when is it ok to kiss your girlfriend? like, what times/how long you've been dating/age?

thnx in advance

Everyone's entitled to their own opinions. Some people do it on their first date. There isn't a specific age though. I think the first "peck" kiss should be within like the first week of your relationship, but make out should be like hmm I don't know like a month? Yeahh, long - I know. :]

Whenever you know that she's comfortable kissing you back. Like if she's flirting with you big time, and cuddling with you & stuff -- then I think you should kiss her, but if you know she's shy then you should wait for her to make the first move. Because she might break up with you, if you kiss her without notice, y'know? =] Hehe. Good luckk!

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I am a male, 15, and lately I've been wondering about something. There are many girls in our school and grade. I am a gentleman and open doors, get chairs, etc. for the girls. It is pretty much the same way with my friends, we are all like that. But the girls in our school keep saying they like "skaters" or "skaters are soo hot" and we really are wondering what is wrong with us. Not to boast, but all of us are good looking. The girls just keep talking about "skaters." So why is it like this, and do girls not like gentlemen or something?

I think that'd be a little creepy. No offense but if some guy just came out of no where & pulled my seat out for me in Biology or something, I'd be like uhhmm. We're in school & I can definately do that myself. =] Opening doors is sweet, and I absolutely fall head over heals for anybody that opens doors for me. I think it's so cute, haha. Skaters are gay, if you want my personal opinion, I'd choose a gentleman over a skater, ANYDAY! I hate skaters, they're just stupid. :) Some girls just don't like guys who like to do stuff for them, y'know?

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15/M (Freshman)
I don't really know if I want to finish school... I mean, I sort of lost all desire to finish school, I've had my heart broken this year & after that... it just seems like school isn't important anymore... I mean, I started failing... & I'm just not careing & just letting it keep going...
so, I think I want to do homeschooling next year, can anyone give me any advice on how to do homeschooling on the computer? & I'd like to graduate a year early, is that possible?

thank you so much

Home schooling on the computer is really cool. My friend like did that & I was so jealous of her, because she got a new computer & a web cam.. and of course like a tutor online & stuff.

These following states DO NOT allow online charter schools: Alabama; Kentucky; Maine; Montana; Nebraska; North Dakota; South Dakota; Vermont; Washington; West Virginia.

But the rest do.

I suggest you "google" Virtual Charter Schools ____(and your state)___ or Online Schooling. =] And I'm sure you'll be able to find something along those lines.

Although I thought it was really cool my friend did all of these awesome things & could stay home, she was really lonely all the time, and said she regretted ever doing it, then she tried to go back into public schooling and they wouldn't let her because homeschooling didn't give her enough credits to move into the next grade.

I think it's a cool idea though, and I'm not going to disagree with it, because if I had a choice -- I'd be virtual schooled. =] I don't think you'd be able to graduate a year earlier, UNLESS you did summer schooling as well. Which is up to you -- but you'd have to check with your counselor @ school or if you do start virtual schooling.. see if you could take extra courses throughout the day & maybe get all your classes over with earlier. But that could be a bit expensive. =] Good luck!

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