Hi my names Miren, I'll give you stacks of advice on anything =] I've got an Art&Design diploma and I'm studying a Film Production degree in Staffordshire. I'm also a black belt in Taekwon-Do. I'll try my best to help anybody needing... help.
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I'm 13 years old and I'm about 5'4. I once heard that if you're 5 feet tall, your supossed to weigh 100 pounds, and for every inch after that, it's another 5 pounds. Well, that would mean that I'm suposed to weigh about 120 pounds, but i only weigh 95. Does this mean I'm 25 pounds UNDERweight? It seems that if I gained 25 pounds, I'd be looking near obese. I don't feel or look underweight. Am I? (link)
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Your not considerably under weight, your fine, girls worry too much about weight... I think you should eat a bit more, not to put on weight, just to enjoy yourself, i'm a guy and i'm 16 and I weigh 150 pounds and i'm healthy and fit.
If you think you quite skinny though you might want to eat a little more, or take a mental note of what you eat on an average day, makesure it's enough. If you want to ask a friend if you look underweight then ask a GUY not a girl. =]
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Ok, this might be long, so yeahh..
Well I'm going to be a freshman in high school. I have 2 best friends, let's call them Marissa and Erica. I can be my complete self around them, tell them anything, etc. I'm shy when you first meet me, so I don't have that many friends, I mean I have these 2, and a few others [but it's different with the others] and that's it. It's hard for me to make new friends. But now, I feel like this friendship between me, Marissa and Erica is slowly falling apart.
Let me give you a little background here. Marissa's parents are very protective of her. She is almost a year younger than Erica and I, being born in August, me and Erica in November and December.. Anyway. 8th grade, she was hardly allowed to go anywhere, mall, movies.. she wasn't allowed to go, UNLESS a parent was there. I live close to a park, if me Marissa and Erica wanted to walk down there, she HAD to call her parents, when she got there, got back, etc. If we wanted to go to Friendly's or whatever to eat, had to call when she got there, got back, etc. When we go to HER house, we hardly go anywhere. Don't get me wrong, I love Marissa, I've known her since kindergarden. She can get annoying at times, but so can everybody. Her house can get boring, but we can do other stuff.
Now Erica.. well her parents aren't as protective, but whenever we wanted to hang out on Fridays after school or whatever.. she [sometimes, most of the time actually] couldn't, because she had to babysit her sister. Now I know that's not her fault. But over we weekends we didn't see each other because of other plans, or we just didn't call each other. See like, Marissa nevers goes online [hardly], Erica does sometimes, not as much anymore actually but once in a while and she'd usually always be on after school. My friends.. well they don't like call each other. I don't know.. it's weird. Now it's summer and we call once in a while but.. i don't know. I'll get into this soon. Also, whenever Erica wants to hang out, she'd always have to leave by 9, 9:30, whereas Marissa could stay until 10, 10:30..
But now, Erica is mad at Marissa. she's always telling me how she hates hanging out with her..like everytime she comes online and i'm talking to her we end up talking about marissa and i feel soo bad talking about her behind her back because she doesnt even know. shpuld i tell marissa what's going on or will that make things worse? ok so like on friday i think it was i went to the movies with marissa and her sister [yeah for like the first time, her parents actually didnt stay, which was a surprise] anyway. all 3 of us had hung out about a week before that, and marissa kept talking about seeing the movie. well when she mentioned the movie to erica, she was like no i don't want to see that.. well ends up marissa didnt invited erica and now she is mad. she says she always feels like she is the one left and and me and marissa always text each other, well erica always said it cost a lot of money and i didnt want to add it to her bill, she says she can text sometimes..okk well then shes saying how me and marissa always calll each other first, well like erica doesn't even TRY to call one of us. i didnt hear from her from a whole week, the first week of summer..SHE could text me or call me..right? if she really feels that way. marissa atleast i keep more in touch with. idk. i love thse girls and dont want to end our friendship but do you think whats going on is right of either of them? am I being a bad friend? i feel like im stuck in the middle. what should i do about this? im so sorry this was so long, if you read it all thanks and if u answer it, thanks again♥ (link)
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Yup you are kind of stuck in the middle, but you should try keep on mutual ground with both of them; try and find out why Erica is having these problems with Marissa, perhaps you should try and make friends with some of Marissa and Erica's friends and start going out in 2 different groups, I know your shy but try not too, or perhaps the other friends you have start bringing them out with you guys so you're hanging out in a bigger group, Erica and Marissa might get along better that way.
Erica clearly wants more attention, she is feeling left out, so talk to her a little more and try and eliminate the cause of her grudges on Marissa.
Perhaps she doesn't like hanging out with her because you're giving Marissa more attention? or she is just jelous of your relationship with Marissa.
My advice is, give Erica a bit more attention, or invite another person into your group so that Erica can bond with them aswell. 4 is better then 3.
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hey! well im 15/f and i know you guys have seen alot of guys and their girlfriends and all that stuff lately but i have the same problem. there is this guy and well we have been hangin out alot lately. but never just us two. its always me and him and then my other two friends (cousins). and well you see me and ryan (this guy that i am kinda crushin on) we always flirted nonstop and stuff until he got a girlfriend. she is gorgeous and im jealous! but whenever i see him we still kinda flirt and i dont start it he always does. today we all hungout and we were drivin him to his girlfriends house so he could hangout with her and some of their friends and on the way hes like gosh i dont really want to go....but we picked up him later and then we all hungout again and we played some game with a football and he always like hit me on purpose and stuff and we always like flirted..and he tried to pants me and all this stuff and would always stand behind me and do who knows what! i just dont get him. he always gives me mixed signals. i hangout with him more than he hangs out with his girlfriend! but it seems like he still really likes her and they just started going out a little bit ago so i dont think they will be breaking up anytime soon. i know i should try and stay away from him but i just cant he just pulls me in everytime i see him and my heart drops..sometimes it seems like he feels the same way but we never really talk about it! im not that kind of girl to be like hey do you have any feelings for me? noo thats not me. i can really see myself having a relationship with him though. but what do you guys think from what you have heard about this guy?!
thanks in advance :] (link)
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He likes you =D
Let things keep going the way they are, you will love it, and soon he will dump that gf of his, and give it a little time, and he you will finally be with him the way you want it.
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I am thinking about becoming a vegetarian. But i dont know the FIRST thing about it. I know that they say vegans dont get enough protein and stuff like that and i dont know how i would get certain vitamins if i did become a vegan. I tried to google this but i didnt find anything that answers my questions. If anyone can help me out I would greatly appreciate it! (link)
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A Vegan is a "Strict" vegeterian. I think you need to do some additional google research. You shouldn't become a vegan unless you have strong moral values. From the sound of it I don't think you want to become vegan, or follor "veganism" if this is just something you want to try out, forget the word vegan entirely. You can always search for vegetarian meals and what you shouldn't eat etc...
I'm hoping you know the basics, (being a vegetarian means you don't eat meat note how some people have a lack of protein which you get from meat, protein is used to repair muscle, however I think there are some ways you can get around this and still get enough protein in a vegetarian diet... you will have to research what foods you can eat for protein, or perhaps take protein powder)
Now to go on to Veganism.. Vegans are strict vegetarians, they believe strongly in how animals are treated and they don't eat or even wear anything to do with any animal, so by all means research and learn about it, but I'm not sure if you would want to step in that alley unless you are really top serious about some issues.
I hope I helped ^_^
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my boyfriend has gone away for about 2 weeks and I wont be able to talk to him until he comes back. I want to suprise him and have some really special things for us to do when he gets back. Could you guys help me brainstorm some ideas?
I love him so much I want to show him (link)
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Picnics! That will be special, not in public or near by. Go to a place far away with a romantic surrounding and not many, or nobody around. You can always do the classic - a romantic dinner, and then go back to yours and have some fun.
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I have this really good friend and I've known her for about 3 years. We're really close and all but i feel like I like her a little more then a best friend. I know im not a lesbian because i've had boyfriends and been completely comfortable with them. it's just that my friend is always there for me and always makes me feel better about myself. has anyone ever felt this way about their best friend? Or could i be bi? what do you guys think? (I'm 14/f.) (link)
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I don't think from what you just said that you are bi. I recon you just have yourself an extremely good friend, perhaps a soul friend; you're lucky. =]
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Every time I go to buy jeans, my mom thinks that they are supposed to fit baggy and come up to your belly button. I've tried to tell her that they are supposed to be low rise and tight, but she just tells me not to argue with her and gets really mad.
What can I do?
P.S.-She's the only one that will buy me jeans, so I can't get them from anyone else. (link)
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If your a guy then, baggy jeans are - in my opinion more comfortable, easier to wear, and looks better then tight jeans.
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this is going to be longgg to bare with me
i liked this guy for 3 years.
he was really mean to me
he would pretend ask me out and then when i said yes he would be like no your too ugly.
and this year he asked me out FORREAL that lasted 1 month cause he cheated on me with his ex. and 4 days later after we broke up he asked me out again and im like okay we went out for 2 and half months. and now we are broken up and the day we broke up we had a fight but it was okay and i missed him cause i was out of town and he wasnt talking to me so i got mad and i cursed at him and then hes like i have to end this relationship he said he needed time to be friends. and everyday i would ask him about the break up and everyday it would change first it was he almost garntee im going to ask you back out i just need time, and then it was i dont know if i will i want to date other girls, then it was yea i dont want to be with you anymore i dont like you or love you. and i felt like he was lieing to me the whole time but for 3 days he kept calling me babe and on the forth day he was like i cant call you babe we dont go out anymore. and then. he started being mean. and it took 1 weeks to get him to be my friend but on the 4th of july i punched him in his face. and he hates me again and he said he doesnt cause he doesnt care enough about me to hate me . he said he just doesnt like me cause im loud and annoying and that has nothing to do with being friends. and everytime i talk to him he thinks im after going out with him and he start talking about how hes never going to go out with me again. and its not even on subject he just brings it up so its like WTF??? and its like if you dont want to be with me why everytime i talk to you, you think i want to get with you all i want to be is his friend nothing more.and me and him share the same friends and he said he wasnt going to hangout with them if him there and its like you say you dont care enough about me to hate me. but you care enough not to hangout cause im there. and when we were friends it still felt like we are going out minus kissing.
and i dont know is he acting this way cause he likes me but doesnt want to. or he wants to date other girls and im all he thinks about?
cause he said hes over the fact i punched him
he just doesnt like me?
i didnt go anything to him
at all and im blame this problem all on myself
theres more to this story but i dont want to make it really long
so if you care to help me out with the WHOLE situtation tell me and i will get back to you
but just help me with this please explain why he is acting this way towards me?
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Sorry but my best advice is to try and forget about him, atleast this doesnt harm your social life, you can still hang out with your friends - and he said it him self he won't go out with them if you are there.
He could actually be trying to forget about you and his feelings towards you hence the "being mean" so he might have strong feelings for you, otherwise during the times you were dating he found parts of you that he didn't like, and because he has known you for so long he would get the wrong impression of you thinking you want to go out with him again. I would say the more you tamper with him the more pressure and confusion would build - and you nor him would like the results, it seems to me like you two both need to lay off each other now, that means, don't talk to him, and pretend he is just a memory in your life.
However if he talks to you, then play by it, and just treat him like a low friend, let him build his class to being classified as a good/close friend himself. Let him do the work, you've gone through enough. ^_^
Don't forget theres always the bad side of the stick, he might fade away from you, but considering you have the same friends, this might not be the case so keep your chin up.
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sometimes..i feel uneedded...like if i died no one would care...no one loves me....my parents say they do but never show it....i think my parents think i'm useless...i wish i was loved...or had a purpose in the world...wat do i do... (link)
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Everyone here has given you good advice - take it, so instead of repeating it all i'll tell you what you can do. Look back at all the achievments in your life, find what interests you and what your good at, and do it. It will make you feel less "useless" and make you feel like your doing something good, it will brighten your days or maybe even your whole life. Do it so you can say: "I'm not useless, I kick ass" whatever it is, road cleaning or the UFC it doesn't matter, sport or paper work job, whatever it is it's good and people will look up to the fact you do it because your good at it. You are needed for what you do and no it isn't sitting on your ass attention seeking. Now go and find your specialty and use it, you can get loving support from everyone you know.
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heya your a guy and i havnet seen many on here so im wondering if you could help me.
I want to go further with my g/f than kissing but i dont know how to start it. i know she wants to as well.
what should i do?
wb thx ~mojo (link)
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Try set a mood for it then, something that your girlfriend likes, but not something like a romantic dinner, something that you can do without other people around, and in a comfortable environment - so best place to start is perhaps your house or her house, and just keep it romantic, don't put any pressure on her though if she wants to as well then she should do it naturally, but help her with little hints, she would probably do the same for you.
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So there's this guy at work (we're both 17) that I really like. When ever we work together, I always talk to him, sit with him on my break and stuff. My other 2 friends that work with him in his department keep joking around that we should hook up, which makes me wonder if he talks about me or has told them something. I also don't want it to get out that I like him because he's a good friend of mine and i don't want it to be weird at work if i did make a move or if he knew I liked him. I gave him my e-mail address 30 days ago, so like a month ago, and he never did anything with it. no e-mails or anything. so i don't know if he does actually like me like that and i would prefer not to have to tell anyone about it 'cause i don't want him to find out......
What should I do??¿?? (link)
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You're obviously confused; if you really like him, then try flirting with him a bit, don't expect guys to email, they don't do that kind of stuff - do you have msn? he might talk to you on that, but really don't expect guys to email you ever it's just not a thing they do, so that's more hope for you I guess =]
Ask your friends if he talks about you, get some more information and perhaps hang out with him, as a friend. If you like him a lot then you should atleast hang out, perhaps he will make a move on you. My advice is to not "stop liking him" or "go straight for him" just build up more of a liking and more of a relationship.
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I'm opening a xanga/myspace layout site on xanga. and I'm clueless on what I want to name it. I've thought of Mirror Image Layouts or Sea Breeze Layouts, but I don't think I want to name it that. So I'm wondering if anyone would suggest any names? I'm open to any and all suggestions. (link)
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MyLayout
MSLayouts
UniversalLayouts
LaserLayouts
LinkinLayouts
LemonLayouts
LightLayouts
LairyLayouts
Just randoms at the top of my head, try searching for a name generator site on google.com. That are you can look through a dictionary/thesaurus.
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I have a clique of 4. We all have been hanging out rather often and having fun together and a horrible thing suddenly happened...I gradually started to have a crush on one of the guys.
When I just got to know him, we both used to keep arguing and keep making fun of each other. I used to find him very irritating and I hated him a lot( and I really mean hate). He just likes to go around making fun of people and whenever he did that to me, I'd scold him.
As time passed, we talked more and he showed a little more sensitive side of him(but he's still darn irritating) and he said and did nice stuff for me which really surprised me. Like for eg, he held my hand and waist when he was teaching me how to dance a school dance. (ok fine duh I know he has to hold my hand and waist) And what the hell..I started liking him. But I know for sure that he doesnt like me. He will never like my type and he seems to be always against how i look, how i talk, how i wear clothes and he always like to tell me bout my hair being too messy, talking too loudly, watever etc. And he just always has this heck-care attitude which is like "i-dun-care-if-you-like-me-or-not-cos-I'm-not-going-to-get-a-gf-and-dun-get-me-involved-in-a-relationship". How do i stop myself from liking him? Cos i just want a nice long lasting friendship among the 4 of us. I really like this clique and I wish to get to know them more. I dun wanna ruin this opportunity to get to be closer to them. But everytime i see the way he acts, the way he walks, its just so ..*sigh*...boyish, manly and cute. I can't make myself hate him again for being so irritating because I've actually like his irritating characteristic as well. Can someone pls tell me how to stop having this crush on him? Its just a crush and i know it'll be easy to get rid of but i need help doing it. so I'd love to see wat advice you guys have to give. :)
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I'm sorry but this isn't advice your going to like. I had the same thing, a group of 4 friends and we did everything together - it was great, and this near to the same thing happend, not with me though, with the 2 other people in the group. If you keep going out in this group, you might find more about him to try and hate and stop having a crush on him, or you will build your lust for him and he will start wanting you more, (perhaps he comments on you a lot because its purely about you and really he wants you and he is trying to find bad points to say just to stop him jumping on you with love) and soon you will start dating, it won't ruin your group straight away, but it will do, quite fast, and you will still be friends with the others in the "clique" except they will drift away, there will be 1 that you will still talk too and maybe once or twice go out with, and the other will nearly vanish. It will be fairly upseting for those two...
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I'm 16/f and I have an older sister (just turned 18)and an older brother (21). Well my sister and I used to be really close (we're only a year and half apart) but ever since a few months ago, she's started hanging out with these guys that are way older (like my brother's age)and I hate it because we used to do everything together but now her and my brother are always together.
She was a cheerleader in high school so she barely ever drank and she's never done drugs but ever since cheer for her senior year was over she's started partying a bunch more and I now she's gotten high a few times. I know weed isn't all that bad for you really but it just isn't her!
My family and I went on vacation to the Virgin Islands a few weeks ago and like 4 of the nights we were there my brother and sister went out clubbing and stuff with this guy that came with us. I love my brother and everything but he's such a bad influence on my sister.
She's moving to Austin after the summer is over (we're in Houston) to go to college and I know it's just going to get worse. She's really pretty so guys are constantly all over her and I'm just afraid she's going to get herself into trouble. I know she's had sex with 2 guys--one long term boyfriend and another guy she dated in April after she broke up with her boyfriend. In April she was still 17 and the guy was 21.
I don't know if I should say something to her or not because sometimes I just feel like I should mind my own business and not act like her parent but I just don't know.
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Tell her about this, tell her your worried and how you're feeling about it. You're right your not her parent, but your her sister, this would mean more to her from you then it would from her parents. =]
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okay, so i'm 14/m and she's 14/f and i really like her but i don't know where i should take her on our first date (if she'll go out with me) if you live in st. louis area, (or anyware) got any advice? (link)
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You can try the classic, cinema. That will get the hint across strongly. However I find doing this uncomfortable sometimes if you don't know the girl that well, if this is the case then you should go to a more comfortable environment, like watching a film with her at your house or perhaps something else in a comfortable environment, however if you have known the girl for a while and you know her fairly well then by all means take her to the cinema and talk and have fun, keep her smiling.
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i am a 21 year old girl who has just had my life turned upside down. i just realised that i have done nothing with my life that will get me anywhere i want to go. i really want to be a primary school teacher but i am unsure of the routes to take to become one. i am currently an assistant nursery nurse about to qualify. i also have half of an HND in accounts but quit after realising i ould not sit on my own in an office all day on my own. (just isn't me). does anyone know what routes there are to getting into primary teaching? If so how many years do you have to study for? (link)
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Try getting a course in child care, and ofcourse if it's a primary school you want to teach then you only need to know the basics in different subjects so there isn't too much to worry about there. Try asking your local primary school.
There are teaching courses out there for a diploma etc.
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i love learning languages and am thinking of taking up russian in college. i am also planning on becoming fluent in french (ive been taking it since 7th grade) by studying abroad junior year. i really want to be trilingual so if anyone has any experience with russian and if anyone knows how difficult it is please let me know! or if you have any other suggestions for languages! (not spanish...too similar to french) (link)
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Learn Chinese =]
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My best friend is everything to me, but sometimes we make plans and she ends up ditchin me. And she always says that SHE'LL BE THERE, and then I ask her if she if going and she says "no", and when I ask "why" she says "I made plans before" and that absolutly ticks me off. And I get sooooo mad at her that I end up calling her a name or something. I always think that she talks about me because we kinda fight when we're not together. What do I do? Not be her friend? or... tell her to screw herself? or just ignore it and keep being her "friend"? (link)
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You need to start going out with other people, or maybe go out in a group instead of just this one friend. Clearly though, if this friend means a lot to you, then don't just drop her, make her feel a bit jelous though about your ongoings with other friends and if she asks about it, tell her that you invited her but she didn't bother to come like she always does; it might occur to her that she is being irritating and obviously it will result in affecting her as much as it does to you. You need to mainly sit down though and talk to her, tell her it's really bugging you, you won't lose her as a friend, you're in power of this situation.
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I have been feeling kind of down latley and just miserable. i feel like i have no friends and no life. i dont have the life that most teens my age have like partying and just having fun..most of my time i sit at home..i am very insecure about myself and i wish i wasn't. i feel as if i dont love myself but i wish i did..i believe in God but i dont go to church because i moved to a different town 2 years ago that i dont really know anything about. But i do watch several sermons on T.V. everyday. I just want to know any uplifting passages/verses from the bible you know..or passages/verses that have to do with being proud of yourself and appreciating your life or any other good passages/verses you think i might need>thanx soo much for reading..please help me out i need som guidance... (link)
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Don't worry, unless your someone who doesn't like to help themselves. You need a little more then just a bible passage. Try getting the friends that you do have to go out perhaps watch a film or just go out to eat with them or maybe hang out a the park etc. Try starting an extra curricular activity, this will introduce new people into your life that are interested in similar things to you, it's always good to start one with your friend so you have someone you can count on; try starting a sport as well, this would be good to keep you fit as well as making you personally feel stronger, it will give you a bolder personality. Try looking for a new church, ask your mum or someone else who believes in the same religion you do. Find something fun to do, simple but it works. Find something you can do on your own which you can beat, like a game or something, or something that your good at which you can improve on, this will help you start apreciating yourself again. =D
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Okay I've been doing crunches a lot to work on my stomach area but I jsut noticed that like if i look down at my stomache the uppers sides(like under my chest) go in, and the middle sticks out more down below. Is that bad? or does it mean i'm working my upper abs more than my lower?
Helpp i'm kidna freaking out.
15/F (link)
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It could just be the way you are exercising, try do some different excirses in your schedule to work the other parts of the abs. Try normal sit ups and laying flat on your back and lifting your legs off the ground, and slowly raising them up and down without putting them on the ground (I forgot what this exercise is called but its really effective for your lower abs, if it gets painful then your doing it right).
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