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Hiya, my names Claire. I'm 16 and I live in England. I live with my dad, my older brother and my younger sister. I have a pretty complicated family situation, so although yours may not be the same, I can probably replate to something of the confusion and hurt people with broken families feel.
I'm a Christian, and I guess that is reflected in most of my responses to questions. Compared to some people, I've had a pretty good 16 years of life so far, not huge amounts to complain about. But there have been times when I've really needed to rely on God to pull me through and he's never EVER failed me. I trust his promises completely, and I depend on Christ with all my heart

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Homecoming is coming up, and I don't have a date, nor do I think I will get one. My friends Alex and Kim (both girls)say I should go with them since they don't have dates either. I really want to go, so what I was thinking is I would bribe my friend Ty (boy) into taking me, and we would still go with Alex and Kim. Before I knew them, Alex had a crush on Ty, and he found out and started teasing her and flirting really bad with her, so now she kind of hates him, but he is an assistant coach on her swim team so she tolerates him. The other problem is he is 19 and I am 16. My parents don't have a problem with me asking Ty, so I was wondering if I should ask Ty to take me knowing the history with him and Alex.

I'd say don't risk it. You'll have a great time jsut going with your girlfriends and you won't upset Alex. Besides, why would you want to go with a guy that you have to bribe to take you? Its not worth going with a guy unless he asks you out of his own choice and really wants to go with you. Put your friendships first, and have a good time!

me and one of my guy friends have been friends for like, 4 years and everyone always says we should go out. we always laugh it off and say that we never would because were just friends but the more i think about it the more i kind of get what everyone is saying. we get along really well and our personalities to match up pretty good but i have that lame fear that if we go out that we wont be friends if it doesnt work. i dont have a thing for him, or much of one anyways but i could see myself with him. i want to try it out and date him but i dont know if hes thinking what i am and i dont know how to tell. were like best friends and everyone thinks we like each other or that were flirting or that were already going out. thanks soooo much

I've been in this situation a few times, and unfortunately damaged a coupkle of godo friendships. I agree with the person below me, that its worth the risk and you sometimes do just have to live for today. But, here's the thing. I'd say only risk it if you're both sure about it. Don't go in to a relationship that could ruin 4 years of great friendship, and a future with your best friend, unless you both know its the best thing to do. If you're not sure, and it souds like you're not: "i dont have a thing for him, or much of one anyways but i could see myself with him." then don't push it. I could see myself with a lot of my guy mates but I don't want it to happen because I know, if I'm being honest, I'll end up ruining our friendship. If you don't know if he wants a relationship like that, then theres no reason to try and make it happen now. The great thing about friends is you know they're not going anywhere... so just give it time, and only get into a relationship if you both really want it, not just because other people think it would work. It's you and him that's in this relationship, not anyone else. You've got a good thing going on, really good guy mates are hard to come across, hold on to him!
Hope it all works out, God bless
Claire
xxx

okay, well the last time i shaved was sometime 4 months ago. i couldn't shave again because my legs had like bruises and scratches and stuff because i play volleyball and basketball and i fall down and get hurt on my legs, and i couldnt shave because of all of those scratches and bruises. plus i didn`t want to hurt the wounds. (i've always been wearing jeans ever since) so today i went to the store and i bought this veet razorless hair removal thing that looks like this: http://www.veet.es/images/wn_rasera.gif so since my legs were kinda really hairy, it didn't work as well and after i used the veet i had to go over it with a razor because there were many spots that were still hairy. my question is: is the veet razorless hair removal thing worth it? will it work better next time since there isn't that much hair on my legs? how often should i use it? and if anyone tried it, how did it work for you? thanks so much! ♥

I've used it and it worked ok for me, when there wasn't much hair. But I don't know if it was worth it, I mean its a lot of hassle and takes a while to do, whereas shaving is pretty quick. But for times when you can't shave, becaue of cuts and bruises, I'd say persevere with it, it should work better with less hair. Hope that helps!

Can stores have surveillance cameras in changerooms? Like right in the stalls where you change? Would they be monitored?

Thanks
16/f

Nah that's just wrong. Even more wrong for them to be monitered.

I was just wondering what do you think would be an appropriate age to start dating?

'Dating' changes a lot with age and maturity.
For instance, when you're about 12, some people start hanging out more with guy, maybe to start off with in a group but then pairing off a bit more, but nothing serious, and as you get older, it becomes more about individual relationships rather than groups of friends, and older still, more serious relationships. So whatever you're view of dating is at the moment, go with whatever you and the guy you like are ready for. There's not set age because you change so much at different ages, just make sure you're comfortable with everything, that you're not doing anything in secret from your friends or parents, and make sure you have support from them too. Have fun, God bless!

I'm getting a dalmation hamster and I don't know what to name it. I would appreciate boy and girl names, I don't know what the sex is yet. I like human names

My best hamster names:
Girl - Bethie
Boy - Isaac

I've always thought they were cool names for rodents. Otherwise: Mike, Dillan, Billy, Toby, Liam and Chris for a male or Sarah, Josie, Ruthie, Sally, Jessica, Maddie or Molly for a female.
Hope you like one of them!

when you put conditioner on your hair do you put it all over your hair/head or just on the tips of your hair??

I just do the ends, because otherwise the roots get really greasy very quickly.

i am looking for a bag like this one-- http://www.freepeople.com/index.cfm/fuseaction/products.detail/productID/e3971c81-08fa-4465-9f04-631ae666c0d8/categoryID/6f416d27-7521-4d57-9b23-29c869b8ac1b.

where can i find one for a more reasonable price??

thank you

Try these...
http://shopping.yahoo.com/s:Bags%20&%20Wallets:1561-Material=Canvas:4347-Style=Messenger%20Bags:4601-Gender=Women's

Alright, now I weighed myself today, and I didn't like the number that came up, but then that cute little kid from Jerry McGuire popped in my head where he goes "the human head weighs 8lbs". is that true? because I want to know if I'm weighing myself if I should deduct 8lbs off of it. Because I've heard of things where people are supposed to like, lay on their backs and have some weigh their head. I hope so, ha. otherwise I gotta start working out of something, lol. Helps much appreciated. :D

Depends what you're comapring yourself too! Because if you want to know if you're overweight, well anyone elses weight will be including their heads, average weights incude heads so include the weight of yours!
But if you just wanna make yourself feel better, go ahead and deduct the 8lbs.
Working outs usually a good idea anyway though ;)
God bless

13/F
Hi!!!,
Ok, my mom told me that I was to young for the book but I went ahead and read it anyway and it has Very described sex scenes in it, now ever since I read it i can stop thinking about it. I dream that I'm having it with my BF(we've touched e/o but never kiss or acually taken our clothes off) and last night I dreamed I had it and then I got pregnat and the baby died and.... oh my god. I was so scared. what should I do?

Next time listen to your mum!
Anyway, don't worry, most people think stuff like that sometime, just remember that your mum was right, you are too young. So keep it in your head, don't start doing things like that with your boyfriend. I guess your dream has shown you what kind of consequences sex can have... just think of it as something to look forward to when you're married!

For some reason, I find that running on the treadmill is much easier than running outside, like on an actual track.

For example, I can run for over 30 minutes nonstop on the treadmill, but I can only run for less than 15 on the track.

Anyone know why the treadmill is easier than running on the track?

It might be psychological... like, you know you can stop at anytime, so you have more motivation to keep going. And you don't have the features of outside, like weather, temperature, hills etc. Just a few thoughts.

Okay , so i babysit this sixth grader three days a week. & let me tell ya .. IT IS SOOOOO BORING OVER THERE! All that i ever do is watch t.v., eat, & talk on the phone. Oh yeah ... and i also get on the computer. Any ideas on what else I could do over there? He always goes over to his friends houses all the time , so its not like I can do anything with him. Grrrr , HELPPP!

When I babysit, I use it as an oppertunity to do all the things I know I need to do, but never get around to doing at home because theres so many distractions at home! For instance, homework, exam revision, writing letters to people. Letters is always a good one, relatives will always be glad to hear from you, and old friends you may have lost touch with.Also doing things that require concetration, like fixing things. I never get quiet at home, so when kids are out or asleep, its nice to have a quiet house to get things done in! Use the oppertunity =)

im gunna be a freshmen in highschool nd i need a WHOLE NEW WARDROBE! i wanna be known as the hottest freshmen in school, the hottest girl in school for that matter. what clothes and make-up should i buy? idc how much it is, give me the most expensive thing you can find for all i care. haha well anything reasonable actually that will look hott and will make my ex's think 'damn i shouldn't have let her go' somehting that will turn heads -- BREAK NECKS for that matter. =] thanks!

I can'd add to the fashion advice given, but just a hint: the best way to turn heads, break necks and make your ex's wish they never let you go is by letting your fantastic personality shine through in everything you do, and being a great person to be around. Good luck!

Hey! I just got seamonkeys like three weeks ago and I was wondering if anyone knew where to get the food packets because I ran out. I've tried PETCO and my local pet store. Does anyone know??

http://www.sea-monkeys.com/html/shoponline/mailorder/MailOrder.html

You can order more food online here. Hope your seamonkeys are ok! =)
God bless

How do you know if someone is a true friend?

Hmm. Tricky question actually. I'd say there are a few key things to look for in a true friend.

- They can be honest with you, and not make things up to impress you or make you feel bad or make themselves look better.

- They can be open with you, and share themselves with you, knowing that you won't laugh or judge them.

- They allow you to be open and honest with them. You feel safe and comfortable enough with them to tell them whatever you like, knowing they won't judge you, laugh at you, or tell anyone else.

- They can always make you laugh.

- You can spend hours with them, just chilling and chatting, and still have a great time without having to do anything in particular.

- They know when you want to talk about something, and when to just give you space.

- They'll stick up for you, even when you're in the wrong.

- They'll tell you later, privately, that you were in the wrong.

- They'll never let you down, and forgive you when you screw up.

- They can tell when something's upsetting you, annoying you, or just getting you down without you having to say a word.

- They can tell its you when they answer the phone before yu've even said anything.

That last one might just be a weird t hing me and my friend have...

Hope some of that helped! God bless

this guy really likes me and hes asked me out about 7 times. i dont really know what to do cause he reallt likes me but i dont think i like him. :/ wat should i do to tell him? plz anwser QUICK cause he just asked me out AGAIN!!!

Be gentle with the poor guys feelings! I'm sure you would be anyway, but just to mention that! Anyways, here's a few good ones:

"I don't feel ready for that kind of relationship yet."
"You're such a good friend to me, I wouldn't want to risk losing that."
"I really like you, but I just can't see you in that way..."
"I think there's someone better for you out there than me."

Cheesy usually works ;)

Good luck, God bless.

Ok, this could be a little long, so I'm going to apologize for that right away.

Anyways, I was going out with this guy, let's call him C, for almost 2 months. Then I started thinking that I only liked him as a friend && I didn't want to keep going out with him && hurt him later, so I broke up with him.

About 2 weeks after I broke up with C, I found out my friend, M, was going out with him because he asked her out. When I found out, I seriously broke down && cried because him going out with another girl made me realize I still really did like him.

It's summer, so I'm doing OK since I don't have to see him, but when school starts I'm afraid I'll cry when I see him.

I still really love him && whenever I talk to M, she's my friend you know, she always talks about him and it literally breaks my heart. My friend, E, asked C once if he'd ever go back out with me but he never answered. My friend M, the one he's going out with, bounces from guy to guy all the time, but I'm just afraid she won't this time && I'll live with a broken heart.

I really need advice just on what to do.

I've been in this exactly situation a few times. And I always seem to do the wrong thing. So I can tell you how /not/ to solve it, and maybe you can learn from my mistakes.
Ok, first time, I'd been going out with the guy for 2 months, then I broke up with him, because I thought I didn't wanna be with him anymore. Within a week or two, he was going out with my best mate. I felt just like you do now, and I told them, and in the end, my friend broke up with him because she could see how much it was hurting me. However, the guy didn't want to be with me because he'd completely fallen for my mate, and they never really got over each other. It damaged his future relationships, including one where he was with another close friend of mine (I was over him by then) and I felt bad because it was because of me that they weren't together in the first place. Then ended up going out again, almost a year later, and it still hurt me for some reason, even then.

The second time, the guy wasn't over me, and I ended up going out with him, breaking up with him, going out with him, breaking up with him etc... everoyne got very hurt.

So... I'd say take your time to think about it. You're hurting right now, and it seems the easiest way to stop that pain is to go back to him, because then things are the way they were before you were hurting. But give yourself time to recover, and then think about it again? Remember how you felt when you were breaking up with him, what made you only see him as a friend. Only think about trying to get back with him, when you know for sure that that's what you want, otherwise you'll both get hurt. In the mean time, maybe you could mention to your friend (depending on how close you are) tat you're not fully over him yet, and it would be helpful if she didn't go on about him in front of you.

Good luck, God bless.

Well my brothers girlfriend is like, a total whore. And I'm not just saying that. I have a really strong hunch that she also likes my brothers best friend. (Whom I like, but that means nothing.) The other day, he was here, and she came over, even though my brother was sleeping. Then she went out to get ice cream with him, and didn't ask my brother to go. THEN, she asked him to visit her when she goes on vacation, and not my brother. I realize that this shouldn't be any of my business, but I find it ridiculous that he's still with her when she's already cheated on him once. Plus, my older brother who's 9 years older than me told me that he heard some stuff about her from some people that he didn't like too much, and he'd have to have a talk with the other brother. I know they must have had that talk by now, and I know that he looks up to him, but they still haven't broken up. Even if she is on vacation. Really, I just don't know what to do. I need help. I hate the girl and I don't want to kill her, so I need ways to:

1) Not kill her.
2) Get my brother to break up with her.

Once a cheater always a cheater.

Ok first up, I don't believe "once a cheater, always a cheater." Everyone deserves another chance. No-one is perfect, and we all rely on forgiveness from friends and family at some point.
Anyways, in your situation, I see how hard it is for you to trust her... You obviously feel protective of your brother and don't want to see him get hurt. In any situation, communication seems to work best. I think there are a few options here...

1) Talk to your brothers friend. He might be completely shocked to hear you say that your brothers girlfriend might like him! He'll be loyal to your brother if they're mates, so will most likely do his best to stay out of her way. Alternatively, he might get all defensive and tell you to keep your nose out or something, in which case you could be more suspicious that somethings going on between them. In this case, I would say then go back to you older brother and tell him what you have found out.

2) Talk to your brother yourself. If both his siblings have talked to him about this, he might listen more. Just be calm with him, don't make any accusations, tell him exactly what you think, and that you realise you might not know the whole picture, but this is what it seems to you.

3) Talk to the girlfriend. Again, try not to get angry with her, although she will be angry with you. Just express your point of view and ask her for an explanation. Be aware that if you choose this option, your brother may well be angry with you when he finds out.

Whatever you choose to do, stay calm!
Hope one of these helps, God bless. xxx

yeah so this is it from the begining the names are changed tho! okay i started to go out with this boy josh ithought everything was great.i would call just to here his voice.he also went out with my close friend jessi. jessi like the thought of us together.almost a week later she had told me that he was going out with a girl name sara i told her no he just forgets my name sometimes thats all. then a week later i brought it up and he said ooh i didnt think we were to serious and hes the one who ask me out!! one of my other friends introduced us on aim.i felt hurt about it but i ignored it.then he broke up with sara and a day later dumped me he said i wanna date you some other time i was shocked.He would talk about us being sexual i liked it but i didnt want to get hurt.2 weeks later he went out with sara again. again the relationship ended.now i still have feelings for him what should i do?

The guy is a loser.
You deserve someone who has eyes for you, and you only. Someone who you click with straight away, that you are completely comfortable with, that you know won't hurt you.
Leave this guy alone, he needs to sort himself out. In the mean time, go have fun with your mates =) They'll always be there for you, and you'll have a way better time just hanging out with them rather than stressing over Josh.
You'll find someone right for you soon enough, and wonder what you ever saw in Josh!
God bless xxx

ok my parents r desperately waiting for me to get a girlfriend and always push me to do so. at this momment i just want to be single yet on the other hand i would like someone by my side and would like to be going out. im not sure what to do or how to do it. what should i do?

Wow, this is unusual. It's often the parents who don't want their teenager to date, and the kid who wants to. Anyway, don't rush anything until you know you want to. If you get in to anything just because someone else wants you, people get hurt. Whether its your parents pressuring you to get a girlfriend or your mates pressuring you smoke or do drugs, or a girl pressuring you to have sex with her, the answer always has to be no. Take life at your own pace. Do things only when you know you'r ready and want to. No-one else can make that decision for you. And not only will you get yourself hurt, but you'll probably end up hurting someone else if you date them just because your parents want you to.
If you're happy being single, that's fantastic. You have something which a lot of people don't, and that is that ability to be happy without a girlfriend or boyfriend. And you'll know when you're ready for that to happen.
God bless, Keep smiling!

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