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i still love him, but so does she.
Ok, this could be a little long, so I'm going to apologize for that right away.
Anyways, I was going out with this guy, let's call him C, for almost 2 months. Then I started thinking that I only liked him as a friend && I didn't want to keep going out with him && hurt him later, so I broke up with him.
About 2 weeks after I broke up with C, I found out my friend, M, was going out with him because he asked her out. When I found out, I seriously broke down && cried because him going out with another girl made me realize I still really did like him.
It's summer, so I'm doing OK since I don't have to see him, but when school starts I'm afraid I'll cry when I see him.
I still really love him && whenever I talk to M, she's my friend you know, she always talks about him and it literally breaks my heart. My friend, E, asked C once if he'd ever go back out with me but he never answered. My friend M, the one he's going out with, bounces from guy to guy all the time, but I'm just afraid she won't this time && I'll live with a broken heart.
I really need advice just on what to do.
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Well first things first! tell your friend how you feel. However if she already knows then you shouldnt be calling her your friend. It sounds to me like this boy went out with her to get back at you since he didnt answer when he was asked if he would go back out with you. As for you though, you just might not like the thought of him moving on so quickly or him liking anyone else but you. Its a syndrome known as 'I don't wan't him - But noone else is having him.' If you like this guy then tell him, love is worth fighting for, plus if you don't him you will regret it cos you wil never no wt cud have been. Let me no how things turn out l.x.charli.x.l@hotmail.co.uk
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aww = well there's really not much you can do.
i've had my heart broken so i know how you feel.
it really stinks, but time heals all.
Your friend doesn't know that you still like him, therefore she has no clue whatso ever that its hurting you when she talks about him. I know you probably won't want to do this, but if worst comes to worst just tell her how you feel. Eventually you will crack, because i tried to hold my feelings for my ex inside, but after a while i was completely depressed and eventually broke down and told my friends.
Maybe its time to move on from this guy, he's in the past and you can't dwell on what has already happened. By the time school starts you may be over him, but if your not, you've gotta stay strong. Try avoiding him if he's still going out with your friend.
Also, if your constantly busy and out having fun, he won't be on your mind as much.
So give it time, maybe your friend will break up with him, but right now, theres not much you can do but get over him even though it may seem impossible. Everything will get better =]
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Hi, you say that your friend M bounces from one guy to the next. Will maybe she might leave him for another guy. Just hang in there and wait and if you feel as though you've waited a while then just tell him how you actually feel towards him. Daniel.
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I've been in this exactly situation a few times. And I always seem to do the wrong thing. So I can tell you how /not/ to solve it, and maybe you can learn from my mistakes.
Ok, first time, I'd been going out with the guy for 2 months, then I broke up with him, because I thought I didn't wanna be with him anymore. Within a week or two, he was going out with my best mate. I felt just like you do now, and I told them, and in the end, my friend broke up with him because she could see how much it was hurting me. However, the guy didn't want to be with me because he'd completely fallen for my mate, and they never really got over each other. It damaged his future relationships, including one where he was with another close friend of mine (I was over him by then) and I felt bad because it was because of me that they weren't together in the first place. Then ended up going out again, almost a year later, and it still hurt me for some reason, even then.
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The second time, the guy wasn't over me, and I ended up going out with him, breaking up with him, going out with him, breaking up with him etc... everoyne got very hurt.
So... I'd say take your time to think about it. You're hurting right now, and it seems the easiest way to stop that pain is to go back to him, because then things are the way they were before you were hurting. But give yourself time to recover, and then think about it again? Remember how you felt when you were breaking up with him, what made you only see him as a friend. Only think about trying to get back with him, when you know for sure that that's what you want, otherwise you'll both get hurt. In the mean time, maybe you could mention to your friend (depending on how close you are) tat you're not fully over him yet, and it would be helpful if she didn't go on about him in front of you.
Good luck, God bless.
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ok calm down everything is going to be alright..your just emotional right now becuase you regret that you left him but you cant get mad or blame yourself you felt like he was a friend and friends should only be friends nothing more...but now that you see him with another girl you feel like you lost something you had dont worry you didnt you feel like that because he found someone before you and you will get over this guy i mean its not like you loved him im sure when school starts you will find someone that you like more than a friend, and you will be over him
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