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me and one of my guy friends have been friends for like, 4 years and everyone always says we should go out. we always laugh it off and say that we never would because were just friends but the more i think about it the more i kind of get what everyone is saying. we get along really well and our personalities to match up pretty good but i have that lame fear that if we go out that we wont be friends if it doesnt work. i dont have a thing for him, or much of one anyways but i could see myself with him. i want to try it out and date him but i dont know if hes thinking what i am and i dont know how to tell. were like best friends and everyone thinks we like each other or that were flirting or that were already going out. thanks soooo much (link)
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never go out with someone just because you make good friends unless you really really have feelings for him. i have a friend like that and i thought just like you are about dating him, but i decided, why ruin a good thing now? keep your friendship strong and, who knows? maybe you'll end up together when you're older!
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Sorry, this may be a bit long...
I have a non-severe (or I don't think it's severe) case of social anxiety. I'm 13/f and I've always been very shy...I'm not the people type and I don't really like talking and dealing with people too much. I don't like going places by myself and I don't like picking up the phone OR drawing attention to myself. Usually I have some one go with me all the time to places and talk to people for me, and everyone is starting to get annoyed with the fact that I always need them for simple things. My mom recently got me a book about it and I don't like it AT ALL because I don't understand it...so now she wants me to go to a counselor!!!! I DON'T want to go to any shrink whatsoever because I don't think that will help...I've been to a councelor before about something else and I HATED IT because I hate being talked to in that "shrink" way. I'm refusing to go but she says I have to if I want to "overcome this problem I have". I think my problem is I just don't want to embarrass myself in front of other people and I don't like being by myself because I'm terrified of being kidnapped or something like that. Just now my mom tried to talk to me about (I don't like talking about things with her because she's like a counselor and it really annoys me) it but I refused to talk and now I'm really upset because she's mad at me. Should I really go to a counselor? Maybe I should get another book? I want to avoid the counselor at all costs...maybe I should just have an open talk about it with my mom and tell her those real reasons why i'm so anti-social? HELP! (link)
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First, you should sit your mom down and tell her you just want to talk and let her know everything you are feeling. You might be able to figure some things out with her. I used to be the same way as you (and still am in some ways) and you just have to put yourself out of that comfort zone you have and then you realize half the things you are afraid of are really not that bad. And, hey, it wouldn't hurt at least trying the counselor. If you go to a good teen counselor she/he may really be able to understand you and help you have confidence to be less shy. If you try the counselor and decide it's not helping, you can easily just stop going. That could even be a deal to make with your mom. That you'll try, but if you don't like it she has to let you stop.
I hope it all goes well . =)
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Is it Pet Smart or Pets Mart?
Seriously that has been making me think all day and I can't find anywhere they tells. (link)
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its petsmart. it is made to be a play on words where it can be either. i tend to think of it more as Pet Smart, but that's just me.
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So, I'm sixteen years old, going into Junior high, and haven't lost my first kiss. Honestly, is this a good thing or a bad thing in guys eyes? I've had chances to lose it, but i feel its really important. Help. :\ (link)
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it really doesn't matter to the guys that you actually WANT it to matter to. the guys that you don't want to have anything to do with might want an experienced girl. however, most guys won't care, or even may like this about you. to quote footloose, they won't "suffer by comparison." they also know that you are serious about the feelings behind it; you aren't just looking to play around.
don't rush it, but also don't hold back. first kiss experiences, whether they are good or bad, are fun to look back on and it's fun to share your story with other people. so don't stress over it. it will happen when it happens.
if you need anything else, ever, IM me on sweetx3babie. i'm usually online, but invisible. haha.
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hey..i have this boyfriend and he's really cute but i don't really have feelings for him anymore. i mean he's very sweet but like he's moving too fast and it's making me like turned off. and now he's making me feel like he should be my brother. idk what to do anymore! please someone help me!
i'll give 5 for trying..thanx! (link)
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i think you should break up with him. tell him exactly what you told us. "you're really sweet, but i really don't have feelings for you anymore. i feel like things have been moving too fast and i see you more like a brother."
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16/f My friend and I both like eachother. We've both expressed our feelings for eachother, but we've never kissed or anything else along those lines. I really want to start something with him, but the problem is that he's going to college and I won't be able to see him at school all the time anymore (he'll be about 2 hours away). How do I persuade him that we could work things out even if he goes to college? Anyone have any good reasons at why long term relationships can work? He doesn't believe that they can. (link)
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i am in the same boat except he is going much farther. i'm not sure if we are going to end up together, but my guy believes in long distance relationships because one of his brothers stayed with his gf from high school and they are now married and another one of his brothers did the same thing and is engaged. tell him that it will be hard but you are willing to try because it's worth it. the worst that can happen is it doesn't work out. also, if you like each other, why not enjoy it while it lasts? try to make it last longer, and if it doesn't work out, at least you had fun.
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when people are asking who my friend's crush is
i always say"i dont know" or "she never told me"to protect her secret.
after that i tell my friend and say"T was asking who you like" am i being blabbermouth or helping my friend?
im from spain. (link)
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you are helping your friend. you are keeping her secret and letting her know who is interested in knowing it. it doesn't hurt or make you a blabbermouth to tell her who was asking. =).
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OK, what does it mean when a grown man has naked barbie dolls in his apt. with their hands & feet tied & tape over their mouths? (link)
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i'd rather not know what that means and i'd rather not know a man like that. i'm assuming you do and i'm advising that you stay away. he sounds like a pervert. you don't want that! eek!
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I'm going to my school's graduation ceremony on Thursday (I'm not graduating, just coming to watch) and I don't know how to wear my hair. I'm wearing a strapless dress, but I'm wearing a long-sleeved shrug/sweater thing over it. My hair is moderately dark, brown-purple (I dyed it), medium-long, thick, and a little wavy. I need a hairstyle that's very easy to do, will stay for a few a hours, and doesn't take much product. I'm considering just wearing my hair down and doing side bangs, but I'd rather do something more interesting.
Thanks in advance! (link)
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i have the same type of hair as you. with strapless dresses, i just love it half up and curled with side bangs. maybe you can try that. =).
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My boyfriend wants me to have sex with him. I don't think I'm ready... see he's not pressuring me, but he wants me to... I can tell. It's gunna be my first time (if i do do it) could anyone give me any tips (gross i know, sorry) on what to do?
*Thank you (link)
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If you are not ready, don't do it. Just be honest with him and let him know that you are not ready yet. If he truly cares about you, not just how you can pleasure him, he will understand. Remember, saying no and waiting is never wrong. You can always change your mind in the future. Not doing something you are not sure you are ready for eliminates the possibility of regret. If you do decide to go through with it, remember to use protection.
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I am a 17 year old male. For almost a year, I have wanted to get into a habit of running every day, eventually getting up to about 5k a day... I need to do it to lose weight, and also because I want some firmer calves. I have issues with it though.
1. I recently got knee surgery.
2. I have a large fear of my calves doing a thing which I've seen male calves do. Male calves tend to tighten up the leg towards the knee, and the thin ankle section goes up about 1/3 of the way... I find this disgusting and don't want it. I want more of the female variety where the calves get harder, yet not shorter.
3. I just can't get motivated for some reason. I can't make it into a habit, and it goes to waste.
How do I start? And what do I do? (link)
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i am the same way. i actually motivate myself by taking my dog for a run. that way i feel like i am benefitting someone else and it gives me more motivation somehow. if you have a dog, you might want to try that. if not, just go for it yourself! pick a time that's best for you, in the morning, after school, before dinner, whenever, as long as you'll be home most days to do it. set an alarm on your cell phone for that time telling yourself its time to run, then listen to it!
as long as your doctor says it is okay to run, then you should be able to. i would just take it easy, work yourself up slowly. set a goal, like, "i'm going to run all the way down the street and up the hill." then try your best to do it. i tend to set a goal and then once i meet it, i don't stop and i expand my goal if i feel like i can. it's up to you waht you do.
and don't be worried about how your calves will look, you won't see extreme results like that unless you stick to it for a long time and you really run hard a lot.
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15/f
when i was like 12, i would spend all the time that i could with my mom. i would actually hang up on some other friends on the phone to hang out with her. when i turned about 14, my mother maybe thought that i favored my friends over her (not true) but w/e. she probably just thought it was weird i wanted to go out with them and not want myself to be seen in the mall w/ her and stuff. but you know, that was normal like a year-two years ago. but she believed after that that there was only one way to get to a teenager. it was to talk to her/him in like foul language and get into AIM and myspace and all that. i guess its kind of cool my mom likes myspace, but not to the extreme she takes it. she goes on there at 6:00 in the morning to check if i have any comments. i never get to see when i have new comments and stuff because she looks at them first. she even responds to them! i think that is crazy and is insane and i don't know what else, but she can't just talk for me on myspace! its just wrong! i'm not saying it for any reason other than i like MY words to come out of MY mouth and not anybody else's. that really isn't the only way that she can through to me, and she KNOWS that i like her better than my friends because i don't really have any friends, well girl-friends that is. i only have one. the rest of my friends are guys, because i just get along better with them because i'm not in competition with them and we don't get jealous of each other and stuff. so, really, why does she get this way? i don't want to get into fights with her anymore..... does anyone have any words of wisdom that can help me here? thank you in advance
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let her know how you feel. tell her that you don't mind that she looks at stuff on your myspace, but you would like to reply to everything yourself because it is your name attached to her words. she'll understand. also, maybe she would like her own myspace. offer to help her get her own! i know a few people whose moms are on myspace.
or maybe you can introduce her to facebook. she could very easily reconnect with old friends through it, from high school and/or college.
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yesterday i ate......
half an egg
half a piece of toast
1 strip of bakery pizza
a small handful of ships
3 Sandy Cookies (thats what there called)
a homemade hamburger in a roll
corn on the cob
1 milky way
1 apple
3 regular rits crackers
that's what i ate in a day. about how many calories is that and is that too much too little or just right? anything i need to change or improve or cut down? thanks. i'll rate if you answer everything.
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it doesn't seem like you've really had any meals besides the hamburger. you really don't have to worry about counting calories because that can become unhealthy psychologically. just make sure that you are eating three meals a day and foods from all your food groups. what you have had seems fine, i'm just unsure of what your meals were so that makes it difficult. also, i noticed you did not have any greens. if you usually don't you might want to think of adding some.
also about the calories, the amount you should take in depends on your weight.
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i have to take a poll for school. just answer honestly and NO personal info will be given out. okay are you guys either a. a republican or b. a democrat? if you answer one of those 2 you automatically get a 5. yay (link)
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neither. more democrat.
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Ok, this guy asked me to a school dance. But, he is fat, and he is a real nerd. He was the first to ask me. Im afraid that people will laugh at me for going with him. I really want to go because it will be fun and we get to go to six flags afterwards. What should I do? Go to the dance with the fat nerd... or stay home? (link)
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you say he is a fat nerd, but you didn't say anything about his personality. if he is a nice guy, you will have an amazing time whether you like him or not. if he is not so nice, you might not have such a good time. no matter what, you don't have to be with him the whole time, so you'll have fun either way. i say you give him a chance. you never know what could happen.
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my boyfriend(19) and I(18) have been together over 2 months and he suggested sleeping together this weekend. We're both virgins but we discussed contraception etc and i do feel ready for it but my university entrance exams are in two weeks and are the most important exams i will ever do. I think ill be too stressed to be able to enjoy it and id like to wait til after the exams. (a month or so) he says he doesnt mind and ive said id like to do other stuff with him but i still feel as if an innocence is gone from our relationship and its made me very depressed.I feel like the issue is hanging in the air and that sex is all that matters.How can I clear the air?please help,i cant study properly for exams! (link)
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just talk to him about it. these feelings might be a sign that you aren't ready to take it to that level, but if you truly are and he loves you, he won't have a problem waiting a few weeks. i'm not trying to tell you what to do, but you have only been together for 2 months. if this is a lasting relationship you have plenty of time for it to happen.
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13.f
so for starters -- we'll call me jen, and my boyfriend jim. jim asked me out, and for some reason i knew that everything would be really awkward. since we're friends, and turning into more than that is weird. but we dont act like boyfriend - girlfriend people do, or, we havent gotten a chance to since he just asked me out last night ... but whenver we talk online & say goodbye it just ends as 'kk bye' or 'g2g bb' or something with no meaning. and we have nothing to talk about lately, mainly because of pressure, even thought im not sure what from. we were talking about clocks today. yes, clocks. and it all seems so, artificial. and i just want to break up with him, but if i do that, we probably won't be friends. any ideas? not sure what about -- just, ideas. or opinions. thanks xx.
& of course ill rate. (link)
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i would give it a couple weeks. most relationships are like that in the beginning. it was like that with the boyfriend i have now, but not for long.
on the other hand, i was friends with this kid and we started going out and it was really awkward. i gave it a couple weeks and it just didnt feel right. i broke up with him and since then we've been best friends. kinda weird, huh?
waiting a little while doesn't hurt, and breaking up doesn't ruin everything. wait a little while and do what you think is right.
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wow, i definitely made a mistake, and i was at a house where people were drinking. i only sipped a few thing but i didn't even like it so i didn't drink and i didn't get drunk. i should have called my parents and had them pick me up, and i didn't so now they don't trust me at all. this is gonna spread around school quickly and i don't know if i can deal w/ what kind of stuff people could say. i really want to earn my parents trust back but i know that is gonna take a LONG TIME! i wish i could take everything back. what should i do? (link)
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about kids at school, a large majority of people drink. no one is going to look at your differently. they are going to forget it anyway. just tell the truth if anyone asks you about it. i really wouldn't worry.
about your parents, just ask them to hear you out and tell them your story. if they aren't going to listen, or if you aren't sure if you can get your point across, write a note. you can never be interrupted in a note! tell them everything you told us. make sure you tell them that you are really sorry you let them down. you'll earn their trust back.
you're going to be fine. i promise.
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if a girl asks a guy to prom, does she pay for both tickets? does the boy traditionally pay, or does each person pay for their own? (link)
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well, if she asked him he shouldn't be expected to pay for both and neither should the girl. I would say each person should pay for their own unless the guy offers to pay both.
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who sings that song that goes "Sara beth is scared to death" i dont know the rest...
thanks (link)
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Rascal Flatts. It is called Skin.
They are my favorite band ever.
Get their cds. There are three...with a fourth coming out.
1. Rascal Flatts
2. Melt
3. Feels Like Today
4. Me and My Gang (coming out april 4th)
you'll like their other stuff.
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