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Hi I'm 15 f and I'm all bout the awkward moments in my life I hate them and yet they allways happen.
So I'm on jv softball team for my school and most of the jv girls and I went to go watch varsity bc we were off ( on Thursday) and we were on the bleachers cheering for varsity I was on the middle part of bleachers on the end and then this guy says " pretty cold isn't it?" and like none of the girls respond to him and I didn't think he was talking to me but he kept saying it and finally This girl on our team was like hi Tom ands he said yeah it is and he's like oh I'm not cold bc I'm so hot haha and he kept saying jokes kida like that and the one girl was like I'm Miranda that's Jamie ( (link)
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If he asks you, smile and in a friendly confident way, say 'yeah I added you because you seemed really nice'. And don't say anymore than that.
It will boost his confidence, and you will seem attractive, because you haven't acted like you think what you did was siller or that you think you are a loser.
Confident happy girls are attractive.
If your (girl) friends ask if you put him on, say that you just did it because you think he is nice.
Again, your confidence here is important, because it is easier for girls to pick on people who are not confident.
If they hassle you about it, don't say too much.
Saying a lot makes things worse.
Just say that you wanted to put him on so you did, because you think he is nice.
Here's the trick. Remember this because it can help you throughout your WHOLE life:
If you say the exact same thing over and over, people will give up picking on your, or arguing with you, because they can see that you mean what you say, and they get bored.
So, if they hassle you again about it, but with a different comment, you say that you wanted to put him on there because you think he was nice.
If they hassle you again, saying that he won't like you, you say that you wanted to put him on there because you think he was nice.
If they then say, that he has a girlfriend now, you say that you wanted to put him on there because you think he was nice.
Get it?
They will seriously get sick of trying to pick on you and they will see that you mean what you say, so they will stop.
I hope it goes well.
Please use the 'ask bewise a question' button if you want to ask me any more.
I love to help!
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A man I worked with about 5 years ago returned to the state where I live and looked me up on the web. We previously had verbalized mutual attraction but the timing and circumstances were not right for us to connect then. We have had phone contact which has been flirtatious, (but not sexual) and met up last Tuesday night for coffee and a walk on the beach. (He had offered dinner, but I wanted to keep it casual) I KNOW I sent mixed messages because I was nervous and afraid of rejection. He asked when he could see me again and mentioned a couple activities/events. I was an ass and said "well, how do you think it went tonight?" UGH!! He say he thought it went well. Later he mentioned going to a b-ball game and I said "like buddies?" (I wanted to know if this was a date or not!) He said "I'm not sure yet." So when he went to kiss me at the end of the date I physically stopped him because all I could hear in my mind was "I'm not sure yet", which might have been in response to my nervous not-so smooth responses to his earlier comments. He said he was just going to give me a kiss on the lips "like a sister." (he's italian american). Obviously I'm an idiot. I haven't dated much in a while and was quite nervous as I am VERY interested in this man. I sent him a text when I got home as he requested, saying I had arrived safely. i phoned the next day to do some "repair" work and told him I would be interested in seeing him again - on a date-, but no pressure. He was in the presence of a colleague and said he would call later when he could speak more freely.The next day his number was on caller Id but no message.Two days have gone by since. I don't feel comfortable making any more overtures but am curious about what might be going on at his end. Thoughts?
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Hi,
I don't think you have messed up that bad.
Sometimes the perspective a person holds isn't how other people see things, and I think that is the case.
He may sense you are nervous, and might find that endearing and cute!
Take a few days and try and decide if you like him and want to take it further or not.
Maybe a pro's and con's list would help?
When you are with him, try not to say too many things about the status of your relationship (ie, as buddies). If he says do you want to go somewhere, just answer that question. Yes I do, or no thanks. If it is going to develop into a relationship it will. It is okay to physically restrain a guy from kissing you if you are not ready. He will still be interested, and will look forward to when he can kiss you, if you decide to do that. If you are wanting a relationship, you can indicate this by snuggling close, holding his hand and looking and smiling. Then when he goes to kiss you, just kiss him back.
If you are not interested, then when he phones you to ask if you want to do something, use that opportunity to say, 'yes i want to do something but just as friends, okay'.
Hope this helps! Would love to hear how you go!
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Okay, long story short, my family's favorite pastor at our church got fired. So my family along with a few others weren't happy about this at all and we contemplated moving churched until we founds out our pastor is holding a mini youth group/church type thing at his house. So, we stopped going to church and attended his house and still do. Now, the pastor that got fired usually runs it but sometimes he isn't there so his son does. He is 22 and I think he is majorly cute and my friend that I am there with says he looks at me a lot. I think she exaggerates sometimes but I've never caught her lying or doing anything that wasn't saintly. He talks to everyone in the small group except for me but I do catching him looking at me sometimes. He does smile a lot, he's a very sweet boy and the first time I talked at our small group, he looked right into my eyes, shook his head when I made good points and smiled when I finished. I want to know if you think he is maybe a little interested. The ice breaker for me is, every time my family and I go to leave, he walks us to the door. The one time we said our good byes, he was in the middle of a conversation and I thought he's to busy to walk us to the door but I turned around and there he was. That's the ice breaker for me because he is never like that with the other families. Thanks for any advice you can give. (: (link)
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Hi,
Wow, he sounds really nice! And how great that you get to see some of his good character traits. This is really helpful for deciding if you would like to be with him.
I think that he could be interested in you. The looking straight in the eyes thing, the walking you to the door thing especially as he doesn't do that for others, and also because you said he talks to every one in the group except you. Thats probably because he likes you and is feeling awkward/excited/happy about you.
Is there any way you can catch him for a conversation alone?
Plan some interesting open ended questions to ask him about himself, such as:
What's it like being the son of a pastor?
What sort of things do you like to do for fun?
What things do you do in your job/study?
If you are interested in him, can you tell your parents and get them to tell his parents, and maybe just your two families can do some things together, like go to the park or zoo or anything, so you can see if your relationship builds from there?
I really like the idea of not just dating a bunch of guys, but holding out until you find the guy that you like, and who likes you enough, to get married, and then courting (dating with the intention of being together forever) So lovely and romantic, and it has wonderful pay offs, like increased trust and a really awesome sexual connection. Much deeper.
Maybe you could run a prayer group together, where you go somewhere and pray over the city or town you live in?
I would really like to talk to you more and hear how it goes, so please write back through the 'ask bewise a question' button!
And OBEY & PRAY! That God will bring you the man that will be the best for you!
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why does my boyfriend have such a huge penis when he gets hard?
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It's just the way God made him.
Some guys have tiny ones, some medium and some huge when they have an erection.
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hi. im 19 and a female.
i am a goodlooking girl (not to be cocky) ive been with a lot of guys, not a crazy amount but a good amount.
i dont get any guy i want but i manage.
however my issue is i have trouble feeling sexy and feminine.
i dont look manly or anything like that but i feel so butch sometimes.
when im with a guy i find it so hard to let go.
it never feels smooth when im sexual with a guy. i feel so strained and stiff.
i never moan or let guys do things to me really because i feel so uncomfortable.
I HATE THIS. its not fair that i can't feel sexy and i can't let go during sex and yell at the top of my lungs and be in control and be sexual.
i dress up, hit the clubs, i look sexy but when im with a man i just can't seem to give off that.
or if i do its fake really.
i always feel so butch with men. i really dont know why.
how do i change this?
i want to be able to feel like a little sex demon and be able to have fun in bed.
i want to crave being sexual with guys, and look forward to it.
thanks-
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Hi there,
I think it is because you are with random guys who you don't love.
When you get married and are with a husband who you love, and who loves you, you can be relaxed and feel much more girly and open to stuff.
By the way, All that moaning and yelling stuff is really in the movies. Most people don't actually do that.
You can be quiet and just lay and move in any position you want and just relax and smile and enjoy yourself, when you are with your husband.
I think you may have a really unrealistic expectation of what you 'should' be doing, and so keep trying it out on randoms.
Do you think that you just really want to fall in love? And so you hope that these guys will fall for you and have a magical relationship with lots of love?
It's out there for sure, but not with guys who pick up chicks in clubs.
The guys who are nice to chicks and who treat chicks well (like what you want) don't pick up chicks in clubs because they have higher standards and they find them sleazy.
Try doing some new things like rock climbing, or tramping, or vounteering at different places. Where you may find people with different attitudes, so when you finally find a nice guy that you like, he will treat you differently, and when you finally make love, it will be lovely and sweet and relaxed etc. Thats feminine.
A lot of guys don't actually want the sex demon. And being butch is a thing to make you feel in control when you feel really insecure and unloved.
Pick up a Bible. I'm not being funny. Make sure it is one that has easy modern language and hopefully a study guide. It will actually help you to read through the new testament, as it tells you all sorts of truths about yourself and can help you to be more confident and relaxed in yourself, and takes away the need to try and look like /be like something in particular when you are around others.
Also, when you get new friends at new places, they have no idea of who you are, so you can be an entirely new person. You don't have to pretend to be tough, you could be really caring instead. Particularly if you find some place that you really get motivated to volunteer for. Maybe an animal shelter, or a homeless shelter, or a kindergarten, or old peoples home, or some conservation park somewhere.
I hope this helps! Please feel free to ask more questions or leave a comment!
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Hi.Im 11. I have been expieriancing the following for a few weeks:Frequent urination Unusual thirst Extreme hunger Unusual weight loss
Extreme tirdness and stomach pains, What could those be symptoms of and should i go to the hospital? Thanks (link)
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Maybe diabetes?
these are serious symptoms and you do need to see a doctor. Go as soon as you can.
I hope you are okay.
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Hi i have a small size like bean in the inside of my right eye it was the same color as my inside bottom eyelid now its dark almost black it looks like a really small part of it is conected to my eye lid im scared dont know what it could be. Can any one tell what it could be or has any one had something like that happen.? Thanks (link)
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If it's dark, perhaps just a build up of old blood? But I am by no means a doctor and that was a pure guess.
Please get to see a doctor soon! You need to take care of your body, particularly your eyes! The doctor can tell you everything, and fix it too, but sooner is better with most things!
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im 18 female and hes 19 male.
So over the last 5 months me and this guy grew close very very quickly. we're best friends but i also have really strong feelings for him, and well i dont know if im the 'mystery girl' he likes. ive had a few indications that maybe i could be this mystery girl he likes...and then sometimes he says really confusing things that makes me think otherwise...
Some of the indications ive had that perhaps i am his mystery girl are:
- he once answered on a social site where you can ask people questions anonymously (great for getting info out of people) and someone asked him why he was feeling only just okay. he wrote this massive paragraph about how he likes this girl but he doesnt want to move to quickly and ruin it with her...he wants to know if its right, and if it is he wants to do it right too. he also mentioned he doesnt want to regret not staying single longer either, and that hes really confused because he doesnt know whether he wants a girlfriend or to be single a little bit longer. after just coming out of a 5 year relationship 7 months ago. anyway so i read it, and he absolutely FREAKED out that i'd seen it. and he said he felt like an idiot and didnt want me to see it, he even tried to delete it but i had already seen it so i was too late.
i didnt understand why he wouldnt want me to see it and whatnot...so i thought, that perhaps i am the girl he likes. I couldnt think of why he wouldnt tell me who it was. He then told me "ill tell you one day"
- someone also asked him how he met the mystery girl. he responded "we just randomly started talking one day =]" which is pretty much how we did meet. i had his msn and randomly started talking to him one night, and we full opened up to each other and the rest is history.
- One night on skype he was playing cute little love songs to me and whatnot, and he played this one song in particular called pulse- hit the lights. and told me how the lyrics had alot of meaning for him at the moment. again he told me "ill tell you one day =]"
- He tries to answer any questions about said mystery girl without giving too much away. he doesn't want her to know just yet. even though people are urging him to tell her how he feels. He has all these plans about how if he decides that its right hes going to do it right, and put his 'plans to action'.
This is where things get complicated and i get confused though. okay one night we met up at a bar, we were both completely drunk. and well we kissed for the first time. a couple of days passed and i never brought the kiss up...not sure if he remembered it at all. eventually he told me that he kissed someone that night, one of his other friends i met that night. he then started freaking out that i saw them kiss. i assured him that i didnt, and then confessed to him that we too kissed. He was too drunk and didnt rememeber it at all. he replied back to me. "totes facepalming. this wasnt meant to happen yet >.. (link)
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Yes he likes you and I think you are his mystery girl. Although I have had an experience with a guy like this, and it turned out he was a bit of a player, saying the same stuff to every girl he got kind of interested in. He just liked the attention.
I am not saying at all that your guy is a player, just that that is how it was for me.
I think the best thing to do is straight out in a quiet but happy tone, ask him if he likes you and is interested in having a relationship with you, and tell thim that you would like to know because you are interested in him and would love to be his girlfriend.
The reason this is good is because if he is interested it and says yes, then it clears up all this mystery rubbish.
If he says no, then a little embarrasment for you, but hold your head high, because he will be very flattered which will make him feel good, and also because a confident girl is an attractive one, and what you did will make him think about you for a long time!
I would love to hear what you think of this, and how you go! Please feel free to ask more questions!
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I really appreciate you giving me your input on my problem I have. everybody tells me that they don't think that iam mentally retarded they think that I was mis diagnosed as a child. How do I go about getting retested and seing if my iq has gotten any better since I was in middle school? (link)
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Hi, I am glad you wrote back! Thanks!
I think it must be hard for you as you know you are better than the 'results' which were from so long ago, and imagine if they gave you someone elses results by mistake! You certainly don't sound retarded by the way you write your emails.
Also, I don't think your mum is helping at all. She sounds like she has serious 'issues' because anyone who is in a normal healthy place wouldn't be treating you the way she does!
Try getting your own doctor and asking them to make an appointment with a psychologist for you. They are the ones who do the IQ testing. I think if you can get your own doctor it would be good for privacy reasons, unless you can completely be sure that the doctor you have will not tell your mum (unless you want her to know of course).
You can try and find a psychologist who specialises in intellectual disabilities, as they will recognise if you have issues by talking with you as they have seen so many people before you. Also if you don't like them or don't think what they say is true, the get a second opinion, or a third!
Which city do you live in? If you let me know I will go for a search on the internet to find a psychologist to recommend to you, so it is easy for you, if you would like.
I am in New Zealand, so if you are somewhere really big like America, you better put which State you are in as well. Our country is very modern, but just a lot smaller.
Talk Soon!
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Plain white teeshirts that are nicely cut and not too loose or too tight. And a good thickness so not transparent either.
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My boyfriend of 6 months and I just broke up the other night. When we first got into a relationship in November, it lasted only a few weeks. I knew he had some depression issues, and anxiety issues, but so do I... before he broke up with me he got extremely distant, almost unresponsive towards me when I tried to talk to him casually, even though he'd initiate the conversations.
Anyway, after having sex for the first time with each other, he became slightly distant and eventually sorta broke it off.. I was obviously angered, hurt, confused.. all of that. He was confused about if he wanted to be with me or not, but he didn't come out and say it. I asked him whats been wrong, and he said "I don't know. Anything anymore." I responded with "... does that mean you don't know if you want to be with me?.. Do you not want to be with me?" And he said "I don't know." So I told him "It's okay.. it can be over."
And I ended the discussion. Later that same day, he told me he needs to explain himself, and I told him there is nothing to explain.. He pleaded for me to let him explain. Later on that day I saw him and let him explain.
I went over his house and he could barely look at me. He said "I bet you think it's you. I bet you think I'm involved with someone else...I bet you think I don't care." I said "I dont know what to think.. and I wouldnt be surprised if there were another girl."
He said "It's not. It's me.. I'm the problem." I asked him how he's the problem. He said "I just don't care.. about anything.. in case you haven't noticed I'm a loser in every sense of the word."
I told him he's not a loser, but he needs help. His apathy and aloofness, and inability to care for others at times is a sign that he needs help.
Anyway.. I stayed away from him after that conversation.. but a week or two later he began to talk to me a bit more., he was always the one to initiate. I stayed back though, because I didn't want him to hurt me, and I was still angered by everything. He said things like "I know I'm the last person you want to talk to.. but can we hang out at some point?" I'd barely respond, he'd know I was clearly not interested (or at least I gave no impression I was).
Well one night I was at home and he called me. He said he was out for a drive and he was at the store a few mins away from where I lived. I asked him what made him drive in the direction of my house.. and he said he just did.. and he asked if he could see me. So he came over, and brought me homemade cookies. And we acted like things were normal again, and he fell asleep in my bed and cuddled me a bit.. but i wouldnt cuddle him back.
Anyway.. eventually i told him i cannot be his friend, that I'm still too angry. He gave me my space. Eventually I contacted him again just to talk, and that's when things started to pick up again with us talking normally, although I was still wary and distant, and wouldnt let him in. He would always initiate the conversation but I would try to act normal and everything.. then eventually he asked me if he could talk t me about something. When we talked, he told me he wanted to try again.. and he told me his therapist suggested he talk to me about how hes feeling and all that.. so I let him. He told me he wants to try again, and I told him he basically crushed any chance of that and that its not that easy. A month later though, after talking, we tried again.
My issue is... I believe he has borderline personality disorder. We stayed together for about six months since getting back together, and now we are broken up for many reasons, all due to how he's been acting.
It was going pretty well, though he would get distant sometimes, especially after too much sex. He barely talked to me for two days after we started picking things up sexually again, and when I questioned him on it he said too much sex makes him depressed... though i wasnt completely sure of the reason.
Then he contradicted himself,,because there was a completely different instance when I slept over his house and I was really tired and not feeling so well, and he tried to initiate sex and I told him not tonight, and he got frustrated.. and turned over on his side like a child and barely talked to me. Didn't even acknowledge that I was still at his house with him. When I told him I was just going to leave and go home to sleep, he said "why?" and hes like "please, dont leave... when you sleep over I feel safe." And he held me.
I also realized he sees a lot of things as black and white.. and he is really inconsistent in his emotions and everything. There was this girl who hurt him last year who he's called "evil" every time she's mentioned around him.. but then he'll go hang out with her with a group of people anyway sometimes. Same with other people.. he'll act annoyed by them and like he wants nothing to do with them, but contradict himself the next second by hanging out with them.
A couple months ago when he'd act distant and it finally got to me, I asked him if he still wants to be with me. He said he does.. he said "I dont want to mess this up.. i think things are going really well. I really care about you" All that stuff, blah blah.. Anyway.. I accepted the fact that he got distant at times, but my insecurities
still got the better of me, and every once in awhile I'd ask him, just for reassurance, if he wants to be with me still. He'd get frustrated sort of.. and say I was being insecure and all that, and wouldnt really ever reassure me.. btu he explained it as "sometimes im cold.. and I dont want you to see me when I get in those moods"
My birthday we were at a bar with a bunch of my friends, and he got anxious, sorta stayed away..when I tried to grab his arm to have him stay near me so he felt more comfortable, and more included.. he responded nastily with "You dont have to drag me. I know how to walk" anyway.. that's when things started going downhill with us. This was a few weeks ago.. since then he's been distant on and off.. he'd still want to see me a lot, and he'd apologize for the birthday incident, but still did nothing to make it up to me.. its liek he didnt have it in him. I've been dealing with a lot lately emotionally, and when I tried to talk to him about it he'd seem disinterested.. whereas other times he'd be there for me. More often than not he wouldnt though..
Brief history: He had an ex who he did the same type of things to. He broke up with her to set her free in a sense.. beacuse he said he did nothing but make her miserable and she just wanted to help him. He still cares for her.. always will, but hasnt talked to her in a year. Which I dont blame him for.. you dont forget your first love.. anyways..
The night we broke up just the other night, we were talking about everything. I tol dhim I need him to tell me whats on his mind.. he finally did. He said he doesnt know what to do because he has moments where he feels he doesnt want to be with me, or that hes not interested anymore. and moments where he is.. but his fluctuation in mood is due to nothing in particular.. he said it just happens.. it just sorta comes on him unexpectedly.
SO I said "if you dont want to be with me, then why are you with me?" He said he wants to be with me, but he stops caring about anything and everything, and when that happens that includes the people in his life as well.
I said "But didn't you love your ex?"
He said "I did.. half of the time. The other time I was just sick of her."
I broke it off with him... but I want to help him. I've never heard him sound so desperate. He said "It's hard..living like this.. I dont even want to live anymore." He doesnt know how to stop it, and doesnt have insurance for medication. I'm waiting for him to come to me, and giving him his space, bit I've been crying.. Not over the breakup.. over him.. over he fact that this rules his life. He cant get close to somebody, and he even admitted that.. he cant get close to somebody because he said he feels like he's digging himself deeper into a hole every time he does.. and that he will just hurt the person he's with, no matter who he's with, even if he does care about that person. He has such a good heart, but he is perceived as an asshole a lot because of how cold he can be. I don't want him to suffer.. I want to help him..
Does anyone feel this way? Does anyone have borderline? I need to find a way to help him. Ive never heard a more genuine "I dont want to live" from anybody before. It's like hes just too tired to go on. He said theres no point, beacuse he cant even let anybody in. Please help... I'm sorry for the long story. That doesnt even cover a quarter of it.. but its at least the main idea.. but please.. i need advice.. (link)
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Hi there,
You sound really sensible and so kind and caring.
Please just protect yourself though.
I think it is good that you want to help him, but I have seen with people with Chronic Depression and with Bipolar / borderline, very similar behaviours, and honestly for these people, no matter what medications they are on, I haven't seen them come 'right'.
In terms of a relationship with him, my advice would be to just think (without thinking about him) who your dream husband would be and what your dream life would be like.
Would you have a nice house, car and kids
In that case, it would be good for your husband to be hardworking, honest, motivated, patient, fun and kind. And have a consistant personality, so they are stable as a husband and father. And his loyalty, helpfulness and good manners towards his family will show you a little bit of how he will be with you and your little kids in the future.
Whenever you consider dating any guy, be his friend for a while and see if he has these qualities. If he doesn't then it would be worth passing him by. Not dating him, because then you would be 'taken' when Mr Right did come along, and he may not even look at you, but date that girl next door, etc.
I hope this helps.
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ive recently gained a lot of weight in a short amount of time.
i use to b very small and skinny but i gained so much weight due to binging nonstop.
i ordered the hollywood diet and i plan on doing it however i am aware that after the diet you gain a lot of weight.
how do i prevent this?
when i am done with the diet how do i keep the weight off? (link)
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Hi there,
Within your question you said that you binge.
This is a sign that a diet won't work for you and you need some appointments with a counsellor who is specially trained with eating disorders.
Binging stems from some kind of unhappiness in your life, and if you can deal with that, your weight should balance out.
If you don't deal with it, you will go up and down (mostly up) in your weight your whole life, even if you try every diet there is, because it is what is causing you to binge that is the problem.
A healthy person with a healthy weight doesn't binge, and doesn't need to diet.
Please try counselling, and don't be afraid to see them, as they love trying to help people, (you are keeping them employed as well!) and it will be really freeing for you and will alter your whole life! :-)
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16/f there's this guy, eric, who goes to my school and we have a bunch of mutual friends. i know he's liked me for a while because he would always try to flirt with me but he never did anything about it until about a week ago. we ended up hanging out with a group of friends and me and eric somehow ended up cuddling and looking at the clouds. he asked for my number and he would text me every few hours just to see what i was doing. then he started calling me "baby" and stuff and at school he would have his arm around me or be holding my hand and a couple of days ago his friends started calling me his lady. eric and a couple of his friends hang out with my group now. he refers to me as his girl but today after school he showed a whole different side of him. first everything was good, we were with a couple of friends and we were cuddling and just talking then we decided to go on a walk then he was pushing me, trying to look down my shirt, lifting up my shirt, bringing up his ex girlfriends, telling one of our friends how he was in charge in our "relationship" at one point i even said "we're not in any relationship. we're friends and thats it" and i walked away and he would follow me. every time he would try to touch me in an inappropriate way i would tell him to stop and he would for a little bit. i still feel very disrespected. respect means a lot to me and he made me feel something i never want to feel again. i feel worthless since he was treating me like some type of toy. i get along with his friends and a few of my friends who witnessed a few things don't like him anymore. me and my friend ended up going home and i was really mad, i didn't say bye to eric i just said bye to my other friends. we go to the same school and i have no idea what to do about him. he text me a couple of hours saying "hey" but i didn't text back (link)
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Hi,
I think you need to drop Eric completely, apart from a polite hello if he is with your group of friends.
He doesn't seem to have good relationship skills and the poor behaviour he has already displayed has sent alarm bells ringing in my head, so I hope it has in yours too.
If you are too friendly with him again, this whole thing will repeat itself.
Usually guys with anger / relationship issues start nice, then get a bit irritable, then blow up majorly then go quiet and apologize and try and be nice, and then get irritable and blow up again, and the circle goes on and on.
There are many really lovely guys out there who will NEVER treat you like that. I am pleased you respect yourself a lot. Keep hold of that respect and don't drop the level that you have, because it is a good one.
If you keep the standard high, you will get a person who loves you and treats you with respect.
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i need a nickname for my new boyfriend (a cool one though) (link)
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I agree with NoOneImportant's advice.
I would like to add that not all people suit or need nicknames, and giving a person one unnaturally may be a bit wierd.
Different nicknames that some of my friends have relate directly to their personalities, hobbies, interests or physical looks.
eg. Elmo, for a person who laughs lots and who is cute and small
Spunky Dunky, this is for a guy name Duncan. That's where we got the Dunky from. Spunky rhymes with Dunky, so it got added in.
Bob, for a girl who likes spongebob squarepants cartoon
Check that your friend likes nicknames as some people don't. Also check that they like the one you think is cool, because they could be offended by it, but not want to say.
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20/f Joe -19
So me and Joe used to "talk" but then after about 3 months he blew up for no reason and said he couldn't do this anymore and didn't wanna talk to me. I didn't talk to him after that. This was in January. I left him alone, I'm not like a lot of girls who would of texted him saying i missed him and stuff. I had no contact with him.
Then about a month after (In Feb) he chats me on facebook asking how i was. It started off okay but then he basically turned into a douche again.
I didn't talk to him still after that. Then about two weeks ago he randomly texts me at like 11 at night on a Saturday saying "hey can we still be friends?" He was drinking but not to the point where he was drunk or anything. He went on to apologize (twice actually) for being a jerk. Then we just talked about stuff until 4 in the morning.
The thing i'm wondering is, do you think he was thinking about me or what?? I didn't talk to him for like a month or two after he chatted me on facebook. I never contacted him since he blew up on me in January. I thought it was random how he texted me, but I won't lie I was kind of happy. All i wanted from him was an apology and he gave me one. He said sorry twice actually.
I was just thinking, maybe he was thinking about me this whole time?? Was it bothering him that I wasn't texting him like i miss you and stuff?? I don't know, what do you guys think?? (link)
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Hi,
I have heard of guys doing this when they are drunk and then get lonely.
Don't take him back. Him blowing up at you is a warning bell of a guy with an anger problem.
They have this pattern where they are nice, then get irritable, then blow up, then apologize, and then it starts all over and repeats itself over and over and over again.
Don't go there.
He may be interested in you, but you could actually find and marry a guy who will NEVER do that to you, and trust me, it will make you feel way more secure in your relationship and way more loved. With a good guy you never have questions like the ones you are having now.
He probably wasn't thinking about you. Just about himself.
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Okay, so My mom is thinking of moving to northdakota which Days away from where i live...And i am MADLY in love with my best guy friend which he lives across the street and we use to date like back in february then i broke up with him cause my mom doesnt like him ...and so he comes play around our porch in my mom is at work or something.. we hang out alot and my mom doesnt even know that i have been inside his house three times..(but me and him didnt do anything innappropiate, we just played video games and stuff) anyways, she is thinking about moving this summer and we only lived here for about a years and a couple of months...and my best guy friend already was sad cause his best guy friend moved.. and so i am like his only best friend that is still in his neighborhood..and i know that i will never find a guy like him ..like literally i had moved from 8 states and not once have i met a guy like him..is there any way i can convince my mom to stay here..and they really need to be good reasons..? please help me! i am female age: 13
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Trust me on this.
You will meet many more guys who make you feel the same way. MANY!
They won't be exactly the same as him, but they will have good qualities that he doesn't have as well.
Your relationship is important with your mom. Try to be closer to her and get on her side and enjoy the move.
If he is meant to be your 'one', then you will meet again and still hit it off and get married.
That is unless you have met one of North Dakota's fabulous guys and they have got to you first!
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I'm extremely upset. One of my best friends I've been friends with for a about a year and I've officially decided I dislike her and want her significantly out of my life. I could write forever and give you the long explanation but I'll make it short. For the past two and a half months I've been annoyed, angry, and hurt by her and it's been a buildup.
I have now reached my breaking point and have come to realize that she is not the type of friend that I want and she is not the person she was when we first became friends. She pretty much uses me as a secondary backup friend and when when other people are around that she prefers, she conveniently ignores my existence. It makes me feel like crap. Sure it deeply hurts me, but it's gotten to the point where I just think she's a pathetic person and EVERYTHING she does bothers me. She's snobby, insecure, childish, extremely selfish, inconsiderate of other peoples' feelings, one of the biggest attention whores I've ever met, and just really irritating. I feel like every time I get hurt by her, the next day I like her again when she decides to show interest in me and it's just like a vicious cycle that is getting extremely old and I can't deal with it anymore.
A few of our other friends totally agree with me. I don't want to have a talk with her and let her know how I feel and what's bothering me, and vulnerably talk about how hurt my feelings are. I don't want there to be a fight either like we're in middle school. I just don't care to be her friend anymore and I'm trying very hard to avoid her. Seriously, it stresses me out and causes me anxiety when I'm around her most of the time. The problem is that next year, for college junior year we are all living in an apartment together. I like all my other friends I'm living with. We made these arrangements months ago and bailing out now would mean leaving all my other friends that I love and having nowhere else to go anyway. It's too late now. I'm just so upset at the fact that I've made this new found realization that I truly do not like her anymore, yet I have to spend the entire year next year with her. We're all in a sorority together too. I think I'm going to go insane living with her. I mean I have the summer to diffuse and everything and she could possibly be different next year but I don't know if I'll be able to handle her.
Like I said, every time I forgive her and "like" her again after being hurt, I just end up getting hurt again. I think that if I stop caring about her completely and decide to reduce our relationship to acquaintances, things won't bother me as much anymore. I just don't see how I can do that now. How do I avoid going nuts next year? Every day she irritates me more and I can't even imagine how old it will be months from now. Please, help me out. I'm confused and frustrated, and I really don't know what to do. Thank you (link)
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Hi,
I understand what you are going through as I had a similar thing with one of my best friends years ago. A little different though as she became really angry and self absorbed and was mean to my other best friend who she was dating!
It really reached a point where I just had to drop her as a friend completely. Sadly I had to stop being friends with my other best friend (her boyfriend). It was a little hard, but mostly such a relief as the stress wasn't there anymore. I just got on with my life and had fun with my other friends, and made new friends as well.
It may be worth considering living with other people. If your other friends are really good friends they will understand that you couldn't possibly live in an apartment with this girl. Your life could really suffer from the stress, and so could your studies.
If you are a Christian, I would recommend making sure that you are obeying God, and then pray for him to find a solution to this situation!
If you do choose to live there, then I advise just being polite with her, but after she ditches you, don't hang out with her by yourself when she is nice to you, until you tell her straight up and with no vulnerability that she treats you badly and that you don't actually want a friend who has that as part of their character.
I hope it goes okay, and I would love to know what you decide to do.
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Iam a 22 year old female and my mom is always putting me down and bringing up things in the past that have happened to me beyond my control and nothing was my fault such as my father molesting me when I was 3 when we get into fights she will say things like you had an asshole for a dad. I mean I know what my dad did was wrong but I don't think my mom has the right to throw that in my face especially since I was just a toddler when it happened and how could I stop him I mean he was 45 and I was 3 would have been 4 a week later. She also throws it in my face that I have a mind of an 11 year old which is said that I mentally retarded and she also has papers on me which declared me to be mentally encomptent so please don't suggest moving out becouse by law I can't unless have someone esle that will let me move in and of course I don't my mom is the only person I have left to take care of me unles I go to my sisters house in texas and I can't even do that becouse I have to have my mom's permission and I know that it would be out of the question. I have another problem if i would move to texas to live with my sister I wouldn't have anyone to be over my social security check becouse she has one to and I don't think she can be over my check if she has on. please tell me what to do any advice is greatly appreciated . one more thing she is always telling me that iam fat,stupid,and ugly and I just can't seem to get her to stop and i've tried talking to her about it and it dosn't help and againg any advice is greatly apreciated. (link)
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Hi there,
Yes your mom is really out of line, and should not be treating you like she is.
It is actually abuse, so you could talk to your doctor or the police. If they don't listen, don't stop trying to find someone who will listen to you and believe you and who will help you to find somewhere else to live.
You may find a special residence with others who are in a similar situation as you. These homes often have carer's who can help with money and things like shopping, trips out, cooking, and other things that you may have not find easy.
Whether you have high intelligence or low intelligence, you should not have to put up with someone being so mean to you. It is like she is trapping you in an awful situation.
You are able to get out. You can live with people who will treat you well.
Keep talking to people like professional health workers, maybe people who deal with intellectual disabilities, or people who deal with abused people.
It IS abuse, even if she doesn't hit you. She is abusing your mind, and your rights.
Please seek help, and please email me back with another question or a comment so I know how you are, and can help further.
God Bless you!
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ok well im 15 i started my period last year i never got it regularly but its been quiet some timeidk i would say MORE than 3 months im starting to freak out! idk what to do or what wrong with me i am still a virgin ive never had sex WHATS WRONG WIITH ME (link)
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Hi,
I think you are normal! When periods start, they are really irregular for the first year or so, and can start and stop etc.
If you are concerned you could talk to your doctor.
I don't think you are a freak, same thing happened to me, and I have heard of it being that way for LOTS of people!
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Ok, so im 15/f and im having issues with this guy I know (no names). So he moved here like a year and a half ago, and quickly joined my group of friends. We were friends for a while and i really started to like him, well as it turned out so did my best friend. She told me she was going to ask him out and being the stupid girl i am thinking i had no chance with him said go for it. Well they dated for three months (which killed me!!!!) and broke up. Me and him then went back to being tight, like spandex.
We would meet up every day and talk none stop, mainly about how much he missed my best friend. Me once again being the stupid person thinking i had to be a good friend put my feelings aside and listen to him about her and tried to get them back together. That didnt work and he finally got over it.
So for the past six or seven months we have been even closer. We talk non-stop and txt to the early hours of the morning. Im confused though because he is always wanting to be with me (like hanging out and teams for school), he is always hugging me, making me laugh, ill catch him looking at me and then we both look away.
My question is "Does he like me? Did I miss my chance with him? Is there a chance for "US" or am I making the whole thing up in my head? I am seriously confused and need help to figure out what my next move is. Can anyone please help me?
PS: I dont want answers saying im too young! I know i am to young to be worry about these things but unless I know whether or not something can happen between me and him I am STUCK!Thank you for any advice given. (link)
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Hi,
It sounds like you guys are great for each other, and I don't think you have missed your chance. I hung out with a guy so often and we both liked each other but didn't do anything for about 1 and a half years, until we finally kissed, and now he is my husband!
My advice is to date each other, but to hold off for sex till you are married because it is way better then and has way more meaning.
Think of your virginity like the most special present you could give anyone in the world. Best to give it to your husband who you are going to be with your whole life, rather than someone who you feel lots of love/lust for, but then without you thinking it could ever happen, you break up, and he becomes some guy in your past.
Sometimes having a guy as your best friend for ages before you dated is the best thing you could do, as it really improves your relationship as you know more about him, and even like each other through ups and downs.
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