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Is my mom out of line?
Iam a 22 year old female and my mom is always putting me down and bringing up things in the past that have happened to me beyond my control and nothing was my fault such as my father molesting me when I was 3 when we get into fights she will say things like you had an asshole for a dad. I mean I know what my dad did was wrong but I don't think my mom has the right to throw that in my face especially since I was just a toddler when it happened and how could I stop him I mean he was 45 and I was 3 would have been 4 a week later. She also throws it in my face that I have a mind of an 11 year old which is said that I mentally retarded and she also has papers on me which declared me to be mentally encomptent so please don't suggest moving out becouse by law I can't unless have someone esle that will let me move in and of course I don't my mom is the only person I have left to take care of me unles I go to my sisters house in texas and I can't even do that becouse I have to have my mom's permission and I know that it would be out of the question. I have another problem if i would move to texas to live with my sister I wouldn't have anyone to be over my social security check becouse she has one to and I don't think she can be over my check if she has on. please tell me what to do any advice is greatly appreciated . one more thing she is always telling me that iam fat,stupid,and ugly and I just can't seem to get her to stop and i've tried talking to her about it and it dosn't help and againg any advice is greatly apreciated.
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Hi, I am old enough to be your grandfather and I hope the wisdom and life experience that comes with age will be helpful to you.
First, I find it hard to believe you have the mind of an eleven year old. You wrote beautifully for someone that has a mind that young. I read questions from older people who have not written this well.
The only advice I can think to give you is this; If you have a social worker assigned to you, you need to talk with that social worker and tell then what is going on. The fact that you have been declared mentally incompetent makes me think that the courts have assigned someone to watch over you other than just your mother.
If the courts have not assigned someone to watch over you and to watch out for you financial rights and responsibilities you have two choices.
The money you receive is from the Federal Government Social Security Department and is your money for you maintenance and well being. If mom is not spending it on you she is in violation of her legal responsibilities. You can go to your local Social Security Office or you can call them on the phone; tell them what is happening with your money and ask for help.
If no one from the County Social Service Office is assigned to you, to watch out for you. Then you can go to them or call them and ask for help as well.
If you speak as well as you write I see no reason for people not to believe you and at the very least come and check out what you tell them.
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Hi there,
Yes your mom is really out of line, and should not be treating you like she is.
It is actually abuse, so you could talk to your doctor or the police. If they don't listen, don't stop trying to find someone who will listen to you and believe you and who will help you to find somewhere else to live.
You may find a special residence with others who are in a similar situation as you. These homes often have carer's who can help with money and things like shopping, trips out, cooking, and other things that you may have not find easy.
Whether you have high intelligence or low intelligence, you should not have to put up with someone being so mean to you. It is like she is trapping you in an awful situation.
You are able to get out. You can live with people who will treat you well.
Keep talking to people like professional health workers, maybe people who deal with intellectual disabilities, or people who deal with abused people.
It IS abuse, even if she doesn't hit you. She is abusing your mind, and your rights.
Please seek help, and please email me back with another question or a comment so I know how you are, and can help further.
God Bless you!
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