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18/Female. Ok, sorry if this is long but i need advice. ok, i decided i wanted to go to college next year, and moved out and got an apartment for the year. I currently dont have a job either because i dont really need it, because i have plenty of money, but the thing that im having trouble with is making friends. my boyfriend is a senior in high school yet and i am only like ever hanging out with him, (which i Love!) or with him and his friends. but on the days that he just wants to hang out with the guys, thats when im alone! since i dont have like any friends at all anymore, i stay home alone and depressed or dont have anything to do. I dont know what happened? In high school, i used to have one best friend and we would go everywhere together and we shared friends, and we did alot! but once we stopped being friends, i lost contact with all those ppl, and we just eventually stoppped talking?? im also a quieter person so its hard for me to make friends. I also have bad self esteem issues and dont really put myself out there, (that could be part of the problem) but I'm going crazy! what should i do to get out and make more friends? because i wanna find some good close girlfriends? Girls my age need that. Also just recently, i lost one of my best friends. ughhh help! I feel like im the only one like this! what should i do??? is something wrong with me? ): (link)
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Girl, you're not the only one. I don't have a boyfriend, but I have a couple of really best friends and sometimes when they can't spare time for me, I'll die slowly in my room from boredom. I'm also really quiet and awkward and shy with strangers so it's really hard for me to have new friends.
However recently, I joined a club and had to force myself to talk to people. Even though I'm really shy, I sometimes had panic attacks in the bathroom before going to club meetings, I pushed myself to be a bit more sociable. Now I have more friends and my best friends are even startin to complain that I don't have time for them anymore lol.
Sometimes it's hard, you feel like you're trying too hard, other people don't care about you, you feel insecure about approaching new strangers. But be strong girl! I'm still constantly trying to be more sociable, so i understand how hard it is to have new friends when you don't have anyone. Just put yourself out there. Join a club or tudy in a group with your classes or participate in an event, there's so many things you can do
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So long story short, I'm hanging out with my ex-boyfriend tomorrow, and I still have major feelings for him. But the downside is I do have a boyfriend, but were definatly not as serious as my ex and I were. I really don't know what to do, because I'm not asure on my exs feelings towards me, and if I'd be a mistake or not to end things with my current boyfriend. I know it aounds really bad, but I really haven't been able to get over my ex in the last 2 years. So anything would really help me out! 17/female. (link)
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It seems you want a serious relationship, and not just a fling. So why waste your time and be with your current if you like him less than your ex. Plus, it seems you guys are mutual about the relationship not being serious.
Does your ex have his own girlfriend? And if he doesn't, just ask him straight out, like where does he want your relationship to lead on to? Did he start hanging out with you again because he misses you or he just wants to be friends? It's fine to ask a straight forward question, so you know how he feels. You may not be over him but he may.
Just be strong girl! Good luck!
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20F. I'm warning you that this will be long, but I will definitely return the favor to anyone who can give advice!
So I recently met this guy whose 19, he's so adorable!! We both have mutual friends so he's not a complete stranger. Well a few nights ago me and my friend went to this little get together we were at, we were both drinking a little. He wanted to go in the hot tub and I said i'd go with him. So he had a swimsuit but I didn't know there was a hot tub so I just went in my bra and underwear, no big deal to me. So it was just me and him in there and we just started talking. I could tell he wanted me by how he was acting aha so I eventually sat in his lap in the hot tub and we started making out, then he started fingering me. Well then we got out and kept making out and he kept fingering me. Well then I was like I don't think I can do this, I can't trust you..you probably hook up with girls like this every night. He said to be honest ..I haven't hooked up with a girl in about 5 weeks. I said ..okay well just to let you know i'm still a virgin and then I asked him how many girls he's slept with and he said 3, two were his girlfriends of a long time and one was a drunken mistake he claimed. He said I'll even give you my moms number to prove to you that you can trust me and if i turn out to be an asshole you can call my mom and tell her. I could go on and on about the things he was doing to prove that I could trust him. Well then my friend and one of his friends come downstairs and he said grant will you tell her i'm a good guy and that she can trust me? and then my friend butts in and says..i heard you just hooked up with a girl last weekend!! well then he just got pissed at me for not being able to trust him. He calmed down after a bit and then we just cuddled. I just can't tell if he just wanted to get some from me or if he was being sincere??
What do you think?? (link)
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i say "run!!!"
you know he's so desperate to want you, he's pleading for you to trust him. his trick with his mum, he's lying, he knows you wont call. a decent guy would stop if he knew you are a virgin. he's a douche who gets more turned on knowing you are a virgin. he wants to be your first, kick your virginity aside and brag to his friends later about how he's such a good player. dont let him do that!
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Is it wrong for a 17 year old girl to have strong feelings for a 34 year old guy? I am 17 and have a friend who is 34. I love everything about him. He's polite, sweet, considerate, and has the most amazing personality I have ever seen.
Before anyone assumes that he is some weirdo, here are the facts. He has NO IDEA I love him. He never has hinted at anything more than being friends and has never pressured me into anything.
Whenever I'm around him I feel truly happy and beautiful. I have never felt this way for anyone in my entire life. (I know this sounds like a case of teenage crush, but it's beyond lust, I love him for more than physical reasons. Just talking to him mesmerizes me.)
My problem is, I feel guilty and ashamed for the way I feel. I wish I could pull a switch and make my heart not like him, but it's too hard. My question is, is it wrong for me to love him, or should I feel ashamed about it? (link)
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not at all should you be ashamed. i think older guys are hot, and your guy sounds the perfect gentleman.
it is cool that you have a good taste in guys. and it is amazing the way you are very collected and mature for your age, the way you're reasoning your feelings for him.
maybe you'll have something going on with this guy, maybe you wont. only time will tell.
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okay, so I started my period a couple of days ago, and my bestfriend asked me if I wanted to go swimming with her tomorrow I said yes, because i'm not that heavy. I don't wear tampons only pads so would it be ok if I wear a dark bathing suit and a panty liner? (link)
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no. it's totally unhygienic. how would you feel if your friend was the one with the period instead?
Be considerate towards other people, and the pool cleaner. Your swimming can wait another day.
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If your going on a first date with a girl what do you like her wearing? (link)
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never overdo it. guys know when you're tying to hard. just remember the clothes you always wear, that your date is used to see you in, and dress up just a bit nicer. if you're used to wearing pants, then wear a nice fit jeans. if you like tshirt, then wear a cute frilly blouse.
but make sure it's comfortable. at all cost, avoid heels if you're not used to it. cute sandals and pumps are better. keep in mind that you want to look pretty and at ease next to him, not embarassing.
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ok so like this girl and she most likely likes me too and i think we could have a pretty good relationship but anyways we are only 15 and she has a baby do you think this would be a problem in the relationship (link)
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try asking your parents.
all jokes aside (though that wasnt really a joke), i really think that girl of yours shouldnt be flirting around when she has a baby to take care of when she's 15.
this situation is a prologue to a very messy drama series, the kind where you watch it for a few minutes only to shout "just get out of that relationship!".
and that's what you should do. snap out of it and just be a good supportive friend. she has more than she can handle, she cannot give you more of her attention, as compared to her baby.
unless that baby's yours.then, that's a whole new game, mister.
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My parents invited me to go with them this weekend to laughlin, as a thank you for watching there dogs when they go out of town. But I don't want to be a third wheel. They have already stated that there are things other than gambling there to do. But I know my parents, and they like to gamble.
Any advice will be greatfully excepted.
Thanks;
Confused (link)
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i say go. they would love to have you with them. if your parents want to go alone, they would not have invited you.
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My am a female and im 15.I was wondering,is it possible for you get loose before actually having sex?If you finger yourself right,is it possible for your hymen to bleed? (link)
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yep. your hymen can even break when you ride a bicycle. actually most girls nowadays are no longer virgins, if you speak in terms biologically *as in the hymen is no longer intact*
it cant be helped because us girls these days are just physically more active than girls in the olden days.
but it's alright, you're still a virgin no matter what, even if your hymen is not intact, if you are not penetrated yet. a finger is not the same and cannot rob you of your virginity.
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Alright, I am having my Sweet Sixteen next month. I am not the kind of person that goes to parties a lot nor has them, haha, I'm in the marching band.. yea.. geek. So this is why I am stressing, I want my party to be spectacular. I am planning to put a chocolate fountain on the table with the food and the blender to make smoothies and virgin pina coladas. I also want to have a paint fight. I will tell everyone to bring something white, an old shirt or something and we're gonna fill up water balloons with paint and just go wild. If you ever had a paint fight before, PLEASE tell me how it went! I'm also gonna bring out my Ipod and speakers and blare my music. Also, at around 10ish pm we are going to play manhunt.
My question is, would you come to my party, if you know, you were invited? Does it seem fun to you? If it doesn't sound fun to you, what can I do to make it more fun and interesting? Thanks for your input! (link)
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firstly set a theme for your party. let everyone dress according to theme and you dress different. to set you obviously as the main object of the night, the birthday VIP.
paint ball sounds awesome, just dont do it indoors.
or you can also ask your guests to bring white shirts, get a blacklight, and throw a highlighter party. it can be fun.
fill a dancefloor with fog or bubble machine, and killer disco lights.
get an awesome cake, and dress to kill! it doesnt hurt to be every one's envy for the night~
your party sounds like a blast! i would definitely go!
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i met this guy online
he lives 15 min away and wants to hang out
i know he's real cause i video chatted with him
but i think all he wants to do is hook up (actually, i know. he straight out told me he wants to.)
im 18 years old, never been kissed (i know, pathetic)(and he doesnt know about this, i was too embarrassed to tell him)
hes not a virgin
idk what to do!
should i take a risk and hang out with him(he could end up being my first kiss! but i feel like he wants to do more...)? am i stupid for even thinking about doing this? and he keeps telling me im beautiful and stuff.
idk what to do! :| (link)
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imagine 10 years later and you found the perfect guy and you all are talking about each other's lives, and when he asked you your first kiss, you had to think about the time you gave your first kiss to this douche who just wants to hook up.
sounds horrible? im sure it is.
dont make him also be your first 'second-base', or first sex. you have something special that most girls your age have already lost. dont lose it so easily.
you know, i was you. i waited long and crazy years, and i finally got my first kiss when i was 19. and it was magical. thats how your first kiss is supposed to be. magical. dont regret it.
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20F.
So before things start getting all hot and heavy with a guy, I'd thought I'd be nice and warn them that I'm a virgin. Well ..no guy ever believes me! They're all like ..yeah right your lying! I don't believe that one bit.
It's not like I come off as a slut, I carry myself well but I think it's because how I look. I'm a pretty girl, I know guys are interested in me which probably doesn't do me well. I don't know how to feel about this, should I be pissed that no guy believes I'm a virgin? I don't know what to do about the situation I guess. (link)
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you should take that as a compliment. that means you're too pretty to be a virgin. and they'll be like "what? no guy will be able to keep their hands off you?!"
but dont succumb to pressure. if staying a virgin is your decision, then stick to it and dont bring yourself to situation which may end up with you losing your virginity, for a lack of better words.
sometimes, it's not that you look, talk, or act slutty. even mature or experienced demeanor makes people think that you're no longer a virgin. or maybe you're really outgoing and not uptight around guys that makes them think that, yeah, you've had guy experience.
so next time you get caught in the 'i dont believe you're a virgin' situation, kindly push him away and tell him gently again, 'yes, i AM.'
if he's a decent guy, he will believe you.
good luck!
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Hello ,
Okay I have a huge problem. I have fallen for this one guy so much , i've never fallen for a guy like this before. So , okay we have known eachother for around about 3 years now and we just met up and we were patient all that time and we finally met up and we had a blast. He was such a gentlemen and everything and we did some phsyical things and he dropped me home and waited for me till I went inside. So , we talked after and he said he had a great time , and so did I. But , the problem is he goes away for a couple months to play sports in the States , and we live a bit apart. Is it worth it?
I really don't want to get hurt , but I have really fallen for him. (link)
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from the way you tell the story, is it alright to assume you guys met up online (since you've known each other for 3 years and only just met up)?
i've always been so cautious about relationships started online because there's so much you can hide. but say, if you guys have been online the whole time, im sure it wont change the dynamic that much with a long distance relationship (LDR).
if you really like him, and him you, then yes, you should try to be with him. if the LDR works, then hurray! if it doesnt, then what can you do, you tried your best.
never leave a space in your life for regrets :)
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Well im 13 and well ive been masturbating for yearssss like well yuo know how babys, they like "touch themselves" well i figured out the masturbating thing when i was like 5. i didnt know it was an orgasam.... duhhh cuz i was five. but i dont think im normal. Am i? and could this happen to other people too?? (link)
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it's fine. everybody does it, it's just that nobody talks about it. never ever beat yourself down as being abnormal.
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What's your opinion and why? (link)
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huh, it depends.
as long as you keep a visible line of how you want the relationship to be, you're fine.
like friends with benefits, it works and sometimes is fun.
but sex without dating, most of the time, leads to one person (or if lucky, both) falling in love, which could be painful if the other could not reciprocate. and then it basically turns crappy.
it's like bungee jumping with a very thin rope. exciting, risky, dangerous when you jump, but once the rope tears apart, it's a really long painful fall.
so just make sure, if you wanna do it, that you know the risk.
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long story short: me & my bf have been dating for about 2 weeks now. i've caught him once talking about how he wants to get back together with his gf and today i caught him a 2nd time. i broke it off but half of me still has feelings for him while the other half despises him. should i stay or should i go? he kept apologizing and said he'd never do it again and i don't know if i can believe that. thanks so much guys (link)
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firstly, the fact that he was your boyfriend is a good thing actually. it shows that instead of chasing after his ex, he decided to try and give you a chance to be his girlfriend. that means, he has already chosen you over his ex.
secondly, only you know how much he meant saying all that. it's in the small things you guys do. like when you go on a date, is he having a date with YOU? or is he always gazing away and some small things reminds him of his ex? if he is concentrating on you, then you know you can trust him. she probably hurts him really badly, and you are the perfect cure for his heart (lol, cheesy). but if he just treats you as a rebound, then im sorry, you have to get rid of him.
good luck! i hope this helps.
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I havent gotten my period in 2 months and i am afraid! I havent had sexual intercourse! but i have masterbated! Is it possible that i havent gotten my period because i hurt myself while i masterbated? Or could i be pregnant? I think i am bloting, is it because i havent had my period? or because i am pregnant? and when i push on my stomach it hurts!! please tell me what is wrong with me!!! (link)
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unless your fingers squirt semen then you may get pregnant. but that will frickking never happen, so dont worry about it at all dear!
sometimes when you miss a period or two, your stomach tends to bloat because all the 'things' that should be excreted during the period is still in your body.
you just missed a session or two of period, it's perfectly normal. sometimes it may be due to your diet, lack of nutritions, too much cold water, or maybe you're just too stressed.
if you're that concerned, you can meet up with a doctor and confide with her.
good luck dearie!
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ok, well see my ex hated my best friend and i really loved him but b/c they kept getting in little cat fights and shit and he couldnt stand it i kno he still has feelings for me thou but he has another gf idk what to do i still really fucking love him...reply soon i wanna kill myself and im not just saying that hes my one and only (link)
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he is not your one and only.
If he loves you that much hes not gonna effing care about your best friend. Why would he break up with you just because he cant stand your best friend? Was he dating your best friend instead of you? Wives or husbands have to bite their pride, swallow it full and then excrete it and never see it again in order to deal with their parents-in-law (a typical case) keep their marriage intact, so why cant your boyfriend do the same?
obviously it means he doesnt like you enough, and therefore totally not worth it. move on!
p/s never choose a guy over a friend. a guy comes and go, but a good friend stand by you forever :)
by the way, never entertain suicide. you might be sad now, but you'll missing on a lot of dates with hotter, better, more loving guys if you commit suicide! good luck!
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i love my sister so much its unbelievable... its just that she is sooo mean to me. But when ever i try to be mean back shes just laughs and i feel really bad. Im so nice to her, like i respect her and do whatever she asks... but then she uses me and rats me out for everything! She even makes fun of me in public and i get really embarrased!!! I dont know what to do or the say but it really hurts me to be pushed around like this. She is older than me and is going to college next year. Im gonna miss her soo much.
i just need sum advice to not feel guilty and not be hurt by everything she says. (link)
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Tell her how you feel and what she makes that offends you.
Im sure she loves you, thats just her way of showing she loves you. and from the way she laughs when you're mean to her, maybe she just has a different sense of humour. but she loves you. :)
Next time she says something that embarasses you, you can just say "well, after all i AM your sister!" and end with "i love you, sis"
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basically, i fell in love with the wrong guy.
I thought we were perfect for eachother and we lasted a long time. We knew everything about eachother and always knew how to make the other one feel better or laugh. even though i thought we were so perfect, he kept lying to me about partying. I am not a party girl and i always hated when he would go out and do that especially when he lied to me about it. He said it was because he was scared to tell me and he always felt guilty about it. I knew that he really loved me but he kept lying to about things so i broke up with him. The thing is, i got sooo attached. I really honestly loved him and i knew he was sorry after he lied but i hated the fact that he always lied. We have been broken up for quite awhile now but i still love him. The thing is, i can't date him again because of all the lies. I even tried being his friend but i couldn't do it. He still tries to keep in touch with me and i just dont text/ call back. What do i do? (link)
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It seems he only lies about the partying thing. Maybe he really likes you and doesnt want you to judge him based on his partying. I get it, i like partying too.
Have you ever tried to join him on one of the parties? Maybe you felt such a strong dislike for partying, which he didnt share, that he didnt have the heart to tell you that he still goes out partying. It sounds like the usual case where a guy is awesome and great but his girlfriend didnt like him smoking so he had to lie, because he cant quit smoking.
try to join him on one of the parties, be tolerant and make him less guilty. when he feels less guilty then maybe he will start being more honest.
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