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He still loves his ex.....
long story short: me & my bf have been dating for about 2 weeks now. i've caught him once talking about how he wants to get back together with his gf and today i caught him a 2nd time. i broke it off but half of me still has feelings for him while the other half despises him. should i stay or should i go? he kept apologizing and said he'd never do it again and i don't know if i can believe that. thanks so much guys<333
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i think you know the answer already but let's review the facts as you presented them...
1) this is not the first time it has happened.
2) half oif you says run and dont look back
3) you want validation for your choices by people you dont even know....
here is my take...
1) if it happenes once, it will happen again. why? because we teach people how tol treat us...by letting him back in your life after first mess up, he has said to himself, ok, i can do this because she let's me do this....
2) you are corretin feeling you should stop the bleeding, cut the relationship now before you get really involved, i.e., a baby comes into picture then you will more then likely be the other woman and not the wife or girlfriend....not good.
3) you seem to lack confidence which is sad because you may feel you need him to make your life whole, whgich is simply not the case at all...you need somoene whol will respect you, accept you, not control you or be unfaithful. bottom line, iut is about respect and from what he has shown, he is lacking that with you.
run and dont look back....thank me later
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firstly, the fact that he was your boyfriend is a good thing actually. it shows that instead of chasing after his ex, he decided to try and give you a chance to be his girlfriend. that means, he has already chosen you over his ex.
secondly, only you know how much he meant saying all that. it's in the small things you guys do. like when you go on a date, is he having a date with YOU? or is he always gazing away and some small things reminds him of his ex? if he is concentrating on you, then you know you can trust him. she probably hurts him really badly, and you are the perfect cure for his heart (lol, cheesy). but if he just treats you as a rebound, then im sorry, you have to get rid of him.
good luck! i hope this helps.
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Realistically, if you have only been dating for two weeks, and you've heard him mention it twice already, things are probably not going to work out. He probably still has real feelings for his ex, and he probably isn't ready for a new girlfriend right now. Obviously you like him, and its going to be hard either way, but the part of you that despises might be on to something, and you should listen to it. You seem sweet, and I'm sure you can find someone better if you choose to end things. Whether or not you do, good luck! Hope I helped!
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No matter what he promises, he is not able at this time to commit to just you. That is not an unreasonable expectation on your part.
Gently and kindly tell him that when he has eyes only for you, and if you are not involved with anyone else, you would be glad to talk to him, but for now, the timeing just isn't right.
( Between you and I, it sound like he doesn't knows what he wants, he just hates to loose an option. You, my dear, are much more than an option.)
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You should go. You can't change his feelings, and he can't really either. You don't want to be the rebound girl, you will only get hurt, because he will be using you to forget about his loneliness and heartbreak. You might even find that if you reject him, he will quickly find another girl to latch on to.
Respect yourself, don't get back together with him.
MAK, 19
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