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What is a Relationship really?
15 female
I dont really get dating. I get hit occasionally, and I never act on it because i think going out is basically friends with benifits. I never had a real boyfriend. I just don't get why do people want them other than the obvious.I do see people that I would surely like. but what do I say " hi I'm blah blah in you were looking really cute so I just wanted to say hi". That just sounds like a pick up line. If anyone can just explain to me what it is, it will surely help. Thanks
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Dating at 15 is generally pretty superficial. You're past that, most of your peers aren't. Most of the people two to four years older than you aren't.
Dating when you get a good bit older is usually about feeling someone out for something serious and relatively permanent. There's a depth to a relationship that's pretty difficult to explain when you end up in one that serious. I wake up every morning and my wife is there next to me, and that's how it's supposed to be... something like that. Closest I can get at the moment. But you're not there yet and won't be for a while. If you like someone, you can be pretty blunt. Most guys respond positively to any active interest displayed by girls they'd willingly date/be attracted to.
Sex is more exciting than the comfort of a secure relationship. Teens are supposed to be all about flashy cheap thrills and excitement. The friends with benefits thing is just because teens know about sex in ways they didn't used to (the internet and such) and so they think they're old enough to be ready for it. Instead of actual relationships, you get what you're seeing, just alot of hooking up without any real investment.
If you want a guy for other reasons, make that clear. Set your boundaries and assert your desires. You're a hell of alot more likely to get a guy who meshes with you if you're up front enough to scare off the would be friends-with-benefits.
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at your age, relationships usually start as friendships. maybe there's a guy you are really good friends with that you love spending time with but you also think he's really cute and might have a romantic interest in him. spending more time together and maybe even dating him can help you figure this out!
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I used to feel the same way when I was your age, and still do sometimes. Some people like to have someone special in there life, to have fun, to be able to eventually find someone they will marry in the future. Going out with someone can be friends with benefits sometimes, but that is when you only hang out to do physical things. When you're truly with someone that you like and they like you,you two have something special together, a deeper bond than just friends with benefits. And also a tip, you don't have to have a boyfriend until you are ready, don't let your friends pressure you into getting one. Being an independent girl is a perfectly fine thing. Hope I helped!
-Brina
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I think people look at dating as being able to spend time with someone and spill your heart to them. I haven't dated anyone yet and don't plan on it anytime soon, just because my life is so crazy and busy, and I don't have the time to put into a relationship. But I guess you can say dating is the step before getting engaged to someone. You date someone to test out compatibility, see if you can work out any problems together, then when you both feel it's right, you get engaged. As for dating in high school, I think it's a way of warming up for when you date in your adult life, so that you don't go on a date when you're 21 and don't know what to expect. Hope this helped and made sense, lol :)
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