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The current and the ex..
So long story short, I'm hanging out with my ex-boyfriend tomorrow, and I still have major feelings for him. But the downside is I do have a boyfriend, but were definatly not as serious as my ex and I were. I really don't know what to do, because I'm not asure on my exs feelings towards me, and if I'd be a mistake or not to end things with my current boyfriend. I know it aounds really bad, but I really haven't been able to get over my ex in the last 2 years. So anything would really help me out! 17/female.
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My advice is to steer clear of the ex. It's such dangerous decision making to go spend time with someone who broke your heart, and who you're not over. Things ended with him when you were 15. This is statistically not going to be the man you marry. The odds of that are so low it's not even worth considering. You haven't even gone to college yet, have you? Oh man, the romantic possibilities at college are enough to erase high school drama boyfriends off the map.
So bearing that in mind, really think: Why aren't you over him yet? Really give that some thought. Personally, when I want to get over a guy, I make a list of all the things about him that make me mad, irritated or hurt. Then I write down all the great things there are about not being with him anymore. Trust me, it works pretty well. Also, you have to stop yourself from fantasizing about the ex.
If you don't really want your current boyfriend, you're better off ending it with him anyway. Remove your ex from the equation before even making that choice, too. You don't want to string someone along as a consolation prize, right? And it's way too much of a bummer to be with someone who's still hung up on their ex, so if you can't focus on your current boy, let him go.
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It seems you want a serious relationship, and not just a fling. So why waste your time and be with your current if you like him less than your ex. Plus, it seems you guys are mutual about the relationship not being serious.
Does your ex have his own girlfriend? And if he doesn't, just ask him straight out, like where does he want your relationship to lead on to? Did he start hanging out with you again because he misses you or he just wants to be friends? It's fine to ask a straight forward question, so you know how he feels. You may not be over him but he may.
Just be strong girl! Good luck!
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