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Is it wrong?
Is it wrong for a 17 year old girl to have strong feelings for a 34 year old guy? I am 17 and have a friend who is 34. I love everything about him. He's polite, sweet, considerate, and has the most amazing personality I have ever seen.
Before anyone assumes that he is some weirdo, here are the facts. He has NO IDEA I love him. He never has hinted at anything more than being friends and has never pressured me into anything.
Whenever I'm around him I feel truly happy and beautiful. I have never felt this way for anyone in my entire life. (I know this sounds like a case of teenage crush, but it's beyond lust, I love him for more than physical reasons. Just talking to him mesmerizes me.)
My problem is, I feel guilty and ashamed for the way I feel. I wish I could pull a switch and make my heart not like him, but it's too hard. My question is, is it wrong for me to love him, or should I feel ashamed about it?
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It's natural to have powerful feelings for a guy older than you. You don't need to be ashamed about your feelings because you're not doing anything wrong.
It is wrong, however, to act on your feelings.
He could get into serious trouble.
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not at all should you be ashamed. i think older guys are hot, and your guy sounds the perfect gentleman.
it is cool that you have a good taste in guys. and it is amazing the way you are very collected and mature for your age, the way you're reasoning your feelings for him.
maybe you'll have something going on with this guy, maybe you wont. only time will tell.
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You can't help who you like. Continue being friends with him, and after you're 18 see what happens. Maybe have a chat with him WHEN YOU TURN 18, about what he looks for in a woman, etc. That may hint to him that you're interested. Hope I helped!
-Brina
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well i honestly dont think your wrong the heart likes what the heart likes wait till your 18 to really do somethingabout the way you feel
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What you have is a crush. They call them that because they really can be be crushing, painfully so.
Make a list of all of these traits you find so attractive and begin to look for those same traits in guys closer to your age. As you get older, age will matter musch less, but a 17 year age gap is really big.
Please don't be ashamed - we have all had totally inapproite crushes. I find it best to tell no one and pray for it to go away quickly.
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