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my sisterr =[
i love my sister so much its unbelievable... its just that she is sooo mean to me. But when ever i try to be mean back shes just laughs and i feel really bad. Im so nice to her, like i respect her and do whatever she asks... but then she uses me and rats me out for everything! She even makes fun of me in public and i get really embarrased!!! I dont know what to do or the say but it really hurts me to be pushed around like this. She is older than me and is going to college next year. Im gonna miss her soo much.
i just need sum advice to not feel guilty and not be hurt by everything she says.
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My sister has this same exact problem with my older sister. I've told her over and over to just ignore her and then my older sister will feel stupid about it and wont do it anymore. Ignoring her would really be the best thing to do. If you give into it you're just feeding the fire, you're making it bigger. When people like that like to fight they want you to fight back so that they can keep being mean to them. If you don't give her what she wants she'll stop doing it to you. Or when she's being mean to you just say three words, "That was rude" and walk away. She'll realize it was stupid and feel retarded for doing it and will stop. It may not seem like she feels stupid for saying it, but she does. Good luck, tell her how you feel before she leaves, unless you'll regret not telling her. You want to have a truthful relationship before she lives or else you'll be full of regret and it'll change your personality for sometime until she returns.
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You need to write your sister a letter explaining everything she won't listen to in person. Trust me, she'll be curious and read it. After she's done, don't approach her, let her approach you. She will either apologize and maybe you guys an start building the relationship you want. If she doesn't, then she must be havin her own problems and needs someone to put it all on. You don't realize it, but putting up with it so long has showed her it's okay even though it isn't. I know you love your sister and nothing can change that, but you need to love and respect yourself first.
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I think if your sister is horrible to you, you need to just avoid her whenever you can and stop trying to make her like you. I have a very abusive sibling and spent the first sixteen or so years of my life trying to make him love me, and thinking there was something wrong with ME when he treated me badly. That's no way to live. It's possible that once your sister goes away to college she will grow up and change her behavior towards you, but it sounds like you have tried enough the ball is in her court. Just stay away from her and try to find other more friendly people to hang out with.
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The truth...
Sometimes when people are out to be a complete ass to someone and you confront them with how you truly feel about the person.
Like for example...
Your sister is mean to you, You pull her aside and express how much you love her and care about her. You're sister will simply feel like an ass. Not only has she made a fool of herself but you showed the opposite reaction as she was probably expecting. Clearly, You told her you love her, You care for her and that you look up to her. She might not know how you feel about her, Tell her and I bet you anything you'll get a reaction.
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Tell her how you feel and what she makes that offends you.
Im sure she loves you, thats just her way of showing she loves you. and from the way she laughs when you're mean to her, maybe she just has a different sense of humour. but she loves you. :)
Next time she says something that embarasses you, you can just say "well, after all i AM your sister!" and end with "i love you, sis"
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