babiigurl076's advice column

ok thers this guy i went out with him like 3 months ago but he broke up with me...he was really really sweet at the dance and at church...he even pulled out my chair but when he was around his guy friends at the football game he ignored me and at the end of the game he had his friends come tell me it was over...i know that was really mean of him but i think like him again but he doesnt talk that much because hes really shy around girls and he goes to a different school and i only see him at church so what should i do to get him to like me agian

Sorry to say it, but you can't MAKE someone like you. It's obvious he's shy b/c he had to have his friends break up with you for him. Some guys end up like that, but sometimes you need to date a few different guys to realize they weren't the ones you really wanted to be with. Try thinking about other things to get your mind off him, unless you wanna find out if he likes you back. If that's the case, then talk to him& find out how he feels:] Hope I helped

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do you ever get scared?

huh?

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My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. We're getting pretty close. But my best guy friend..who's slept over my house a lot and he's always calling me and always around me..well, now he says that he keeps getting tempted to kiss me and he wants to hook up even if he has to share me. i think its crazy. but i dunno what to tell him. hes really fun and ive had questions whether i like him or not. but i really like my boyfriend and i wanna be with him so bad. what should i tell my best friend?

Maybe you're just infatuated by your best friend& how he feels towards you..maybe you just like the attention? I know I've been that way a few times. Just tell your best friend that you're in a relationship right now& you don't want to mess things up between you& your boyfriend. You expect your boyfriend to be loyal& so I'm guessing he wants the same from you. In a nice way just tell your friend that maybe in the near future you two might have something but right now you're comitted to your boyfriend. Goodluck! :]

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Ok this happened a while ago so im preatty much not going to be able to act on it or anything but im still curious. I met this girl at a school function and we got talking and hit it off. there was a dance that day and neither of us had a date so i asked her and she said yes. after the dance she kissed me on the cheek told me she had a great time gave me her number and told me to call her. weird thing is everytime i called her after that she was busy, this continued for about a month with me calling her about twice a week give or take. i got a little suspicious and told her that if she didnt like me she should just tell me but she said that it was jsut becasue her mom was mean and kept not letting her go out. after another month or so i got tired of it and called her up with one last cahnce i knew she wasnt going to take. i said if you cant make anytime for me in this long then i dont think we should be going out she answered with "i think your a great guy but...yadayadayada typical blow off" i really dont know waht happened she didnt seem like the type of girl that would play a guy and she didnt get anything out of me so i really dont know. lets see i was 17 then and she was 14 so i dont know if that played anything into it. any help you could give would be appreciated, and i know you probably get this in 3/4 of the questions in your colum but youre totaly hot.

Okay well maybe she isn't allowed to date older guys but she didn't want to be embarassed so she didn't say anything to you about it? Either that or she found someone else, sorry if that was harsh. Some girls get so confused in what/who they want sometimes..I'd say just try not to worry about it& move on b/c you're right..it happened awhile back& you can't really act on it now. I hope I helped!
-Amber

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ok recently i posted a message about "tyler" rite....

well today i had a dream about him... i went up and asked him if he liked "rachel" he said no...... i like u... so i stood there like an idiot and just said o.... ummm.... so im not sure if i like him or not!! !! so heres the 411....

~hes in my language arts class and math class
~we sit across from each other in class
~he says bless u and smiles at me everytime i sneeze but only to me and he never says it to ne1 else
~if i drop my pen like behind me or sumthin he will GET UP and get it even if some1 else cud!
~the other day i was like "omg my poem sux soo bad" he said "thats really good" so i was just like "ok....."

do i like him or what or does he like me im just so confused!! bc i mean i want him to like me but im not sure i want a relationship!

im SOO SORRY its long but i really need some help!!! plz!!!

*i RATE high!

~boy crazy~

Only you can decifer whether you like him or not, but it seems like ya do!& it really looks like he's interested in you too. If you're not sure you want a relationship just flirt with him for awhile7 make sure he knows you're interested *if you really are* and then let things happen the way they are meant to! Goodluck! -Amber

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I broke up with my ex boyfriend because i had been hearing stuff like that he was all over other girls. But then when i broke up with him he cried infront of all of his friends and everything. I still love him a lot and want to be with him but we've gone out 5 times and i just dont know if this time he means it. He's also my best friend and he told me that he loved me and would do anything to get me back! So what should i do.. go back out with him, stay broken up or just take a break?

You had been HEARING rumors that he was all over girls. I say you should've maybe confronted him about it to find out if the rumors were true. Don't always believe what you hear! Although you& him have gone out 5 times already, if you honestly feel you can trust him then go ahead& give him one last chance. That's what I would do, only b/c I think those were just rumors that you were hearing, but definately talk to him. Tell him he has one last chance and he needs to think that over before he does something stupid to ruin his last chance. Hope everything works out! -Amber

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gah just got my period and im supposed to be seeing my guy this weekend what can i do to make it go away faster?

You can't make it go away..just wear a tampon or something so he won't know. If you two were planning on doing things while you were hanging out, you should reconsider :] Hope I helped!

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ok i have a big problem. ok heres the scoop: i just moved to kentucky from chicago. its been real tough. i met my best friend and now we are always together, we are inseperable. but in the beginning of october her brother asked me out. he said that he really liked me and he told every1 i was the one for him and that we were going to run off and get married so now i am like in luv with this guy. he has the religion though of a penticostal and one of their beleifs is abstinence. and well i was raped when i was younger so technically i am not a virgin. his cousin has a really big crush on me though and when he found out that i was with his cousin he decided he was gonna make up a whole bunch of crap about me. so he told him that i screwed 20 guys and he broke up with me not even hearing what i had to say. now he wants nothing to do with me and i told his sister the reason i was not a virgin and now hes still like he cares but its not the same. he still wont even look at me. i dunno what i did wrong we were so happy. Ive been crying over him for about a month now and 3 days ago i started going out with this guy that is my other best friends boyfriends cousin. ( if that makes sense). and today he told me that he likes me a lot and that he loves me. he dosent understand how much weight that puts on my shoulder. i like him but i dont now if im using him to get my ex off of my mind. i want the relationship im in to last because i dont wanna fall apart again and have a breakdown but i really dont know what i should do. and i dont want to break his heart b/c i know hes 4 real. but how do i express what im fellin? please just tell me what you think i should do i need an opinion from someone who knows the basics. thankyou for reading please help me out!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
confused/tjlover

Wow that's a tough one :-/ I'm thinkin maybe you should try talking to your new b/f and telling him what happened. Tell him you do like him, but maybe not as strongly as he likes you. If you feel you need to, then tell him that you feel like you're not being fair to him b/c of the whole situation with your ex. That's really all I can think of, I hope that helped some! I'm really sorry that happened! Goodluck hun! -Amber

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Okay when ppl give u feedback.. like when u go to see all ur feedback is it in any kind of order? Cuz its really hard to like find all ur new feedback without having to go through all the old stuff.

All the new feedback is at the top..It goes from newest feedback to oldest, so it's not too difficult lol. :]

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do guys like it if girls ask them to dance or go out w/ them...ive always wondered. or does the guy have to do it all?

That's not always the case, some guys like it when girls take the initiative to ask the guy out instead. I've asked a guy out before, it's not THAT hard. Yeah, usaully the guys do it but hey there's a first time for everything! So really, some guys like it, some prefer to ask the girls out. Hope I helped! -Amber

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Ok, well, I got my period on Thursday, Its not the 1st time I got it cuz I have had it since I was 10. The question I have is how long do they usually last? Before, mine were about 7-9 days and this one has only been 3 and it isn’t heavy at all, like im done with it and I usually get really bad cramps and have really heavy flows ad ahad neither. Why is it so light and short this time???

No, im not pregnant and cuz Im still a virgin, im only 13… lol…

The first few yrs you have it are going to change around a little bit. It's normal, but if you're really worried ask your mom or a doctor. The average is 4-6 days usually. Mine usually goes for 6 days but sometimes it's 8 or so, and I've had it for 3 yrs as well, it'll get on a normal track soon enough. Hope I helped!

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I had a boy very close to me,but I moved
now I miss him ,I'm really sad,
nothing is wrong with me, I think
in my high school almost all the girls have
boyfriend,I feel really lonely.
every time I watch them do their boyfriend-
girlfriend things I cry.sometimes I just want to
kill myself .being alone is killing me please
I really need to know what I should do,because
I think guy are scare of me but I'm pretty,smart
and I have a medium body why is this happening
what can I do?
I'm desperate

Give it time..you aren't supposed to go out& search for love& what not, it will come to you when it's supposed to. Let things fall where they're meant to fall, and try not to dwell on the past. Look ahead& keep your chin up. The time will come when you meet a great guy& you'll be very happy, so just look forward to what you have in store for your future. Hope I helped! :]

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Hey, I have a scenario for you all. female responses would help the best, I have this friend at church, that I hardly talk to, and in the last 3 day,s we have gotten closer, she gave me her cell number and we talk all the time. So I told her 3 day's ago that we should hang out, and she said yeah, we should. So today, saturday, Im gonna call her and find out what time to pick her up, and find out where she lives. Since it's just me and her, and we have gotten closer, what do u think this means? She just wants to be closer friends, or is this a date and we're not just hangin out? what do u think, anyone help me?

I think she could be interested in dating, but since you have just gottent close to her in the past 3 days, I wouldn't rush into anything just yet. Take her to a movie or something of that nature& see where things go from there. She could just be interested in becomming closer friends, just spend more time with her! Hope I helped! :]

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Last night I found out my bf did drugs. He never told me or anything but they were talking about it and my friend told me. I also found out that he was ganna dump me because he did it. It really made me mad. Like its not the fact that he does it, but the fact that he never told me about it. He knows i dont agree with that stuff so what should i do because i dont want him keeping stuff from me.

Just talk to him& tell him exactly how you feel. Let him know you really don't agree with that kinda thing, but you aren't gunna make him stop. I'm not sure why he would break up with you b/c HE did it? Just tell him that no matter what the situation, you don't want ihm to keep things from you& that you want him to be completely honest with you. Hope I helped! -Amber

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I HAVE BEEN FRIENDS WITH HIM FOREVER.. AND I LIKED HIM FOREVER... BUT HE NEVER LIKED ME... BUT NOW I GET THE HINT HE DOES.... HE ALWAYS SMILES AROUND ME... HE ALWAYS HUGGS ME AND HAS HIS LITTLE WAYS OF TELLING ME I LOOK GOOD..ECT.. BUT I DONT KNOW IF HE LIKES ME... LAST SUMMER HE TOLD ONE OF MY FRIENDS.."SOMETIMES I DO AND SOMETIMES NOT" WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?

hELP..ILL RATE

Try asking this without it being LIKE THIS please. But he most likely means that you're just an infatuation, he doesn't actually LIKE you, otherwise he would all the time, not just *sometimes* Try asking him if he likes you, if he does then go for it! Hope I helped! -Amber

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OK, I am 15 and I like this guy who is yonger then and he is only 13, do you think it is right to go out with a guy that is 2 years yonger then you. O, and by the way he looks like he is 16, but he isnt.

I went out with a guy 2 yrs younger than me, no there's nothing wrong with it at all. Of course they won't be as mature as the older guys, or the ones your age. He may look 16 but he sure won't act like it. But go ahead& give him a shot! Have fun! -Amber

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srry if this is long but
there is this kid in my school and he is shorter me and not very good lookin but i still lik him alot and no one understands and ppl always make fun of me for likin him and i already went out wif him lik 3 times b4 and he dumped me all the times but i still rely lik him and alot of ppl make fun of me for it and i hate how no one understands mee

how can i get them 2 stopp??

Just stand up to them& have his back. Height has nothing to do with the relationship. As hard as it may be, don't let your friends choose your boyfriends or who you like, try not to let them get to you. It's your choice not theirs. Be thankful they don't understand why you like him, b/c if they did they would like him too. Hope I helped! -Amber

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im starting to like a guy who goes to my school thats a junior-- two major problems: 1. im only a freshman... 2. hes the best friend of my x boyfriend and we didnt have what u would call the "best break up". we get along really well tho so i think there might be a chance but im also really shy when im around him... any suggestions?? i could use all the help i can get! **friend of kenzis...

I know PLENTY of juniors who date freshmen, it's not like a bad thing or anything. As for number 2..i say give him a shot& hope that your ex b/f doesn't mind or whatever. Hope I helped! -Amber

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Hi, i asked this kid to a football game 2nite and my friend who was wit me, sed he looked sorta excited whjen i asked him, he sed he didn't know if he cud make it to it or not and i was like ook ad then jjust forgot anout it hten at the game tonite, i saw him there. Do you think that he was perposuly ditching me? or he really wasn't sure if he culd make it, and he had no way of reacing me when he realized he could go? He didn't have my # or anything either.

If your friend said he looked excited when you ask him, maybe he was nervous about going with you. Or it could be that he couldn't get ahold of you, either way..you still saw him there. You can have your friend ask him how he feels about you or something. Goodluck!

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