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My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. We're getting pretty close. But my best guy friend..who's slept over my house a lot and he's always calling me and always around me..well, now he says that he keeps getting tempted to kiss me and he wants to hook up even if he has to share me. i think its crazy. but i dunno what to tell him. hes really fun and ive had questions whether i like him or not. but i really like my boyfriend and i wanna be with him so bad. what should i tell my best friend?
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Maybe you're just infatuated by your best friend& how he feels towards you..maybe you just like the attention? I know I've been that way a few times. Just tell your best friend that you're in a relationship right now& you don't want to mess things up between you& your boyfriend. You expect your boyfriend to be loyal& so I'm guessing he wants the same from you. In a nice way just tell your friend that maybe in the near future you two might have something but right now you're comitted to your boyfriend. Goodluck! :]
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tell ur best friend u dont like to be shared and if he wants he can wait if thats what u feel that u think how it could be. u need to tell him to back off or tell ur bf and have him say something cuze its not right. i mean he could do anything with u he wants and ur bf would get pissed so just tell him to lay off for now
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Ask him if he's felt this way about u the whole time why is he just now saying something 2 u. Also if he truely liked you then he would'nt want 2 share u with anybody. Ask him if he is just trying to get some or if he's 4 real.
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You've been with your boyfriend for three months. You say you and he are getting pretty close. I'm going to give you two answers to this question-- one is if you have not promised to date your boyfriend exclusively, and one is if you have made that kind of commitment to each other.
If your relationship is at the level where there is no commitment, it's casual, and you are able to date others, then it would be ok for you to try out dating your best friend. Taking your time to really get to know a guy, and even dating more than one guy before you make a commitment to dating one guy exclusively, is a great idea for building good relationships. That's why it's important to take your time and really get to know someone before promising to see each other exclusively.
However, if you have promised your boyfriend that you won't see other people, then you are getting into some trouble here. If you are seeing your boyfriend exclusively, then why is your friend staying overnight with you? He has told you that he has romantic feelings for you (or, at least sexual) so, clearly there is more than friendship going on here. If you have promised to date your boyfriend exclusively, then you need to make some choices. If you want to stay with your boyfriend, then stay true to your commitment to him. Tell your best friend, "My boyfriend and I aren't seeing other people outside our relationship. I want to stay friends with you, but I need you to understand that I can't date you." Then, make sure you aren't teasing him, and giving him hope that you will change your mind and date him. You probably shouldn't spend time alone with him for a while. If you decide you don't want to date your boyfriend exclusively, and you want to explore your feelings for your friend, then tell your boyfriend BEFORE you do anything with your friend. It's not going to be easy. You will be uncomfortable. But it's better to be uncomfortable and be honest then to be dishonest, let a huge drama blow up in everyone's faces and say "I couldn't help myself-- it just happened." Take responsibility for your own actions and be decent, honest and respectful of your boyfriend. Tell him, "I've decided I'm not ready to be in a committed relationship with one guy right now. I think we should date other people." He may say that's not OK with him. If he does, then you have to decide to either date him and him alone, or break up with him.
Dating and building relationships can be very messy and confusing. You can simplify things by making a rule for yourself that no matter what happens in your relationships, you are always going to be honest and trustworthy. Treat others with respect and dignity. Wouldn't you like the same thing in return?
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You should ask yourself is it worth leaving your boyfriend for your best friend?
You should follow your heart and if you like 1 and not the other than thats fine. Just make sure you make the right decision. If you don't want your boyfriend tell him you just want to be friends rite now. And u can also say that to your best friend. but if u want to go out with ur best friend make sure it's the rite thing! I went out with my best friend and we rn't the same ne more! So just follow your heart. Hope I helped! Good Luck
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Well tell him that u just want to be friends for right now, sinceh HEs ure Best Friend he shoukd understand, becuase hes been there for you, dont make him mad or ne thing though when ure telling him make sure your smart about it becuase the guys can take things the wrong way sometmes. but go for he boyfreind you have now and have fun with that, if urefriend is really ure best freind he'll be there for you during all of it!
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You shold tell him that i just want to be friends and that does not mean that he can't give you a little kiss on the cheek.
(By the way, i am only 10 1/2 but i like to give advice)
Good luck!!!
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same thing is going on with me right now!
i have told me best guy friend tht i dont thnk i want to go out with him cause i have a boyfreind but he dont then i said i dont want anything to change cause if we go out then everything would change it would never be the same again and then we probably wouldnt tlk or be friends again if we broke up.
just tell him sumthin like tht then he would probably understand.
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if hes your really good guy friend..and you tell him that you love your bf..then him being a good friend should b fine with it,if hes a real friend, he would go with what you want..even if that means that yall dont hook up..hope i helped! rOcKeR4GoD
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Welp, your first step is deciding, who do you like more?! I'm assuming your boyfriend, right?! Just tell your best friend. Tell him hey I really like my boyfriend and I really think we have something so if you don't mind could we please just be friends for now and maybe more down the road of life something will happen between us for now. Explain to him how you feel and why you feel this way but make sure he knows that you still want to be his friend. I think you should let him know he can't be trying to kiss you and such and he should calm all that down a little. That isn't fair to your boyfriend. Good luck xo*
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