I never turn away a question no matter how long,short,or stupid you think it might be.If you need an opinon i will give you mine from my experiences, and will let you know what i know.
Website: Tatianna
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i\'ve been friends with this guy since last semester and i started liking him since we joke around, talk and play around together a lot. i think he likes me back by the things he does such as: trying to get my attention all the time when i\'m doing my work, he starts smiling as i walk into class,he\'s rude to me for no reason then he says: i\'m just joking, he\'s always looking me up and down, whenever i\'m talking to someone in class, he\'s always budding in the convo. so i was convinced that he likes me but there\'s this other girl in my class who he talks to; they laugh and joke around too but not as much as we do and yesterday she never came to class so he said that he missed her then i was jealous but i pretended that i was ok then i said to him: \"aww, she will be here tomorrow\" then he said: shut up, your just jealous because i don\'t miss you when Your away\" was he just saying that to get me jealous? and one more thing, whenever i talk to this guy in class, he\'s always saying: \"ohh, i see u found a new best friend\" is he saying that because he\'s jealous? sorry that this is long (link)
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I know that he likes you and he i stryin to make you jelous because you said hes allways butting in your convos and gettin you attention but i am the same way its this boy in my class that always acts like that towards but one day he told me that he likes me too so hell probably do the same thing tell me how it goes and im always avalible and abou tyour other friend hes probably teasin you and knows or thinks you like him and youre jealus but good luck.
Tatianna:):))
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I don't really want to start a relationship until I know I can be independent you know, so I dont need to have a relationship and so I can be able to not put that person before anyone and anything else. Also I just dont want to have a relationship if i'm not emotionaly stable. Because right now if I was in a relationship i'd be putting him before everything. How will I know when i'm ready to have a relationship? Is what i'm doing right? Should I be doing this? (link)
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well it sounds like you need to get your priorities straight you have to ask yourself is being independent really worth not being with someone or do i really want to figure out what i wanna do first?? But in my opinon your doin good gettin your life straight and remember i am allways avalible!
GoodLuck
Tatianna:):)
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So I will try and make this as short as possible...
I have this guy friend called ryan, who I am close to, && he has told me he really likes me as more than a friend. Firstly I dont feel the same way as he does && I have told him this. We are still friends && it hasnt effected our friendship but I can tell he still likes me. && lately I have been hanging out with ryan and his friends, one called steven who I think likes me. He flirts with me && stuff and I am starting to like him. ryan doesnt know that we flirt b/c he isnt around when we flirt. i dont want to hurt ryan but I also dont want to ruin my chances with steven over it.
to make this more confusing for me, i like steven but I am not sure whether to trust him. he knows ryan likes me but he said that ryan says this to so many chicks. he didnt flirt with me until i told him i only liked ryan as a friend. he never bitches about ryan to me, but he speaks to me about him.
what to do?? :-/
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well sometimes you need to go with your first hunch probalbly(spelled wrong i no)he is sneaky and you have to really ask yourself''is it worth loosing a friend over?''i mean it sounds like hes trying to pull somthing with ryan like make fun of him and say he got you and he didnt but i wouldnt know so do what you think is right and remember i am always avalible
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I need advice. So me and my boyfriend have been dating for four months and just recently he broke up with me for 2 reasons one of them being because i go to college far away and because he said he wants to get his life together and he wants a girlfriend he can see as often as he like...he also said he still cares for me alot and likes me alot but he cant do the long distance relationship now. I acted pretty cool about the decision AND said we can remain close friends but i was wondering if there is anyway to get back with him or if he would even want to get back with me?what should i do :=( (link)
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Well its pretty clear thats he wasnts to get back with you but he probably dosent think he could stay faithful to a person who lives far So you should give him some time to relize that he dosent care about how far he lives from you all that matters that you two should be together and when he rilize that you guys could get back together.But for now'stay good friends because it sounds like he need a friedn(and so you will still have the connection)And if its real trust hell come back but if its not then it just wasnt ment to be.And remeber i am always availible!
Good Luck
Tatianna:))
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Okay so my boyfriend of a year and 1/2 has cheated on me twice and it took me a long time but im starting to trust him again. Well a while ago his best friend kissed me but it wasnt my fault it was like a 2 second peck and i had no idea he was going to do it plus i told my boyfriend right after it happened. Well my boyfriend told me that i had to stop talking to him and i understood and i did. then my boyfriend didnt like my best guy friend ( we've been friends since 5th grade (im now in 10th)) and he made me stop hanging out with him. Well the other night we got into a fight and he told me that he didnt trust me and he goes through my myspace all the time and he has people watch me and then he got on here and was at my home page and asked me why i put on here that i liked someone else and i was like what the heck are you talking about??? and he called me a liar to my face then i got on and found out he was reading a question that someone had wrote to me and ugghhhh! im so frustrated ive never ever gone through his stuff ever and hes cheated on me!!!! HELP!!! what do i do???? sorry this is so long i just need help! Thanks in advance. (link)
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well i know how you feel but you should confront him he needs to know that youre not a liar and you are his and if he still dosent belive you than
thats his lost he missed out on a great person who is always honest he shouldnt tell you who you should hang out with and who you cant .and remember i am always availble.
GOOD LUCK
TATIANNA:))
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On friday I told my guy friend from school that I liked him (i was really scared to do it so i texted him during class while he sat right behind me, stupid i know but that's what happened). He didn't respond and he didn't say anything to me the next 2 periods either (since we have them together). I'm not going to go into detail, but certain things he did made it obivious that this freaked him out, and he really didn't know what to say. But he doesn't really show his emotions on the outside, so anybody else would've had no idea that he felt this way or that anything happened in the first place, so he's pretty hard to read. He didn't say anything to me over the weekend, and we didn't talk yesterday. I'm well aware that it wasn't exactly the smartest move and I came on way to strong but I've dealt with that and that's not what I'll be asking about. Today (tuesday) I decided I would say hi and then just apologize for freaking him out. I did, & even though I could tell it was sort of hard for him to make eye contact he responded nicely. I asked him if he hated me (not in a pathetic way, kindof a joking but serious way, I'm just paranoid and that's just something i would say and he knew that haha) and he said no i don't, you just kindof scared the crap ot of me. And I was like I'm sorry again. I'm glad that had went well because all in all i didn't want to ruin our friendship, all though it was still a little awkward and we still weren't talking as much as usual, which is understandable. I know I shouldn't get my hopes up too high, or at all for that matter, but is there still a possibility he might like me at some point after finding this out? I mean I know him and it's not everyday that a girl blurts out that she likes him so I know he really wasn't sure how to react to the situation or know what to think of it. I'm not going to push it any further because I don't want to ruin our friendship, and the upcoming break from school should let the awkwardness blow over. If anything were to happen between us I'd leave it up to him. I feel like if he did like me or were to decide he did he would've said so by now. But it's only been four days, is it possible he may like me or may ever decide he does? sorry this was long and overly descriptive. (link)
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Well i think you are very brave to do that some people dont even have to do what you did but you should have confidence about this maby you just caught him off guard a little but you cant give up some boys like confident girls but just ask him even if it will be kinda scary
but at least yore have an answer just dont give up hope and remeber i am always avalible
GoodLuck
Tatianna:))
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Hey, I've got a really serious problem:
I've known this guy since august 2008 and i love him mora than anything, we've been friends, we've go out and boyfriends on and off also and this monday (6 of april of 2009) we were going to clear up things and everything would be just fine BUT he told me from one second to the other "I dont love you anymore, and i like your best friend" I got so mad and sad...and my EX best friend likes him too and they had already kissed tough my bf said she was not going to do anything with him cause she didnt want to hurt me but obviously it wasnt true and they lied to me..i suspected they liked each other but he kept telling me that he only liked me but well...his best friend is my friend too and he told me that this situation was weird because that day (monday) he was talking about me and saying how much he loved me and then he did this,. He thinks someone put the idea in his head that he liked my bff, and convinced him about that...now i hate my best friend and i will never be her friend again and this boy, well i love him ad just cant forget him...the question is : WHAT CAN I DO? i know it's a little annoying to answer but please help me :(
Thanks! :D (link)
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well thats tough i remember when this boy told that to my sister and she couldnt forgive him or forget him but the way to get over a old boyfriend and get under a new one! keep tellin yourself that you dont chase boys you replace them!i know its gonna be hard but eventually you wont even remember his name like that anymore and yourbestfriend could go kick rocks for dissing you and go behind your back and do that but most importantly,remember if it wasnt ment to be and if it is let it work itself out and also remember that i am allways avalible.
GodLuck
Tatianna:))
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my boyfriend of almost five months has been kinda standoffish towards me lately. it's really starting to bother me. i really miss him. and now, to add to that problem, my best friend kinda flirts with him. she like goes out of her way to talk to him and make him laugh and write on his facebook and so on and i feel like he pays more attention to her than me. it drives me insane. i don't know what to do, it's breaking my heart. how can i bring this up to both of them without making them upset with me? what can i do to solve this problem? thanks in advance. (link)
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well you really need to confront them and heres a way to do it.Ask you friend does she like him or if you dont think thats a good idea tell someone else to do it and you could ask your boyfriend about it and if he gets fired up tell him what you noticed same thing with your friend if you never try you never know and you have to get it of your chest and remmber i am always avalibe
Goold Luck
Tatianna:))
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Sorry for the length :(
So.. there's not much to say... There's this girl... (let's call her R) whom I've been best friends with forever...since, like, 3rd grade (and we're in 8th now) and we live right next to each other, and she's almost exactly a year younger than me. I've never thought much of the way she acted or looked or who she hung out with besides me... until now... A lot of people think she's weird and stuff.
Just a minute ago, I was looking at some random people's pictures on Facebook, and I came across this one popular girl's picture with R in the background looking like a totally freak (very very bad picture of her...she had this freak haircut--which she HATED btw--and was wearing a weird tanktop). The worst part was the tag for her was HAHAHAHAAAHAHA. I just stared at that picture for awhile, and then I just closed the entire window.
I really do love my best friend, but I'm beginning to question her a lot. Like the way she's always being so quirky. And not in a good way. Like when she wears the same slip-on Vans everyday with misfitting Aeropostale shirts and bellbottoms with huge tears at the knees. And how she duct-taped her shirt once because it said WTF in tiny letters (I tore it off before anyone could see that...). Or maybe how she stands with her feet wide apart and her braces sticking out of her mouth. Or how she's never been asked out in her whole life. Or how it seems she hangs out with some of the weirdest people.
As I'm writing this, I'm getting this horrible knot in my stomach... I feel like a jerk and a backstabber and a horrible friend. But I just feel like I've sort of...outgrown her. We used to be really weird little kids while we were in elementary... haha... we used to go around asking people for their hair and wearing matching Fairly Odd Parents t-shirts and sit beneath a tree all day and make fairyhouses. But that was... 3 and a half years a go. I'm done with that stuff. But I feel that maybe she's stuck being a little kid?
Look, I know I'm probably not making a ton of sense. But my ultimate question is: what should I do? Should I ditch her? Still be friends with her? Talk it out? I'm so confused. Any help would be appreciated.
Thanks :) (link)
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well you shouldnt ditch her because thats like your best friend and you wouldnt want to loode her for somethin stupid youll really regret it but you should talk out what her flaws are and how she could inprove them beacause friends shouldnt keeps secrect from each other(best friends really!) but stay friends with her and dont care what other people think and remember i am always avalible
Good luck tatianna:))
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i already asked a question about this but its making me go crazy.
thankyou to the people who gave me advice
and i talked to my mom on the way to the store
and she blew up on me. again.
im 16 years old. and its normal to have a boyfriend/friends who are guys.
and hse wont except that.
my boyfriend (who i told her is just my friend, but she told me she thinks hes more than just a friend) she wont let me drive to his house this weekend
she told me next time i hangout with him, she wants to meet him. so i was being nice and i said that i could go pick him up (he lives abut 25 minutes away) and then i would bring him to my house to meet my parents. and she started yelling at me and stuff. and she wont let me do that. so im like ok whatever then i guess you will never meet him.
hes not the richest person in the world and i respect that, so he doesnt have a car and his parents wont let him take there car and shes like why cant he pick you up and i told her that and she thinks im making excuses and im not.
i honestly dont know why she is getting so mad.
shes lucky i even told her about him. shouldnt she be happy about that?
but no shes not. she has to be a total you know what about it.
and she keeps bringing up the fact that he goes to a school for bad kids. im happy with him. im the happiest ive ever been. and i dont understand why she cant just accept that and be happy for me.
(me and my parents dont talk about love life and stuff like that. so this is like the first situation ive been in like this with them)
what should i do? im thikning aobut just telling her im going to the mall and out to dinner with my friend but then id just go to his house. do you think i can get away with that?
sorry this is so long. but thanks for the advice! (link)
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well its your life and you should be allowed to make some desicions.if you think this is the only way you can see him than i would say go for it but if you get in trouble with your parents tell them that youre not them and ther not you dont make all of your disicions and you like him and thats all thats all that matters if you could pass his flaws why cant they and remember i am always availible
GOODLUCK
tatianna:))
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So there's this girl I like. Problem is I move an hour away in a couple months :(. Anyway, I don't have a lot of relationship experience. I see this girl in person a couple times a week (our group of friends hang out) and recently we've been texting more often and it's always a little flirty. Anyway, I would totally love it if she called me, so I'm thinking she might like it just as much if I called her. First question, if there was a guy you liked or were just getting to know, would you like it if they called you? Second, what should I talk about? Third, should I keep it short or what? Finally, would it be goofy to get a call from a guy and not have them ask you out or anything (I want to, just not sure its the best time yet)? (link)
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well your first answer is i love when a boy calls me first (girls think its kinda thier job) you should definatly call her your 2nd answer is talk about some subjects thats you both now about like school and the teachers you dont like or you could ask her questions about her self(girls like that just dont make the questions too long try to change the subject after 5 or 7 questins)but keep the conversartion going and let her know stuff about you and let her know you wana hear what she has to say be engagded when she talks and really listen and next time you talk bring something up from the last conversation to let her know you was listening. No it would'nt be goofy because some people like slow relationships but its never hurt to try you should try.and remember i am alway availible:)
GoodLuck
Tatianna:))
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So my best friend goes to a different school than me, but she doesnt have a date to prom and shes soo distraught about it :/ like she basically hates life just because of this. i do have a date so im afraid of saying something that will make her mad at me or somewhat resentful.
What can i say to her to make her feel better? Or what can i do for her? like bring her ben & jerry's with a note or something haha.
i dont know, i just feel bad because shes so miserable and i feel like i cant help her :( (link)
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Wow thats a real suker not having a date to prom because its realy big thing but you should tell her thats its not the end and she dosent need a boy to have fun at HER prom a boy wont make you have any more fun than you would by your self you should tell her that there will be other times when things dont turn out her way but that dosent mean that you should mope around about it life's to short to do that and if she does get mad at you (which she probably won't )tell her that she need tough love and a real friend will give it to you and remember i am always availible (i chech it every day:)
Good Luck
Tatianna:))
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Hey everyone, im 15/f. and i have a boyfriend that lives across the country, and it kills me that i never see him. But we talk everyday, and msn and text, call, email. Everything. I trust him with all my heart, and i belive that he would NEVER cheat on me. Its just that i never see him, and it kills me. So i dont know what to do. Also, i LOVE my boyfriend with all my heart. But i have had a crush on someone at my school, and they like me. Should i stay with the one i love, and never see? Or be with someone i only like, and see everyday.?
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well this is kinda tough but i dont think it will work out in my opinoin peaple who live far apart grow far apart i know you love him and you guys text every day but you should be with someone who's close but that dosent mean that you cant still talk to him as friends and you could give the other guy a chance and hey if it dosent work out then you could go back to the person who lives far away or go on to someone else but most inportanly follow your heart and i am always avalibe
Good Luck
Tatianna:)
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I like this guy, and it turned out that he likes me too, but I found out from my friends, and I didn't believe it. Also he's the shy type so we never talk, its been a while and I think that he dosen't like me anymore, But I want to give him a hint that I still like him. What should I do! (link)
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well since he@s really shy you should make the first move because if he's really shy he problably woundnt be the one who speacks first if you wont something done you have to do it yourself and remember i am allways avalible if you need my advice just send your question to me
Good Luck
Tatianna:)
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17, guy, no gf for 4 years
Ok this is an unsual one but the girl i once liked.. her BF just cheated on her about 5 days ago i finnaly got over her after realising shes kinda annoying and not really my type (I started liking her randomly for no reason and i didnt know her, then i got to know her and regretted it a bit) anyways just in case i start liking her again (which will probably happen kus im a lonley bastard) how do i stop those feelings? i dont know her enough anyways and our "friendsip" hasnt really happend even though i tried thankas for ya answers (link)
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you shouldnt want to stop your feelings for some if they do come back (which will probly not happen because your not attracted to her) but if you really want to aviod that happing avoid her because if you avoid her you avoid the situation.
good luk and im always avalible
tatianna
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btw i'm 14. 15 in april
ok so i went ot with this guy about 5 months ago and it took me a while to get over him.You see he dumped me for his ex girlfriend in another town about 3 hours away.He broke up with me over the phone and it tore me apart.it took meso long just to trust him again.Well about 2 or 3 weeks ago he told me that he sorta liked me again which was kinda weird to me because i had started having feelings for him again around the same time. We flirted for a while and he eventuall broke up with his girlfriend. He said it was too hard having a long distance realtionship.So we weren't sure what really to do so we decided to meet up. We went to the beach and sat on some sand dunes. after about 2 hours of talking. we hooked up and it was my first hook up ever and i wasn't really sure what to do but whatever i did it felt good. Anyways. after a few weeks we sorta stopped talking he got really sunburnt that day and wasn't at school. i got an infection and also wasn't at school. I think i was confused about my feelings for him. So the other day i was bored so i decided to message him. We started talking. two of my best friends were over and i decide to flirt with him and see where it went my friend was telling me some things to say and it was fun. well we kept on flirting for a few days and i really started to like him again. i had this new found confidence like i could tell him anything.
And then today. New years day he tells me he has a girlfriend. That she asked him out two days ago and that they had started going out yesterday. I was upset of course. I just started to think we could get back together. and he does this to me. i told him that i liked him but was confused about what to do. and he said he was too.
I'm not sure if i can forgive him this time . for leading me on. its like i'm the back up plan for when he gets back from his holiday he gets back with me. its crap.
what do you think i should do?
i'm so confused. my friends think i forgive him too easily. but i dunno
please help me
xoxo
sorry for it being sooo long
i'll appreciate any help. (link)
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part of me want to say no but it sounds like it he just dosent know what he wants you you know i mean.hes wish washy.so you need to ask him does he want a serious relationship with you if says no then try to move on if its yes then youll have a new bf
good luck
tatianna
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Josh 17
AJ 18
Me 15
Ok so as many of you might no I was dateing Josh but he dumpd me for the other girl [Jess] on the same day I was going to dump him because my ex [AJ] came back in my life. AJ and I dated for 5 months and I love my vergianty to him so I still love him. Well i told him how Josh dumped me and he got pissy and he said that he wont stand for it so he is going to confrunt him about it and he will always protect me. Dose he still love me 2? Ethier way he is going to collage friday so I am REALLY upset and I dont want to show it because we are just friends now. I dont know how I can be friends with them both and not show I have feelings for ethier of them. But if AJ does still love me how do I take it I mean he is moving...do I take him back? (link)
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i think he still loves you .but i dont think you should take him back because if he dumped you for somebody else than he probly loves you but not enough to be with
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So there's this guy, and he's my neighbor; but his sister's are bestfriend's with my brother. So it makes him a total no-no. But I just can't help myself but to like him. I'm in eighth grade, but he's in tenth. Everything about it's wrong. Do you think I like him because I know he's off limits ? What should I do ?! (link)
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well i dont belive that any body likes someone because their ''off limits'' but i think you like him ..... well.. just because you like him take your chance and askhim out it dosent matter if you brother is bet friends with his sister if you never try youll never know
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ok so theres my best friend, we'll call her A. A was friends with another girl, B. were all seniors in high school now. so A & B were really good friends up until last year, B started hanging out with the popular party girls and started spending all her time sneaking out, drinking nonstop, and gettin herself into situations with guys and basically went from a good girl to a party girl whore. she did a complete 180, basically. so A told B that she hated the way she had changed and wouldnt be friends with her when she was like that. so they werent friends. This year, B stopped hanging out with those girls for the most part and came back to reality and stopped all the excessive partying, so A and B are friends again. well at the end of last year, my best friend A got really heavy into partying. all summer she'd go to parties almost every night, and couldnt wait to get high and drunk and fool around with random guys she'd sometimes barely know. she basically became the person that B was who she said she didnt like. she has laid off the weed, i guess, but the other night her and two other girls went off and got high off a large amount of pills, and all she talks about these days is going and getting drunk and where the next party is. everything is liquor liquor liquor. she's invited me to go to parties with her, which it usually ends up that im not able to because of work or something, but i wouldnt mind going every once in a while, but i do not want to be in the wild crazy party all the time livin off alcohol and gettin high kinda scene. im to the point where i almost want to do to her what she did to B, tell her that i hate the way she is now and dont wanna associate with her if shes gonna have partying on the brain 24/7. the thing is though is that i dont want to do that. i love her to death, we've been good friends for going on 4 years, and shes an amazing person. we have so many good times and shes fun to be around and has been there for me when i need her. i just hate that she cant go a day without talking about getting drunk or high, and thats basically all she does besides go to school and sleep. shes even driven drunk and other stupid stuff like that. shes a model, a straight A student, and so much fun, and i hate what shes doing to herself, but i know her, and there would basically be no talking her out of this lifestyle, but i dont wanna lose one of my best friends. what's a girl to do? (link)
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ok well your in a messed up situation but mostly everyone have to deal with it i know you said you dont to do what ''a'' did to''b'' but i think you HAVE TO!!!!thats what got her friend ''kinda'' out of the problem i mean shes a straight a student and a fun person try to keep her that way
good luck
Tatianna
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Ever since we broke up (I dumped him) my ex boyfriend has been behaving rather badly. He’s been sleeping around and alienating his friends, and they keep coming to me asking me to talk to him.
I don’t really want to do that. I talked to him for ages while we dating about the way he treated his friends, about his depression and his bad habits. He fooled around before we were dating a lot. I’m not surprised he is doing the same things now… It’s not like it’s my fault he is this way: He was always that way. I feel like his friends just didn’t notice it as much when he was with me because I was dealing with most of by myself and without dragging them into it. But I warned them, asked them for help and they always ignored me.
I’m ticked off at them all now, and I really don’t want this guy in my life very much right now. I still care too much for him to be able to handle his stupid behavior calmly and I am NOT getting back together with him. Ever. His lousy behavior after the break up has only made me more certain that it was a bad match. I’ve asked his friends to stop telling me all the gory details, but they seem convinced that I’m the only one that can ‘help’ him. If I couldn’t help him when we were together, how on earth am I supposed to do it now? Am I a horrible person for not wanted to get involved in this anymore? (link)
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no your not a horrible person i understand that you would like to help him and you want to be a good person but you said it yourself,that you keep talking to him and he wont listen.and i know you dont him out life but you just have to say''look i dont want you out of my life but,you hae been acting a little''different'' i need you to act a little better cause youre pussing your friends and me the wrong wayand theyve been coming to me so please (dont beg)act different so all your friends wont have their back away from you .....like i will that will probly work! and about thier friends... IGNORE THEM!!!!!IF THEY CALL YOU DONT PICK UP! IF THEY COME TOWARDS YOU WALK AWAY!!!!
GOOD LUCK!!!
Tatianna
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