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Am i just the Backup Plan?
btw i'm 14. 15 in april
ok so i went ot with this guy about 5 months ago and it took me a while to get over him.You see he dumped me for his ex girlfriend in another town about 3 hours away.He broke up with me over the phone and it tore me apart.it took meso long just to trust him again.Well about 2 or 3 weeks ago he told me that he sorta liked me again which was kinda weird to me because i had started having feelings for him again around the same time. We flirted for a while and he eventuall broke up with his girlfriend. He said it was too hard having a long distance realtionship.So we weren't sure what really to do so we decided to meet up. We went to the beach and sat on some sand dunes. after about 2 hours of talking. we hooked up and it was my first hook up ever and i wasn't really sure what to do but whatever i did it felt good. Anyways. after a few weeks we sorta stopped talking he got really sunburnt that day and wasn't at school. i got an infection and also wasn't at school. I think i was confused about my feelings for him. So the other day i was bored so i decided to message him. We started talking. two of my best friends were over and i decide to flirt with him and see where it went my friend was telling me some things to say and it was fun. well we kept on flirting for a few days and i really started to like him again. i had this new found confidence like i could tell him anything.
And then today. New years day he tells me he has a girlfriend. That she asked him out two days ago and that they had started going out yesterday. I was upset of course. I just started to think we could get back together. and he does this to me. i told him that i liked him but was confused about what to do. and he said he was too.
I'm not sure if i can forgive him this time . for leading me on. its like i'm the back up plan for when he gets back from his holiday he gets back with me. its crap.
what do you think i should do?
i'm so confused. my friends think i forgive him too easily. but i dunno
please help me
xoxo
sorry for it being sooo long
i'll appreciate any help.
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I've been in your situation more than once unfortunately....guys like to play games...and that is what this guy is doing to you...he wan't you to hold on..he doesn't want you to move on. Although you still care about him...guys like that aren't worth your time. Time heals everything so if you feel like it's gonna be impossible to move on...i promise that you are wrong. I thought that same thing way to many times. If you really really want to be with him still...make him prove to you that he is worth it. Make him earn your trust back. I hope my advice helps :] Good luck! & if you need more advice or have any more question...feel free to ask me
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part of me want to say no but it sounds like it he just dosent know what he wants you you know i mean.hes wish washy.so you need to ask him does he want a serious relationship with you if says no then try to move on if its yes then youll have a new bf
good luck
tatianna
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I know a lot about how you feel. I'm sorry that things like that could happen to you. It's very devastating, I know. But even though you might think he's this perfect guy, who is he to take over your life? If you let him, he'll see that he can just dangle you anywhere and sweet talk you into anything he wants and just expect you back after its done. He can't be the perfect 'one' for you, because I'm positive that's not the way you want the rest of your life to be. You need to forget him and at school, act like you don't know who he is. If he really has feelings for you, he'll come around and try to ask you whats wrong, or he could think he just needs to find a new 'Plan B'. I know its hard to hear when you can be so in love with him. But like all the retarded grownups say, There are plenty of fish in the sea, and he's not the right fish for you. There's a guy out there that wants to treat you right, and you just may not know it yet. Good luck with your future, :)
-Megannn <3
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Well he sounds like he has lots of girls comming after him, you may need to tell him straight up how you feel about everything, tell him you wanted to be his girlfriend because you miss him and just see if he gives you the reaction your looking for, maybe that will help?
i hope i helped(:
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