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ok so theres my best friend, we'll call her A. A was friends with another girl, B. were all seniors in high school now. so A & B were really good friends up until last year, B started hanging out with the popular party girls and started spending all her time sneaking out, drinking nonstop, and gettin herself into situations with guys and basically went from a good girl to a party girl whore. she did a complete 180, basically. so A told B that she hated the way she had changed and wouldnt be friends with her when she was like that. so they werent friends. This year, B stopped hanging out with those girls for the most part and came back to reality and stopped all the excessive partying, so A and B are friends again. well at the end of last year, my best friend A got really heavy into partying. all summer she'd go to parties almost every night, and couldnt wait to get high and drunk and fool around with random guys she'd sometimes barely know. she basically became the person that B was who she said she didnt like. she has laid off the weed, i guess, but the other night her and two other girls went off and got high off a large amount of pills, and all she talks about these days is going and getting drunk and where the next party is. everything is liquor liquor liquor. she's invited me to go to parties with her, which it usually ends up that im not able to because of work or something, but i wouldnt mind going every once in a while, but i do not want to be in the wild crazy party all the time livin off alcohol and gettin high kinda scene. im to the point where i almost want to do to her what she did to B, tell her that i hate the way she is now and dont wanna associate with her if shes gonna have partying on the brain 24/7. the thing is though is that i dont want to do that. i love her to death, we've been good friends for going on 4 years, and shes an amazing person. we have so many good times and shes fun to be around and has been there for me when i need her. i just hate that she cant go a day without talking about getting drunk or high, and thats basically all she does besides go to school and sleep. shes even driven drunk and other stupid stuff like that. shes a model, a straight A student, and so much fun, and i hate what shes doing to herself, but i know her, and there would basically be no talking her out of this lifestyle, but i dont wanna lose one of my best friends. what's a girl to do?
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well this has never happened to me, but well since A told B that she didnt like the way she was acting, maybe B realized that she needed to stop or shes going to loose a good friend. So if you just tell A that you dont like the way shes acting, maybe she'll realize that she might loose a good friend like you and then stop doing that. sorry, i hope that helps :]
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ok well your in a messed up situation but mostly everyone have to deal with it i know you said you dont to do what ''a'' did to''b'' but i think you HAVE TO!!!!thats what got her friend ''kinda'' out of the problem i mean shes a straight a student and a fun person try to keep her that way
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Tatianna
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Well I do have alot of experiance on this one. I to had a really best friend who I was friends with for over 20 years. We where like sisters, I loved her to death, and still care for her to this day. The thing is when her life started to affect my life in a negative way, I had to do the only thing I could and cut her out of my life. I still care for her, but she did not change. When you love a person, sometimes the best thing to do is walk away. I say this because if your friend cant get it under control and she is not willing to listen to reason there is not much you can do. So this is your question how long will you let her actions affect your life? We cant make people change no matter how much we would like them to. Believe me I have waited prayed cried, and had my heart riped out. The thing was over many years of this from the same friend, I could not take it anymore. So if in 20 years with my friend who did not change< I really would not like to see you suffer like I have watching someone you love self destruck right in front of you. Its an extremely hard thing to do, to not be around someone you care for so much, but sometimes you have to do it. Not only for yourself but for them as well. I wish I had a better answer to give for this one but I am being totally honest with you on this one. I hope your situation will have a better outcome than mine did, but it just so similar to everything I have gone through. So as a last plee to your friend I would tell her, I love you but I will have to cut you out of my life for good if you cant stop. If she is not willing to change after that, then I am sorry you are fighting a lost cause.. And one last thing, with my friend it was a repeated pattern for years, we would hang out for a year or two she would start it all over again then there would be periods of six months, nine months so on I would not talk to her. My friend would sware she had changed and everytime I let her back into my life it all started all over. So over two years ago I cut her off completely and we will never be friends again. I know how harsh that sounds, but I do still care about her and think of her and I think I always will. That is so not comforting I know, but I thought you should know.. Keep in touch let me know what you think ok..
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