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Stalker Friend
I have this friend who never leaves me alone. We went on vacation together over the summer and her family is pretty awesome. Well anyways its months later and she doesn't get the idea i need space. I don't want to be mean and tell her off because that would seem like i'm a complete bitch and was using her to go on a vacation.
Most of my friends can't stand her and shes very full of herself and likes to point out flaws on me sometimes. It gets annoying, she never stops talking about the same thing over and over. Lately she hasn't stopped talking about drugs and getting high which has gotten on my nerves. I tell her to shut up and i don't care about that and it doesn't interest me. But she doesn't stop.
Recently she tried to set me up with this guy friend of hers whose in 8th grade and i'm in 11th and i dunno if i should take that offensively or not.
She has also been a bother with lunch and everyone wants me to make her leave our table because she wasn't there the first week of school and now there isn't enough space for the orignal ones of us who sat there. I recently found out she is bi, i am too but shes really clingy doesn't leave me alone and happens to be everywhere i am and like pays attention to every detail about me which gets kinda creepy. Anyways yeah i dunno what to do without seeming like a bitch or making a huge scene or loss of our friendship. Any ideas?
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Well first idea of her, maybe she likes you, maybe she has gone through the same things she's putting you through or most obviously maybe shes jealous, because just becasue shes always outting you down on your flawa, makes that a visible flaw of hers, what you should do is be honest with her and tell her how you, feel, while doing that reflect your true feelings of it to her, this could cause her to open up to you and tell you why she acts the way she does. I hope it goes well. GOOD LUCK!
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i can honestly say that ive been there.i use to hate it when my friend pointed out things thats wrong with me but , now i learn it was out of jealousy,your dealing with an annoying bitch and you need to get rid of her fast.i would say to just be honest with her or let her know why most people dont like to talk to her.be nice at first but if she doesnt listen be mean .(i would start with a compliment then get to the biz )wish you the best of luck*
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Well you could find things to keep you busy, always seem like your in a rush to be somewhere or do something. But that will not continue to work. I think I would be nice and just tell her that she needs to give you some breathing room, and she is creeping you out a little. Tell her you mean no offence to her but you just need a little less you and her time. I would also mention that it makes your head hurt hearing the same information repeated over and over. Nothing wrong with making an obvious observation, I am sure others are aware of. If this does not help and she does not get a clue like some people. You will have to be more assertive in your actions. In other words if she talks and talks and talks and follows you, just turn to her and tell her to stop it knock it off. Tell her that you have expressed how you feel, and if she cant respect what you have asked of her, then she will just have to back off for awhile. Friendship is a two way street you dont have to be totally mean but I would be more assertive with her, and in your actions. I hope this helps, let me know what you think.......
Stop take a deep breath and remember to take it onedayatatime
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