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Just a couple of things which everyone should know..1) A love relationship is a TWO way thing, you BOTH have to be on the SAME page.. Communication is vital. FACT.
2) You don't need negative people in your life to bring you down, you get enough of that as it is. You need positive people, to raise you higher.. FACT.
3) Believe in yourself, if you start to, everyone else will. So focus on the good things, because that is what you will naturally flaunt.. Which makes everyone focus on the good things! TRUTH.
4) You only live once, so don't screw it up! Make the most of this ONE life! FACT.
5) Life's all about making mistakes, forgiving, letting go, falling in love, making friends, and best of all, LAUGHING OUT LOUD!! ;) Laughter IS the best medicine.. Trust me! ;) FACT.
Got some love life issues? Need a quick self-esteem boost? Confused in a relationship? .... Just ask Venzuela!
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when you shave your vagina. is it supposed to shave your entire area. or just the sides so theres still a strip of hair going down the center? how do guys prefer a girl to look down there? please dont say like there not gona care once your naked please help me! thankyou in advance
Well, it really depends on the guy. Usually cleanly shaven is what most prefer and it is easier than shaving to leave a strip down the middle, I think they call it 'The Runway', or something like that. I suggest you go full on, like you shave all the hair, it looks neater and cleaner too.
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Apparently, my girlfriend did something that if she tells me what it was, I'll actually leave her.
I'm a very tolerant, and patient person. I'm very concerned about what she did, but I'm not going to push her to tell me. I am, however, pushing that we do couple counseling soon, so that we can be a better couple.
Point is, how would I tell if she cheated on me?
Assuming things in a relationship and getting mad over them kind of leads to a downfall, a downfall that wasn't necessary! I suggest you sit her down one day and talk to her, tell her that you have been very patient and have waited for her to tell you, but she obviously hasn't that's why you're doing this right now. You can't force anything, just open the doors and be patient, something will come by. And if she says it is something that will make you leave her, ask her if it is something she is ashamed of, hear her answer, and then ask her if YOU should be the one that decides to leave or not. This is a relationship, obviously with two people, two people with equal rights, you deserve to know and she has to tell, it is just how a relationship works. First talk to her and TRY sort it out amongst yourselves, and then seek couple counseling, because to me, it'd just seem more personal and it could build your relationship with her, make it stronger, rather than bringing in a third party.
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Like Taylor Swift says "I got tired of waiting, wondering if you were ever coming along...my faith in you was fading"
well anyway my question i guess is how many of you out there still have faith in love... and i guess what are some of your theories on finding it, keeping it, and losing it. feel free to rant and leave long philosophical answers... i wanna hear it
I, personally, do believe in love. It does exist, and it most definately will reach or hit everyone at a point in their life, I don't know if it will happen twice in a life, but I'm sure once at least. I'm only 17 and I've met two guys, both turning 20 this year, who have seen the best in me at all times, they are my exes now; the first one had to leave to another country for university and I had to leave the second one for university too. We're all in 3 different continents at the moment. I must say, real love is SO VERY close to infatuation, many people confuse infatuation as love, and convince themselves that is IS love, when it isn't. And they usually end up hurt. I've got to say that real, healthy love is a two way thing, if you think you're in love with the guy, he should be too, if he isn't.. This isn't the healthy love, as one will get hurt. But definately, love does exist and it will hit everyone at least once in their life. Love isn't something you can rush, it's like true beauty or amazing art, it takes time and no one can or should rush it! Rushed love or forced love, is not love at all. I personally feel love should come way before sex, but not many people follow this nowadays, everyone is different and has their own philosophies, I can't blame them.
If LOVE hasn't FOUND YOU yet, don't give up.. It will happen when it is time to, don't worry and have faith. There are some people that haven't found love yet, and they are quite old. Well, that only means you have met and been through all the non-worthy love material, and on your way to finding your love, the love of your life! It's never and it will never be too late to fall in love, the main thing is to never lose hope. I have been blessed with two amazing guys, that have touched me positively and they are my friends now, my closest friends. I never know, I might marry one of them in the future. Keep doors open, chin up and a smile, and I'm sure love won't be too far.. It's hit me twice and I'm only 17. You never know! Picking the right guys obviously matters here, so wait and pick the best out of the lot, as these healthy decisions lead you to a future healthy love life! I have always gone for a little older guys, like 3 years older than me, not any more or any less. I think maturity on this LOVE subject with both parties matter too.. Hope you keep the faith! ;)
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My friend is 16. The guy is 18. They have been talking quiet a bit. The guy will start the conversation, but then he won't talk much. He doesn't text her back till hours later now. And she wants to figure out what to do because this is really getting to her. I told her that I think that he might be one of those guys that is not very sociable...or maybe he is just trying to drive her crazy and that she should turn the tables around and say something that will get him all worried and crazy....do you guys have any ideas of something that she could say to him? or just what you think about the situation
Maybe she should give him a taste if his own medicine! She should do the same to him, and see if he goes crazy. He should if he's interested in her, if he doesn't then, maybe she should just find another guy, who is willing to talk. He could be playing some kind of childish game where he is trying to make your friend go crazy over him and want him more, people do crazy things nowadays, don't be surprised.
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So, basically my boyfriend is going on vacation next month for about a month and a half about 4 states away from me, and I won't get to see him at all! He told me he's going to give me his hat he always wears, that he doesn't let anyone borrow/ or even touch! I thought it was so sweet, but I don't know what I should give him! Any ideas??
Give him something that means as much to you as he does.. Something like what he did. Or just go for something sweet and cute, a pajama top or something he likes of yours.. Usually clothes though. Or just ask him, what do u like most.. It works and it makes things easier! ;)
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Does anyone know of a really great romance novel that would make me cry?
Or even just a sad book that's somewhat of a tearjerker?
I love sad stories with no "neat" endings. Lol I know that sounds depressing but yeah, that's it.
Thanks!
Well, the books by Khaled Hosseini made me cry. I've read 2 of his books, don't know if he has more, willing to read them.. But the 2 books are, "The Kite Runner" and "A Thousand Splendid Suns".. You might have heard of "The Kite Runner", it is quite touching, it's about friendship and loyalty etc. You just have to ready it, I strongly recommend it. "The Kite Runner" was his first book and it did so well, it came no. 1 in one of the book review things. They are based in Afghanistan, so the stories he writes are affected by the culture and the history of Afghanistan.
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When I was 6 my older brother accidently shot his wife, and then he committed suicide. My dad was effected so much by his loss that he started drinking, and ran out of control and became an alcoholic. Soon after, my parent's divorced and my dad moved away. In August of 2005, hurricane Katrina hit my house in New Orleans and almost destroyed everything. My dad quit drinking and moved back to New Orleans and helped my mom rebuild our house that September. My parents fell inlove and my dad didn't touch a drink. Two months later, he got very sick and he went to the doctor and we found out he has very bad liver cancer. My dad died April 1, 2006. I was just in 6th grade. I developed bad self esteem issues.
April 2008: I had devolped a lot for my age, I looked so much older. I started hanging out with older friends and got myself in a lot of trouble. I started drinking and smoking weed every weekend. One night in April I snuck out of my house with a boy that called me and told me he was by my house. I needed a cigarette really bad and my mom refused to buy me any, and I was punished so this was the only way I could get one for a couple days. I figured it was worth it. I snuck out and we went behind a school down the street. He started to kiss me and we made out, and then he kept trying to take off my pants. ( I think he was 16 and I was 14. ) I kept moving his hands so he would stop but he wouldn't, so I stopped kissing him and pushed him away because I thought he was using too much force on me. Then he held me down against the wall and pulled my shorts and panties off of me. I was so shocked. I was a virgin. He let go of me and I had the worst feeling I just knew something was going to happen. He pulled out a condom and a knife. He didn't do anything with the knife but he like showed it to me. I let him have sex with me. I was crying the whole time. He raped me. I told him no over and over again and he wouldn't listen to me. I was raped.
May 2008: I was talking to a boy before the rape and I really liked him. We started dating and he was my everything. He was mean to me like my dad was but I don't know, something about it made me like it because he was just not letting me fuck up and get so drunk and mess up and stuff. He cared a lot about me and I let him have sex with me. After we had been dating for a while, I told him about the rape. He helped me through EVERYTHING. He told my mom, which I got really mad about, but he just wanted to do the best thing he could do. I had to talk to millions of people about the rape and I was video recorded, had to explain the rape in EVERY DETAIL, photos were were taken, and my body was inspected head to toe. That made my rape even worse. The cops and doctors treated me like I was the criminal.
August 2008: The boy that I had was at a party and got drunk and made out with his ex girlfriend. We broke up. It was the most devestating thing that EVER happened. I still cry my heart out.
September 2008: I found out the boy I had just broken up with got a new girlfriend. I took 12 asprin to just make me feel "better" and I told my friend and she freaked out and made me go to the emergency room. I told the people in the emergency room about how I just didn't feel good, and they claimed I was trying to kill myself.
They made me go to a mental hospital. IT was the scariest thing I've ever had been to. They FORCED ME there for two weeks, my mom was not allowed to get me out. Our insurance doesn't cover much mental health and they took like ALL of our money. They held me just for the money. I DIDNT EVEN TRY TO KILL MYSELF. I WAS JUST UPSET AND THOUGHT IT WOULD PUT ME IN A BETTER MOOD.
November 2008: My mom would not let me out her site after everything we went through. The first night she let me sleep out, me and my friend went out and got drunk. I drank too much not realizing and ended up in the alcohol level of 0.47 and that was after I threw my heart up. They thought about sending me back to the mental hospital but THANK GOD THEY DIDN'T.
January 2009: A girl that is friend with my rapist (he coudln't go to jail because of lack of evidence :( ) claimed I was LYING about being raped. She got me so upset and so embarassed. She came up to my face and claimed if I really did get raped then I would throw a punch at her. She was being really loud and I couldn't take it and I hit her. She got me arrested and pressed charges. It was all part of her plan to get back at me. I WENT TO JAIL. THEY HELD ME LIKE A CRIMINAL
I got kicked out my catholic school. It was the same highschool my mom went to and it was her dream that I went there but when I got kicked out I got her SOOOO DISSAPPOINTED. I MESSED UP EVERYTHING. I JUST WANTED TO DO WHATS BEST.
Now we don't have much money anymore. The boy who raped me never stepped a foot in jail, but I DID. Only one income. No dad, no brother. My mom does not trust me. I have been through hell and back and I still miss my ex who helped me through everything. He's with his girlfriend still and I wish I could let him know how much he meant to me.
What can I do? I'm just 15 years old and I'm lost. I had talking about my problems to therepist because I JUST RELIVE THE EXPIRENCES EVERY TIME.
sorry for the grammer, i'm just too upset to even go check on that stuff :(
THERES NOTHING I CAN DO
I still have dreams about that mental hospital too. it ruined my life. The rapist ruined it. The girl ruined it. My ex ruined it. Why do I not have any control?
Firstly, I'm glad you realise things have to change and this isn't the right way. I suggest start changing things now, like almost everything. Hang out with 'good' people, like people that do not smoke/drink etc. People that you can look up to and admire. Pick up slowly now and I assure you before long you will have everything by your stride. I'm sorry about all that has happened, but you know it has only made you a stronger person. About the rape issue and his friend, the girl who provoked you.. It is quite a messed up world, and people always claim to know better, when they don't. In occasions like that, where someone provokes you, just walk away, it may seem like a really 'loser' thing to do, but you're more mature than them, fighting and being all physical is a childish game-play. You don't have to prove to anyone that you got raped or anything, you KNOW you got raped and people that matter to you do too, so that girl, if she doesn't believe.. WHO THE HELL CARES?! Never let people who have NO importance in YOUR life, BE part of your life. It is a waste and there is no point, you'll just end up hurt.
Right now, cherish what you got, that's one way to start re-building, you are most definately a strong girl, and if you were strong enough to go through all this at such a tender age, you're more than strong to start re-building and hit the point of complete happiness. I suggest you hang out with your mom a little more, help her around, strengthen your relationship with your mom, she's all you have as family. Look after that! She may not trust you now, but can you blame her? Keep being there for her, and slowly but surely, you will get her trust back, I promise you, after all, you are her daughter she loves so much and has stuck with all through everything.
About your ex, I'm sorry it is over. But don't go back, MOVE ON.. He made out with someone, whoever it is, it matters. And breaking up with him was a good idea, because what he did was wrong. I'm happy you did that. And yes, he helped you out, that should always be appreciated. You're still young, he's just ONE guy that has helped you out, there are some MORE guys out there, believe me. Don't tie yourself to this guy, he messed up, NOT you. It was NOT your fault, BUT HIS! You shouldn't take ANY blame for this. Be grateful he helped you out, talk to him one day if you can and just let him know that you're willing to be friends with him, don't get into detail or anything, friends says it! Don't tell him how much he means to you as you would be showing vulnerability, NOT what you need after all that's happened and after what he has done. You are in NO fault whatsoever, remember that. Just let him know you want to be friends, whether he wants to or not, is his choice. Don't get emotional or anything, or get into what happened with you two in the past when you were together. He has a new girlfriend now and that's that. Don't try break them or anything, respect their relationship, back away and move on. What he has done for you, helping you out, is more than enough.. That was all you needed, and now, if he can't be a good friend, then, that's ok too. Some things just don't happen or go according to how you want them to, you know? But never forget, you're moving FORWARDS, NOT BACKWARDS.... Keep that in mind and you will succeed.
I suggest you start taking some things a little easy, with the whole relationship thing. Don't get into it right now, build yourself strong and so when you do get into a relationship and he messes up and you're single again, the self-esteem and everything else that you have built will remain there, and you will still be strong enough to move on, and not be crushed. And he would just be a silly boy who missed out on a lot, you are something. Build your self-esteem now; hang out with people you admire, go out with them, have a ball, avoid drinking/drugs/smoking and everything will be going smoothly.
What you have been through, not many people have. You are stronger than most and you are well on your way to getting everything you've wanted. Your mom will always support you, love her. The friends that support you, love them too. Just love and take care of the things/people that love you and care for you in return. The others don't matter, you will always have some people that try bring you down, always. But you, you are so much stronger, don't let them. They don't mean anything, and they are just a small little obstacle that you have to pass. Your best quality, your strength, will help you a lot. So stay strong, stay away from negative people that want to bring you down. Stay forever and ever with your mom, cherish her.
Move forwards and not backwards, once you're doing that.. Look, you've already made progress and you are in control!! ;) It is YOUR life, it is in YOUR control, always have been, always will be!
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ok when i kiss my boyfriend. like i mean pecks. long pecks and sometimes short ones. he will just randomely stick his tongue in my mouth and im like what the hell! thats gross. then we laugh. we havent madeout though. and i asked him why he does that with his tongue. he said just to make me mad. but is this just his way of trying to makeout. or what? i need peoples opinions. im 16 female. and hes 17. weve been together for almost 6 months. i want to makeout with him. and i know he probably does to. but were both kinda shy when it comes to stuff like that. what are some things i can do to get our kisses and his tongue into a makeout. and what do i do with our bodies. or our hands and stuff. someone please help me. thanks in advance
Well, if YOU want to make out, and he most definately does too, you're not exactly helping by going all "What the hell?!" on him, especially if you two are shy people.. So, be nice.. You want to make out with him as much as he does with you.. So the next time he sticks his tongue in your mouth, do the same, in his mouth.. Do whatever you feel like doing at that moment with your tongue, twirls etc. With the rest of your body, well, since your tongues are tied, both your bodies would be fairly close to each other, so just put your arms round his neck or waist, or mix it up. If the kissing gets intense, usually does, then a hand caressing the back of his head would work too. His arms would probably go round your waist. Just do whatever you feel like doing at that moment. Being in a relationship, you get to experiment too, and be comfortable with each other!
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13/m
ok ive been going out with my girlfriend for exactly a week now and we hold hands but mine get sweaty alot and she said that i do haha so i'm like.. worried that she wont want to hold hands with me as much because of that so does anyone know of things that i could put on my hands to stop it sweating too much
btw we usually hold hands when were walking around school and we also do it when i sometimes walk home with her
thanks
You could be nervous, and that's ok. Many people are at first. And you could sweat more at your palms than most, which is totally ok too, because everyone is different. Instead of holding hands tightly, why don't you two hold hands lightly? Like with some air-space in between.. Where its mostly the fingers holding onto the other person's.. If she asks why you're doing that, (don't ask to), just say, "You KNOW I have sweaty hands!" and smile.. It's cute and sweet. I'm sure she'll understand that, and all will work out!
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Hi..well, it all started with a Truth or dare game. We were playing and my friends made me kiss this guy who likes me, GF, and my best friend made me touch his crotch. My boyfriend found out about it and got mad. But until now, he is never letting go of the situation, and it annoys me and hurts me, and I can't love someone who is going to always bring it up . I knew it was a mistake at the time, but I was lost and weak. We are going to argue everyday. And next year, he won't be in my school which completely completely upsets me.
i begged him not to go, yet he chose to go. he broke my heart long before i broke his. i just didn't want to tell him. i think it's unreasonable. But I know going to another country to study is good for him and his future, so I don't want him to know.i don't know what to do anymore. i did all those horrible stuff
because i was so upset. and now i've lost my boyyfriend and best friend, and he's not even answering his phone. and my parents are acting responsible. my life is horrible.i don't think i know how to love any person.i don't think i can learn to love anyone except him. Can anyone give me some advice please?
Well, what is done is done. If he can't forgive, although it's difficult, if he can't forgive you and move on, and believe you that you are honestly regretting the situation, which seems you do.. If he can't do those things then, is he really worth hurting over and fighting for? He's barely fighting to keep you, and you're fighting to stay. What's the point of a relationship then? It has to be a two-way thing, yes, you did something wrong and you acknowledge it, and now HE has to acknowledge that you know it was wrong and you're never going to do it again, and so he should forgive you, because YOU are worth it! THAT would show the relationship is worth saving and keeping. Plus he's leaving soon, so get your relationship on track, whether it is on or off.. Know where it is, so you can move on too, if that is where it ends up.
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13/m
ok im going out with this girl who is really just.. awesome and great to be with but in class today this annoying stuck up rich kid was flirting with her alot he doesnt know were going out cause i dont really want him to know cause then he'll get all awww those 2 are goin out and it'll get really annoying cause he's done it once to me before and he wouldn't shut up about it and yea... i was getting really jealous from it cause she was laughing and it looked like she was enjoying it so how can i flirt with her, like make her laugh and stuff so i dont feel as jealous
thanks alot
Firstly, talk to her, because it won't stop. If something is funny, she will laugh, she isn't some robot! So tell her that you are a little jealous of the fact that she seemed to be having an awful great time with some other guy, rather than you, her boyfriend.
No one can really tell you HOW to make someone laugh, everyone can.. You just have to find the things that SHE finds funny. Spend more time together, compliment her (don't over do it though, one compliment every now and then in a day is enough), talk more often to her and listen. You could touch her on a deeper and more special level than just a flirt.
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so i have a boyfriend and he is 19, i am 16. however, i turn 17 in august and he turns 20 in october. we are really involved mentally and somewhat physically. i want to take it farther but he always asks me many times if its okay and i understand where he's coming from because it's technically illegal...But when i'm 17 do you think that he will change and alls he'll want is sex? he's pretty respectful right now but people change and things go wrong and everything so i dont really know what to expect...I guess i have to wait and see but does anyone know anyone else like this? & do you think he'll just want sex after i turn 17?
thanks in advance.
Honestly, you will never know until the time comes. My opinion would be, if he's so respectful now, live in the now and stay with him. When you do turn 17 and he becomes less respectful and all about sex, then.. THEN, you can decide to leave him or whatever you decide then. Live for the now, not the later because regret is something. You know him better, so you make your decision and see how it works out. If it doesn't work out nicely, it's ok, you learned from it and you become a stronger person!
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i have been with this boy for two years now. and when we first got together everything was perfect, never argued, had fun, and enjoyed are time together. but now two years down the line we; bicker, sit around, && our fun is watching movies.
its hard to explain but its getting kinda old doing nothing. even the sex isnt like it used to be. i still love him with everything i have and its hard to just throw 2 years of your life away. but am i getting bored of being with him? is this normal? is there anything i can do to prevent leaving him?
thanks,
18-female
This is normal so don't worry. Well, after being with someone for so long, it is quite understandable if you have grown out of each other. And this does happen, mind you. So don't beat yourself up over this, it is ok. Talk to him about it, and if you both feel the same, AND would like to fix it, then.. Get fixing! Do things differently, dress up/role-play, anything out of the box and new to the both of you. It should work. But when you do bring this up to him, make sure you're not making it all his fault, the BOTH of you are in this together so the BOTH of you have to fix this, that is if BOTH of you are willing and find this relationship worth it! It all depends on you AND him. Ask him something subtle, like if he feels the same about the sex, the feelings etc. fading.. If he does feel the same, you both are on the same page, a very good thing! Approach him gently, remember that. Ask him if he feels the same as you do, and don't forget to state that you DO feel a certain way etc. Communication is essential. If there ever is anything, talk to each other.
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ok. so me and my boyfriend can be in public and like kissing and hugging and holding and i always want to go farther and the way he handles me and kisses me and stuff always makes me wet. what can i do to make hhim hard besides like super obvious like grabbing him? i dont want to make it obvious i want to simply hint it. and i want to know why i get all hot and heavy and wet and stuff but he doesnt get hard. why is that? so someone please give me ideas.. thankyou
I suggest while flirting or talking dirty, whatever it is.. Gently bump and rub his private area with your hips or your behind, anything gently, not too rough as that area is quite sensitive. That should do the trick.. Try not to make it too obvious though, because it isn't something people like seeing in the public.
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19/f. So I have this amazing fiance whom I love very much, and the possibility of being pregnant with his kid. We've been together for almost two years, and planning a wedding.
Well like a week ago, we brokeup because we got into a huge argument. He broke my heart badly and felt that I should move on. Well I put up an ad on Craigslist about me wanting a relationship. I ended up getting 5 valid responses from guys saying how cute I am and such. Well I got to know them all a little bit. Then suddenly my ex-fiance came around to apoligize and he treated me to the movies, and begged for me back. So I accepted happily.
Now the problem is, I have these 5 guys wanting to go out with me. I don't know how to tell them I am going back out with my fiance. Like they LIKE me. I still want to stay good friends with them, yet I already know it'll break their heart.
So as a note, don't tell me I shouldn't of went to Craigslist in the first place. I think I already know what I've done. I am asking is, how can I break the news to them?
And I am faithful!! I never cheated and never will.
Thanks
Well, the whole thing about putting up an ad and getting people to respond is a public thing, just tell the 5 guys that you have found a guy, you don't have to get into the details, it is none of their business, and so you would like to continue being friends with them, if they don't mind. You leave it open for them to make a decision, whether to be your friend or not. It isn't your fault that your ex came back and you are back with him. It is life and things like that happen. If the 5 guys are willing to be your friend, then.. You got what you want. If they don't, then it's ok. It just wasn't meant to be. Don't feel guilty about it though, because it wasn't your fault and you couldn't have known what was going to happen. The 5 guys should be cool with being your friend. You never know when what may come out of it.
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so ive been having a feeling me and my boyfriend are gonna break up because, we're getting into alot of fights about him flirting with other girls. ive caught him about 5 times flirting & ive caught him staring at my 2 friend's (he was staring at their ass) ive heard alot of rumors that he likes 1 of them but he denies it. so idk who to believe my friends or him. so technically i need adive about: is this like signs off us breaking up? im 13 &+ my boyfriend is 14
Breaking up is a decision made between the two of you, ONLY. So if YOU want to end it because so feel like you have had enough of him flirting with other people, because you have caught him, then do so.. It is your choice! Rumors will always be there, and they will either break your relationship or make it stronger. If the two of you, mainly you right now, can fight and ignore the rumors, this will bring you two closer. He probably is just curious and all guys stare at other girls and things like that, whether they are with you or with their friends. Let him know, or just remind him that you don't like him staring at other girls, and flirting with them too. It is your right to not like such things, after all, you are his girlfriend. And about the arguing and fighting, it may just be a bump in your relationship, if you want to make it work and feel that breaking up over such is just not worth it, then smoothen it out TOGETHER. If you feel you just can't do it anymore, then follow your heart, break up with him. Breaking up is your choice. So chose wisely because you won't want to regret it later on.
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ihave been going out with my bf.for a while and hes been active before me many times. any way my question is when i want to give him a hand job he wont let me touch his penis like i rub it outside of his boxers ive tried going in and he like pulls my hand away it pisses me off he doesnt know that thou. like i tried asking and hes like i dont like the mes? and when im going to give him head he has to put a condom on i havnt done it in a while b.c he promiced id get to try witout it on so we havnt done it i asked if i could like taste his cum and hes like no its gross im like bitch fingering me is gross. ive never tasted it and i want to im sick of condoms man and his underwear makes things less exciting like and when we were going to have sex where he didnt have a condom hes like no im not going to cum in you dude way to make me horny and stop. and we tried two seconds wit out one (GREAT) and he wont do it again P.S. im on birth control... weve talked about it and shit and he still puts one on wat do i do to make him change his ways pleaseee.
to add im sorry that we have been dating over a year now and i already asked why to this and he just tells me messy or w.e and i asked if he had an std.
He is probably just really embarrassed even though he shouldn't be because you two have been together for over a year. But anyhow, people are different. It can be quite frustrating indeed. With the whole condom issue, maybe you both should go for an STD test together, just to be extra sure. Maybe he is afraid of STD's, you never know unless you ask, and if he pushes you away, tell him you want to know and you deserve to know because its been over a year! It should be long enough. When he says his cum tastes 'gross' tell him YOU should be the judge of that, unless he has tasted it before and can share the experience! :) Talk to him, tell him the underwear in between you and him just kind of puts you off and you find it more of a turn-off than anything. That should get his mind working and most probably help you enjoy it. Remind him that you are on birth control so that means you will not have a child unless you come off the birth control. You said it was great when you had sex without a condom, did he feel the same way? If he did, remind him about that and stress how good it felt and how much you liked it without a condom. If he says 'messy' again, say, 'Maybe I like messy!?' It is sort of a tease in a way too, if you guys are into such.
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Okay well I like this guy and he likes me but for various reasons (age being one of them) we have decided that we dont want to date. See, he is 14/m and I am 13/f and we have both agreed that we just aren't mature enough for all of that. But, we still like eachother... A lot. It can get kind of messy when it comes to other genders though. Neither of us are interested in anyone else, but I can get a little jelous and he can be kind of protective, but it just kind of... works out. I dont know, tell me if I'm setting myself up for disaster...
Anyway, that's not the point. That's kind of background info. The problem is, he's INCREDIBLY stubborn. I'm kind of... controling I guess? Haha not really but I am definitely not used to such a difficult boy. He believes that "the male is in charge" and he's NEVER disrespectful, just very obstinate. I have to go to extreme lengths to convince him to do anything. And I promise I'm not being one of those annoying girls who thinks boys should do whstever they tell them, he is honestly way too stubborn. It drives me crazy! As I said, not disrespectful, but hes so stubborn I feel like hes missing out on all kinds of things, and I just want to be able to convince him to do things. I've tried everything in the book, making puppy faces, saying "pretty please?", the whole shebang, and all I get is "sorry baby, no means no". Any help? Steadegies? I really like him, but this the only bump, and I know I can't change him but I need advice on how to deal with it or how to help myself get over it. Are there any perks? Help!
I'm glad you respect his differences, but he has to understand that even though you aren't dating or anything, you guys both like each other a lot, and along with that, there are sacrifices! You have to find the patience and time to settle him down and talk to him about it. Remind him you really do like him a lot and that YOU feel that the fact that he is very restricted makes you somewhat not-very-happy, and you want to be! If you want to respect the fact that he believes 'the male is in charge' and have no worries about that, then it is very important you remind him that you aren't being in charge, but you rather want to try out new things together. And he should sometimes get out of the comfort zone and listen to you, and try out the things you want. Tell him you feel that he is missing out on things because he doesn't want to try out new things, avoid calling him 'stubborn', he may feel like he isn't 'the male in charge'. Don't forget to let him know that you're talking to him about this because you like him, want to make it work as friends, or whatever you want to call your relationship (mind you, friendship is also a relationship), and because you care enough to experience new things with him and just do things TOGETHER! Just talk to him about it and let him know how you feel.
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this guy and I went out for a really long time/10 months. he told me that one of his friends was into me and he was gonna try to steal me away. When one of my friends thought he was cute..i told him....we ended up braking up three or four months later.....he ended up going to her the same day that we broke up...and it was like..wow..he got over me that fast...the part that irritates me is how he talks to her and tries to talk shit about me....always saying mean things about me.....i don't know...i just want to ask him why he is talking shit...
He sure sounds like a jerk, and it is very clear that he is NOT over you. He may seem and act like it, but really, he isn't! The fact that he still talks about you and TRIES to make you look bad is quite immature and depressing. He could be using your friend to get back at you, which isn't very nice to you or your friend, so you might want to warn your friend, or tell her about this if you haven't. If it makes you feel better, ask him. Ask him straight up why he has nothing better to do, and rather engage in such 'bad-mouthing'. This would make you look more mature, as what he is doing is quite immature. I strongly feel he is not over you, 10 months is quite a long time, and he could just be having difficulties getting over you.
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Three months ago I met an amazing guy and we ended up together. Hhe is going travelling around the US with his family in a few months. I really really like this guy, I'm his first gf and he really likes me too but im scared he will do the 'sensible' thing and break up with me when he goes. What am i going to do?
Try not to jump to conclusions so quickly. You never know. You might mean a WHOLE lot more to him than you think. And it is your right, as a person and partner in the relationship to know what the future is and where it is going to head when he goes on this family holiday. So don't worry about scaring him, he should be mature enough to understand, understand in both ways, one; the fact that you deserve to know because you're curious, and also because the whole point of a relationship is to be at ease with each other and be comfortable enough to talk about things that bother you or you are curious about. Talk to him and ask him about it, just as a curious friendly thing. It shouldn't get 'scary' or anything negative, it is simply a discussion.
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