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How to break the news to them
19/f. So I have this amazing fiance whom I love very much, and the possibility of being pregnant with his kid. We've been together for almost two years, and planning a wedding.
Well like a week ago, we brokeup because we got into a huge argument. He broke my heart badly and felt that I should move on. Well I put up an ad on Craigslist about me wanting a relationship. I ended up getting 5 valid responses from guys saying how cute I am and such. Well I got to know them all a little bit. Then suddenly my ex-fiance came around to apoligize and he treated me to the movies, and begged for me back. So I accepted happily.
Now the problem is, I have these 5 guys wanting to go out with me. I don't know how to tell them I am going back out with my fiance. Like they LIKE me. I still want to stay good friends with them, yet I already know it'll break their heart.
So as a note, don't tell me I shouldn't of went to Craigslist in the first place. I think I already know what I've done. I am asking is, how can I break the news to them?
And I am faithful!! I never cheated and never will.
Thanks
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Just tell them sweetheart. Generally guys will not be heart-broken, espiecially if the only relationship youve had was online, if you wish to stay friends with them then tell them that, because in truth, they are not in love with you, it just doesn't hPpen that way. Dont give them a long explaination, just tell them things are going good with your fiance, and you are getting back together.
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Seamus---
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This really isn't hard.
Send them an e-mail thanking them for their interest, tell them that you got back together with your guy, and wish them a nice life.
Then block all of their e-mail addresses.
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Well, the whole thing about putting up an ad and getting people to respond is a public thing, just tell the 5 guys that you have found a guy, you don't have to get into the details, it is none of their business, and so you would like to continue being friends with them, if they don't mind. You leave it open for them to make a decision, whether to be your friend or not. It isn't your fault that your ex came back and you are back with him. It is life and things like that happen. If the 5 guys are willing to be your friend, then.. You got what you want. If they don't, then it's ok. It just wasn't meant to be. Don't feel guilty about it though, because it wasn't your fault and you couldn't have known what was going to happen. The 5 guys should be cool with being your friend. You never know when what may come out of it.
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It's always bad to break someone's heart, you've been through it recently, I see.
You should explain to them as nicely as possible that you fiancee got back together and it was unexpected. Tell them that you do like them, and want to remain friends if they do, but if they don't then you understand. Sugar coat it and be a sweetheart.
To even consider letting them down easy and not do the usual thing and cut-and-run is very sweet.
If they no longer want to talk or be friends; that's they're loss. You seem like a very kind-hearted person and I know you and your fiancee will be very happy :]
Hope I helped<3 :)
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It's best to just be up front with them. Since you haven't even went on one date with any of them, just tell them what's up. They can't be that angry about it. Just tell them that you have a great relationship with him and possibly a kid coming. Let them know that you'd still like to be friends with them though.
There's no tiptoeing around this one. You have to just be straightforward and honest with them. Let them know that you guys did get into a bad fight, but you talked things out and worked through it. If they're worth having as friends, they won't be too angry. They'll probably just be a little disappointed at first, then they'll move forward with things and hopefully still be your friend.
Darby(:
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