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Hey Im Sam!!
A couple of my friends say that im good for giving advice and sometimes am motherly :\(JOE) which could be good in certain situations cuz im very responsible and try to make people feel good about themselves.So i figured id give this advice thing a shot. So if it turns out good you guys can ask me anything you want i wont reject anyones question i promise. AsK AwAy!!

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i need to come up with 90 dollars in a short period of time. I need a job. But I'm only 13 so not in a store or anything like that. I can't babysit. So what could i do to get this 90 dollars? please answer ASAP

Babysitting...Trust me. Do you have any friends with little brother os sisters? or any relatives who live close to you? Just call them up and say youre free to babysit whenever. Most people give 20 bucks at a time so thats 5 times babsitting and youll have more than enough. Just try to get primo dates like a frday night, saturday night thing, thne see if anyones going out to sunday brunch. Well i hope i could help! Sammerz

does anyone know how to change your screen name on aim? any real answers and i'll rate high!!! thanx

Ok well say your name is *imbuddy123* and u wanna capitalize some of the letters or something to make it *ImBuDdY123* then go to MY AIM, then go down to EDIT OPTIONS. then youll see something that says FORMAT SCREENNAME then type in EXACTLY how you wish your screenname will look like. and TA DA! formatted sn. Another thing, if you want a new screenname then sign on to AIM but dont put on any screenname, just stya on the opnening thing where you see all the sns at. The click GET A NEW SCREENNAME and voila! You can mkae your screenname, just fill out all the fields and the boring stuff.I hope i could help!
Ps. If you have a bug buddy list or dont want to add everyone manually, sign on to your old sn and go to MY AIM and click SAVE BUDDY LIST then savei t under something youll remember. Next switch over to your new sn and and go to MY AIM but this time go to LOAD BUDDY LIST, find the name you saved in under and everything you had before will show up now. Well if none of this makes sense to you just IM me at Sammerz619 and ask me about it! I hope i could help!(again haha)

my step dad has this satalite radio and it tells you what songs your listening to and he had it on while i was eating breakfast and i heard a song i liked but now i cant remember. i do know it was called remedy by someone with a name with S, i think it might be something like seethe but thats not it so if you know that would be a big help!

Well i kno a song called Remedy by Jason Mraz...the aZZZZ part might sound like the S thing. By the way, what kind of satellite radio do you have? Just wondering cuz i have XM and Sirius. So i hope i could help!! IM me at Sammerz619

I went to a friend's camp this last weekend. She told me that there was this guys a few years olded then us but he was annoying, stupid, and ugly.Then we went out onto the lake and he came along. He had this really big tube and we were all just chillin on it and pushing each other off. then one time it was just me and him and i justed to like him but kept myself from liking him because of what my friend said. i know it doens't matter because i probably won't see him again but should i of let what my friend say keep me from liking this guy?? please help!

Well you should follow your own heart and do what you think you should do. If your friend said something like he went to jail for 3 years or he smokes and drinks then listen to her because shes watching your back like friends do. But if hes nice, respectable and she only said annoying and ugly, then thats only her perspective. Listen to what your heart is telling you to do, not your friend. If she said jump off a bridge would you?? Well i hope i could help =D Sammerz

my kat milly..aka ms kitty...
well shes really really sick right now!!
she has not ate in a week..and she lost half of her body weight..which was alot..and she only drinks water and she stays inside ALL day!!and she had like really runny eyes..and she had really bad body odor..
so finally on the 5th my mom took ms kitty to the vet..and they called us and told us they were going to test her blood..and my mom said ok..around 4:00 that same day they called us again and they told us we may have to let ms kitty go..that means put her to sleep..and they told us she had a begieng stage of kidney failure and she has more white blood cells then red..and they told us we can fight the kidney failure..with a special diet..and my mom said ok..anythink to save our cat..so i visted ms kitty at the vet today!!and she looks so much better..they mtold us she ahs a mouth in fection..that causes the odor..my question was does it make me sound stingey or like greedy if we leep kitty living??because we dont know if shes suffering or not..so were going to halft to force feed her for awhile until she gains her strength back..do you thinks its ok keeping her??i had ms kitty since i turned 4..im 13 now..so shes my life ..please answer this question i need help bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!
HELP ME PLEASE!!
I RATE 5'S!
*love always*
ilovepink101

Well im really sorry to hear about your cat..and im really sorry to say this. But you need to figure out form the doctor if your cat is in pain because it is cruel and selfish to make her live through that if she is. I kno this gonna be really hard for you and you just dont want to let go of your cat, but its probably for the best. I have two cats right noe who are 9 and 10 and i love them so much im almost in tears right now thinking of if i was in your position right now. But things will get better for you i promise. I kno this also seems mean but if you get another kitty itll help you with your loss. Trust me its not replacing your cat, because nothing will replace that bond you guys have, this cat will just help you heal faster. I hope i could help and im really sorry. If you ever want to talk just IM me at Sammerz619. Im really really sorry.

First of all if you do help me out thank you. Well im a senior in high school, Im 18 years old.
You see I have a teacher well his not really my teacher. He was my teacher my freachmen year, But now were just good friends.
We go out t eat ive been out with him and his and my friends. we have fun. Oh his 26. You see I dont know if he likes me or if were just good friends.
a couple of days ago, he asked me if he thought a student was attractive and if he told them how I thought they woulfd take it.
I sayd I did not know, It all sepnded on the girl.
Then he asked hw i would feel. Well sorry I hav to go because im in his class right at this moment.
Help me.
~~~Chelly~~~

Well it isnt very responsible for him to think about having a relationship with a student!! But its probably ok to be good friends. If he doesn ask you out or anything relationship-wise just be mature and responsible about it.Things probably woulndt be good to start right now while your still in school, But maybe when your in college or just out of high school things can move in a better direction for you both. Hope i could help! If you need anything else just IM me at Sammerz619!

well tomorrow i'm going to the doctors for a check up and i'm 14/f and last time i went they looked down my pants and i think its VERY preverted! ( is that normal for most doctors to do?) is there a way i can stop them??

signed: grossed out

Well I'm 14/f too and last time I went for a check up was in december ( and i was still 13) and they did nothing like that!! They just checked my breathing and asked how everythings feelings and other womenly questions...BUT NOTHING LIKE THAT...But still if it happens again be mature about it, its a doctor so its their to make sure your healthy. Hope i could help! Sammerz

okay so me n my girlfriend have been going out for a while and shes moving faster than i want to weve done everything but sex...i dont want to be one of the young tenn fathers even if we use a condom it could still break... if you could answer this i would really appriciate it

Just tell her exactly how you feel, and pretty much everything u just told me. If she really cares about you she will understand and wait as long as you want to.I hope i helped! Sammerz

hey , well this guy has told alot of people he liked me but was scared & he was afraid that he got on my nerves too much that thats why he hasnt already asked me 2 be his girl friend what should i do ? plz help if u can thx 4 tryin !

Well it depends A. Does he get on your nerves? B. Do you like him? If you do like him you should let him know. Well i hope i helped on what i could! IM me at Sammerz619 if you need any other advice! Sammerz

This is going to be my first date in my life, so I'm not so good at this right now. We're just going to watch a movie at my house and I don't know of any good movies that we'd probably both like. I want something funny, but a little romantic too. I'd like any suggestions.

go for 50 First Dates!! You have three of the funniest people on Earth starring in the movie, plus its also hinting something else! I hope i helped!! Sammerz

ok well im 14 and ive been going out with my b/f 9 months today. during the school year id see him every day and we would allways talk alot so we rarely talked on the phone and when we did we talked form like 8 till 2 in the morning...he liked me for allmost a year before me and him started going out and everyone says how cute we are and everything, my birthday was recently and he gave this bear that when u scweze it it says i love you and we went out to dinner, i ran out of room in my year book this year so me and him decided we would write each other letters insted and the one he wrote me was soo cute i wanted to cry i could tell that it came from his heart after i read it i thought that this summer would be amazing but now that its summer it makes me soo sad b/c i never see him as much as im use to and im the one who useally calls him and i dont useally do it alot b/c i dont want to be the girl who allways calls boys or anyoingg idk what to do like when ever i talk to him and im with him he acts like he loves me but i dont know what to do it makes me soo sad
helppp i ratee!!

I think you should call him or IM him or something and go places together so you guys can hang out and keep in touch. It wont seem like the girl-who-annoys-their-bf-by-calling if you call like *hey me and some other people are going to the movies and it wont be as much fun without you* Once he starts to get used to hanging out outside of school he will start plannig things with you for sure. Well i hope i helped!! Sammerz

I was dating this guy for a couple of months, and everything was perfect. He was the first guy I could actually say I loved and cared about, and he loved me too. I was a freshman and he was a senior when we started dating. What's the problem you're wondering ... well he turned 18 and graduated at the end of May. His father is the real problem though. His father got a new job in another state, and moved a couple days after his 18th birthday and graduation.[he got to stay in his father's old house] This guy I was dating also stopped calling me [we talked every night!] the day his dad moved. His dad told him several times when we dating that he should be careful and it eventually got to where he told him to stop dating me because he thought we were having sex and doing things. We were never even close to having sex! Well its been almost a 1 1/2 months since we've talked. He never called to tell me he was breaking up with me, but I did find out that he told someone that his dad made him break up with me. I tryed contacting him several times for several weeks, but he never answered his phone or called me back. I need advice on what to do. Should I try to forget him and move on or what? It's driving me crazy not knowing anything. What do I do?

Thanks 15-Female

Well i think that you should try calling him or getting in touch with him any way you can. Whether you see one of his friends and are just like * hey have you seen *bfs name* around lately? i havent talked to him in forever* just be casual about it. If you dont get back in touch with your bf, then my last bit of advice is to move on, because apparently he already has. I hope i helped!! IM me at Sammerz619 if you need anything else. Sammerz

my ipod can't recharge on my computer, and I can't add new songs or do anything with it on my computer, and all I did was unplug then recharger from my computer and plugged it back in.

does anyone know how to fix it?? plzz

Well i have a mini ipod and i had to send it back to the company once because i plugged it in to charge and when i unplugged it i pulled it out from the wall first and im supposed unplug it form the charger first. Another thing, you may have to re-register your ipods numbers. Something could of happened to your computer where the data was erased. Well I hope i helped. Sammerz

i wanna qet a hair cut tomorrow....i want bang,but i wanna pull them to the side, and i want it kinda short like a little above my shoulders...am i taking serious chances?? cuz my hair is pretty long, but i want something a little more fun and a little preppy/trendy...any other ideas??

xox*jessica

Last year i got my hair cut the same way your asking. It looks nice, because my hair parts to the side, so i had side bangs to the side the bigger parts on. I think it looks ok but if you play a lot of sports or put your hair up a lot it gets annoying, and when it starts growing out its a pain too because its like too short to put up, but not long enough stay behind your ears for a long time. Also, im pretty daring when it comes to cutting the length of my hair, so i say go for it. If you have a rounder shaped face shorter hair looks better, and with long oval shaped faces long hair looks best. Its just a physical faeture thing. Well i hope that i could help you at all. Sammerz

i only got 4 hours of sleep last night and im really tired...but some how i cant fall asleep. what can i do to make myself fall asleep? thanks

Well idk about this but my mom sometimes listens to those rainforest music tapes. And i know for a fact milk makes you sleepy theres a vitamin in it that mkaes you tired, so try drinking milk. Also another thing, this is isnt directly connected to sleeping, but is something bothering you? Cuz i kno when im confused or stressed or worried about something its hard for me to fall asleep. (Finally) Another thing i get is called sleep anxiety and i feel like im not gonna get enough sleep and i get all worried about how my day is gonna get ruined and stuff. I kno i wrote a lot, but i hope at least some of it helped. IM me at Sammerz619 ive got other things if non of that works. Sammerz

Hey guys, i like to read a lot, and i've read many famous books like To kill a mocking bird, Catcher in the Rye, Harry potter, and so on. Anyways does anyone know any really really good books, and authors for when i go to the library next time? And i dont want books that you have heard sound good, but actual books you guys have read and really enjoyed, like an "i never want to put it down" kinda book if that makes sense. Thanks luv ya!

Well i love the kinda books i can relate myself to, and with this book series i got so into the books. It the Sisterhood of the Travelling Pants series, and i think its funny, the day after i finished the third book i saw a camercial for the movie:what are the odds? Well i dont kno if you would like this book or not, but i hope i could help! Sammerz

ps. My alltime favorite book was Where the Red Fern Grows, its totally opposite of the Sisterhood books, so if you dont like those, try this! =D

hey me and my boyfriend have only seen eachother once. We talk a lot but we never see eachother that much, and i really like him. All my friends say to break up with him but i really like him, i dont know what to do? I always ask him when can you hangout he says i dont know. But when my friend asks him he gives a day. We were supposed to hangout this weekend but he never called me back. He always says he loves me one day we stayed on the phone till one in the morning! Hes so sweet but i never see him. I dont know what to do anymore.
Julia xox

Well he sounds very sweet, but if he doesnt wanna see you there may be soemthing wrong. Becease a guy should want to hang out with their gf not ignore you. I hate to come up with the worst response too, but he might have another gf out there hes not telling you about. Seriously if i know guys, hes probably out there like yah i got a girl here, and this other girl who im going out with blah blah...for bragging rights. I think you need to confront him. Be like * *his name* i really like you, but we never hang out is there a reason u dont wanna be around me?* if he really cares about u he would say the right thing after that line. I hope i helped. Sammerz

they didn't have a category for knitting so I just decided to put it here.

Ok so i'm knitting a pair of slippers. the pattern said use size 11 needles to maintain gauge, which is 5 stitches for 1 inch. I can only find size 10 needles. will that suffice or will my gauge get screwed up???

Umm wel i dont know how to knit(but i can crotche =D) but i know that the needle sizes go u pto 20..if that helps at all lol....Sammerz

I am in love with this guy. We'll call him Zach. And I like this guy. We'll call him Elijah. Zach's in love with this girl. We'll call her Alli. Alli's in love with this guy and is in a lasting relationship with this guy. We'll call him Joe. Okay, now the problem is Alli has no feelings for Zach and she's told him so. Zach is still hanging on because it is so hard for him to let go. But he knows he has to. And he's told me that when he isn't thinking of her he's thinking of me. I am that girl that he will fall back on and I'm okay with that. But while I'm waiting for him to get over her Elijah really likes me. He wants to be the guy to make me smile. And the more time he spends with girls the more he thinks of me. I like him, but I love Zach. Elijah told me that he will wait as long as he has to but he will not wait if it will jeopardize his well-being. I don't want to lose him, but I don't want to lose Zach more. Zach tells me but he would be okay if I went with Elijah. But the problem is that if I get too deep in with Elijah and Zach decides he wants to be with me it will only make it harder to turn Elijah away. What do I do? I will rate all answers.

Wow this is tough. I feel like a broken record saying this, but you need to pick one. I think you should hang out with both of them together and see whic person your more drawn too. If that doesnt work id go *elijah* because if *alli* and *joe* break up *zach* is gonna forget u and head straight up to *alli* you wouldnt want ur heart broken like that, and i bet things can go deeper with elijah. I hope i helped. Sammerz

To give a bit of background information, my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and are madly in love with eachother. I gave him my heart.. as well as my virginity and he did the same. But the past few weeks, I've been doubting our relationship. I'll be having dreams of being with ex boyfriends or just other guys, particularly this one guy named Luis. He's a very good friend of mine and a total flirt around me. For a second I thought I had feelings for him and I actually concidered breaking off my over one year relationship with the love of my life for this guy, Luis.I realized it was stupid to end something that is SO good for something that is only going to last a few months IF that much. I called my boyfriend and I was barely crying and, I should've known he would be able to tell I was because as soon as I said hi he said "What's wrong why were you crying?" (He knows the sound of my voice when I'm happy or sad and everything in between like the back of his hand). I told him what happened and I kept saying "Baby, I'm so sorry I don't want to lose you." He told me everything would be okay, but now when I talk to him he seems so distant? If that would be a word to describe it. He's in Maine right now, and I'm back home in New Jersey so I can just like go over and see him right now. I don't know what to do, he just isn't acting the same now, I didn't do ANYTHING with Luis, I'd never do that to my boyfriend. What do I do? I don't want to hurt my boyfriend anymore, I feel so guilty for even having those thoughts. Can anyone please help?

I'm 17 he's 18.

Well it seems liek you and your bf are very close. I think that he is just feeling hurt right now because you were thinkin about doing something with someone other than him. I kno for a fact he is acting this way because he loves you. Just remember your lucky because most guys out there dont care about anyone that way and have that kinda sense like you kno when sometinhg is wrong. Thats just special. I think you know how to work this out. yoU and your bf will have a lovely life together, i can tell. If you ever wanna talk IM me at Sammerz619. I hope i could help.

Ps. Everyone has thoughts, so dont worry about it. yoU cant control how you feel, but i kno nothing will seperate u two. TRUST ME

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