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I am here to help teens like myself deal with pressure of relationships and parents and sex! Things i go through as a teenager are normal but i can't talk to my parents about them . That is why i am here because i know there are other girls and boys out there that have the same problem and i can help.

~***HAnnah***~

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ok my friend lets call him joe well my friend joe is really cool and i just met him this year. my other 2 friends always say i like him and we always flirt. which i dont believe really. i dont think we flirt at all. i only have him in one class and we "always flirt". it makes me mad cuz like joe let me wear his rubber bracelet things and my friends are like awwwww how sweet! it makes me sooo mad! specially when they ask him out for me. now joe thinks im a stalker or sumthin and that my friends are stalkers. im not they are. so wat can i do to make my friends stop asking him out for me. and make joe think im not a stalkeR? plz help..srry this is long

Tell Joe what your friends are doing. IF he is a true friend then he will understand. Tell him that you like him as a friend and nothing more.


Sit your friends down and say, "Listen, i don't like you always asking Joe out for me. He is a really cool friend but i dont like him in that way." I'm sure they will undertand. I hope i helped.

~***Hannah~***

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I typed the author Eleanor Ayer into a search engine and couldnt find any results like telling a little about her. Does anyone have any 411 or websites? thx

Go to Google. They should anything you need. If they dont then maybe going a library or something. I hope you find what you need!

~***Hannah~***

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...a LOT. He says he likes me too, but he hasn't asked me out yet. I don't know if I should bring it up again, or ask him out, or what. I don't know if he would go out with me if I asked. What should I do?

Girl, if you like him ASK HIM OUT! guys aren't the only ones that can ask people out. If he likes you then im sure he will say yes.


~***Hannah~***

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OMG all my friends (in my age range ~14~) say its okay and that they dont think its bad to have sex at this age and half of them like, arent virgins!! I just relaized this today but i think having sex at this age is just plain stupid!! Am i weird or crazy? IS it okay to have sex at my age?!!

I have friends who have had sex at this age and some who haven't. I dont think it matters what age you have sex as long as you want to. I never had sex but i dont see anything wrong with it. As long as you love the guy and really want to then it is ok. Dont have sex to impress anyone, do it for yourself. If you dont want to have sex then DONT! Don't worry, your not weird or crazy! I hope I helped.

~***Hannah~***

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Well, I have a boyfriend. And, when we're around eachother, I just don't feel anything anymore. I like him a lot, but he calls EVERY day and is always telling me how happy he is with me, and how important I am to him, and how much he loves me. I'm not that into hima s much. How do I break up without breaking his heart? :(

I had a boyfriend like that once. At first i thought it was really sweet but after awhile it got annoying and i broke up with him. Actually i had my friend tell him. He asked me if i really was breaking up with him and i said yes. I felt so bad because of it. After our break-up i realized how great of a guy he really is.


Just tell your boyfriend what is bothering you. Tell him it isnt working out anymore. Maybe tell him you want to be friends and then maybe one day you will get back together (maybe, maybe not). Or if you want, tell him that you need some time to yourself right now and that you need a break from him. That way you can date other guys and see if you like anyone else. I hope i helped.

~***Hannah~***

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i just want yalls opinions. do u thing black and black and white and white and mexican and mexican ect. should only get married? or should they mix. ok thanks.

It shouldnt matter who you marry as long as you love them. I think now it's almost normal to see interraccial marriages. SO it doesnt matter if your white, black, asian, chinese, mexican, etc. You can marry whoever you want. I hope I helped.

~***Hannah~***

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Sorry it's long, but it's VERY important to me.
Okay, me and a bunch of friends were at this party, and there was alcohal (i'm a freshman in high school, 13 years old.) Well anyways, my boyfriend can drive, but he decided to leave his car there(it was a friends house.) and so we decided to split the cost for a taxi ride, about 10 of us squeezed into a taxi, well my REALLY good friend, didn't seem drunk, but we offered countless times for her to ride with us, she kept saying NO, so we gave her the walk test, and she did in a strait line. So since we couldn't talk her into it, she drove home, and ended up driving off a mountain, and she died. Well I felt so bad, and guilty, and I still do. So now I'm trying to stop drinking, after what happened, I decided I better stop. Well I was wondering, I want to get over the guilt, and stop drinking. One of my teachers knows that I drink, and I was talking, with an attitude saying it's not like you can die... and the next day my friend passes away. She is the only adult that I know, but I'd feel really akward talking about it to her, and I wouldn't know how to bring it up, neither of my parents know, and I don't want to upset them, I mean I'd get my butt whooped. So does anybody have any Ideas what I can do? None of her friends besides me want to talk about it, my boyfriend will change the subject each time we bring it up. She was sort of a loner, and she didn't go to my school, niether did my bf, and I met her through him.
So if anybody has any ideas, I'm open to everything EXCEPT telling my parents, or naybers!
Thanks in advance for any help, this is VERY hard for me, so please TRY to be sympathetic.

Wow, i'm sorry about your friend. :( The only thing I can say to get rid of the guilt id to tell someone, anyone. You'll be surprised on how it'll make you feel better. I know how hard it is to lose someone you love. She died because of drinking, right? well, unless you want to end up like her then if i were you then i would stop drinking. I hope i helped.

~***Hannah~***

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I like this boy ALOT he makes me smile and laugh n he makes me very happy! and he likes me too.. but i'm afraid that if i go out with him he'll expcet me to do certain stuff... not that bad like sex or drugs or anything but more then i like to do.. if you get what im saying wut should i do b/c i know i like him lots!

You should tell him that. Tell him you dont want to do anything you dont want to do if you go out with him. If he likes you then he will understand that. If he doesnt understand then he isnt the guy for you. What i'm saying is that tell him how you feel. See what he says and then make a decsion if you want to date him or not.

~***Hannah~***

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my best friend Kelleye is like 15 n i try to be there her as much i as i can...i hadn't seen her in like 3days till today (shes been in ISS) well i saw her n i kind of looked down at her arm n saw scares on her the 1st thing i did was grabed her arm n was like wtf is this...n she jst looked at me n left i grabed her n i was like Kelleye are u cutting ur self again...she jst looked at me n she jst walked away from me n i was like Kelleye come here...she wouldn't come back n i'm so scared...cuz i was talking to her ec-boyfriend n we think she might try n kill her self....i'm so scared for her...cuz shes knew to our skool...all her friends go to LHS n she goes to GHS w/ me...n i don't know wat to do...i jst need to know how i can help her?..

You need to sit your friend down and ask her straight what's going on? It sounds to me that she is cutting herself if she wont say if she is or isnt. If she wasnt then she would say that, right? Maybe you should even talk to her parents and maybe then they can talk to her if she wont talk to you about it. Just try and be there for her as much as you can. She might really need her best friend right now.

~***Hannah~***

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my girlfriend has posters on her wall of a bunch of celebrities that she thinks are "hot". She claims to me all the time that she doesnt check them out or think about them in any way but i think she is lying to me. I dont know what to do now. Is she lying to me about checking other guys out or what. She claims they are stupid little pictures, well if they are so stupid why are they up?

It doesnt mean anything. EVERY teenage girl has posters on her walls. Every girl thinks some celebrity is hot (Ashton and Orlando lol!). The pictures dont mean anything, and that's all they are...pictures. She knows that she wont ever actually date them. As much as we all wish we could! lol So dont worry so much!

~***Hannah~***

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I was really good friends with this girl named madeline.... today she came up to me and punched me in the face in school(i still am in school right now) for no reason at all! I fell on the ground and didn't hit her back! I should of (well i think so at least) And i didn't! Should i of went after her or did i do the right thing by not hitting her back?

I think you shouldn't have hit her back. Because if you hit her back what does that fix? It would only cause more problems.

Sit her down and ask her what caused her to hit you. Maybe then you can try and fix your friendship. I hope I helped.

~***Hannah~***

P.S...she was bragging about it today in gym. she said it was the first time she hit someone and she was happy she hit you. idk y! i think she is mad at you but idk y!

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Okay, this is a weird question, I'm sure...but I figure I may as well see what y'all say.
Okay...my boyfriend kind of has a thing for "dirty talk" and I think it's totally ridiculous. I start laughing whenever he says something and expects me to respond. I think it bothers him that I keep giggling, but I can't help it! To me, it just seems so totally fake and stupid...
I mean, I've tried playing along, but I just feel so awkward and stupid, saying things like...that...
Should I try to do something about my giggling problem (lol)? Should I tell him I just can't do it? What do you guys think?

If you dont like "dirty talk" then tell your boyfriend that. You shouldnt do it if you dont. About your giggling problem, try thinking of something that doesnt make you laugh. If that doesnt work, just laugh!! (lol!) your boyfriend then might see how much you dont like it and how funny you think it is.

~***Hannah~***

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I have a friend who recently broke up with her boyfriend. They decided to just remain friends. She is troubled because he's everything that she could possibly want in a future husband and he feels the same way about her in viewing her as the perfect wife but for someone reason feels god doesn't want them to be together right now. She is trying everything to show her love to him? What should she do? She feels a lot of hurt and is heartbroken over this? She's willing to do a lot to have him?

I say if they love each other that much then they should be together. She should sit her ex-boyfriend down and tell him how she feels. If they really think they are meant to be then they will be together eventually. Maybe they need some time apart from each other right now. I'm sure they will end back with each other. Just give them some time. I hope i helped.

~***Hannah~***

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OMG...i really need to help my friend she needs help fast! she is 14 and she had sex with her boyfriend and she just found out that she iz pregnant. please dont leave advice like "oh she shouldn't have done that because she is a slut" and stuff because we really dont need to hear that and she isn't a slut because she really loves her boyfriend! she doesn't know how to tell her mom and she has no clue what to do she is just crying and crying and i'm trying to comfort her but what should i say

She should come out and tell her mom the truth. Her mom will find out eventually because she will start gainng weight. Also, what if something went wrong? She would want her mom there with her. She should also tell her boyfriend the truth about her being pregnant. He might want to be a part of his baby's life. I hope i helped.

~***Hannah~***

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well i just got my period yesterday and i wear pads but i have gym today and im scared the pad will fall out/off when we are running , ect! HELP!

i wear pads as well, in gym also. well, our gym teacher makes us run all the time. The pad will not fall out while you are running. Trust me! If you don't feel comfortable running with a pad on then try wearing tampax pearls.

~***Hannah~***

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My dad got a job in San Antonio, Texas. I'm EXTREMELY happy!!!!! But the thing is, in a way, I don't want to move. I live in Central Pennsylvania, so its definitely a big move. I know I can't stop my rents from moving. But, I'm just going to miss my whole life. I grew up here, I'm going to have to start all over. Is this normal?

Yes it's normal. I moved a few years ago..not very far away but far enough so i didnt see my friends as much as i did or hang out with as much. It's normal to feel like that. AS long as stay in touch with each other it might make the move easier.

~***Hannah~***

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Ok I just got over this relationship from an online girl. We were together 5 months but she held so many lies to me and I never saw her. She lived like 4.5 hours away from me tho. But here is the question. I meet this other girl and she likes me and I like her. She lives in the same state and pretty close. How should I go about this without getting hurt again? I would love to be with her but just am scared i'll be hurt. Please help all that can. Thanks Much

You need to tell the girl 4.5 hours away that it is over. Then get to know the other girl better and take things slow with her. You might feel better once you get to know her that she wont hurt you like the other girl did. Hope i helped ya.

~***Hannah~***

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well i havnt had my period and i take a shower everyday and stuff but i keep having this like gupy sticky white wet stuff comin out of well u no....and its always wet down there and i dont no y....it also smells bad. Is there sumthin wrong with me? What is this?

don't worry. it's called discharge. It's totally normal, it happenes to every girl. If you are still worried, try talking to your mom.

~***Hannah~***

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my face is perfectly clear of pimples and i hardly ever break out on my face, and i always wash my whole body everyday... but for some reason my back breaks out all the time! and right now its horrible and disgusting! how can i get rid of this? and quick. i rate all that helps

You can try Pro-Active. It clears up acne quick and it works really good. If that doesnt help then you should go and see a dermatologist.

~***Hannah~***

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My best friend's boyfriend was beating the shit out of her.. he made her give him head in front of his friends or else he'd beat the shit out of her.. she had bruises and i saw them.. she told me about it.. i tried talking to her and him.. she tried talking to him.. it was never gonna end.. so i talked to tara (a school counsler) with 2 other people.. and we told them what we have seen and what was going on.. now she blames me.. and only me.. she said i ruined her life and she hates me.. she said that i blew it out of proportion and her lame fucking excuse for it was that he gets worried about her and then he gets angry so like when ur so angry u wanna hit someone that's what he does.. hello but am i the only one who doesn't hit my signifigant other when i'm pissed off?? i just don't know if i did the right thing.. i love her so much she's my best friend and i'd do nething for her and i just felt like this whole thing with her boyfriend was waaay out of control and i couldn't do nething more to help! i had to tell someone.. i dunno but i feel like killing myself and i dunno what to do... first i wanna go kill him.. then i'll kill myself.. sounds like the best plan to me but ya know there are people who actually care about him surprisingly and i couldn't never kill neone but that's beyond the point.. i dunno what to do about my friend and meanwhile it's throwing me in a hole i can't get out of and i just dunno what to do.. please help :'(

First off, dont kill yourself! :( Secondly, your friend needs serious help. Sometimes when someone is being abused in a relationship they deny iy and/or blame themselves. Tell her that you did what you knew was best for her. Try talking to her parents. She needs to get out of the relationship and it seems that she can't do that on her own. Most importanly, no matter how hard she tries to push you away she really needs you. Be there for her no matter what and eventually she will come around.

~***Hannah~***

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