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Awkwardness?
Okay, this is a weird question, I'm sure...but I figure I may as well see what y'all say.
Okay...my boyfriend kind of has a thing for "dirty talk" and I think it's totally ridiculous. I start laughing whenever he says something and expects me to respond. I think it bothers him that I keep giggling, but I can't help it! To me, it just seems so totally fake and stupid...
I mean, I've tried playing along, but I just feel so awkward and stupid, saying things like...that...
Should I try to do something about my giggling problem (lol)? Should I tell him I just can't do it? What do you guys think?
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Honestly i'm not for dirty talk either. Luckily my boyfriend isn't into it either. I would be laughing too. You need to talk to him and tell him your not comfortable doing it. If he's being serious about talking 'dirty' when you are giggling. I'm sure it upsets him. But that's where you need to tell him you are just not comfortable. Maybe there is something else you guys could do for fun that isn't so uncomfortable.
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Do you want to satisfy your guy? Boys tend to think hot women were put on earth to satisfy their sexual needs. If he wants a little "yo, your damn little bitchy ass is my penis' dream" why not just give him a flirty 'but you're fuckin sexy no matter what your dream is." It's not hard and shouldn't make you uncomfortable. If it does, though, simply tell him. If he wants to have sex with you, he obviously loves you and doesn't care what you want as long as he gets the better end...LMAO. ~*Jenni*~
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I'm just the same way...not that my boyfriend talks dirty...but i just find it's incredibly stupid and lame. Don't do anything that makes you uncormfortable or you won't enjoy yourself. If he loves you he'll understand why you don't want to do something so dumb.
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I think you should tell him that you think its stupid and you dont like it..I would think he would understand..
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There are just some people who enjoy that kind of thing and then others dont, but just be strait and tell him that you dont like to do that and im sure he will understand.
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wen he talk`z dirty, laugh a little, hold off the laughter, and laugh in your talk.. u no what i mean?? Be like "yeaa sure" or "whatever floats your boat" stuff like that. If he`z gettin mad you wont just answer say straight out "nahh im not doin that" " it`z 2 earlii" stuff like that. I mean hes gotta except your on the level where you are. Tell him you just laugh alot. I do, alot of girls do... u dnt need to DO something about giggling. Its natural.. he`z gotta deal. And if he doesnt stop with the filthy mouth.. u stop him.. no1 wantsta hear that trash 24/7.. and there r ways to tell him nicely too.
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Tell him the truth-you don't like it. Straight up and simple, it'll let him know, and chances are he will cease the nasty chatter.
AskMegan
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There is not much to the solution here all u have to do is ask him to stop if he loves u enough he will. One last piece of wisdom lol dont flow with the crowd if there doin somthing wrong or somthin u dont want to do
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If you dont like "dirty talk" then tell your boyfriend that. You shouldnt do it if you dont. About your giggling problem, try thinking of something that doesnt make you laugh. If that doesnt work, just laugh!! (lol!) your boyfriend then might see how much you dont like it and how funny you think it is.
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Tell him that you're uncomfortable talking about it right now, and thats why you always giggle
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ew gross my boyfriend used to do that. and im like NO thats stupid and i yelled at him and he would stop. if he likes you a lot, he wouldnt be mad if you told him to stop.
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I think it's pretty stupid and u should talk to him about it. It's not a big deal to go without it and if he complains, he's a baby.
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tell him how you feel- you shouldn't have to do something that makes you feel stupid and uncomfortable. It might be awkward to talk about it with him but it's better to get your real feelings out to him before he makes more of a fool of himself.
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Hannah&Alexa&Rachel
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I say, be honest with your boyfriend about the dirty talk not working for you. Although, it might work for some, if it doesn't feel right to you, then you shouldn't do it. I understand your desire to give your boyfriend what he wants, however, you should be able to find ways of being intimate with each other that are comfortable for BOTH of you.
It's very important when dealing with sexual matters that you do not compromise yourself in any way. It's certainly fine to try things out to see how they make you feel, but once you've decided that something doesn't work for you - that should be the end of it. Any guy who genuinely cares for you should respect your intimacy preferences, (even if he is a little disappointed). Let him know what doesn't work for you, and more importantly, be sure to let him know what does work for you.
Also, remember that guys have insecurities too. While explaining to him that dirty talk isn't something that you want to engage in, try not to make him feel like he is a pervert for being into it. Best of luck to you.
Kind wishes,
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Hey there! You don't mention what, exactly, your boyfriend is saying in his dirty talk. But even though I myself love dirty talk, I can think of a few goofy things a man could say to me in bed that would make me do more laughing than getting aroused. In fact, I'm laughing right now as I think of a few I've heard! So thanks for the evening chuckle.
Talking dirty is actually a great way to create good communication in bed. But not everyone likes to hear their lover throwing porno-type lines at them during a roll in the sack. So try suggesting that he take a different route next time. Tell him you want him to try talking to you in a way that YOU know ahead of time you might find sexy. Suggest he tell you when he likes something you are doing. Example:
Him: I like it when you do it this way.
You: Yeah, how does it feel?
And move on from there.
This bit of conversation probably feels more natural than whatever it is he previously said. You could also try it the other way around:
Him: Do you like that?
You: Yeah, it feels really good.
Him: How does it feel exactly? What else do you want me to do?
Of course, it would be in your own words ... my examples are probably kind of stuffy sounding, but eh, I'm sure you get the point. It also wouldn't hurt to throw in a "You're amazing" or something to that effect, IF that's what you're actually thinking. If he sucks at doing something, don't be afraid to gently suggest he try doing it another way.
So try that, and hopefully that will feel more real to you than his attempts.
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WOW ya I think it is pretty funny when guys do that to. Just tell him you don't take the dirty talk serious and it makes you laugh..... maybe that'll work if not just try not to laugh as much
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