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ok well it's be about 8 months since I've gotten my period and for the first 4 months is was coming aroud the 20th and then it didn't and it came aroud the 13th and then for about 3 more months it was around the 13th well in Januaray is come on the 13th and now it's the 17th and I don't get why it hasn't come and I'm like scared that I'm messed up or not normal considering this is the 2nd time this has happend. Can someone please tell me what's happening if it's normal or not. Thanks, will rate too.

This happened to me. Go see the period & woman doctor (get a woman it's more comfortable). and you may need to take pills to get your period back on track. It happened to me cause i was simply irregular and that happens to all girls, but it was mostly cause i wasn't at a good weight (overweight at your doctor weight range) and that had my period go on and off. If it continues with you by no weight loss in fthe future it mat cause cancer in your vagina if it's a matter of weight problems or just needing pills for it. It's fine if you go see the doctor and see what's going on soon. Hope i helped!!

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i am 17 years old and i am a women. i hae this guy friend who has tryed to get me to have sex with him. but everytime we wore going to i told him a started my period and i need to get home to change my clothes. but i really want to have sex but i am scared that i will get pregant. since i am not on birth control. so what should i do

I would use a condom and don't be a person who depends on the dude for getting them or having them. Buy some yourself becuase you don't want a dude to say to you i don't have any, but i'll take my dick out of you when i cum. Trust that's how most girls get pregnant. Hope i helped!!

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My boyfriend has fingered me before but this time he used two fingers and it was a little painful and I bled. I know that's normal. But today when I got up I noticed a big bump, like it it swollen on the outside of one of my lips. Do you think it is just swolen from a scratch or cut??Like from his finger nail?? i think its just swollen, but what eles could it be?? Pelase help me.

First of all hun, he should have his fingernails cut so he won't hurt you. I think you may be bleeding do to him being to damn rough. Tell him to me gentle. It seems he's made that spot sensitive or his has aren't clean that it made a bump. So tell him to wash his hands before touching and to really be more gentle and until the bump comes down ir when the cut heels. You he can't finger you for a bit because his pleasure isn't worth costing your pain to get worse. Fingering is suppose to be a great feeling so he has to be to rough. Hope i helped!!

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I've just started to make love with my boyfriend, and I have a vague recollection from my sex education classes at school that when you become sexually active you should have a check-up, examination etc. Is this the case? Thanks!

Yes! cause frankly you shouldn't care how you trust him with being sexual it's you watching out for your body!!!!

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My boyfriend fingered me yesterday for the 2nd time, and this time he went deeper than the 1st time. It kinda hurt, and today I got my period. But I shouldn't be getting my period right now becuase its too early, but it's only early by a week or so. And I'm not really sure if my period is regular or not, but my last period started on January 3 and ended on January 8. So did my cherry pop.. or is it just my period?

No, you can not pop your cherry wen your getting fingered (tell me later about the fingering experience.. ;P) Sometimes periods d ostuff like that it's not bigger, but tell your boy to be more gentle if he hrut you a little. hope i helped!!!

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okay i am 13 years old...adn there is this guy that i really like and he likes me. the only thing is that hes 2 years older then me...to me it doesnt seem bad or anything but to everyone else it does. everyone keeps telling my that he does drugs and stuff but whne i ask him he says no. and people are telling my that he only wants to go out with me to make out and have oral sex. when i asked him about this hes like i would never make u do anything that you didn't want to. and i said good b.c i would never give you oral sex. and he said fine...
should i go out with him???

please help...thanxx

YEA... got for it as long as you make good choices with it him. Don't fall in love and have sex b/c you THINK your in love..okay! hope i helped!!

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Yeah so i just had a chocolate pudding cup..cause i was upset!! hahaha....well yeah i think i did something wrong...casue i was amad a my friend "ZOOT" for something really stupid..then i acted like i lost my voice sunday so that i didn't ahve to talk to him..and then i felt so bad i caleld him and told him i was sorry! and then i told him i would write it all in a note and give it to him wednesday!!!! and then he didn't even show up!!! now i am afraid to talk to him see him ect!!!! cause i know i did something wrong...i need more sweets!!!!!!!!!!!!! please give me some advice!!!

You trippin..lol....calm down..lol..! Just give him the note that you wanted o give him before and see how he reacts and if he acts mean still them go face to face (privately) and talk it out. If he' no nice about it or understanding your gonna have to let him go as a close friend. hope i helped. any more questions come back and ask me!!

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ok i have writen before about me not wanting to be lesbians but i just cant help it. i like boys and everything its just that when i see a girl i look at her booty, her breast, her face, and i see how big her breast and nipples are compared to what i really like. i dont mean to but it is natural i guess. anyway how can i stop being lesbian and if i cant stop how do i find a girl that is my age in my area without everybody knowing? please help me!
i rate high for good answers!!1

You need to look up the word LESBIAN because the definition you have for it is WRONG!! Just b/c you look at a girls chest, butt doesn't mean your gay. Also if you comparing yourself that certainly means your not gay. All girls do it (mostly)!! I do it, soul sister does it!!! Relax! Geez you can ask your mom and she'll give you the same answer. It just means your trying to see if your breasts, booty, and face are at a level next to other girls. That's all. I know i helped!!!

LESBIAN-A woman whose sexual orientation is to women only and a gay or homosexual woman.

(P.S just b/c you look at them don't mean you like them. You don't have sexual dreams about them or fantasize about them so your not gay.)


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I know this is going to sound like a very strange question, but I need to know if this is normal and if there is anything I can do. I have trouble reaching orgasm; I always seem to have to "stop" before, as if my body can't handle it. It's the same if I'm alone or with my boyfriend. I know I CAN, it just takes a really long time. Is this typical, and what can I do? Thanks in advance.

20/f

Try not to stop yourself and see what happens and tell your boyfriend to be patient with you getting your orgasm out. With yourself try very hard to get an orgasm and don't stop yourself because getting an orgasm feels great an i know you ned to feel that. Hope i helped!!!!

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Every time I get my boyfriend to have a boner he covers it up, what does that mean? It doesn't bother me that he has one but what is he trying to like hide?

It's actually a compliment to you saying he's turned on by you. But try to talk to him, he seems quite shy and to get him comfortable gently touch him and tell him that him getting a boner is making you horny and making you cum!! I know he'll like that and slowly rub his stuff. Don't let the boner go to waste..... ;P!! But if your through the ages of 13-16 no sex just oral. I don't want any accidental pregnancies happening cause all of a sudden you just jump into bed and forget yourself in the proccess of protection and safety! hope i helped.

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Okay so I masturbate like 3-4 times a week and I like to alot. The problem is, I feel so perverted and gross. How can I sto pfeeling so disgusting? 14-f

Okay well not only you do it but alot of other girls do it in the world too. I do it!! It feels damn good!! Also guys do it too!! Don't feel ashamed or digusted there's no reason to. hope i helped & plus it's hott & sexii!! :P

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To be blunt, I have a ton of hair down there that goes all the way up to my anus. is it supposed to go that far back? is there anything i can do to get rid of it? f-16

Yes, with your genes in your family it does supposedly in your. To get rid it you can shave it or wax it.The same thing happens to me and i shave it. I say you should shave your pubic hair every 2 weeks because having the pubic hair builds up an odor and that's not good. Your not supposed to have too much hair down. Okay hu...hope i helped.

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okay this is probably really gross & long but i really need help. well see, lately i've got into this habit of masturbating. (yes, im a girl and i finger myself and this is EXTREMELY embarassing to talk about.) but anyways, i did it for about 4 days in a row everynight. but i dont do it for long at all. maybe like 10 minutes? and sometimes i do it kind of hard cause well hey, it feels good. x: but anyways, i was supposed to get my period on friday but i didnt so i figured it was gonna come late. well anyways, then on saturday i masturbated and then again on sunday. but on sunday, i masturbated a little longer than usual and i was more into it. but then afterwards i went to the bathroom and i was bleeding. so i figured i had gotten my period. but i only bled for like 5 minutes & then it stopped, and hasnt come back, and its now wednesday. i dont think it was my cherry that popped because my boyfriend has fingered me before and we have had sex (only once though). im afraid something happened & caused my period to mess up because of me masturbating? i don't know but i am really afraid and embarrassed to tell anyone, especially my mother or something. does anybody know what could be going on? thanks so much, i'll rate high.

Nothing happened keep pleasuring yourself! :P....it happens sometimes not by masterbating or sex, but that's just how the period goes it does weird stuff like that. Don't worry about it. But if you want to know more from a better source go to a clinic and they will tell you right off the bat what's going on. Don't worry you can go with a friend you don't need an adult and they won't tell you folks if you tell them not too. Hope i helped!!!!

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so my boyfriend and i just had sex for the first time together...he was a virgin i was not...and we both love eachother and so we both decided we didnt want to have "kinky", "horney" sex...we wanted loving, passionate sex..so when we were having sex i expected it to be amazing...but i was kinda dissapointed cus i thought he would look at me , or telll me he loved me while we were doing it...but he dditn..he did not look at my face the whole time...and he didnt say he loved me once....was he just using me for sex..?

Uh.....yea hun!! Wow your brain was gone with that. With virgins they don't know kinky from passionate sex. It may have got out that you have had sex and that you were a good toy to use or that he just went with his feelings as a first timer. Like i know he probably was on top of you breathing hard over your head and it was like he was not exactly raping you, but not exactly pleasuring you either, but just himself. If he's still talking and going out with you then it really was his first time and that's all he knew to do and maybe me needs a little more guidance. It's nice you made him feel like a man and try to take charge without you telling him anything, but with a virgin you gotta stir him in a right direction and help him a bit. Try to go on the internet and teach him stuff and try to progress your sexual activities with him if you love him like that. But if he's doesn't talk to you anymore or acts funny towards you then he used you to just not be a virgin anymore.I'm sorry if he does(what a bitch!). hope i helped!!

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My mind always fills dirty things about guys. I always fantasize about their penises like how big they have, shaved or un-shaved, fat or thin. Its about all men, young and old, known or unknown. Imagine when I talk to a man, my mind goes fantasizing about his penis, Is this sickness?
I am 15/F.

No, it really isn't sick you just wanna just busy. But don't until your in college..trust me. It's not sick cause i fantasize about doing it with guys all the time and it's so funn!!! Don't look at yourself wrong if you wanna watch a porno to see it. That's perfectly normal. Ask your friends if they fantasize about the penis or sex, you'll be surprised at what they tell you. If they don't fantasize i know milllions of girls out there do. Don't worry it's perfectly natural. hope i helped! Any more questions you can just ask me!

~queencece~

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omg. my best friend in the world is being a slut. i mena i love the chick to death but her ex-boyfriend who used her then broke up with her to have "fun" over the break are doing any SEXUAL THING U CAN THING OF. theyve tried haveing sex 3 times but dude. the guy doesnt even like her and isnt planning on even asking her out. and shes inlove with him. hes such a man whore and i told her that she can pick up desises and stuff like that but she acts like she didnt even do anything wrong. i dont know how to tell her to stop without coming off as a controlling freak you know. I LOVE HER TO DEATH but i dont want to yell at her and make it to where she cant tell me stuff anymore. PLEASE HELP! what do i do.
ps. SHES TWELVE.

First tell the little gir lto slow down. And yelling is tuff love. Let her know how you feel (like all the i love her to death stuff) in a nice voice at first. Then if she say's something like i don't care or your just jealous or just doesn't listen get tough. If that doesn't work then let her get her feelings hurt, but don't let her HAVE SEX!!! Please think of her mom and dad. Please don't let her make that much of a mistake. Step in there or a cool grown person you know (ages 14-20) when she takes things outta hand. That's what friends are for!! Hope i helped!!

~queencece~

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My best friend Shianne has now screwed me over 2 times. It seems every time I tell her I like a guy, she offers to "help me with them" and she always ends up giving them her number, and dating them behind me back!! But she doesn't even tell me until the day after they start dating!
She did it with a guy named Steven, and now Brandon. Then whenever she breaks up with them, she expects me to not like them anymore, and to not want to date them because "friends ex boyfriends are off limits to other friends."

What do i do?!?

Should I really consider her my BEST friend if she's done this to me two times already?

Should I wait to see if she does it again?

I honestly don't know what to do, and I'd LOVE for some honest suggestions.

-Thank you so much!-

Hun, i'm telling this to you straightly. Drop the biatch!!! She's totally bogus for doing it once, but to do it twice she's really insulting her intellgience and making you look like a dumb ass!! That's no best friend!! Find a new best friend and move on!! Hope i helped!!

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Are guys supposed to masturbate? This was a big issue at school today. I was wondering if most guys masturbate. K thanks .. ♥ Tiff

Well...me i think it's better to be curious about sex to the point where you do play with yourself. I think it's just natural, but nobaody has to do it. Also you gotta know your package or get to know it. It's better to d oin the long run. It could be the same think with girls. Do girls have to masterbate as well?? I say if you masterbate (out of curiousity or pleasure) than better to do. It you don't fugure out yourself than it's knida like your going into sex blind-folded a little. It's not a must its a pleasure and curiousity guys and girls gain to do. Hope i helped!!!!

~queencece~

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ok i HAVE a "friend. we were best friends until around december. once in a while we call eachother without my mom finding or dad finding out. ok now we still "miss eachother" but i think she's a little unreliable. ex. she'll say i'll call you back in 5min. but the next thing you know she calls you in like 5hours or never even calls you back. should i still be her friend? cuz it seems like she doesn't even care about me though? so what should i do?

If you haven't talk to her talk to her and see what she says about how you feel. If she's a total jerk drop her cause you can't handle that type of crap if she doesn't have a busy life to not call until 5 hours later and have no explanation and do it again. hope i helped!!!


~queencece~

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OoK I'm gunna see this guy next tuseday and I really like this guy. So anyways i worte him a really nice letter and i really expressed my feelings about him and iam gunna give him my yearbook picture when i give him this i think hes not gunna like it or something. But is it a bad thing to do like write a note to someone that you really like?? Iam scared giving it to him i don't know how he will react.

Thanks,
Lauren

NOOOO! Don't ever do that. Only to a boyfriend that you really know. You don't know if he won't show it to his friends and make fun of you. Be careful and also be aware that he may have girls come bother you about them liking him too out of nowhere. Get your nerves up and talk to him yourself, but never let him see you sweat as to act like you don't know what your doing. If he hurts your feelings cry at home don't let him know you care or he's got all the power. Don't lose you common sense with him in front of you. Don't stop thinking smart you have to know how to handle yourself strong, common senseful and ladylike. Als otalk to him alon and with no one around to capture the real him. Okay, hope i helped!!!

~queencece~

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