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i dont want to be lesbian
ok i have writen before about me not wanting to be lesbians but i just cant help it. i like boys and everything its just that when i see a girl i look at her booty, her breast, her face, and i see how big her breast and nipples are compared to what i really like. i dont mean to but it is natural i guess. anyway how can i stop being lesbian and if i cant stop how do i find a girl that is my age in my area without everybody knowing? please help me!
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Hey,guess wot im in the same boat! exactly! Is the reason that you dont want to like girls because you dont want people to dislike you? Im 18 and i have a girlfriend who is nearly 18. Im in love shes in love and its great! im not trying to turn u into a lesbian but if it feels right to like a girl, then keep your options open, dont hide your feelings because obviously there quite strong. I like lads too and if i wasnt with nicola, im pretty sure id be looking to b with a lad. but i liked her,she liked me and things happened. Being with a girl is soo good, theres more trust, more friendship and you can tell eachother ANYTHING!! its like the closest friendship ever, with love too. But if you really dont want to like girls, then dont worry, maybe its just a phase youre going through. Nearly every female goes through this "phase" once in their life, so dont feel abnormal. Keep going, dont let it get you down. Maybe tell someone, but let them know that you dislike it, maybe they could say the same and you could help eachother out. Anyway, im getting carried away. Dont let it get you down, be happy the way you are and dont worry bout what people do or could think about you. Its your life so live it how you want and do what make YOU happy.Good luck x
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I 'check out' other girls too, but I'm comparing myself to them. Maybe that's what you are doing. Or you're bisexual.
Did you know that it's actually more common (in every species on the planet) to be bisexual than to be oriented in one direction (straight/gay)?
I wouldn't worry about it. You're probably also making it worse by over-thinking it.
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You need to look up the word LESBIAN because the definition you have for it is WRONG!! Just b/c you look at a girls chest, butt doesn't mean your gay. Also if you comparing yourself that certainly means your not gay. All girls do it (mostly)!! I do it, soul sister does it!!! Relax! Geez you can ask your mom and she'll give you the same answer. It just means your trying to see if your breasts, booty, and face are at a level next to other girls. That's all. I know i helped!!!
LESBIAN-A woman whose sexual orientation is to women only and a gay or homosexual woman.
(P.S just b/c you look at them don't mean you like them. You don't have sexual dreams about them or fantasize about them so your not gay.)
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its natural for girls to be attracted to other girls. thats just the way it we are. guys could never say another guy is good looking unless their gay... i dont know its hard to explain but most girls are attracted to other girls, we have a hormone that just makes us that way, ive read up about it awhile ago. but yeah, if you actally want to have a romantic relationship with a girl you might be a lesbian, that or bi... but hey! thats just the way you were wired! good luck and about finding a girl your age... well i dont know what age you are so i cant really help you with that... good luck!
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you're bisexual.
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your not a lezbian unless you go exclusivly to girls.
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WHOA THERE!!!!!!!ok just stop now!i think you might be lesbian if you look at ALL of that stuff im not tryin 2 be mean but that pretty much sounds like it...your probably a bi-sexual not a lezbo..hah ok sry!hope that helps!
♥MiLLiE
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accually. if you feel like you can like girls more than guys then that is who you are. you may not like it but you also need to accept it. you will find someone someday who has the same problem. you cant hide it in anyway. so like i said you are who you are, and you cant change that. watch the south of nowhere. its a great show that deals with the same roblem as you but in the end it turned out her best friend and her ended up together. im not saying to go and screw your bestfriend. im just saying you will find someone sometime. hope it helps. and i hope it all works out for you in the end.
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You're not a lesbian unless you identify yourself as one. If you don't want to be a lesbian the answer is simple, don't call yourself a lesbian. But there is NOTHING you can do about being attracted to girls. People are attracted to people.
Every person you have ever met has been attracted to a member of the same sex atleast once. Whether it was a sexual attraction or just an appreciation of beauty, it was still attraction. Plenty of these people don't consider themselves gay. There are a lot of heterosexual women that fantasize about sex with other women, and many of them have actually had relationships with other women.
Never supress your desires. Your attraction to girls is part of you, just like the memory of going to school for the first time. There are a lot of things, good and bad, that you can't erase. These things make you real. They make you beautiful. Your sexuality is one of these things.
As for your second question, I don't really know. Become friends with lesbians, I guess? But there may be a point where you can't hide it anymore. Try getting in touch with a Gay Straight Alliance.
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I'm not sure your even a real lesbian, if you haven't become intimate than theres no way to tell, you may just look at other girls because you want to make sure that your ok with the way you look, which is normal for everyone, if you are for sure lesbian than the only way you would prbably be able to go out with a girl, would be by going out farther away, maybe goin back to her place instead of yours.
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edit:: its not that your confused.. its just that you are starting to like sexual things an exploring.. its way normal for your age
it really all depends on your age.. if you are a teen there is a change it could be just a face... most girls go through it sometime or another
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Hmm that's tough. We are all different in this world. Some people are black, some are white, some people like different sexes, some like the same. it's perfectly natural, you shouldn't hide who you are! If you really really don't want to be a lesbian, which you really shouldn't be ashamed of, when you see a guy you could try to pick out hot thngs on him. Also, if you look at girls and stuff, a lot of girls compare themselves. Maybe you are comparing yourself to them. Unless you say "i am a lesbian" then it's not for sure that you are. Just ask yourself "do I like women" and whatever you answer, there u go. But remember, don't be ashamed.
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