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Q: In the past 2 months I have gona from a 160 pound girl to a 176 pound human! IT's amazing how stress and eating is not helpin rite now! So I excersiced for 2o minutes and tried to eat right and right now I'm down to 172.8! Today my best friend told me if i keep eatin like that I will look like one of these FAT FAT FAAT girs and I really don't wana be that fat. Right now I'm planning of not eatin anything for lunch except an apple or a peach. Do you think I will get tin or slimmer...at least 160...or 155lbs in 25 days?

well, i first of all, dont think that eating an apple or peach for lunch is a good idea, beacuse you need energy, there are ways to eat without starving, try new goods, but more than just one thing, just exercise and you should be good, keep eating the right foods, and dont ever quit, because if you want this real bad you can never take n e breaks or cheat on ur diet.

Q: ok i have writen before about me not wanting to be lesbians but i just cant help it. i like boys and everything its just that when i see a girl i look at her booty, her breast, her face, and i see how big her breast and nipples are compared to what i really like. i dont mean to but it is natural i guess. anyway how can i stop being lesbian and if i cant stop how do i find a girl that is my age in my area without everybody knowing? please help me!
i rate high for good answers!!1

I'm not sure your even a real lesbian, if you haven't become intimate than theres no way to tell, you may just look at other girls because you want to make sure that your ok with the way you look, which is normal for everyone, if you are for sure lesbian than the only way you would prbably be able to go out with a girl, would be by going out farther away, maybe goin back to her place instead of yours.

Q: I'm sure that everyone is probably asking questions about what to get their valentine, and I know it's annoying. but PLEASE help me.

I'm a 13 yr old girl, and I like this 15 yr old from my theatre group. We've been flirting alot, and I found out through a friend that he likes me. I like him ALOT.

I thought it would be cute to get him something for Valentine's Day, since we have rehersals that day. but I have no clue what to get him. I wanna go with something sweet and valentiney, but I dont want it to be too girly. I don't know that much about his intrests yet, so that doesn't help.

If you have any ideas PLEASE let me know.

I'm open for all kinds of suggestions.

I'll rate well for a good effort, but don't answer if you have no clue. Thanks.

I am a guy, and honestly, guys don't relaly expect too much from girls, maybe a card slipped in a locker or something would be a nice surprise, even a kiss and a few words are magic.

Q: ok there is this boy .. and i have liked him for more than a year now ... @ the begginning of the school year he SOOO acted like he was into me .. but then he started goin out with this girl nd they broke up .. now he doesnt even talk to me ne more unless i am w/ his friends or sumtin .. [ we have sum of the same friends ] .. but he barely talks to me then ... he is the "popular/jock" boy and im a "redneck" ... so i guess im not on his level .. but i dont kno if i should start talkin to him again or what? HELP ME PLEASE! i rate high!!!!!

Well if this guy is descent at all he will talk to you, just cause ur "redneck" as u say, that shouldnt mean hell just stop talking to you, get his attention, if he doesn't accept you for who you are, then find someone thats better, because you dont want someone like that.

Q: Well.. I start learning how to play the drums in late November.. The thing is.. Well.. i'm not exactly talented at it.. but I'm alright I suppose. The thing is, I just want to know if I'm at least learning things at a decent speed.. I don't know how to find out, though. Doing a one hour lesson week, and now being able to play both basic rock beats.. is that an average learning speed or below/higher? This isn't an easy question I guess but I'd really appreciate if the rest of you drummers out there would answer. Thanks in advance

I'm an ex-drummer, and i think that's a really good speed, playin the drums is not as easy as everyone would think, as long as you put work into it and REALLY like it, and have good patience, then you will succeed as a drummer, you may have to practice for another year before you are absolutely AMAZING. but you'll get there!

-Keep Rockin

Q: what do you do when everyone in your family is leaving you? my mom and dad have been having problems and always argue. then my dad has a very short temper and always yells at me and makes me feel like shit. what can i do to stop it all?

please help me fast! :'(

I'm really sorry this is happening to you because my dad is the EXACT SAME WAY, i just had an argument with him last night and he kicked me out, anyway, It's best to try and get one parent alone at a time, just talk to them, ask them what they argue about, but make sure its an individual talk so they don't start arguing about something the other one says, see whats going on and tell them that you don't want it to be like that, they love you a lot and will try to work it through for you.

Q: what do you guys think of sweatpants?? in er out?? i have these maroon ones that say basketball on the butt & idk if i should wear em with like a white hollister hoodie.

any ideas?? i'm tired of wearing jeans

I'm a guy and yes sweat pants are awesome, i always see jeans on girls and it gets really boring, so go for it.

Q: Okay, well I made a promise not to lose my virginity before I got married. Not only did I promise myself, but I promised my friend (let say his name is Mark). So.. I found this guy I'm totally heels over head with (lets say his name is Anthony). I fell for this guy, and within the first 3 months, we became intimate. This was back in September. We're still together, and going strong, but we do have sex. I know I broke that promise to myself, but my friend had JUST found out (months later) and now like thinks I'm so stupid, and that I hurt him and blah blah blah. Cuz he's my "best friend", and yeah if you can't tell, he likes me ALOT. And I feel like I've let him down. I love Anthony, I don't regret having sex with him, and I'll keep having it. But how do I tell Mark that he needs to move on, and that it's my own life. Please give me good answers, I'll give good ratings!!

i dont think there is an easy way to tell him this, you can tell him how you feel about anthony and give him time to thin about it and try to understand that you don't feel the same way that he feels about you, hopefully things will bounce back eventually and he can move on.

Q: i know this is weird but why are some mean people popular, why would you wanna be friends with a mean person

just wondering?

if you think about it, mean people are constantly putting people down, to make themselves superior, once they've put down enough people that people are afraid to be embarrased again by her they try to be nice around her, they probably know on the inside that its a mean person but they dont want to be embarrased because they spoke out against her.

Q: HEy yall in a few days im getin a ipod nano and i have some question

DO you think its worth the money??
Ill rate high

the nano has been overrated since the day it came out, just a smaller version of the original i-pod, its got A LOT of memory so it should hold a lot of data, but i heard something was wrong with it like the cover and it scratches off from just bein in your pocket so id definently get a relaly nice case.

Q: I have a workmate that has a problem. She is an extremely nice person and has plenty of friends and I quite like her as a friend too, the only problem is that she constantly tells lies. I have found that when she starts talking now I just switch off because I can't believe anything that she says. The other people that we work with feel the same way and we feel that even though she is a nice person we have just lost all respect for her. I have tried to catch her out on her lies to let her know that she can't keep getting away with it but she just lies her way out of it. I have even confronted her about this but she just denies it.One of her most recent lies was that her father has cancer which I know is not true because I have spoken to other family members. Not all of her lies are big like this one in fact some are just so insignificant that you would wonder WHY BOTHER?
What makes some people do this (feeling inadequate?) and how can I help her to overcome it.

I had a friend that lied to me, but it was for a good reason, he lied to me about comein to our band practice to get ready for a show, and he told us well it was his dad's birthday and couldnt go anywhere, well i caught him doing it by asking someone who went, i confronted him about it and he told me he didnt want to be in the band anymore and felt he was holding us back, just try confronting her and asking her why she lies, and tell her that she doesn't need to lie because everyone already thinks shes is a good person.

Q: i have a great friend...(but i know never to start to like a freind)but its hard not too.I love him(not like that) .HE so nice and sweet and things have happened.....were not like friends that do things after school we do little things in school .i know i like him not that i know he likes me but im hapy around him and just today he asked me to sit with him and theres a lot of spaces on the bus i was really happy about it and he acted shy..?i dont know why i acted shy too and i knew i was. do i like him ????????????????i think i do

to me it sounds like your into this guy and hes the same way, guys don't normally act like that around people they like just as friends, im a guy and im not that way, girls are normally afraid that if they break up theyll lose their best friend but thats not true, i had a girlfriend i was really good friends with before, we broke up, and were better friends than ever before, just play it kool and see what happens

Q: alrighty.. for a while now. i have been flirting with this guy. but he has a girlfriend. she doesnt go to our school but she has friends that do. well for like 6 months we have been flirting and writing notes to each other. last week he tells me that we cant flirt or write notes anymore becuase it got back to his girlfriend. well the next day he was back flirting with me. i was really confused. and i was sitting down and he came to talk to me and i said what do you want and he goes you. he was dead serious. but again he has a girlfriend. we have a dance comming up and he said that if he could go he would go with me but he cant because the principle wont let him. i dont know anymore. he is always walking with me and flirting with me and giving me hugs. but i dont know anymore. and today i was talking to my friend about him and she said that they broke up. and then she asked me if they got back together. so i dont know if they broke up or not. but that isnt my problem. well if you have anything that would help me. i would appreciate it. because this is really bugging me and it is really confusing! thankss

it definently sounds like this guy is into you, but then again he maybe just want some, all guys are different, if i had a g/f that i didnt like and i liked someone else i would see no point inflirting with him, i can understand why you'd want to, but you should give him the choice between you and her, not to just say it, but to not be as flirty and too give him a chance to get some space and think about it, if he has a girlfriend then he must care about her, that doesnt mean he doesnt care about you too, just ask him if they broke up and see whathappens from there, just try to make the time you are around him really awesome without the flirting.

Q: OK so I have ben flirting with this guy forever. And it was like we were going out. I loved it more then anything> i just want to have fun this year and that what happened. Untill yesterday when I told him I don't want a b/f right now. I really like him though. Well, we got in this big fight yesterday and now he doesn't like me as much. On friday my friend is getting alot of people to go to the movies to see when a stranger calls and I want to invite him. I know I could get him to like me more. If we go, should I kiss him? Or just lay on his sholder? This will be my first date and I don't know what to do. I don'tknow if I should make out with him or what. Just please help me!

I'm a guy and if i was in this situation i would be gettin the biggest mixed signals ever, i don't mean this to you personally but if a girl just broke up with me and then made out with me or even rested her head on my shoulder it would be kinda weird cause i would have thought you didnt like me, it might confuse him so i would just hang out a few times and tell him you made a mistake and that you do want to be with him.

Q: Okay, so me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 3 months now and I really like him...but the other day we had a really big argument and he broke up with me and we spent 2 hours on the phone and by the end of that we were back together. The day after that he tells me he'll be home early to talk to me and he his but he says he has to run to the store and get something so I wait for him to call back. When he finally calls back he's with his friend (who i hate and is the biggest jerk I've met) and I kinda get upset because I haven't had a good day and I just want to talk to him and his friend starts insulting me and my boyfriend starts laughing at me and then he gives the phone to his friend. They start drinking and they're insulting me to the point I'm crying. I really love my boyfriend and when he's not around his friend he's the nicest guy I know but I dont know what I should do about it.

Please answer! I'll rate you high!

This guy sounds like a guy you don't want to be around, if he really cared for you, he would have told his friend to back off long ago, and would have been concerned when you were upset, if he is going to go out and drink then u should just let him go because you can find lots of better people, there are so many nice guys out there and its important to get to know someone before you judge, just give n e guy (who you know is at least a halfway descent person) a chance and itll all work out for the best. Don't be afraid to talk to me further about this.

Q: I have a best friend and he has been my best friend for eleven years. He has been in love with me probably for the past couple years. He is the most loving, respectful, decent guy I have ever known. Whenever I am depressed or whenever I am having a problem, he is always there for me. He used to live in Maryland and I live Pennsylvania and whenever I needed something, he'd drive all the way up here to see me even if I didn't ask him to. He's just always been there for me through everything. He makes me absolutely happy and I'm sure that my happiness is more important than his. People always ask me why aren't we together, and honestly, I don't think we'd work out. Even though he is perfect for me, I dont think that I'd ever be good enough for him. I think I'd only bring problems in his life. Secondly, and this may sound weird, but I can't see myself having a relationship at this age with a guy I cant see myself being intimate with. Dont get me wrong, he is pretty cute too.. Lastly, I don't know if for some reason things doesnt work out and we'd break up and ruin our friendship.. Sometimes I hate myself for what I put him through, knowing how much he loves and wants me and me not being able to give him what he wants. Am I wrong? Like, I love this guy.. More than anything in the world. I'd like to be with him.. but I dont know.. I don't know what I should do.

Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.

20/f

As long as you feel comfortable with this guy, and he is a perfect match for you then you should at least give it a try, you'll never know about something for real unless you try it, as for the friendship thing, i dont know why everyone always worries about stuff like that, i mean why do they only think about the break up and not about how much fun they could have together? At least give this guy a shot and see what happens.

Q: so my boyfriend of last year and i had a really great relationship we were in love, but then my boyfriend began to like someone else so we broke up. then me and him stopped tlaking for awhile. about 4 months later i saw him at a football game and we began to talk and decided to hang out. it was like we were going out again everything was normal and we were both having a great time. unfortuanately we were both in other relationships. after that we didnt talk to each other any more. but then one day i went to my friends house and he was there also. me and him hooked up then. i can't keep my mind off of him since then and i dont no what to do about it all. i dont know what it is but we keep running into each other randomly. i dont no what to do any ideas?

It sounds to me that you still care about him, but i really dont know if he still feels the same way, because he started likeing another girl, it just might not work out, i liked a girl for a really long time and just kept thinking "it will happen..one day she'll realize that i'm great and she'll want to be with me" i'm still waiting and have been waiting for too long, the point is, just try and stay friends with him for as long as possible, don't afraid to invite him places with you just because you were once boyfriend and girlfriend, see how everything works out and maybe he'll come around again.

Q: Any advice as to how I can win freshman class Winterfest Queen? There aren't very many cliques in my school and a lot of people are nice...but I'm not one of the "Popular" girls (however, not one of the "Nerdy" girls as well). I just really want to win, but I'm horrible socially.

Just wondering if you guys have any tips.

Everyone wants their time in spotlight, if you not popular then you obviously don't get that very much, just try to hang out with everyone and don't do that by making fun of other people because it will get back to them. Make sure you still talk to everyone afterwards or everyone will think you fake, just take it easy and try to have fun.

Q: There is a boy I babysit for that I am very worried about. He has grown up in a bad home, but no one has been able to get enough evidence to get him sent to a better place. He tears rooms apart, turns over tables, and injurs me when I try to do anything he doesn't like. What can I do to help him? Any suggetions will be rated.

Obviously this child has developed a short fuse and goes off fast, i've had my times of going off fast, most people would say yknow "oh hes just looking for attention" of something like that, but the truth is you never know, he may be unhappy where he is or maybe feels unappreciated. The best thing to do is when ur babysitting to sit him down and just try to have fun, maybe get him to be more comfortable around you, and then try to talk to him about it, if you need more help on it contact me.

Q: Hi i'm a 14 year old girl (dunno if i need that but ok) and i was wondering about some really good ab exercises and also somthing to get rid of the fat around my hip (love handle :p) any ideas?

im a 14 year old guy who works out my abs alot, i played football and the one that i do to strengthen my abs is laying wiht my back on the ground and lifting my legs 7-8 inches off the ground and holding it there for at least 10 seconds then spreading my legs out and holding it for 5, putting my legs back together for another 10 then setting them back down for 5 seconds, it usually helps alot, it is tiring though so dont go at it to hard the first time

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I'm a 14 year old guy. Wow I've been through a lot of things and I'm ready to answer any question you have, i'm not perfect just like the rest of us but i try to be friends with everyone and i think im a better person for that. I'm really into music and playin my guitar helps me calm down. P.S. In Pic Im the one on the left with the girly crown. I always get the girly crown........