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it's all falling apart
what do you do when everyone in your family is leaving you? my mom and dad have been having problems and always argue. then my dad has a very short temper and always yells at me and makes me feel like shit. what can i do to stop it all?
please help me fast! :'(
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i think first of all you should talk to your mom about everything and then have your mom talk to your dad and all of you have a conversation to work it out
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i can understand how you feel. my mom devorced my dad when i was 3, my mom's an alcholic, my sisters a bitch. I would say some people have it worse, but if you can't take it anymore just tell someone at school that things at home arn't good and they're pushing you over the breaking point. Then when they take you somewhere safer, youre parents will finally realized that fighting's not the way and eventually calm down. If not you could just leave and find a new life cuase this sucks, i had to go through it most of my life and it's still never ending, get out while you can.
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Well I have to say trutly that's the way you feel when your family is falling apart it may sound strange but it is very normal that family falls apart nowadays for what reason ever ...Think that it's not hard for only you but your parents too, it's not easy for them to see the family fall apart and that's why day argue with each other in first place.
Maybe you could talk to your dad ,you could begin with telling him that no mather what you will love him BUT....explain to him that he breaks your heart everytime he yells at you .
If you cant talk to your dad maybe you can leave him a note or maybe make a joke or ......tell him it's a school project and you got that question to ask ...(Tell him you need the answer urgent ,tell him it's homework)
There is a lot off way to talk to your parents ...remeber that .
It may seems stupid ..but parents feel relief when their kids talk to them..
And pray a lot
May the Lord bless you and give you the strenght and patient you need.
Good luck
Loesje
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I'm really sorry this is happening to you because my dad is the EXACT SAME WAY, i just had an argument with him last night and he kicked me out, anyway, It's best to try and get one parent alone at a time, just talk to them, ask them what they argue about, but make sure its an individual talk so they don't start arguing about something the other one says, see whats going on and tell them that you don't want it to be like that, they love you a lot and will try to work it through for you.
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I can't give you an answer that will make you feel like everything's better; there is no magic bandaid in this case. All I can say, all ANYONE can say, is that parents love their kids unconditionally. Yes, they can be a pain sometimes, but try to think about how they SHOW you they love you (and they can do it in a variety of ways). If your father is taking out his frustration on you, talk to him about it. He may not even know he's doing it! Don't be petty about it, as he's obviously already upset, but it's worth a shot. Also, tell THEM you love them in your own way (e.x. do the dishes without complaint or bragging, ask them how their day was or what you can do to help, etc.). Good luck with everything!
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