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bestfriend of 11 yrs
I have a best friend and he has been my best friend for eleven years. He has been in love with me probably for the past couple years. He is the most loving, respectful, decent guy I have ever known. Whenever I am depressed or whenever I am having a problem, he is always there for me. He used to live in Maryland and I live Pennsylvania and whenever I needed something, he'd drive all the way up here to see me even if I didn't ask him to. He's just always been there for me through everything. He makes me absolutely happy and I'm sure that my happiness is more important than his. People always ask me why aren't we together, and honestly, I don't think we'd work out. Even though he is perfect for me, I dont think that I'd ever be good enough for him. I think I'd only bring problems in his life. Secondly, and this may sound weird, but I can't see myself having a relationship at this age with a guy I cant see myself being intimate with. Dont get me wrong, he is pretty cute too.. Lastly, I don't know if for some reason things doesnt work out and we'd break up and ruin our friendship.. Sometimes I hate myself for what I put him through, knowing how much he loves and wants me and me not being able to give him what he wants. Am I wrong? Like, I love this guy.. More than anything in the world. I'd like to be with him.. but I dont know.. I don't know what I should do.
Any advice is appreciated. Thanks.
20/f
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just come out and tell him how you feel because when you do not only will it be the best feeling you've ever felt but if it works out right it can get better. he may say something like that he likes you or something, if you need any advice on what to say just ask me, trust me i will help you if you need it.
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As long as you feel comfortable with this guy, and he is a perfect match for you then you should at least give it a try, you'll never know about something for real unless you try it, as for the friendship thing, i dont know why everyone always worries about stuff like that, i mean why do they only think about the break up and not about how much fun they could have together? At least give this guy a shot and see what happens.
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The only reason your relationship with him wouldn't work out is if you don't want it to. You have to want it bad enough for everything to be okay for the better. He seems like a great guy and I know that sometimes best friends go out and ruin their friendship but that's only because they don't even try to fix it and just leave it like that. I honestly think that you guys would work out and that your relationship would be fine. You don't need to be perfect for him and don't say you aren't good enough for him. You don't need to be because he loves you for who you are and he wouldn't want you to change. If you don't want to get into a relationship and if you aren't ready for a commitment then don't date him and just be friends. I think you should take the next step because you both care about each other so very much I don't see why your relationship wouldn't work out.
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