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Q: is limewire illegal?

Ah darlin all dowloading music is illegal but i have never met a cop who really cared about it. It's nothing to be worried about but ya it sure is:P

Q: I have problems focusing.
During class, if I am not talking to the person next to me I fall asleep. I ALWAYS talk, no matter what. All my teachers write in my comments that I talk to much, I just can't help it I get so distracted and bored easily.
Also, I can't focus on one thing at once, if I do I end up frustrated and stop working, or start like flipping out because I don't get it.
I was wondering....do I have ADHD?

haha oh hun i thinku are like me a teenager! lol i love to talk and i never pay attention. I'm always tired so i fall asleep. As long as it's not affecting your grades to much i wouldn't worry about it. But hell what teenage girl dosn't like to talk. I think your just fine but if it gets realy really bad you should maybe go see a doc just to make sure:D
Hope i helped
Becca

Q: i have a great friend...(but i know never to start to like a freind)but its hard not too.I love him(not like that) .HE so nice and sweet and things have happened.....were not like friends that do things after school we do little things in school .i know i like him not that i know he likes me but im hapy around him and just today he asked me to sit with him and theres a lot of spaces on the bus i was really happy about it and he acted shy..?i dont know why i acted shy too and i knew i was. do i like him ????????????????i think i do

Seems to me you guys are really good friends and you could very eaisaly have a tiny crush on him but i wouldn't read to far into it. He could have been acting shy but he could have also been tired and you too lol (i have made that mistake). But if it seems to be happening alot (theese shy moments) then you guys might deffinately have somthing
hope i helped
Becca

Q: Well I like this guy Adam, me him and a bunch of other people went to see When a stranger calls and threw the whole movie we were flirting and you know the rest. Well Carly, the person who organzied the little get together. Well her mom came and she has a van it was really cramped up front so, a couple people (Me, Adam, 4 other friends) moved to the back and we laid down because Carly`s mom had a old van and it was able to turn the back into a bed so we did that. I was tired so I used Adam as a pillow and then I got up to fix my shoe (I had sandles on) and then I laid back down and he put his arm around my waist. & from about 11pm-2am we sat there kissing, holding hands so forth. Then I was confused because I didnt know he liked me like that so I called him and he said we should keep that to ourselves so I was like okay. Then he asked out Danielle ( a good friend of mine, she didnt go to the movies ) and I was lost because he just held my hand and kissed me then asked out my best friend. She hasnt said yes or no yet, but I really want him. I dont know how to get him to be mine and not hers. Please help !

Well seems to me like this guys is HUGE player girl lol. And the fact that he said for you to keep it to yourself worries me. Kinda like a one night stand. I understand how you must feel though. I mean if he is a great guy than i'm sure a bunch of people would like him. But ya know seems to me like he kinda used you and personaly i wouldn't like him very much after that lol.
I hope i helped
Becca

Q: I have 1 year and 5 months with my bf everything was going smooth ..specialy with his mother(my mother in law)I helped them a lot ,I went everyday to help out with anything and I did this with great joy and love but shortly me and my mother in law had a big fight becuase I heard that she was gossiping strange things about me .I got really mad about this ,at first I was really hurt I cried but than I got angry ...I don't understand why she did such thing .I feel such a hate when a see her ..last time she came at the door from my house and I was so mad that I got sick ..I don''t feel like seeing her .It hurts like hell inside because I really took her as a mother ..talking to her is no choice because I already tried (she wanted to slap me) For no reason.I don't deserve this .Why should I do ?
I don't want to get mad(hurt)when I sees her.
What should I do?
I don't want to loose my bf because off this .

You have every right to be upset. I think she could easily be jelous that her son has found someone as great as you and think she could be loosing her son. Although avoiding her isn't the awnser cleary staying around her won't help eaither. I think you should talk to your bf and maybe he'll understand and talk to your mother in law for you.
I hope i helped
becca

Q: ok i am 13/f and i have dark circles under my eyes they aren't really really bad but i was wondering is there any way to get rid of them without using make up

Well i have them too and it's supossed to just mean you need more sleep but ya i use foundation/coverup to try to fix em
hope i help
becca

Q: OK at school since october i have been crazy about this guy. he's nice, cute, funny, incredibly smart, and yeah I hope you get the picture. anyway all of these girls have crushes on him and most of my friends do. one day he will act like he likes me, then the next he wont even talk to me. and im mad b/c im tired of him playign with my emotions but i cant NOT like him. trust me i have tried so many times but it wont work. today he acted like he liked my best friend (which he has dont to me so many times) and i got really upset. i dont want to like him. i just want him as a friend but every day i think about him, look to find out where he is, and zone out just wondering if he is thinking of me.
Any ideas on how to get him out of my head, get over him, or just make him a friend. I will rate 5's for good answers. from, crummy feeling

i have the exact same thing happeing to me. There's a wuote a really like "if you can't get someone out of your head, maybe they are supossed to be there" i think that makes alot of sense. But the only way i found to get over this guy is find another one! that was the only thing that worked otherwise you will keep thinking about him even if you don't want to. It's kinda a force of nature ya know. But ya i found another guy and it's not a huge crush but it's there and i don't hink about either of them as much anymore.
Well hope i helped :D

Q: Hi, i am very active and eat right. I do lots of situps everynight, but my stomach just does not slim down. i do have abs, but my fat covers them. how dO i get rid of my faT?

oh my goodness i am exactly the same way! ok well i've leared that if you tighten your muscels (kinda fex them when you exersize) you can really feel it and it gets harder(which is a good thing). Try other excersis. Sit up are designed for one part of your abs while other exercises are designed for other parts. There are your upper abs, lower abs, middle, and obliques (thesides/hip/love handles if u have em) my favorite are leg raises. Lay flat on your backhand to the side and with straight legs lift both together into the air then come back down slowly bBUT DO NOT TOUCH THE GROUND! then go back up. I do about 20-25 a night but i have been doing them every night for a long time so start of with about 10 and go up as you get more comfortable. Also posture is impartant! the straighter up you stand the slimmer and trimmer you look. So back straight shoulder out and walk like you mean it haha.
Hope I helped

Q: There is a boy I babysit for that I am very worried about. He has grown up in a bad home, but no one has been able to get enough evidence to get him sent to a better place. He tears rooms apart, turns over tables, and injurs me when I try to do anything he doesn't like. What can I do to help him? Any suggetions will be rated.

Wow that sounds rough. Have you talked to his parents yet? They deserve to know what goin on with there child and maybe you find somthing he likes (that isn't dangerous or harmful) and try doing it with him. Somtimes yound kids need dicipline or they will just never learn. So i wouldn't be afraid to be strict don't yell but tell him wrong from right
GOOD LUCK!
Becca:D

Q: This is kinda a long one but I really need good advice.

There are these three girls I'm friends with at my school. We were all like a group of four and basically the "popular" group if my class has one. Well at least I was really good friends with them. Maybe I'm just paranoid but it always seems like two of them talk about me. I'm pretty sure the third one doesn't because she's always really nice to just about everyone. Well me and one of them got into a fight the other day and aren't talking. She's really close with the other one I think talks about me. I'm pretty she's mad just just because her best friend is. But the thing is, she acts all nice to my face and stuff.

I have other friends to hang out with but most of them aren't in most of my classes. Going to school is hell anymore though. I have my boyfriend and that's like it. I can't really explain this dilemma to him. He knows vaguely of it and that's like it.

I know what my "friends" can do. This one girl was really popular and everyone wanted to be friends with her and they turned her into a complete loser so everyone hates her and talks about her. I don't want this to happen to me.

The girl whose mad at me is not the apologizing type and I'm not apologizing to her.

So what do I do?

I rate 5's!

well it seems you are in quite the delema. Well it seems to me you need to tell them how you feel. I went through the same type of thing last year sept they insulted me to my face. I know being in a fight sucks but you don't deserve friends that are talking behind your back. It's their lose. Popularity dosn't really mean much anymore and usually people talk about "the populars" because they are flat out jelous. See i have a new sytem with my friends now. Instead of talking behind each others back i told them to tell me whats bothering them about me and it worked. I havn't been in a fight with then for almost a year now and were tighter than ever cause we actually listen to whats really bothersing us. So tell them how you feel.
Hope i helped:D,
Becca

Q: so me and my best friend thats a guy stated dated. about 2 months later i broke up with him because he wasn't that good of a boyfriend. me and him stopped talking for awhile after that. recently though me and him have become really tight again and ive started liking him a lot again everyone says you guys flirt so much but its just flirting and i dont know if i should wait to see what happens or what so any ideas on this?

Well the key thing is if he was a bad boyfriend i see no point in you going back to him. You deserve to be happy with who your with and not have a boyfriend just for the sake of having one. I think you should stay just good friends and if he seems to have changed and cares about you alot then go for but other wise i'd advise against it.
Hope i helped :D

Q: ok i am 13/f and i like this guy who is 16 i know there is an age difference but i don't care he is nice has a great personality and we have so many things in common see he doesn't know that i like him we are realy really good friends and if i tell him i like him it mite screw up our friendship cause he is my neighbor i see him like everyday but i donno if he likes me he flirts wit me but i dono mixed signals see i was wondering if i should tell him or not and if so how could i tell him please help

Hi there i'm becca i'm 14. Well 3 years is quite the bit of an age difference but i think it's rediculous that people think i's soo gross. I mean when your 25 and he's 28 it seems like no difference at all. I think you should tell him. Now if he's a mature sweet guy then he'll tell you wha he feels and won't be mean about it. So tell him up front and see what happens.
hope i helped :D

Q: I really like this guy.
But ehre's the prob.
I'm in 8th grade, he's kinda in 6th.
He's also my best friend's cousin!
She dosen't care, but the age differece is kinda a lot.
He's not a little loseror anything, he's like mature and i like him.
What should I do?
rates 5's
thanks if you help!

Cool i'm in grade 8 too :). Ya know everyone in our grade thinks it's like sick to go out with someone 2 years younger or older than you. But think about it when your 25 and there 23 seriously i see absolutly nooo difference and it's tottaly social acceptable. So if u really like this guy and he makes you happy i don't see why you shouldn't go for
hope i helped :D

Q: I have green eyes, pale skin, brown hair, and freckles. Does anyone have any good make up ideas? I have heard that brown eye shadow is good, but anything else? I don't like to wear bronzer because it makes me look fake.
Thanks it advance.

well first of all i tottaly agree with the bronzer thing it makes me look fake to but umm for me it all depend on what i'm waering like if i'l wearing a green shirt maybe go with a blue or gree what ever looks like the color go well together you know what i mean?
hope that helps

Q: iam 15, and i weigh only 100 lbs. im 5'4". so im inproprotioned. but im a lil puggy. i used to work out everyday. then i got into a wreck and couldnt,because of my medical stability. i want to work out again. but with physical therapy and school and cheerleading and everything, i dont have much time. what can i do to tone up a lot, with out taking too much time. ill rate high

ok well i'm 14 5'6 130 and i'm actually a normal weight but i have alot of mucle so personalaly i thin u are doing a great thing by exeercising and if you want goin for a run mabey 4-3 times a week could help :)

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hi i'm rebecca i'm 14 and i love giving advice and gettin it i'm a fun loving sporty girl and can somties be really girly. Thanks everyone have agood day :D