about

My real name is Christiana, but most people call me "Nina". I am 18 going on 19. I enjoy helping people--just not when they are still in middle school and asking about love or sex. I do alot of painting on canvas, creative writing, reading, and listening to music. I'm pretty mellow. I love sci fi and fantasy based books and movies. I love medieval history--really I like most history but sometimes I wish I could live in a time period that didn't deal with so many technological complexities. I guess you could say I love the simple things in life...



advice

At what age is it appropiate for a person to have sex? Ss we get older the standerds seem to be dropping. I just read a question by a thirteen-year-old asking if she should get on "the pill" if she has had sex. Since when is that what is on a 13-year-olds mind?

Its not a set age...its when you are ready. When I say ready I mean you don't have any doubts about it in your mind. As soon as you hit puberty your hormones start going crazy. (to answer your question about the thirteen year old) Remember, sex should be about love--you should be involved with someone for awhile before you start.
However, I don't think any thirteen year old is old enough to make that decision.

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Hey! Cute column! Haha, anyway, I was wondering what I should get the guy I like for his birthday? First let me tell you a little about our relationship. We met in science this year when he transferred into that class. He sits behind me and we talk whenever it wont crash with our learning. He meets me in the halls so we can hug and talk. He walks me to science sometimes, and if I am cold he gives me his jacket. I think he might like me and I know I like him, and I want to get him a present that says "I like you" but not in a huge way. I am also old-fashioned and dont think that girls should ask out guys or be the first to say that they like them. I want to get him a teddy bear and some candy, but it was just Halloween so he probably already has a bunch of candy. I really want to show him that I remembered that it was his birthday. Please help!

You know the saying "Food is the way to a man's heart"? Try baking him a cake or cookies..that shows "hey, I remembered your birthday...and you do mean SOMETHING to me (:"
Goodluck!
-Nina

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What does Dolce vita mean? What does dolce mean?

It means sweet life in Italiano (: (this is my specialty...) and "vita" means day.

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Ok. I'm 14 and I resently had sex with a guy I had never met before. He was around 21. I have rented a book over being pregnant and I have all the symptoms. I took the pregnancy test and sure enough I am. Well anyways I don't know who he is and i'm really scared. I don't know how to tell my parents and I want him to be there when I tell them! Well if you can help me or give me ideas to tell them and find him...Please HELP!!!

I rate 5's on every one

If you find out who he is...he most likely will deny it...considering he is seven years older than you and a pedophile. You need to just sit your parents down and get it out...you don't want them to start asking you questions about it when your belly starts to swell. Goodluck.

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hmmm. recently i saw this 89 corvette, new engine claim the owner. sale for 8900$. is htis a good prise? how reliable are old vets?

Depends on how well the owner took care of it. Before looking to BUY anything like that you need to ask the owner questions about the car's history.

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Me and my cuzin have been best friends since I was born. He also is really cocky. He always tells me how horrible I am at everything I try. Sometimes I can try really hard to impress him, but everytime he tells me I suck. Two nights ago I rode a mechanical bull and rode it all the way through. Wen my turn was over I got off and he yelled over everybody..."Kelsie you suck!" I about cried. I walked by him and tolled him he was a douche and I never wanted to speak to him again. Last night was a dance and he tried talking to me about how I..I over reacted!!! I told him I was sick of his shit and now we aren't speaking! Wat can I do?

Your cousin isn't worth the stress or pain. Hes an ass. I'm sorry but thats just the way it is. Just keep on avoiding him---hes verbally abusing you!

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Well my brother Blake died almost 8months ago. He was only 24 and thats wats the worst part of it. My brother was really well liked and always smiling. He was good looking and was always teasing me. Now that he is gone I find myself crying over things that make no since. Im' in more fights with my parents and everybody keeps saying Ive changed. Well There has also been alot of memorials for him and i don't want to go to em and all my parents can say is your so selfish. I don't wanna go cuz it hurts so bad. I tell them that tooo. Wat should I do to keep them from thinking I'm selfish?

I lost my brother (he was 21) three months ago--and yes its tough. You're not being selfish at all! I know how bad it hurts. Your parents are having a hard time letting go and are afraid that he will be forgotten. I hope you feel better.
-Nina

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I'm 15/f.
Usually a couple days before I start my period, I get this feeling like I really want to beat someone up that I hate. Lol, it's really weird. I'm not psycho or anything. I'm a really really happy person usually, and I'm super nice. It's just like 5 days or so before I start my period I just want to beat someone up. Is this normal? Does anyone else feel like this?

You're just going through "PMS" most girls are like this right before...and during their periods.

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okay, what should I do...I really like this girl and she says she likes me also but she has a boyfriend. We hang out quite and lot and have the best time because we are practically best friends. I want to stop liking her but I know the only way to do that is to stop talkin to her because if I do that makes me only liek her more. I tried doing this already but she got really upset and really sad and said it hurt her most out of anything, knowing she was loosing me...I dont know what to do...because we are such close friends and I really do love her

She is already in a relationship. If she cared enough she would leave the other guy for you. Don't trust her (believe me I"m a girl...I know how we think!) Don't let her think of you as a "fall back".

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hey is it true that when you sleep you're supposed to take your bra off?

It really doesn't matter. Whatever is most comfortable for you.

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I need major help , im 15 f dc and i'm just
confused about my love life. My boyfriend told me that he loves me but now i don't think he means it. The reason why is because i haven't talked him in about 7 weeks. i talked him like twice and all he had to say was whats up and then he would leave out of nowhere with out saying goodbye or what not. It's starting to get fustrating. He didn't tell me he was going on vacation or anything and when ever i try to talk to him its like he has nothing to say. Now im really wondering if he has another girlfriend or something ... i mean could it be true or what?

please i am asking for your advice. please help me.

He's not worth it. If he doesn't even inform you that hes going on vacation...than how can you trust him? If he doesn't have much to say and its basically just silence the whole time theres not much of a connection between you two. If you just end things now, you'll find someone new sooner.
-Nina

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f/14....is it normal to get "wet" when your boyfriend makes out with you? a little bit of touching below the neck but not past the stomach?

Yes, its perfectly normal. Especially at this age when your hormones start going crazy.

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When a girl fingeres herself does it hurt? How does it feel?

Why would we do it if it HURT???

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WHat if the whole skool find out that your pregnant. But you didn't want errybody to know. You told the one person you thought you could trust, and they told. What do I do? Should I deney it or should I say something to that person I told?

Approach the person you told and ask them about it before pointing any fingers. Denying it isn't exactly going to help due to the fact its useless to try and hide after the first couple of months. As I said before, you need to discuss it with the person you told more than anything.
P.S. If people at school start tormenting you about it they are not worth the stress, you will find that you most likely have true friends you never knew you had--the people that accept you for your mistakes and won't judge you on this one factor.
Goodluck,
Nina

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okay, so i like a guy and i think he likes me back. the only problem is that there's this girl at my school who's his ex-girlfriend and they've been though a lot, and also just recently broken up. the girl isn't really my friend, but sort of a "friend of a friend". so i don't know whether to keep liking the guy, or to forget about it because he might be "off-limits". i'm really confused, please help!

[i give 5's for good answers, thanks]
by the way, i'm in junior high.

You can't really help if you like him, and its alright if you keep on! You just need to wait a little bit before trying to pursue an actual relationship. Considering they had put eachother through alot and just recently broken up, he needs time to get himself together again. For the time being get to know him even better and be there for him (:

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but my friend is a chrisitan. He wants me to go to church with him every week, and im not all that enthusiastic. I feel guilty for even thinking about saying no because i get all self concious when i think of him thinking of me as a sinner. Anyways we were having a very good time at a footbal game and then we were talking about stuff and somehow the topic just came up about dying. He was like, no offense but if you died right now i think you'd go to hell. He was being really serious. Well, it depressed the hell out of me. Im a nice person, i dont try to judge people, i like to share, my morals are higher then anyone elses and then i get depressed because i cant live up to them. I was really hurt but i didnt let on. He wouldnt elaborate, he said we could talk about it on the phone sometime. Well, do you think it was right of him to say that? Or am i just being dumb? I cant help but feel like im some kind of 'project' hes trying to save...

Consider maybe going to church with him once or twice. This will most likely help you understand a bit more of what hes trying to do for you. He's not trying to bash you at all! He's trying to help more than anything---he really cares. He just told you his honest opinion, try not to be to offended by it. However, on your part...I can see where you would be a bit confused.

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What is the difference between them? I have decided to put my faith into one of them cause i know they both involve Jesus and the Bible but how are they different?do you go to hell for being one over the other? do they worship the same god? and where can i get a bible? also is it true that luthern is based off the bible. I have ruled out Catholic. Also is mastrubating a sin? I will rate 5's for decent help.

---former athiast

Lutheranism is a denomination (a group) within the Christian faith.

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what if your boyfriend does not know your kissing his best friend and me and his friend act wierd around him

You SHOULDN'T be kissing his best friend in the first place (or anyone besides him for that matter!) You need to tell him and deal with the consequences.

Ok so I tell you the truth and you rate me a "1" and tell me "Youre fucking crazy, you need to get killed, I"m serious!"?? wow you're real mature.

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Hello, I'm a 16 year old female, looking into a Liquid Diet. I'm 5'6 and 150 pounds.

I was wondering if anyone knew any good liquid diets that worked fast and effiecent, also how much it costs and where I would be able to find them.

Also if anyone tried them and had side effects.

Thank you

Liquid diets are EXTREMELY dangerous. And for your height you are NOT in great need of a diet. But I'm sure I can't convince you of this... so try a healthy diet...go vegetarian or exercise more often. Don't give yourself any avoidable health problems.

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I'm glad I can let this out and no one will know who I am or bug me about it, but I really need someone to talk to. I've been broken for years upon years, my elementary school life was alright yet I always seemed to be the loner kid who did stupid things to get attention yet was never acknowledged. When I changed schools, it made me sad that the card I had received from my classmates was only made because we do that to everyone who goes away, that the words they said to me were false and untrue. In my new school, the very first day I was tormented and they hit me with carrots at lunch time and beat me up in recess. During lunch time wen i went to the washroom they emptied out my backpacks contents in the schoolyard and burried my pencils and stuff from my pencil case in the sand box. My closest girlfriend, the last one I had and my second was someone I really loved and was happy with yet that relationship ended and destroyed me even more. Though I finally made some friends in high school, the people from my previous school and others still continued to torment me for no reason it drove me insane and alone. this is a summary of my childhood torments and from those experiences i came to the following conclusion...

I envy those who have good friends, whenever I see friends with photos of each other, hanging out with each other and always wanting to be around each other... whenever I see people who have others that will support and protect them... I feel jealous. In all my years I have never had anyone but my loving family I can fully trust, that calls me instead of me bugging them, that wants to be around me and support me, that would stick with me to the end.. a true friend. I am destined to be alone, to have no friends, and to experience no love. There have been other experiences in my life besides what I described that have affected me so.

I have trouble in my studies, I can never fully concentrate until last minute though I seem to do pretty well. There have been many things I have wanted to achieve and changes i'e wanted to make to myself but I have failed to do so and I hate myself for being so careless, irresponsible, and stupid. I acknowledged that there is no personal reason for myself to exist in the world, besides become someone good so my parents can be proud that they did a good job raising me. I love my family they are the best parents to me and gave me more love than I could ever handle. I can never live up to my parents love, the only way I can repay them for loving such a useless thing as myself is through completing my school and becoming what they want me to be. I also live for children, I want to have children and have them live a good life strayed from any problems that I have already faced myself.

THe problem, I recently got into my second car accident, things are going so horrible and expenses are rising. My parents are already paying so much and are struggling, I am forgetting to do chores and because of that I am just being a freeloader. As for my studies, it seems i've been slacking off, yet I find it so hard to concentrate until it's last minute. Though I try to do things it seems I am just a lazy failure. I failed my parents, I failed myself, I am nothing but a burden withot motivation to succeed. the best solution is my own destruction, but I am too weak, so instead I will leave the house and fend for myself, removing the burden from my family of having such a useless son around. I don't deserve them and surely i've been shown that since the life I lived is proof enough my existence is pointless. Why shold I continue this unhappy life where everyday all I do is become hurt. People think I am a happy stupid kid because i'm always so hyper, yet I put on that mask to hide my sorrows. No matter how good I am to people, no matter how sociable, I can never get what I want or be truly happy. I either am disappointed, left alone, or betrayed and used.... why does life suck

The people that tormented you from the time you were in elementary to highschool are all just coldhearted bastards. Your family truly cares about you...that alone should be enough to go on. Keep being good to people ( so you don't stoop down to the levels of those who were rude to you in your past years) One day you WILL be rewarded for your kindness. This I can assure you. You don't have a clue as to how strong you really are. (And NO, I'm not just saying that to be nice)
Its nice knowing people like you exist...the ones that keep giving even though everyone has robbed them of their happiness. I respect you.

-Nina

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