Young, Wild ,& Free. I live my life in a crazy way. I've learned a million lessons the hard way. That I think is the best way. I was told to find this site because I always have friends asking me for advice. Apparently I give good advice. I do not have Masters in psychology. I was legally certified as a genious with an IQ of 186 when I was 14 years old. In other words I didn't have a lot of friends. lol I have acquired a great knowledge and I am here to pass it along to others. I am not a know it all and I do not have all the answers. I am just a person filled with random facts, points of interest, and tons of great advice! Feel free to add me on facebook. I am more than happy to talk outside of this site 1 on 1 and will happily help you through what ever I can over long time periods. I'm not just here to give advice. I'm here to help make lives better by influencing good life decisions and problem solving skills.
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ok so i have small boobs. I am 15 years old and will be 16 in may this year.I'm a softmore in high school and I am a B cup. it seems like all the other girls in my grade have big boobs that fill out their shirts but mine are just small i even wear push up bras but that barely helps.:( all guys ever talk about is boobs and I want bigger ones or atrleast decent sized ones to my body is proportional. I have a nice butt alot of guys say but i have never once ever heard a guy tell me i have nice boobs. Its frusterating, what can I do to help this situation? (link)
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Every you likes different things. My friend is a total boob guy. While girls with big boobs is all he ever talks about. I on the other hand don't care about boobs. I love a nice butt.
Point being... No 2 people have the same attractions to someone. Just be happy with yourself. Someone will like you for who you are.
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I am 13 and have ADHD and anger management problems and me and my mom got into a huge argument and I hit her so she destroyed my Xbox. I got really mad and threatened to beat her to death. She then burned my shooting range membership and ran over all my guns with her car. I got really mad after that and punched her. She then slapped me, kicked me and threw me on the ground and drive away. This all happened like 5 minutes ago so she is still out (link)
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You need to stop. Take a deep breath, and think " If my mom was to die tomorrow, Is the last thing I want to remember me hitting her..."
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im a very strange person and im basically a psychopath(doesnt make me a killer :p) a psychopath is someone who doesnt give a fuck about people(no empathy) and could be quite charming and thats pretty much me and also im a misanthrope,i find people disgusting,evil,murderers,rapists,sluts,addicts,drinkers,were ALL sinners though some denny it! and a shrink cant help me,i just dont believe in shrinks(those people are the most fucked up ones) and im fucking 15 im so depressed,if i didnt love my parents i wouldve already killed myself,im a very fucked up person and noone knows how much pain i feel,and i cant tell anyone they wouldnt understand the darkness in me,i dont know if ill make it,a piece of me is dead and sometimes i feel broken,it fucking hurts and i feel hopeless for myself and for the world (link)
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i get this feeling.i dont have it during the day,but in night,when im just laying down and cant sleep i feel this loneliness,i feel like theres noone who can get me.i really need someone like me,a soulmate maybe? doenst need to be a guy,just someone who gets me and im a very unusual girl so that will be hard,ive never met someone whos even little like me,except for my father who is the same but i cant talk to him about my dark side he doent have that and i do,i guess i need someone really fucked up,can i do anything about it? what? (link)
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theres tis quote "hate the sin,love the sinner" and ive been thinking about it,its a strange one,my interpretation is that the sin is something terrible that cant be undone,but the sinner he could change,find faith,become a good person. what do you think about it? :) just curious i guess...
ghostgirl7 ..... (link)
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Oh how I love this question. Considering I puffs in Sin City and have Sinner tattooed on my arm I find it inquisitive to say the least. My interpretation is that a person can do things others may not understand or agree with, but that doesn't make them a bad person. I have done many many many things in life people would find to be unacceptable or wrong, but see them more as a learning experience. Now that I have done such things look at where I am. Here... Passing on my lessons on to others. If you took my appearance and tried to match it with me personality, it would never fit. I'm an enigma. I sin but I'm a good person.
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Hi so today I got asked by this guy I've been to school with for about 4 years if I had a ...... You know. I just didn't answer him.
But do people really think I'm a boy? I don't really look like one in my opinion. I have a deep voice and not really big.. You know.. But still. I know this is a dumb question.
This is what my hair looks like, only I have bangs that go down (Not side bangs):
http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_ma3numHueJ1re6kmco1_500.jpg
I don't dress like a guy. I wear jeans, but not baggy jeans. I wear cute shirts and stuff, if you know what I mean and I wear a lot of jewelry. I do play video games, but I don't say I do. Do I sound like a boy to you?
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Sounds like he is just being an ass to me. Young guys tend to pick on girls they like. If you'd like you can get into my info and find me on Facebook and I'll be happy to further analyze this and see what the real problem is, but like I said... he is probably just being an ass so he can feel better about himself.
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I'm hoping an outside perspective will help me figure this out. Sorry that this will be long.
So I met a guy at work and he asked me out. I'm 22, he's 19. He's shy, has never had a girlfriend, so I thought I could trust him.
Our first date was amazing and it got really intense really fast...we ended up seeing each other every day (even on days when he was busy, he'd still come by to kiss me goodnight). I slept with him, which worried me but it didn't seem to ruin things. He treated me like a princess and we were both so happy.
Then after almost two weeks he all of the sudden got weird on me...stopping wanting to see me every day...in four days I only saw him once and it was so different, he was way less affectionate and just seemed zoned out. Finally he dumped me, saying that I "wasn't his type". I kept asking him to explain more and he would just say "I can't" and avoid eye contact.
The next day we talked and all he would say was that I "wasn't right for him".
I was really confused and hurt, I texted him asking if he could be a little more specific. He never replied. When I saw him at work he was way more friendly and flirty with more than usual...he tried to get them to move him to the register next to me and followed me around a lot.
I'm just confused...did I do something wrong? Did he just totally use me? I can't get an answer from him. I'd love to just forget him and move on, but I have to see him every day at work and it makes me really unhappy. What do I do? (link)
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1. Never mess with a coworker... Once you split.... You can't really split... Feel me...
2. Yeah... From a guys perspective... Sounds like he was/is using you. A lot of guys use the "shy" thing because girls feel safe around a shy guy. Makes it easy for them to take advantage.
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i have a large labia and i'm very insecure about it, yes i have been fingered and had sex but no-one has said anything to me but i wanted to know can the boy feel it in case they are talking about me and i don't know about it. someone help me? also is it a turn off?? (link)
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This is a funny question. Not because of the general area of the question, but because I have a Lesbian friend that has the same thing and makes jokes about it... Anywhoo. Different guys like different things. My buddy likes blonde white girls with big boobs. I don't find white girls attractive at all. I like Spanish girls and dark brown eyes. I personally like butts and boobs don't matter to me. Point being... What one guy likes about you might be the same thing that one guy doesn't like about you. That does not mean that it is a bad thing. As for people talking... Who cares... Chances are there is something about you that makes you awesome. So just be happy with you and ignore what others think.
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I feel like a man. Every time i like a guy (which isn't very often because im picky) im super interested and excited for about a month or two but once we start to get closer i start to push away. And its not that they suffocate me, its just I get bored and eventually disgusted by them . Our conversations start to bore me and he seems to become boring.
Its ruined a lot of good relationships for me and i think its beginning to ruin one right now..what is wrong with me? (link)
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Not a damn thing. You crave excitement and change. If he can't keep you entertained and try new things. He's not the one for you. I'm the same way. I always have to do something new and exciting. Everything from something big like skydiving to something small like trying new food. The good news is that you are happy with who you are. The bad news is, guys that aren't afraid of change are a rare breed.
Live fast die fun
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So my ex wants to be friends with benefits and i don't want to be at all i want to be the opposite actually but because i cant say no i agreed and so we were fighting for a bit but he started acting really sweet telling me not to be so hard on myself and that he really cared about me and that the only reason he broke up with me was because i didn't talk to him then asked me if when i get back from Thailand for 3 weeks if we could try again I once again said yes he was being so sweet and amazing i just couldn't help it but now he wants to go for a walk and do "stuff" if you know what I mean but that's really not what i want but once again me not being able to say no i agreed but the problem is that i really like this other guy and we've been getting really close he's amazing i'm not gonna get into details about him but he's exactly what i'm looking for and I think he's gonna ask me out soon (hopefully) but if we end up doing stuff it will wreck everything :'( anyways how the **** do i get out of this btw I've already ditched him twice and i have social anxiety which makes this all so much more difficult because well i have trouble talking ect. what do i do!? :( how do i get out of this?? :( (link)
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Why are you trippin on one guy... Sounds to me like you are more afraid of being alone than losing the new guy. The old guy is familiar so its easy to get sucked back in. Its what you are used to... but... You can't expect anything to be different if you don't make a change. That is the definition of insanity... Doing the same thing and expecting a different outcome. Here is a really crazy idea... LEAVE. Don't look back. Be alone for a lil while and learn to be happy by yourself. Until you are happy with you, you can't be happy with someone else. Learn to rely on making yourself happy. Once you accomplish that... Saying no won't be a problem. Then you can have a real relationship.
PS. He is your past for a reason there is a reason he didn't make it to your future. Leave him there. If you live in the past you will have no future.
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I'm Scared To Go To School. A Lot Of Things Happen There, And I'm Only In 7th Grade! Example: People Bring Drugs, Knives, Etc! The Other Day Someone Got Stabbed (That's What I Was Told) And Now I'm Scared To Go To School. I May Go To Homeschool In High School Throughout Then I May Go On An Online College.
But Anyways, I'm Scared. I Want To Move, But I Sort Of Want To Go To Home Schooling NOW. I Just Don't Know How To Tell Them In A Way So They Understand.
So What Do I Do? I'm Scared That Guy Will Go After Me Or Something. I Don't Really Want To Go To School Anymore :(. (link)
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There really is no other way to go about this other than just telling your parents you want to be homeschooled and explain why. This is actually very responsible of you. Ill be happy to help you find a homeschool program and information so you can at least have something to show your parents so they know you are legitimately afraid and that you are completely serious. My contact information is on my profile. Just click my name. Good luck. I'm rooting for ya kid. I'm here if you need the help.
On another note. I completely agree with Adviceman on this one. It will cut a ton of socialism out of your life.
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My ex and I were together for 5 years off and on. We broke up last september but continued to try to make things work up until november when he just stopped talking to me. He'd always break up with me and then go running back to his ex for a week or two and then come back to me expecting me to accept him and like an idiot I did. this went on for 5 years! Well a mutual friend texted me yesterday asking me if I knew that he was engaged and I completely fell apart. I'm pretty sure he's engaged to that girl and I always knew the day would come where he never came back but I guess I just always hoped he would. Well anyways I lost it and I feel completely heart broken I can't even talk to my current bf about it because I know he'll be like "you still love him? are you not happy with me?" and I really don't know why I feel so sad. I always thought in the end it would be me and him.. I just want to text him so bad and yell at him and tell him how much I hate him but I know that wouldn't solve anything. What did I do? (link)
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When you love someone you never truly get over them. They are always in the back of your mind. If you would like to actually talk about this. Feel free to add and message me. No amount of advice on this site will make you get over him. I can however help you learn how to put it out of your mind and move on with your life.
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I have spent 2 valentines day without someone, the last time I had a boyfriend was 2011, he jilted me and it really hurt, since then I haven't had a serious relationship and that's what I am looking for.. Since 2011,I have been with about 4 guys not basically a relationship but a fling or I just decide to say yes out of pity and then break up... I haven't found what I want, someone who would fill that space my very ex boyfriend left, someone who I would love and who would love me back... I don't club, or party, my 2 close friends think my life is boring, they have boyfriends and they always spend the week or vals day with them I just feel so left out, my roomates also have boyfriends, I'm very pretty, 5'5 and slim but I don't know why I can't get someone within the age of 25 to date me... Please tell me what to do its been 2yrs (link)
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This is not a problem you can just get an answer to. In order to correctly find the actual problem someone would have to actually talk to you and ask certain questions. I would like to chat more with you about this. If you are interested feel free to add me and message me on Facebook.
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So...I'm fifteen (female), and I have had a crush on this guy for a while. A couple days ago, I finally found the balls to go up and ask him out. Kind of. It was more of a confession than a question. So here's what I said: "I just wanted to tell you that I totally wouldn't refuse if you asked me out. Or, you could always say yes when I ask you to go ice skating with me." And then he said "okay" and he smiled at me.
At first, I thought that was a yes, but the next day, he practically ignored me (I think it's because he was with his friends), and when he wasn't with his friends, he kept giving me these anxious/awkward looks (they practically screamed "come talk to me", but I can't be sure). I don't know what to do next. Give him my number? Ask him out again? Give him a time and place for a date? All I know is that I'm not going to wimp out again...I'm going up as soon as I get back to school.
Any advice for when I do? (link)
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Guys love when a girl is straight forward. Shy/awkward is not attractive. Just ask him for his number and text him for a normal conversation about anything. Just don't talk about dating or anything at first. Talk about school, friends, family, anything. If he messages back quickly each time. That means he is interested and paying very close attention. What you did was put him in an awkward situation and he hasn't dealt with anything like that so he didn't know what to say. That's not a bad thing. That made you more interesting to him. Try to talk to him on a one on one basis. Then you don't have to deal with the male split personality thing between friends and girls. So long story short. Get the digits-> text->keep him entertained. Don't try too hard and end up looking desperate. Good luck.
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I'm 13 years old and i've had my period for a few years, I just used a tampon for the first time last night, I went to bed with it in, at about 2 pm the next day I tried to take it out and I was in tears the whole time, so I stopped and tried again in 30 minutes, I got it out, but it still felt like I was going to scream. It's about 10 pm and I haven't put one in. I'm not to fond of them, I can feel it, and it kind of hurts. I sit down and like, I know it's there. Please help.. (link)
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Sleeping with a tampon in is not ok. Using the same one for 24 hours is insanity. TSS or Toxic Shock Syndrome is not something to chance. It can effect fertility very quickly and cause death easily. TSS is a bacterial infection that attacks the body. It is not uncommon, just not often reported due to embarrassment. Yes Tampons can be uncomfortable but should never cause pain like you described. Never ever use a tampon for more than 4 hours unless its an emergency. Change it more often if you had a heavy flow. Use pads at night. Your life and health are not worth any chance percentage.
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whenever my in laws come over i got to my room, the kids are either younger or older than me and I'm 17. Am I wrong for going to my room ? (link)
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Nope. It is human nature to avoid awkward situations. You are fine and it's perfectly normal.
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My boyfriend and I took a lot of pictures for Valentines day, which all happen to be on his phone cuz my phone sucks and his is a lot better. So we were on our way to his soccer game and he had twenty minutes to warm up. I asked him if I could send myself some of the pictures from his phone and he said okay. So I was able to send myself one picture. I was basically attaching the rest of them all in one text. He is sitting right next to me putting his cletes about to go and warm up. He stops me and tells me he needs his phone im thinking uhm, you are about to warm up, you don't need your phone. So he says, it's my phone. I didn't even send the one I was attaching and gave it back. I was mad. he made me feel curious like what is he hiding? Then he tells me im wrong for being mad. Am I? (link)
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I agree with Lexi. That is a huge sign of being unfaithful. Here's a test for him. Take his phone. Run into the bathroom and lock the door. If he freaks out or tries to get in. He's cheating. You don't even have to look in his phone. His reaction will say everything.
Your welcome.
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Hi! I'm a 13 year old girl and I'm getting my ears pierced for my 14th birthday which is in a month. I don't have any other piercings or tattoos or anything like that and I'm just getting the regular ear lobe piercing on both ears, and I don't ever plan to get another piercing.
My whole family supports me and they think it's a great birthday thing, my Mum suggested bringing Panadol or something just in case I get a headache? I'm most likely getting it done at my local chemist or doctors office, so they will be done by a highly trained professional.
Is there anything very important I should know? Is there anything I should take with me? (link)
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I have many piercings and gauges. You should never do anything at all out of the ordinary for a piercing. Dizziness is common after a piercing. Its just part of the experience. Just sit there until you feel ok then stand up slowly just incase you start getting dizzy again. There really isn't anything to worry about. It doesn't really sting too bad and heals fairly quickly. Normally after 2 weeks you can change the earrings and after a month they are fully healed. Warning. Piercings can be addicting. Once you break that seal you are more susceptible to getting more. But that's not always bad. If it becomes something you like then that is just something that makes you , you. As for care, do not used straight peroxide. Piercing places normally give you a bottle of piercing cleaner. They do this because it is watered down peroxide. You can however make your own. 1 part water 2parts peroxide mix. Peroxide eats dead flesh. That is bad. You need that dead skin in order to heal. You are actually not supposed to use peroxide on open wounds past the initial injury. It cleans the first time. Any use after actually harms your skin and causes scarring.
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You should twist the piercing every couple hours to keep it from healing to the metal and irritating you. Hypoallergenic body jewelry is always good. The healthiest is bone, wood, and silicone. Never wear anything plated. Its coating wears off and can harm the skin.
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I have been dating my boyfriend for 2 years and a half now and I actually do love the kid, he's amazing and completely faithful and he loves me but I think Im falling for my best friend, the way he looks at me gives me butterflies and I cant help but blush whenever they mention his name, and I love talking to him and I feel like I melt when he looks me in the eyes and I notice the way he always stares at my lips when we're talking and then glances at my eyes every five seconds or so, I sometimes feel like I'm friend zoning him but he's never really actually told me he likes me like that and he likes some other girl or so he says. But, I have no idea what I should do, help ? (P.S this is the first time this has happened to me) (link)
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Normally I write a long response, but this is pretty straight forward and easy. If you love your boyfriend and he treats you right and is faithful, then it is your responsibility to give him the respect he deserves. You should not be spending time with another male that you have feelings for. You should not allow anything in your life that puts strain on your relationship. Good guys are hard to come by and it sounds like you have one. If you act on those feelings that. you should have avoided getting in the first place you will be hurting someone who didn't deserve it and once the deed is done you can't take it back. You risk loosing someone who treated you right. I suggest you put a lot of space between you and this friend very quickly.
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For a long time I haven't been able to feel anything meaning emotions . I really don't know what it is anymore I make myself think I feel emotions. But now I'm jst not happy at all anymore. I want to tell someone cause I can't even cry when i think of something sad. Maybe its cause my whole life I've been put down called fat ,stupid , & a lot more. I've had boyfriends but they never worked out. I'm just lost with everything at this point. I research about what I'm going though and anti-social personality disorder is the only thing that came up. I read about it & it kinda sounds like me. I've always felt like this but now its just getting worse. What I do.? (link)
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I somewhat respectively disagree with advicemans last paragraph. Depression is not something only a professional can fix. After all, a professional didn't make you feel that way. People can get depressed for many reasons. I get depressed from time to time. I don't go searching for a psychiatric doctor to fix it. You just have to find something to make you feel good about yourself. Take me for instance. 2 years age my wife cheated on me with my best friend. That was horribly devastating to me. I became self harming and actually did commit suicide. Luckily one of my good friends just happened to have to pee really bad and knew I would be home. He found me and saved my life. I became severely anti-social. Considering it was my job to be outgoing and fun, that was really bad. He forced me to go out to parties with him. At first I was miserable but over a couple weeks I started feeling better. I started talking to some of the GoGo dancers that I managed about what they do ti deal with their depression. most of them said they go to the gym and work out. So I myself never had gone to a gym and being very self conscious didn't like that idea. I did however start doing a weekly work out on my own at home. I actually started to enjoy it and now it is a daily thing. Not only that but I started feeling better about the way I looked and started going to gyms with the girls. I'm completely happy now because I not only feel better about my looks but I became a better friend/boss in the process and since my mind is busy with being social again, I don't even think about my ex.
Depression can be beaten. I would be more than happy to tell you figure out how you can beat it. I think with a lol coaching and a good friend to talk to, you will be happy again. If you would like to talk more feel free to add and message me on Facebook. Facebook.com/Mo.Ruthless
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