Question Posted Saturday February 16 2013, 2:36 am
For a long time I haven't been able to feel anything meaning emotions . I really don't know what it is anymore I make myself think I feel emotions. But now I'm jst not happy at all anymore. I want to tell someone cause I can't even cry when i think of something sad. Maybe its cause my whole life I've been put down called fat ,stupid , & a lot more. I've had boyfriends but they never worked out. I'm just lost with everything at this point. I research about what I'm going though and anti-social personality disorder is the only thing that came up. I read about it & it kinda sounds like me. I've always felt like this but now its just getting worse. What I do.?
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Health & Fitness category? Maybe give some free advice about: Mental health? ghostgirl7 answered Monday March 4 2013, 11:41 am: you got some pretty long advices which ofcource i was too fucking lazy to read so ill be quick.first of all being emotionless isnt an anti social disorder thing.i think that youre a sociopth,its pretty much a person with no emotions who likes to be alone.or may e a psychopath(doesnt mean ur a killer or anything) a psychopath is an emotionless person(can be very charming) who doesnt have any empathy for people(thats me ahah) but i really dont think ur anti social,iur probably a sociopeth,u do need a shrink i think :) haha [ ghostgirl7's advice column | Ask ghostgirl7 A Question ]
Siren_Cytherea answered Sunday February 17 2013, 2:31 pm: Antisocial personality disorder (ASPD) is described by the American Psychiatric Association's Diagnostic and Statistical Manual, fourth edition (DSM-IV-TR), as an Axis II personality disorder characterized by "...a pervasive pattern of disregard for, and violation of, the rights of others that begins in childhood or early adolescence and continues into adulthood." That is, people with ASPD tend to lack empathy, and not only have the ability to harm others (or themselves) with no remorse, but often do so. ASPD is also known as sociopathy/psychopathy. I have the feeling this is an incorrect diagnosis for you.
I'd agree with the general consensus that rather than a blatant disregard for others' basic human rights, or harming animals without feeling remorse or empathy, you are experiencing a form of clinical depression.
MoRuthless is correct in that some depression is situation-oriented, and the sufferer can, in fact, pull him/herself out of the rut, but clinical (that is, chemical) depression is different, and stems from a true chemical imbalance.
It's not "the blues," or what most people consider feeling depressed, it's a numbness, and exactly what you described. You can't really feel, you have thoughts of worthlessness and helpless/hopelessness.
I wholeheartedly agree that if this is what you're feeling, rather than trying to diagnose yourself, go see a professional. Tell them what you've told us. If nothing else, at least see your general doctor/primary care physician and tell him (or her). He can refer you to a psychiatrist, if necessary, and you may be able to get the help you need.
But do leave the diagnosing to the professionals.
MoRuthless answered Saturday February 16 2013, 9:37 pm: I somewhat respectively disagree with advicemans last paragraph. Depression is not something only a professional can fix. After all, a professional didn't make you feel that way. People can get depressed for many reasons. I get depressed from time to time. I don't go searching for a psychiatric doctor to fix it. You just have to find something to make you feel good about yourself. Take me for instance. 2 years age my wife cheated on me with my best friend. That was horribly devastating to me. I became self harming and actually did commit suicide. Luckily one of my good friends just happened to have to pee really bad and knew I would be home. He found me and saved my life. I became severely anti-social. Considering it was my job to be outgoing and fun, that was really bad. He forced me to go out to parties with him. At first I was miserable but over a couple weeks I started feeling better. I started talking to some of the GoGo dancers that I managed about what they do ti deal with their depression. most of them said they go to the gym and work out. So I myself never had gone to a gym and being very self conscious didn't like that idea. I did however start doing a weekly work out on my own at home. I actually started to enjoy it and now it is a daily thing. Not only that but I started feeling better about the way I looked and started going to gyms with the girls. I'm completely happy now because I not only feel better about my looks but I became a better friend/boss in the process and since my mind is busy with being social again, I don't even think about my ex.
Depression can be beaten. I would be more than happy to tell you figure out how you can beat it. I think with a lol coaching and a good friend to talk to, you will be happy again. If you would like to talk more feel free to add and message me on Facebook. Facebook.com/Mo.Ruthless [ MoRuthless's advice column | Ask MoRuthless A Question ]
texasaggieprincess answered Saturday February 16 2013, 12:43 pm: It sounds to me like you're more depressed than anything. Society has really put a a negative stigma on being "depressed" therefore a lot of people who have it either refuse to admit it and seek help or they just believe its when you're at the point of suicide. Depression is a real disease and its not just associated with suicide. A friend of mine was clinically diagnosed with depression and you couldn't even tell. She seemed very happy when we talked but she told me some stories about how sometimes she can't wait to get home cause she's sick of being around people. And how relationships never work out because she never feels any real emotions towards anyone she dates because she's just in this sad state all the time. She said that she just got to the point where not caring about anything was easier than putting emotion into something and watching it fail. Anyway my point is that you won't really know until you seek help and I 100% advice that. Even if its just talking to a friend a parent or even better a therapist you should definitely do it. [ texasaggieprincess's advice column | Ask texasaggieprincess A Question ]
adviceman49 answered Saturday February 16 2013, 12:39 pm: I'm not a doctor, none of us are so making any type of diagnoses is just not possible. What I will say is after reading what you have written it sounds more like you are suffering from depression then anti-social behavior. Some of the symptom of one manifest in the other.
You say, "I've been put down called fat ,stupid , & a lot more." I've been there suffered from it and have the mental scars to prove it. Being overweight is a symptom of depression more than anti-social behavior. We eat not because we are hungry, we eat just to feel good about something.
It took me a very long time to realize this about myself and some other things had to happen in my life before I woke up to the fact that I had a problem and that problem was severe depression.
What happened was I was nearly killed in a traffic accident. As part of the treatment for my injuries I was required to work with a psychologist who would help me deal with the chronic pain I will suffer with for the rest of my life and all the changes the accident will and has caused in my life.
In treatment with her she recognized my depression and had me see a psychiatrist for medication. I credit her with saving my life. I was dealing sort of with the depression in my own way. With the added stress of the accident and the pain I now live with; had she not diagnosed my depression I doubt I would be here to answer your question.
Depression is a horrible, horrible illness. Fact is you are not crazy you are medically ill as your body is not making enough of one or two hormones needed to help you deal with those things that keep you from getting truly depressed. A certain amount of depression for realistic reasons are normal. For what you may be suffering and from what I suffered it is not normal.
There are medications to help the body manufacture the proper amount of these hormones. Since these hormones are secreted into the brain a Board Certified psychiatrist is the best doctor to treat this illness along with a psychologist for talk therapy.
I could be 100% wrong in thinking you are suffering from depression though I don't think I am. Regardless; which ever illness you are suffering from you cannot get better on your own it takes professional help.
With the right help you will feel better about yourself. You will be able to diet and loose wait if that is what you want to do. But it starts with a trip to a Board Certified psychiatrist for evaluation and proper drug therapy. Then finding a therapist you are comfortable with. Someone that you can talk openly and freely with. Someone you can trust to tell you deepest darkest secrets knowing they will go no farther than the room you two are speaking in. [ adviceman49's advice column | Ask adviceman49 A Question ]
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