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Hi everyone! I'm 12 years old (female) and I started junior high awhile ago.
Today, i've had trouble with this girl and she seems really mad at me. Anyways, I tried saying sorry to her of what I did but it just didn't come up. She's in the same grade as me. I would tell someone she's picking on me, but I CAN'T and I WON'T. I know it would be better for me, but I can't. I can't and I won't.
So I was thinking these options but I don't know which one to choose and I was hoping you can help me choose the right decision for me and tell me what's wrong with the other option:
1.) Home Schooling - I've had home schooling in mind since 4th grade. I was going to talk to my mom about getting homeschooled, but I don't know if I should do this or the other option.
2.) Schedule Change - I was thinking about going to our school principal and have her change my schedule (Yes, i'm able to do that) because I have 2 periods with her, 1 period with her friend (She's in one the girl's periods), and 1 with her other friend (She's also in one of her periods. We have Science and Math together and I just don't want her in them. What option should I choose and why/why not?
Thank you for the help and sorry if this is long I really just need help
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Well, I would be able to help you on a greater level if you tell me why you "can't" or "won't" tell the principle, but here's what I would do. Go talk to that girl who's mad at you and ask her why she's mad at you. If you already know, then ask her what you can do to make it up to her. If she overreacts and gets even madder, then you just stay calm and be nice to her, all the time. Even if she yells at you, bothers you, whatever, just smile, don't look at her. You get what I mean? No matter the circumstances, be nice to her. She will eventually stop and/or ask you what is wrong with you =D
but anyways, niether of those options are a good idea. You need to confront your problems head-on, not run away from them. That just makes them worse. You also shouldn't have to change your schedule because of ONE PERSON and her friends. It shows weakness, the smaller person. You need to confront her (not angrily) and try to fix it, because that's where the source of the problem is.
I hope I helped :) and please, let me know what happens at melanielovesdylanobrien@gmail.com because I want to know very badly!
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My best friend's full name is Amanda, but she has been going by Mandi her whole life, so nicknames for just Amanda dont really work... I've been trying to think of a cute, creative nickname for her...any help??? thunkya :P (link)
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I have a friend named Amanda, and I name her Deedee. Try that, she might like it idk
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Ok well I wanna kill myself but I know Its wrong and today was the 1st time I actually did anything about it*i took a few pills* well now I'm feeling really sick I guess I took at about an hour or 2 ago. Anyway I was sexualy abused by my brother in law when I was 9 turning 10 I am 12 and only this year I've been wanting my life to end. Its all mixed up I know that's in it but its my love life to I cry because of that because the guy I love doesn't knowi exsist(he's 18 his 14 year od brother likes me)and other things I've kept inside 2 lng anyway how can I just stop this feeling of wanting to kill myself,feeling sick,and stop being depressed (link)
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Ok, first of all I do not understand your question at all. I read your question 3 times and still, the only part I understand is the pills part. You should really work on that.
About the advice, and you might think this is completely stupid and you might not even consider it, but it really is more than worth a try.
Theres a pastor in Houston Texas who can help. His name is Joel Osteeen. He preaches in a HUGE building every Sunday and there must be over 10,000 people there. He has a show on the church channel of him preaching. With whatever tv network you have, search his name and you'll find it. It goes on at around 11:30 pm. If you don't want to do that, you can just look him up on YouTube and watch him there. Tell me what you think after you watch, if you even watch at all. Please, email me at melanielovesdylanobrien@gmail.com and tell me what you think. He will change your way of thinking and motivate you to be positive about everything.
He also has a (I guess you would say) series of books that are honestly, life changing. I strongly believe that it'll help if you really listen to what he has to say.
Honey, I hope I have made a huge difference in your life (indirectly of course) and I wish you good luck :)
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Okay, so here's the background story: My best friend (We'll call him John) and I spent basically all summer together and went on a week-long mission trip together where we got even closer. I liked him all through the summer and mission trip, but I put it aside because John has a girlfriend. Because he's my best friend, I was having drama with another guy a couple weeks after the trip and was venting to him about it. When I said I was done with the other guy, John started hinting that he liked me.
So finally I find out from him that he had liked me too over the summer and it strengthed even more over mission trip. But here's the problem: I'm away at my first year of college, and he is still a senior in high school with a girlfriend. When I asked him about her, he said "Yeah, we're still dating, but I don't know for how much longer." John keeps telling me all these things that are wrong with his current relationship (they have broken up 3 different times over the past few years) but still hasn't done anything about it. We talk every day and are still best friends, but I can't keep doing this knowing that he hsa a girlfriend. It is torture to me, knowing that I can't have him. What should I do? (link)
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It seems like both of you are comfortable with sharing your feelings with each other, so even though it seems wrong, I think you should tell him that you want to be with him, but are holding back because you respect the fact that he has a girlfriend. But you also said that he himself is not sure that they will be together for much longer, so you should also ask him if he still has feelings for her, and if he does he should fight for it. At least that way you'll know whether you can move on or not.
I hope I've told you something you didn't already know :) good luck!
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My hair was long but I got some weave sewn into my head and it was really tight when I took it out 3 weeks later, my hair was shorter especially in the back. What can I do to help my hair grow under a wig?
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Ok I'm sick of reading weave over and over again On here and I know this is the same damn person and I also know that every single girl that does weaves doesn't know how to take care of her hair. So here you go. If you think this is rude, don't keep reading. -.-
Stop doing weaves, and wigs, anything else that pulls on your hair at all! Just stop! You put fake hair on your head to try to stretch the hair to "make it grow" when you're really just pulling it out and you still think, after seeing it falling out, that it's helping it grow. What the hell? Newsflash! It's not! I have another idea and frankly I really don't care if you give me a 1 or not because I'm intentionally being rude here.
Ever since I was 8, my mom started to put relaxers in. If you don't agree, stop reading. A relaxer, or perm, as everyone insists on calling it, is a chemical creme used to "relax," or chemically straighten, your hair permanently. Notice how I said YOUR hair. If you do a relaxer, it would be straight up stupid to put a wig on afterword. Or weave. That's like eating then throwing up right after.
Putting relaxers in is a dedicated process. You have to do it every 3 months (be as exact as you can) or your hair will fall out. I know it sounds wrong, but it's kind of like watering a plant. If you don't keep giving it water, it will eventually wilt and die. But, if you keep doing it, it will grow and stay healthy. Same thing with relaxers.
Now, don't go out and do a relaxer once and then conveniently "forget" the part where I said you MUST do it every 3 months.
My hair looks better than it did 6 years ago, when I was 8. It's still thick, voluminous, and when it grows, it's more obvious, since I still do my relaxers.
I hope you stop asking the same damn question, listen to me and actually do it. Good luck -.-
Questions? Are you angry? Email me at melanielovesdylanobrien@gmail.com
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Hello, I just recently ordered a wig for a costume and it's about to the base of my neck and it came with two seperate pigtails that touch my ankles. Unfortunately, when I took it out of the package to hang it up, one of them fell and now is tangled up so terribly and I tried to brush it, but so much hair is falling out and it's making me nervous. Is there any way to brush tangles out of it without ripping out huge wads of hair? (I tried spray in conditioner, but it made it sort of sticky...) (link)
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Comb, not brush, from bottom to top. Gradually go up until you're at the scalp.
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I'm going to try to shorten this the best I can. It'll probably end up really long though..
Ever since the end of my freshman year I had a thing for my friend. He's 20 and I'll be 18 next month. I already graduated from high school and I'm about to go to the same college as him.
So pretty much, I've had a thing for him for 3 years.
We became really close my sophomore year. I had a boyfriend at the same and he helped me with some of those problems.
During my junior year we started texting a lot more. Eventually we told each other how we felt. It was complicated because we weren't sure what to do since he was leaving in January. He said we'd talk about it the next day, we didn't. We didn't talk about it for a couple weeks. I just thought he gave up on me and I became interested in someone else. Eventually I start dating someone else and he gets mad. We ended up becoming friends again though.
I had suspicions on my boyfriend cheating on me and I always went to him for help so he called me and we talked all night on the phone. He told me he still had feelings for me and he wished I was older so that we could be together, stuff like that. He said a bunch of sweet stuff.
Maybe a month later, while I was at their house, he and I hooked up. No sex, just making out and a little more.
After that, he ended up leaving and he'd text me a lot and call me and talk about his life in college. One phone convo ended badly though. He kept talking and talking..I can't exactly remember what happened. Then I said I was gonna go and he said, "Oh ok." I said, "Bye" He said, "I love you" I said, "Bye.." Afterward I ended up crying. I guess something he said hurt me. Then he texted me saying, "I'm so done with you."
We don't talk for 3 months and he texts me and he said that he needed time to grow up. So we became friends again.
He comes home during the summer, we hook up again like 3 more times.
He leaves, we stop talking. I start seeing someone else. Then he texts me again asking about the new guy. No mention of feelings or anything. Maybe a month later he asked if me and my boyfriend have made out. I said yes and he gets all upset. I was clueless.
From then on, we kept it as a friends thing. Until we start talking a lot more like 2 months ago. Like a week before he came home he told me that he still has feelings for me, he wants to try again, no games. I figured it was because he was lonely and his friends had girlfriends or he was homesick. So I kinda just blew that off then he came home and everything was cool. We'd hang out and all that. Then one day he gets so cold. He stops talking to me, hardly looks at me, doesn't text me or anything. I asked him what happened. He told me he didn't feel the same as he did before. I cried in the bathroom for like an hour..
I didn't talk to him for maybe two weeks. Then he texted me saying he missed me. Then we become friends again. We ended up making out again like 2 weeks ago.
At this point, I'm not sure what to do. He hardly texts me and I feel like it's going to be the same thing again. We probably talk like once or twice a week. I feel like I'm in some dramatic movie. I know I should probably call it off but I don't have the guts to do it. I care about him way too much. I haven't texted him, I'm really stubborn.
We're going to the same school at the end of this month. Should I just wait and see and not text him? I don't want to make myself look like I want him if he doesn't want me. I'm thinking maybe he texts me and we start reminiscing about our past, I'll say that I don't want to mess around anymore. I want something more serious.
Idk..and this whole thing between us is a secret. I'm really close to his family..they only know we use to like each other 2 years ago. So I really don't have anyone to talk to about this.
Sorry it was so long. I felt the need to explain everything so you could get a better picture of him and how he is. (link)
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I totally agree with the last person on every way. I couldn't have said it better myself.
One thing to add though;
Don't think "what if". Stop. Be confident, put your damn foot down and go talk to him seriously and like the adult that you are. Don't text him. Do it in person, the DAY you get there. Don't let him slip out of your fingers. He has told you he's had feelings for you, and you treated him as if you didn't care. Don't do that. It will make him want to get away from you. You're causing him to lose interest. It wa because of your own lack of confidence. Do something to boost your confidence right before you talk to him.
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I decided to write down everything that I have been feeling lately so that I can better understand my emotions:
-I get stressed really easily.
-I have trouble adjusting to change.
-I’m hypersensitive to every little thing I do. It was brought to my attention that sometimes I say things that offend people, but I don’t mean it to or even notice it. Now, I constantly worry and fixate on instances where I think I may have made someone feel uncomfortable. It makes me feel like I shouldn’t see people because I am going to do something embarrassing or stupid.
-I envy other people.
-I try to overcompensate for my insecurities.
-I am afraid people are judging me.
-I feel lonely frequently.
-I have trouble taking control of my emotions.
-I feel like I’m always forgotten.
-I crave attention from others for validation.
-I feel like people take me for granted, and I question how much people actually care about me.
-My emotions are very up and down. I feel happy sometimes, but when I’m alone and have time to think, I just feel sad and negative inside.
-I tried to reach out to my boyfriend many times, but he just got frustrated and angry with me every time I wasn’t happy. I try to hide it or not talk about it when I’m with him because he either doesn’t listen to me or he gives me the impression that doesn’t really want to hear about what I have to say because he ignores me. I’m afraid that if I stay like this, he won’t want to be with me anymore. I told him that I was thinking about going to therapy, and he was all for the idea. I am too, but at the same time, deep down I feel like he just doesn't want to deal with me being this way and just wants to push it off to someone else.
All I want to know is... does anyone have tips for me to change my attitude towards life? I feel that if I change the way I react or perceive things, it would be the best way to end my sadness or at least allow me to feel more content with myself.
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This sounds just like me a year ago. I was exactly like that but didn't have a boyfriend or enough money for therapy :) Here's what I did;
1) Get away from people like your boyfriend. (sorry) He doesn't seem to care about you like a boyfriend should. He is causing you to have even more negative thoughts. Surround yourself with people that will encourage you to be the best you can be. For example, if you have a "friend" that tells you to suck it up or deal with it when you're sad, then don't associate yourself with that person anymore. Simply put.
2) Find a hobby or something like that to relax you when you are feeling especially angry, sad, or neglected/ignored. For me it's sports. I played tennis in winter at my last school. Guess when I moved away from dad (I'm a daddy's girl) with my mom and brother and my parents decided to divorce? Winter. You have no idea how angry and overlooked I felt when no one was listening to me. Tennis is my drug. I escape from my human body and go somewhere much more peaceful. Then, I just focus on the ball. I win every game when I play like that. You should find something that does the same thing to you.
3) Watch Joel Osteen on YouTube or on tv. He's a very inspirational priest. He has a few books that he wrote too. In fact right now, I'm reading "Your best life now" by him. I'm not kidding when I say it will change your life.
In a few months, tell me if it worked or not. I would really like to know. Email me at melanielovesdylanobrien@gmail.com
Good Luck!
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is it normal for a woman to see her periods twice in a month? (link)
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That depends; was your last one late? If not then maybe you won't have your period the next month at all. Then the month after that it will go back to normal. But if you have 2 periods every month, that's probably not normal. You should wait a month to see if the above happens but if it's been happening fo. A few months now already, then you should go to a gynocologist.
Good luck and I hope I helped :)
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I have been dealing with drama with a former friend. She is harassing me, stalking me, threatening me with calling the police on me for stuff I didn't do or say to her. She is falsely accused me of things of things I didn't do or say. I have not had any contact with he since May. I have left her alone since May as she wanted nothing to do with me anymore. I have respected her wishes and made no contact on any sites, etc. She changed her email address and all because someone hacked into her account. Not me of course. Ignoring her isn't the answer as she and her friends are spying on me on sites and harassing me. There is one site that won't do anything about the bullying and harassment. I;m tired of it. I have been saving what is going on and I'm tired of being the victim of bullying and harassment. I have left this ex friend alone and she is falsely accusing me of contacting her through various sources which isn't true. I have left her alone. She also promised not to harass and bother me and mention me in her stuff and she lied. She is getting people to harass me and make fun of me. Especially my weight and she once posed as someone she isn't and harassed making up stuff that isn't true. She denied it at first, but confessed to the crime and has since stalked or is getting people to stalk and harass men on different sites. I'm tired of this. and ignoring her just adds fuel to the fire cuz she can do as she pleases. I have a friend who is friends with both me and this person and she is in the middle of this and she is in between this mess and doesn't want part of it. I'm tired of the harassment and stalking and bulling from this person. I am not sure what to do at this point. I have saved everything what this person is doing/saying about me along with her friends who have been stalking, spying and harassing me as well as bullying me. I want this to end. This person threatened with police action and I am innocent and not doing anything wrong and have left the woman alone. I don't get why she can't leave me alone and out of her life and her stuff and why she's harassing and stalking and spying on me. If she's not doing it, she is having someone else do it. I am not sure about filing a report on this person. What should I do?
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I don't know if they really do this or not, but you should go to a police office and report her and ask them to give you one of those microscopic cameras that you wear on your collar or something like that and document some stuff for a week. Make sure it's on when she's harrasing you and then give the police the footage and have her arrested. Simple as that. As for the stalking, you may have to go to someone else's house and leave in disguise to the police station. I don't know. Be creative with that part of it.
I hope I helped and good luck! Let me know how it turns out :)
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I'm a 20 year old girl and I've found myself in what seems to be a fairly unique situation... I've recently made a guy friend, who was limited to being a friend since day one because he made it very clear he was interested in one of my friends(very much my opposite).Our friendship got really strong really quickly.But I'm not sure where the boundaries are, I find myself attracted to him, and its not helping that we sometimes sleep in the same bed. If he didn't constantly remind me of how much he likes this friend of mine, I would have though he was flirting... We talk all day, most days, and I spend every free hour with him... There's a constant sexual tention, but that might just be from my side.Really hoping there's someone who understands this situation. Thanks :/ (link)
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I really don't have enough details here, but I think he is just playing mind games with you. He's probably one of those sick men who get off doing stuff like that. And what? Sleeping in the same bed? Definately not enough details in that area to help at all. You should add more information and then I'll edit this answer. I really would like to know what is going on, I'm interested lol and this sounds familiar.
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ok here goes nothing.. ok me and my finance have been dater ang on an off for 3 yrs. and just last night i asked him about his daughter an wanted to search her on facebook but don't have one. ok now i asked him about the mom and that's when things changed.? he didn't want to tell me about her.and i was wondering whatsb up with this . i mean i don't know what to think . i jst knnow he's very nice to me and gives me the world . i just don't know what to think. please help . thank you delores i'm 43 female and he is 38 male i from the united states i am an american. (link)
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Just say once and only once that whenever he's ready, to tell you when he wants to and that he can tell you anything and that you won't make fun of him or judge him and leave it at that. Don't bring it up again. That will just annoy him. When he tells you, and I'm sure he will at his own time, then there you go. I'm sure it's not so bad that he can't trust you with it I mean aren't you his fiancé? You should be able to tell each other everything anyways so just say that. And make sure you don't keep asking! Do NOT do that, horrible idea.
Good luck being patient lol
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[Long question, I know, but I felt I had to give you enough details to really know what I'm talking about. I'm being 100% genuine and would extremely appreciate help because I have nobody else to talk to about this and it's just.. I can't even describe how I feel]
My older sister became sick 3 years ago, with some kind of mental disorder.my family has no history of mental illness, and my sister had been fine all 16 years before. in fact, she was on the track to going towards her dream school, stanford. she always did really good at school and everything, so she wasn't dull in any way. but anyways, she started becoming more reserved (and not fun and confident like she used to be) and hearing voices and then she'd act out by running away. like it really started one day when she was out at a store with my mom and she ran away and the police had to go find her. from that day she started going to a therapist. then one day she jumped through the window on the first floor of my house, in the middle of the night, and then from that day she started going to a psychiatrist, and started getting medicine for psychotic depression and schizophrenia. so from then, it's pretty much been crazy and really stressful on my family. like she'd act out in other ways and we had to stop her from trying to run away from the house a couple of times. one time me, my mom, and my cousin had to hold her down but it's like she had so much strength like she was on adrenaline or something. it was really difficult. and then when talking to her she often didn't make sense. after the window incident she went to a mental hospital for a month, and when she got back she went in school for a little, and then had to come out again. and then my family relocated to another state, cause of my dad's job. she stayed home for the rest of the year and repeated it at a new school and graduated and did really well, despite her situation. she even got a full scholarship to a good uni nearby, and partial scholarships to even more prestigious places (wellesley and smu). she went to the one nearby cause of cost and since it was so nearby, and had to drop out after it became harder to manage her illness with her schoolwork. like the medicines she was on would make her sleep too long, or not be able to sleep, and other side effects. my sister had been put on numerous different medicines from the time this all started, but none of them worked. none of them really improved things. all they did was cause side effects, like one of them made her appetite increase a lot so she gained a lot of weight, and she was skinny before. and other things, like high school was hard cause nobody knew what she was going through and could only see that she was acting funny. sometimes i wish i could go back and punch people or something, cause they didn't know anything about her and how this isn't truly who she is and everything. but yeah. i'm glad i finally graduated this year, i hated that place in general.
but in time, my parents found out that this whole thing that happened to my sister was witchcraft. my parents are from cameroon, and a lot of our extended family is in cameroon, as well as america and a few european countries. my dad is the most succeessful person in his family, cause he worked really hard in school and got a full scholarship to a top british uni, where he got up to his PhD. (excuse me for not giving too many details, this is already really personal for me to say, I don't want to get too specific on the internet, but I will share what I think is necessary with this question). my dad's family is polygamous (a normal thing from the past. it was a necessity, cause women didn't have opportunities to get educated. and we're christians, btw), so his family is pretty big. apparently someone in his family was jealous of him, and tried to kill him through witchcraft, but it ended up affecting my sister instead. my dad's family apparently has roots in witchcraft, with his dad being a wizard as well as a couple other people in his family. i know, it sounds crazy, cause I never thought such a thing could be real, but the more I learn about this, the more I, unfortunately, have to believe. (even a really good psychriatrist my sister had agreed with such a thing, cause she said that she had never had a patient like my sister before, who didn't respond well to any medication, so what she had could have occured from other means, and not naturally). my dad isn't a wizard, though. I don't know how that works, and my dad doesn't either, since he's not involved with that sort of thing. and by the way, my dad is a very good man. I feel extremely lucky that I got someone as hardworking and sincere as my dad (I like my mom, too, but I felt I had to defend my dad here incase due to his family, you were starting to feel negatively about him). but yeah, the guy who tried to kill him is his half-brother, and apparently he was angry over something stupid. my parents give a lot of money to relatives back in cameroon who need financial help, like they're not greedy or anything. sometimes my sister and I even gave clothes that didn't fit us anymore to relatives back home. I did so about 2 months ago, actually. so, this guy that did withcraft to my family was mad cause they were building a new house on the compound like more than a decade ago, and my dad decided to pay other building people for less money than he was demanding, cause he's also a builder person (contractor? sorry I don't know the word). but just to help the guy out, my dad also assigned him a role, even though it didn't mean he had to do anything. it was just a way so he'd get some money. but apparently he had been mad over that and jealous of my dad's success, I guess? so he did this bad thing to my family and it had been like.. under wraps for a long time. I don't know how my parents became aware of it.
so with all this craziness, my mom, sister, and I even tried going to see well known "miracle" people in brazil and nigeria, last year. nothing changed. so this year, my sister dropped out of college and went to cameroon to get helped by traditional healers. in cameroon now she's off her medicine, and apparently she's improving. that's where it's at now. i hope to god that it helps her all the way and she can become mentally stable and start to put her life together again here in america. and it's just so frustrating cause I can't talk to anyone about it and it's just caused so much stress in my family, and we didn't deserve this at all, especially my sister. i just want to be able to talk to her again like normal, like it used to be. i have a younger brother and now it feels like i have to act like the older sister and it's just weird. i really miss being able to talk and joke with my sister cause she's the only person around my age who truly understands me, cause my family has moved around (in different countries) a couple times, and especially with this new move, i just feel really lonely. its scary that instead of me looking at my sister as a role model she is now looking for me to be successful. all this craziness i'm sure has affected me negatively cause shes past 2 years have just been hell and i think i've been kind of depressed myself cause of multiple factors. not anywhere like my sister had, but i've even been to 2 therapists and don't feel too different. so i guess i'm causing all the ill in my life but it's like i'm allowing myself to self destruct for some reason and i dont know why. i hope i hadn't had witchcraft inflicted on me either. but idk i'm just going to have to try to fight whatever is causing me to do this on my own.
but yeah i just needed a place to share this, and while sometimes i've doubted my christian faith, cause i'm a pretty liberal person, and a lot of other liberal people embrace atheism, but with all this evil going on, how can i not believe in good? if the devil exists, and demons, doesn't that mean god exists, too? it's frustrating cause people act like witchcraft isnt a real thing but it's like.. i'm seeing this right now with my family. if my sister is cured by the traditional doctors then that will be the ultimate proof. it's just all weird, though. i just hate that guy in my dad's family for doing that. i dont understand what makes people evil. my parents give generously to people in need, when we don't even have to. like my family even doesnt go on big vacations or w/e like a lot of other americans do, despite us being really upper middle class. i'm just frustrated right now, and idk if all this mess has had an effect on my self esteem and that's why i've been doing self destructive things. and sorry this question is all over the place, but what am I supposed to feel? what does this all mean? i'm so confused and mad and frustrated in everything (link)
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Ok I know this will probably not even help at all but it's definately worth a try. I know what it's like to want to talk to someone desperately & not have anyone & it sucks so here you go :)
I think you should get yourself a HUGE journal & write in it. Whether it's poetry, diary entries or theraputic stories, you need one. Trust me, it helps. You should sit outside your front door & write. Make it the only place you ever write. The reason why I say sit outside is because it'll make you more comfortable with the outdoors.
Please, feel free to email me at melanielovesdylanobrien@gmail.com and trust me, the longer your message is the better :) so pour your heart out, I'm all ears. I may not know much about whichcraft or anything like that but I know about how much your own inner feelings can affect you. It's powerful, so here I am.
Can't wait to hear from you :)
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The guy I've been off and on with for 3 years (mostly on with a few breakups)is not the perfect guy for me in just a few ways. All these ways have nothing to do with personality. He is addicted to rescription pills and just about any drug when he gets in his lows. I've constantly tried to help him but he always pushes me away and then comes back.Fact is, I was probably enabling him more than helping him back then.
Last time he relapsed (a month and a half ago) after going 90 days clean and being in rehab, I figured enough was enough and ended it. He keeps coming back here and then saying he still loves me. And it sucks cause I still am SO in love with him but know I can't be with him.
I'm just hoping for some advice on moving on. I know the first step is accepting the decision to and I'm having trouble doing that. I keep wishing that he would just get clean and we could be together. This guy is like perfect for me personality wise. We click so well and only ever fight about the drugs. Plus we have an insane physical attraction that I'm also missing :/ I feel like I'm never gonna get through this. I just really really crave to be happy again. I can't stand this pain :( (link)
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Well, since everyone here is going to tell you to leave him, I'm gonna help you with ACTUALLY doing just that, because neither of the others realized that you were asking "I want to know how" and not "but I don't want to..." so here it is:
I'm 14 & I have never had a boyfriend :) but I do know a lot about getting over someone. I have a big crush on this guy and he got a girlfriend THE SAME F***ING DAY THAT I WAS ABOUT TO ASK HIM OUT!!! So, to get over that guy, this is what I did. I sat in my room, with my computer off, phone off, tv off, everything off except the light. I sat there and I just meditated, and left only 1 thought in my head: him. Jeremy. Then as I closed my eyes, I started to see some really AHEM attractive guys that I knew running through my mind and I'm not saying that I started to like those guys but they got my mind off of him. It reminded me that there were hotter and more loyal and trustworthy than Jeremy. After a couple of days, it had an effect. After about a little over a week, I was over him. After the first couple of times meditating, I just sat and thought about why it was I actually liked him. I focused on the "why" and not the "why not" like I used to. It will take longer for you of course because you used to be with this guy and not admiring from afar but I'm confident that it can still work for you. :) Besides, the same thing happened to me with another guy only a month ago and it still works for me! so yeah... My life sucks.
Don't give up on yourself, & of course don't give up on him, but that doesn't mean that you get back with him. That is the worst thing you can do now. You would be showing him that he can manipulate you. You don't want that, trust me!!!
So there you go, and I hope you try this made-up-yet-fool-proof trick of mine. I wish you the best of luck :)
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I wanted to know why I feel so alone and always second best. I have a few obvious reasons. My mother and I have always had a rocky relationship. Ever since my body started to develop as well as my own personality she has made fun of me. She wouldn't allow me to wear certain things my younger sister was able to wear. She also favored her more. I don't know if it was because her dad was married to my mom and she pretends to not know where my dad is. I turned to a life of drugs and prostitution at the age 17 because I was homeless. Either she was kicking me out or I couldn't take it and ran away. I still communicate with her but she doesn't make since to me. Everything she says is :i tried my best" "i just want my kids to be happy" and then turns around and does nothing to accomplish a healthy mature relationship with me after everything we have been through. (link)
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My mom and dad just got divorced 7 months ago and for a while I kept telling myself that it didn't bother me. I blamed my mom for this. I thought she was to blame for every reason that caused them to divorce. She didn't listen to what he had to say, she was selfish and inconsiderate towards him when he looked for a job for her. We moved away, back to our hometown. We left my dad behind because he didn't want to go back with us. I wanted to stay with him but my mom was being a selfish hypocrite and didn't want to "leave her baby behind". The whole time we've spent with our mom here, I've been ice cold to her, for "no reason" even when she gave me a compliment. Every SINGLE tiny little thing she did made me want to ram her head into the wall! Constantly I thought like this. About 2 months ago, though, I broke down and cried. She asked what was wrong, and like every other time I cried, I pushed her away and said, "If you really cared, we wouldn't be here!" the only thing that happened differently was that she forced me to tell her really what was happening inside my head. When I didn't talk, she guessed. I kept saying no to every one of her guesses, thinking there was nothing wrong I just got so ashamed of myself for wanting to hurt her that I cried. But when she said, "is it about your father?" I froze. I realized something about myself. The divorce was eating away at me, and I couldn't do anything for a while. All I did was get mad and cry. for a while I didn't know why.
I guess my point is I felt better after I talked to my mom, as furious and reluctant as I was. She made me realize the things that I didn't even know. Along with many, many, MANY other problems I had, no, HAVE with her still. They all came out. I'm not saying it will "magically help you solve every little problem you have with your mommy" because that's just pure bullshit. It COULD happen. I will guarantee, though, that you will fell free if you let every single little problem or worry out into the open. You'll definitely feel better. But i'm not here to sugarcoat it for you. I'm here to help. You should give it a try :)
Good Luck :)
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my life is having lot of problems and these problems do not having solutions then can you give mobile no to share with some problems (link)
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Sure you can email me at melanielovesdylanobrien@gmail.com I would love to talk :)
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Me and a group of friends decided that me and a guy would pretend date to pull a prank on his sister. She's really nosey and gives him no privacy, so I figured I would help him out and teach her a lesson on minding her own buisiness. (I am close friends with the sister) But a problem came along... I fell for the guy. Like I don't even think of it as pretend dating anymore. What do I do? (link)
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I think you should tell him that you like him. But make sure you pick a good time. You might want to wait until you can see that he doesn't think it's pretend anymore either. Trust me, it's like a huge load off your chest. Listen to your heart on this one. (meaning, decide for yourself whether you should or shouldn't) Things like that usually end the same way. The "pretend" couple usually ends up falling for each other. But if this is not the case, don't worry. His loss. And it might get awkward between you two
You might also want to make sure you like him because you're attracted, not just because you're already being put into the situation of being a couple, and you get all these feelings that aren't really there, if that makes any sense. To do this, sit down somewhere, close your eyes and think about him, what you like about him. Think past what you do as a pretend couple. That will show you if you truly like him.
Good luck :)
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Can anybody tell me what video this gif of Harry Styles is from?
http://1dpicturessssss.tumblr.com/post/10923909297/temper-tantrum-harry-hahaha
Thanks! (link)
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Never mind. You're welcome.
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Hey 18(almost 19/f) So I have been with my boyfriend just short of three years. I love him more than I have loved anyobe else in my life. I truly believe we have a long future together. However there's just one problem,sex. I lost my virginity to him when I was almost 17.(he was a virgin too) It was extremely awkward and just didnt go to plan. After that we tried a few more times but with the same result. I put it down to not being ready so we put it off for another while. We never really have sex just mess around but when we try its just painfully disappointing. It doesnt feel like anything to me?!No pain or pleasure I just feel a weird feeling in.my tummy. I can't orgasm from fingering either just from him rubbing my clit. I don't think I come either once or twice I think but usually not. Whats wrong with me?I am relaxed before sex and we do spend time on foreplay. Also when we try his oenis keeps like slipping out? Ive tried to be paitient because he is just as inexperienced as me but its soo frustrating. Also when he comes he just goes soft straight away and cant get hard again. is this normal?I have heard of people having sex multiple times a night but he says it doesnt work like that?can anyone help me im at the point where I think il just give up on sex and i dont want that! were strong enough not to let this effect us and we play around a lot but i want a decent sex life! any advice appreciated please only answer if you are experienced. Thank you (link)
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Maybe it's the things you're thinking about during sex. Maybe you're too focused on the problems you have instead of what it feels like to actually have an orgasm. You need to imagine what an orgasm feels like and ignore everything else. I remember when I started masturbating, I had the same problem. I just couldn't get an orgasm. At all. So i asked/saw a question on here (I don't really remember which) & someone said this. So i tried it and (after many tries) it worked! So i suggest you try this
Good Luck & I hope I helped!
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Okay ,so please any and every thought/ possible solutions I need! I'm depressed af! I hate myself more than I've EVER hated anyone In my life. My mom is having twins ,and I already have two older sisters that are really frikin mean . And when I say mean I mean mean! Abusive mean kay. And the other one just takes all my bf's away from me. And we're moving. again . To SC . And I'm afraid that everything is just Gunna be the same. And right now I'm really really lonely. Everybody Forgot about me or moved on worth their lives , ever since I got expelled from dropping a jolly rancher hard candy into a teachers drink because people dared me too and i just wanted to impress them, ya know?then the same people told on me, which I went to court 5 times ,had to have
My family get an attorney which cost $3000 .we couldn't afford that . We're trying to move and do this and do that And have babies. And I also got expelled . Now it's supposedly "over with". But, it's not because I'm on probation. And now I just feel so frikin mad at the world. And I feel worthless and hopeless and useless . I feel like a piece of nothing , already dead inside . Like I'm here just to take up room. Even though I help and clean and cook and am good. But, I just can't get up to do anything . I just want to sleep and never wake up. And I definitely hate myself because I can't even kill myself ! It just doesn't frikin work . I try hanging myself and I slowly pass, then I just wake up with a huge headache ! I'm like are you serious?! And there is not a single guy wanting to love me or be with me. And my only friend I was allowed to hang out with that I trusted, was a narcissistic, pedifile, pervert . Now I'm completely alone! How could I ever be so lonely, so hopeless? I never imagined life like this. And I also am not scared of dying but having to be without my mom and of my loved ones dying from doomsday . It's supposed to be coming soon isn't it? (link)
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Email me u might want to hear my story:)
melanielovesdylanobrien@gmail.com
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