|
I need help making the right decision. Help ASAP!!!
Hi everyone! I'm 12 years old (female) and I started junior high awhile ago.
Today, i've had trouble with this girl and she seems really mad at me. Anyways, I tried saying sorry to her of what I did but it just didn't come up. She's in the same grade as me. I would tell someone she's picking on me, but I CAN'T and I WON'T. I know it would be better for me, but I can't. I can't and I won't.
So I was thinking these options but I don't know which one to choose and I was hoping you can help me choose the right decision for me and tell me what's wrong with the other option:
1.) Home Schooling - I've had home schooling in mind since 4th grade. I was going to talk to my mom about getting homeschooled, but I don't know if I should do this or the other option.
2.) Schedule Change - I was thinking about going to our school principal and have her change my schedule (Yes, i'm able to do that) because I have 2 periods with her, 1 period with her friend (She's in one the girl's periods), and 1 with her other friend (She's also in one of her periods. We have Science and Math together and I just don't want her in them. What option should I choose and why/why not?
Thank you for the help and sorry if this is long I really just need help
-Amy
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Work & School category?
Maybe give some free advice about: School?
Hi Amy!
Trust me, down the line, you do not want to miss out on school because of a bully once you're homeschooled.
If you're scared that the bullying will get worse if you tell, you have to realize that regardless of you telling or not telling, it will continue. It's a lose-lose situation.
I completely disagree with the first option because you cannot jut run away from your problems making such a rash decision.
Now with the second option, I would think you would need to tell your pricipal why you want a schedule change. Then you would pretty much have to tell.
Anyway, I suggest none of the options and really trying to make an effort to apologize to the girl. You would be the bigger person for doing so. You do not want to miss out on the potential friends you will make if you lose junior high out completely.
I'm 20 years old and my best friends of today I met in junior high. So please, the bullying will stop once you do something about it. It will make you a stronger person in the long-run.
]
If this girl won't allow you to talk to her and apologize if that is what is needed. Try giving her a note to that effect.
While you may be able to change your schedule I would think your principal would want a valid reason for doing so. If I were your principal I would want one. It is not as easy as you may think to change a persons schedule. Each of you are placed in a class of students of equal learning ability. Each teacher while teaching the same subject matter teaches at a different rate and in different manners. Changing your schedule this far into the schedule may not be in your best interest without a valid reason.
If this girl and her friends are bullying you then I would advise telling your parents. Home schooling is not an option as mom or dad first has to agree to home teach you and then has to apply to do so. This could take time.
If you are being bullied this girl is more in the wrong then you may be for whatever reason she may feel she has the right to bully or tease you. Bullying is very much on the look out for of today's school administrators. Every school district is suppose to have a zero tolerance for bullying. I understand your reluctance not to want to say anything. Regardless of her reasons for doing so. Regardless of how wrong you may be in her being mad at you. If she and her friends are bullying you over it they and she are more in the wrong then you are.
I urge you to discuss this with your parents. I would think if you were to ask your parent to homeschool you they would want to know why. So regardless of your desire not to tell I see no way you can avoid it if you chose to change your schedule or asked to be home schooled.
Regardless of all of this bullying puts you in danger of being physically hurt. I urge you to talk with your parents.
]
Well, I would be able to help you on a greater level if you tell me why you "can't" or "won't" tell the principle, but here's what I would do. Go talk to that girl who's mad at you and ask her why she's mad at you. If you already know, then ask her what you can do to make it up to her. If she overreacts and gets even madder, then you just stay calm and be nice to her, all the time. Even if she yells at you, bothers you, whatever, just smile, don't look at her. You get what I mean? No matter the circumstances, be nice to her. She will eventually stop and/or ask you what is wrong with you =D
but anyways, niether of those options are a good idea. You need to confront your problems head-on, not run away from them. That just makes them worse. You also shouldn't have to change your schedule because of ONE PERSON and her friends. It shows weakness, the smaller person. You need to confront her (not angrily) and try to fix it, because that's where the source of the problem is.
I hope I helped :) and please, let me know what happens at melanielovesdylanobrien@gmail.com because I want to know very badly!
]
More Questions: |