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Why is he so adamant about being friends?
My bf and I of 4 years recently broke up cause of my school schedule and every time we make plans it doesn't happen. Well I always told him I could never be his friend cause it makes it impossible to move on cause part of me will always love him. however, lately he's been texting me all the time saying just cause we can't be together doesn't mean he can give me up altogether. I keep telling him I'm not his "buddy" and he always replies with "you don't really have a choice if you don't wanna be friends ignore me " I can't just ignore him though I end up missing him and I do want to talk but I can't just be his friend... What do I do?
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You mentioned recently. Well maybe he's trying to test the waters again with you and he's trying to do it pretty casually. I think this time he is trying to actually make plans and hopefully they work. That way you could see that the relationship could have worked out and could possibly continue. It honestly depends on you and what you want to do. If you continue to talk to him, you open a possibilty of getting back together? Is that something you would want? You don't have to downright ignore him if you want to make it clear that you don't want to be friends, but you should just try to busy yourself in such a way that you can't really hang out or if you end up texting him, you can just give him short answers.
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You ignore him.
He's being rude, even abusive, when he refuses to accept your clearly and respectful stated preference to NOT pretend you are his best bud.
It's a shitty thing for him to do.
Tell him as much.
When you miss him, go watch a movie, or bake cupcakes.
'Cause you are are right - you can't be your exes friend right after a break up. It doesn't work. You can't comfort someone when you are the cause of their pain and both people need to find comfort and friendship elsewhere in order to move on.
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