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Crazy about guy
I'm in college and starting to have crazy feelings for this guy I'm friends with. He has a girlfriend who lives far away but he's been paying more attention to me lately (but nothing physical or anything). I think the dynamic between us is awesome and we get along so well, I just love it. The thing is, I have no experience at all with any of this stuff. I've never hooked up and I've never had a boyfriend and now I have these crazy emotional feelings I've never had before. It's so strange. I cannot stop thinking about him and I've spent my past few days hoping I'll run into him all day or that he'll text me. I honestly don't think this is very healthy and may have the potential to give me an emotional breakdown.
I just can't help the fact that I like him so much. I get so excited thinking of us being together and then get depressed when I realize I'm merely daydreaming. I don't really know how to be filrtatious or drop hints, maybe he assumes I like him, maybe he doesn't. I'm not sure if he likes me or not, it's just SO frustrating not knowing; the situation is just so stagnant. I am so desperate right now for intimacy, something all my other friends get consistently (whether with hookups or boyfriends). I've never done anything but kissed and the last time I did that was a year ago. I feel so unbelievably deprived in so many ways and get angry at the fact that everyone else so easily has what for me are only far off dreams. I'm so sick of thinking about sex and boyfriends vividly in my mind but not actually having it happen. I'm almost 21 and it's about time SOMETHING happens. Right now, being with anyone but him doesn't appeal to me in the slightest (it depresses me) but it's not like I'm getting attention from any other guys anyway. Also, hooking up with people I don't know would never be something I'd do. What should I do about this situation?
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Sometimes it cant be avoided for feelings to develop between a man and a woman when they become friends. But when one of them is already in a relationship, it would be wise to not act upon it. You said you need intimacy right now and it seems like that is the major driving force on why you cant stop thinking about your friend. Maybe he is paying more attention to you because you were being more and more a good friend to him. But unless he is girlfriend-free, it would be safer, less troublesome if you keep on being his friend.
A love triangle is something that should not be your first experience when it comes to relationship. Give the other not-taken guys a chance and maybe you'll find a gem among the stones. Try your best not to have hookups because they can backfire before you know it.
Hope this helps..
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