uh, I dont want any comments on how this will screw up my relationship with my friend, but...
I was hanging out with my friends brother at her house, with my friend and a bunch of other girls. I've met him only once- & only saw him for long enough to say hi, but he elects to sit by me, of all people. Very, very close to me. We watched a horror movie first, which neither of us had seen, and made random comments/friendly banter in different languages throughout. Then we got to the chickflick. He gets up, leaves for a little bit, then comes back and sits down right next to me (again) even though one of the girls had left and there was more room further away from me. About fifteen minutes into the movie, he's laying on the floor, turned towards me, and pokes me lightly and asks if I actually enjoy this sort of movie. I didnt want to be rude, so I muttered something noncommital and turned back.
(end scene one)
(start scene two)
So I'm obsessed with ringpops and I had one, but when I was done, I accidentally dropped it on the ground and this girl stepped on it. So I got up to go to the kitchen, and after about two minutes of trying to figure out where the gdmn soap was so I could wash it off, he gets up and walks over to me. Standing REALLY close, he asked me what I was doing. So I told him, and instead of sticking his arm in front of me to grab the soap (on plain view) he reaches behind me, wrapping his arm around my shoulders. I said thanks, and he stayed like that a little while until someone else walked into the room.
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Also, whenever I would go upstairs to look for something, or go to the bathroom, he'd follow me.
I have a few questions & if you can only answer one, reply anyways. I might mention that he's the opposite of my type, but there's something that confuses me...&
he's quite a bit older (3 years, to be specific)
1. What were all of those signals for? What do they mean?
2. Why am I all (positively) bothered by this? I can't stop thinking about it
3. What am I supposed to do about the whole thing? There's a slight chance I might see him this weekend, so what should I do if that happens?
Thanks to anyone who tries to help offer a little clarity. I feel like I'm swimming in mud. D:
(& sorry its so obnoxiously long)
1. i think the signals mean he has a crush on you. i'm very positive that he does. if i was a guy and i saw a girl that i was attracted to for the first time, i would probably of done the same thing.
2. maybe you were attracted to him too? or maybe you just enjoyed the attention.
3. if you do kind of like him, flirt with him whenever you get a chance, you know, stand close to him whenever it is possible, tap him on the arm and say his eyes look nice. aha something. if you arn't attracted to him, then ignore him and try to stay around other people.
good luck :D
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Right, I still have a lot of feelings for my ex-boyfriend, even though we split up about 4 months ago. We've known each other a year now and we've never been 'just friends', you know.
So yeah, he was still in love with me when we broke up, like quite obsessively. Recently I don't think he mentions me that much to other people and about a week ago he told me he's pretty much in love with me but is telling everyone he just fancies me, because they always go on about us and he thought it annoyed me.
But..he doesn't act like it much. He doesn't talk to me that much anymore although that could be because we argue a lot..but I just want to talk to him. And he talks about how he wants to meet hot girls and have sex (not to me) and I know that's meaningless, but still... He has a new number and he hasn't even told me and he's out all the time so I don't see him much. And I just don't feel like he cares anymre.
Then, there's this other girl. When we were going out she told him she was in love with him, and to be honest, it doesn't seem like those feelings have faded. I'm pretty sure he has feelings for her. She doesn't live really close and goes to a different school so he doesn't see her that much. A couple months ago he was saying that he really misses her and wants to see her, he even said she's the nicest person he's ever met.
They've started talking more recently and at the end of his comments to her, he usually puts 'loveyou' or something, which he never does to me. Yesterday I commented, and I know she had too. Then this morning I saw he'd been online, and also that he'd replied to her comment but ignored mine. I mean, me and him are meant to be really close friends, I don't know why he's ignoring me.
He's meant to be friends with her group of friends, but if he's inviting them to something, he always invites her specifically and says to bring anyone. Also, he's pic commented her saying she's beautiful. I know its myspace and everyone pic comments each other like that, but 'beautiful' - you usually only say that when you have feelings for someone. But I know he's had chances to be with her in the past and he hasn't taken them...
So I don't know. Do you think he likes her?
Is he actually in love with me? I mean, he only said it last week, but he doesn't act like it.
And should I talk to him, tell him how I really feel?
x
maybe he is just kinda waving her in your face to make you jealous, and make you wonder all these things. or maybe he does actually like her. but mostly, i think he is just using her because she's there and its something to do to waste his time while he can't be with you. you should talk to him and explain your feelings on the situation, that way you can get his. i don't know if he is actually in love with you, only asking will completely determine if he is, but if he only said it last week.. then he probably still means it.
good luck :D
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Theres this guy I have a crush on, its mutual for sure though. Im running out of things to say when I text him. How can I make him ask about me
you could say lets play a game to get to know eachother, he'll be like okay.. and then you can say lets play 21 questions and you can ask ANYTHING you want. and i'll ask whatever i want. and then you'll end up playing and probably forget what number you're on.
good luck :D
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So I dated a guy over the summer and we ended everything once school started because he lives about 2 hours away. we hardly ever talk now and he just ended about a 4-month relationship with a girl from his school. however, over the summer he mentioned that he would like to go to prom with me (before we ended everything and before he dated someone else). it took me a while to get over him. But now, I have been going out with a guy since the end of February and he asked me to prom sometime in early feb. I am hearing things from a couple people that he is a man whore and i am finding out things he was done to girls. This makes me wonder but i haven't talked to him about it yet. ANYWAY, my question is, should i go to prom with both guys or just the boyfriend? By the way, both proms are different days and different schools/cities. I appreciate any input!
are you very positive that you are still going to the prom with you ex? if you arnt, make sure. and if your ex said he still wants you to, then ask your boyfriend. if he is uncomfortable with it, it might make things awkward by going with him. but about him being a man whore, ask him about it and see if hes changed. go with how your gut feels on that. if your gut says he is a bad guy, don't date him anymore. but if it says he is a good guy, go to prom with him (:
good luck :D
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Ok so I really like this guys Dustin but everyone thinks he is a gigantac loser. I use to tease him too until I started hanging out with him. What should I do? If I told someone I liked Dustin I dont know what they would think! So any ideas of what I should do? All answers apreciated.
if you really like Dustin, others opinions shouldn't matter. don't let him being considered a "loser" get in the way of you being happy. and who knows, maybe after you start dating him, people wouldn't think he was a loser anymore.
good luck :D
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ok so i just got a boyfriend and he my first boyfrined.i was wondering how long do you wait to say "i love you"? we have gone out on 3 dates and hung out lots.
he has held me for awhile and i really do love him.how do i tell him?
15/f
i would wait until he said it first, which he will like probably three months into the relationship, unless you have a great moment with him and you feel that it is just the right time to tell him. just make sure that it isn't awkward and you really mean what you are saying.
good luck :D
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My boyfriend is on restriction for 5 weeks. Thats not that bad but he will call me on sunday and be like " I miss you I want to see you at school monday" and then he turns around and ignores me at school. Then he will be like "whats wrong" well duh im all alone you big idiot. So please what should I do?
tell him how you are feeling. say its unfair to say one thing and then show your actions in a completely different way. let him know that you arn't being obsessive you would just appreciate it if he started acting like your boyfriend instead of ignoring you.
good luck :D
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ok so i am 16 and i am not a virgin but i have been talking to this kid for about 8 months now and like he tells me he likes me sometimes and then he changed his mind and said im like his sister and then now after he broke up with his last girlfriend he seems to be talking to me again, and like its not just talking talking its sexual shit and it gets kinda aggravating and to be honest the second time i had sex i didnt want to, and now that he is saying this and i asked him to stop he doesnt really listen.
but im not sure if he really likes me or not
so can someone help me here!?!
ask him plain out if he likes you. makes sure he knows what kind of like you mean. if he says no, then say "then i feel uncomfortable with the converstations we have been having and i don't think we should have them anymore." but if he says he does, then tell him how you feel. or continue doing what you're doing, whatever is best for you. but if he says he doesn't and he doesn't stop talking the way he has been, then i would cut him off completely. and if he comes back and ask why you did, say he was treating you unfairly.
good luck :D
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Ok this might sound stupid but please read! I'm not sure this boy at tennis knows I'm a girl (I have boy short hair and he only see me at tennis so I wear shorts and a t). He is always inviting me to do stuff like chek out the new arcade or go play basketball with him and just boy stuff (dont get me wrong I'm a tomboy I do like that stuff but most people wouldnt think girls would like that stuff). How do I figure out if he thinks I'm a girl or not?
is your name a unisex name? if its not then he probably has already figured it out. or your voice not being deep could of given it away too, but i don't know how old you are lol but if it isn't then say something like "my mom says i actually have to wear a dress on easter, how lame is that? i mean yeah i'm a girl but geez" that will give it away, or you could plain out ask him. lol
good luck :D
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15/f... i'm bisexual which i think is a bigger problem from me then being gay for a few reasons. one, my parents understand that people like one gender or the other but mostly my dad thinks bi people are not really bi...he thinks they are confused. i'm not bi curios or confused, i know for a fact that i like some guys and i like some girls, i've been like this for a few years now, and thats that. i also think that my friends (mostly female....i'm not attracted to any of them)will be sort of thrown off if i tell them. its because i have a crush on a guy and i talk about it so they all think i'm straght. i just don't want to loose any friends or family over this but i think they should know...i really need help on how do this.
my sister is gay, but before she thought she was bisexual. i'm not saying you're going to end up gay, i'm just saying i was there for her when she was dealing with being bisexual. she hasn't come out about being gay, but we've talked about how she is going to.. so i'm going to try my best to help you. sit down with your family and tell them that you understand why they would be confused, but that its who you are. explain that you've been this way for a few years now and that you know for sure that you are. let them know that it isn't a phase and you really are not trying to hurt them by it, and that you just want to be accepted and loved. things might be pretty hectic after that, but my guess after awhile, things will be much better, even better than before you "came out." and as for your friends, tell them kind of the same way, and make sure its clear that you are not attracted to any of them. i'm pretty certain they won't mind though, if they are your true friends, before long, they won't even notice it. if you need anymore help, just ask.
good luck :D
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people keep calling me a self manipulator. im always the one that has a great comeback for everything but i have nothing when people say anything about that. im having alot of trouble right now and i do self manipulate but ive never told anyone so im confused. so i usually have a comeback or say anything that will make them get freaked out and stop. this guy said omg its the self manipulator show me the gory scars haha and i did the fuck it sign or something and he hasnt since. i do not try and kill myself anymore ive gotten so much better i do cut still just not deep anymore and i uband. so i am in some form a self manipulator. but when people say that it makes me do it more or deeper. what could i do or say to make them stfu. 14 female ive been doin this since i was 12 ive gotten so much better but when people do this it goes back to the old ways dont give me advice for that just what to do or say to them.
just say "you don't know what you're talking about" "you don't understand" "its my body not yours" "i can't help it" "you need to mind your own business". or stay away from anyone that talks about you that way, or ignore it. it seriously isn't there business what you do. don't let them dog you about it, i'm not saying what you are doing is correct but i'm not going to jump on you because of it because you said not to, but if you want to, and theres no sense in trying to stop you, then their opinions don't matter.
good luck :D
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This might be long:
14/f
So a couple of weeks ago, this guy that i know and that i used to mess around with took y virginity.
i wasnt really planning on it, but it happend.
and the time before that one that we were going to have sex, he told me that he wasnt the type of guy that sexs girls and stops talking to them.... well thats exacly what he did. we stoped talking ):
i talked to him like 2 days after we had sex, and he told me everything was str8 and that he wants to be friends and what not... and now everytime i text him or call him he doesnt answer.
i know i should just forget it and him and just leave him alone, but i cant. i find myself thinking about him ALL the time and wishing i could just see him.
advice? PLEASE!!!!
thanks!
i know it will be hard, but i would just try my hardest to forget about him and wait until he tries to make contact with you. its not fair for him to take your virginity and then up and leave, especially since you are 14. don't make yourself look needy, just wait til he comes around, if he actually does. he seems like a jerk though, so don't waste anymore time chasing him unless he decides to call you.
good luck :D
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This is going to be a very confusing story, please bare with me haha.
Ok, so last weekend i hooked up with this guy John. John and I had been sort of a thing for like a couple weeks and this was the first time we've hooked up. Things were like fine between us for a few days but then he started excessively calling me and i got really annoyed and decided it was time to move on, though he doesn't know that yet. This past saturday we were all out and john and i werent talking that much because he was being annoying, so i just flirted alot with my good friend james who i like now, and he likes me. I have no idea what to tell john or even to follow through with things with james. what should i do?
ps. sorry its so confusing if you need me to explain further let me know. thank youuu
lol its not that confusing so don't worry about it (: well first things first, you need to tell John that you don't feel the same way you use to. say you like him, you just see you more as friends instead of a couple, let him think its not his fault and that he didn't do anything so he won't be crushed. as far as the James thing goes, i say you should go for it. life is too short not to. if he likes you back, there is no reason not to, even if it hurts John, you're actually doing him a favor by giving him a chance to find someone that likes him as much as he likes them. if you need anymore help, feel free to ask (:
good luck :D
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this is how i've been lately...and im wondering if its depresson:
-im dead tired all the time even if i go to bed early.
-i have no drive to do anything anymore
-i go through periods of stuffing myself sick and then eating nothing for days.
-i cry alot, at least twice everyday.
-i snap at people and get angry really quick
-ive had thoughts of suicide
-just overall sadness and stuff
theres more...i cant remeber it at the moment. but is there any chance this is depresion?
it actually does sound like depression. or serious mood swings. i'm thinking more towards depression though. if you're having thoughts of suicide you should seriously talk to someone. i'm not saying this just to be saying it, suicide is serious. i don't want to sound like i know everything and that you're stupid, but you should tell someone. and i stress that alot. if you need someone to talk to you, i'm here. i experienced depression a year ago. its a tough sickness, but you can get through it.
good luck :D
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so theres this boyy... lets call him ben. well i had a class with him last year first smemster and we were friends but the next semester we had no classes and completely stopped talking. everyone is friends with ben but honestly i have never really found myself attracted to him. like hes shorter than me and hes not fat or anything but im alot skinner than him and he has terrible achne scars and braces. hes a hockey player and for some reason hes one of the guys that gets invited to all the parties. hes sort of a big deal. well anyways one of my good friends started liking him this year. he started talking to me online because of my friend liking him and next thing i knew we were kinda getting carried away flirting. i didnt really mean anything by it, im just a flirt. we would talk every day and he would tell me how cute and funny and pretty and everything i was. and say how he liked me so much more then the other girls at our school. well anyways my friend supposively doesnt like him anymore and he really wanted to hang out so me and him and a bunch of other people hung out at djs house. he was being really gay and annoying and i realised i liked talking to him online alot better than in person. also i liked talking to him when i couldnt see him. haha. he had a long talk with me before about hating prude girls and i think that meant he likes fast girls. well anyways back to the story. him and his friend had a plan to get with me and my friend. i wasnt sure what it was or who was gonna try and get with me. we were watching a movie and he sat by me and somehow we managed to get all cuddled up. i swear i dont like him im just a movie whore. well anyways we didnt hook up we just cuddled for a while. when he got home he talked to my friend and said he was pissed off about us not hooking up and that he just wanted to be friends for that reason. when she talked to me i was like okay thats what i want to? but heres where the advice is needed.. I talked to him online a little later and he was like " i thought something could happen with us, like we could have something or be together but after hanging out with you i realised we are best off as friend" i told him i completely agreed and that i really dont like him but for some reason... that reallyyyy offended me! i cant stop thinking about that. like ive been hurt really bad by a guy in his crew before... do they just think they are too good for me? there are pleanty of guys that like me so why do i want ben to like me so bad when i dont want him? and why do i care so much that he said that? help please!
thats perfectly normal, well to me it is. i've been like that too. i hate when guys act like they want me one second, but whenever i don't do something they suddenly stop. its completely rude. that's how you're feeling. you want to feel wanted and not feel judged just because you wouldn't put out. and plus you wanted to be the one to let him down, because thats sort of like winning, but you feel like you lost because he said it first. you will get over it soon, trust me. he is so not worth it.
good luck :D
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ok, I was with my much older 2nd cousin last night, he's 30 I'm 16 and I'm in love with him, he feels the same way. Anyway, I gave him a small kiss on the lips right, and before we knew it we were REALLY REALLY close to making out. WHAT DO I DO?
he is really close to your family tree, if you two got married, there is high chances of your children having bird defects, also, i doubt your family would approve. i know that you probably didn't want to hear that but i had to tell you. also, the age difference is very great. you're only 16, you can find someone else. i know that probably sucks to hear that too and i'm sorry about that. but just keep in mind that there are other people.
good luck :D
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okay yesterday i got my period FOR ONLY THE SECOND TIME IN MY LIFE and last night i wore a pad to bed and i was sleeping on my back any the blood leaked even tho i was wearing pants underwear and a pad. and on my bottome sheet was a blood stain the size of my hand.
how do i prevent that??
wear a tampon and a pad. or just a tampon, depends on how heavy your flow is. also, make your pad be more at the back of your underwear rather than front if you're sleeping on your back.
good luck :D
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what is pms?
its when you become extremely moody before your period. i'm talking mood swings like woah! one minute you will be extremely happy, and then as soon as someone says anything slightly negative, you'll be wanting to throw them out a window. they also get cramps, and super bad cravings.
good luck :D
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13/f 8th grade
I feel really upset lately but I don't know if I would call it depressed. Because just at school I'm more happy and will laugh but at home I get mad and cry and everything. It just isn't me though. I am usually happy but just not at home anymore. I have cut myself and I have cried every single day but only at home. Except a couple times at school but thats it. Maybe its because I keep my feelings bottled up? But I never feel comfortable telling anyone my feelings. When I do it just makes me feel worse so I never tell anyone anything. I don't know what to do. I only write in my diary. But please help me, thanks. Oh by the way I don't cut myself anymore I have stopped that because I think about it and it makes me feel worse so thanks so much thanks.
keeping your feelings bottled up could contribute greatly to how you're feeling. you need to tell someone, i know it might be hard, but it'll be a lot better in the long run. i'm glad you don't cut anymore, never do anything to harm your body again. start telling people if they upset you or make you sad, don't let anyone walk on you either. get it all out honey! but also keep in mind, that a lot of thirteen year olds go through these drastic emotional changes, i did.. but now that i'm fifteen i'm over it. i think its just puberty. well that could be part of it, not all of it, so still consider talking to someone about it.
good luck :D
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Ok
I am always tiredd
And I eat more then I ever have
I am sad when I get home, but I am the same around all my friends
I cut, not all the time, but sometimes
I don't talk to anyone
I have some suicidal thoughts
I don't talk to anyone, like everr
My grades are slipping
I have NO self confidence and I feel like a burden to everyone
IS this depression?
I don't know and I don't want to tell anyone...uunless I know for sure or have a little better idea
Thanks
it sounds like you are depressed.
i use to do that, but instead of turning to food, i would turn away from it.
but its basically all in the same region.
i honestly have no idea why i was depressed, or why you are.
it could be a range of things.
there could be something wrong with your brain that doesn't let it create enough happy emotions, thats what my therapist told me.
oh yeah, therapy could help you a great deal.
you might be one of those people that think "i'm not crazy, i shouldn't go to a therapist"
thats kind of how i was, but i'm glad i went.
it helped.
and i got on medicine, that i'm no longer on, and i don't go to therapy anymore, but it truly helped.
maybe you don't need therapy, but always remember it as an option.
it doesn't mean you're crazy, i just think of it as..
if someone is sick, they go get help.
and depression is a sickness that could effect your whole life.
try not to let it ruin your life, go tell someone and get help.
you'll be so much happier that you did.
good luck :D
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