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i'm not sure how to "come out"...
15/f... i'm bisexual which i think is a bigger problem from me then being gay for a few reasons. one, my parents understand that people like one gender or the other but mostly my dad thinks bi people are not really bi...he thinks they are confused. i'm not bi curios or confused, i know for a fact that i like some guys and i like some girls, i've been like this for a few years now, and thats that. i also think that my friends (mostly female....i'm not attracted to any of them)will be sort of thrown off if i tell them. its because i have a crush on a guy and i talk about it so they all think i'm straght. i just don't want to loose any friends or family over this but i think they should know...i really need help on how do this.
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You should tell them.
They might be able to help make your life easier for you as you're struggling to reveal your true identity.
If they get weirded out about it, than you might want to give them some time.
If they still can't put up with the fact that you're bisexual, then maybe you should try and find some new friends - people that'll accept you for you and that won't be offended by your true identity.
With your family, it might seem more difficult to talk to them about this, but sooner or later you have to tell them. They are there to support you in the decisions and choices that you make in the good, the bad, and the ugly.
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my sister is gay, but before she thought she was bisexual. i'm not saying you're going to end up gay, i'm just saying i was there for her when she was dealing with being bisexual. she hasn't come out about being gay, but we've talked about how she is going to.. so i'm going to try my best to help you. sit down with your family and tell them that you understand why they would be confused, but that its who you are. explain that you've been this way for a few years now and that you know for sure that you are. let them know that it isn't a phase and you really are not trying to hurt them by it, and that you just want to be accepted and loved. things might be pretty hectic after that, but my guess after awhile, things will be much better, even better than before you "came out." and as for your friends, tell them kind of the same way, and make sure its clear that you are not attracted to any of them. i'm pretty certain they won't mind though, if they are your true friends, before long, they won't even notice it. if you need anymore help, just ask.
good luck :D
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