hi, i am 15 and recently had an abortion with the abortion pill, i did not want to get rid of my child but i know in the long term it was the right thing to do, ever since i had it i feel horrible, i cant sleep and i dont feel like eating. the only person i have told is my boss nikki as i have a part time job and she has been great, but every time i txt her when im down i just feel like she is gettin pissed of with me, i dont no why. i was just wondering if anyone could give me advice on 1. how to get over my loss and get on with my life and 2. tell me how my boss will be feeling (people who have helped someone through an abortion would be best for this bit) thank you so much x
You will never get over the death of your baby, because death is often something that stays with you forever. People who perform abortions or sell the pill never tell you about people such as yourself who are scarred for life. Abortion in an industry that cares for nothing besides money.
Only time can alleviate how you feel.
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I encourage you to go into counseling. I wouldn't get pregnant again until you are ready to have a baby. Don't let this keep you from having a baby in the future though.
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My birth details r
name: charu
tob: 13:42 pm(wednesday)afternoon
place: jhansi,india
dob: 1st january 1975
ALL MY QUESTIONS R RELATED TO PREGNANCY AND HEALTH
question: when will i get pregnant i mean the exact year and month of my conception?
how many kids will i have and their sexes?
will my diseases of endometriosis and cysts and fibroids be cured?
will i die before my husband?
regards
charu
(Just in case this is a joke, I do not know the answer and don't want to get your hopes up. Sigh)....
You will become pregnant on July, 5th 1875.
You will have five girls. I'm sorry, I know in India people hope for girls.
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The serious part.
Everything will be cured by science if you live long enough and can get help from America
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Hey! So I am having a birthday in October and I wanted to do something outside of my house. turning 14/cali/f. If anyone can think of anything to do for birthdays in hollywood, that would be perfect but anything else besides things like bowling, or movies would help. THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
Have everyone dress up as a Hollywood character and then do slip and slide in your front lawn. OMG so much fun.
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16/f. At school I get hit on all the time, and at the mall, things like that. I am so not a slut I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and never had sex. The thing is I'll be walking down the street and there will be these like old mexican gardeners and they will like check out my ass and that just disgusts me so much. I feel so disgusting because of them. How do I get over this?
My mom and MANY girls have had similar encounters with Mexicans. From what my Mexican friend told me, in Mexico it is considered ok to shout at girls and say things to them that would be considered inappropriate in America.
It's the whole assimilation thing. America has its own culture and many foreigners refuse to respect that. I recommend you carry.
As far as being attractive... you must realize that if you are attractive, everyone is going to be looking at you, and some people are going to be more obvious than others, so try to consider it a complement from people who don't know better.
I realize this isn't just an issue of race but carry mace just in case so you can spray them in the face if they give chase.
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okay i know the whole body mass thing where you multiply stuff by some decimal and i know about what you should be for your height ... but i wanna know by appearance if im considered "chubby" ... im 5 foot or 5 foot 1 ... and im 130-ish pounds?
i dont understand how that could be because i dont think im fat ... my stomach doesnt stick out all that much, i dont have huge boobs, and my legs arent fat, just curvy. i dont eat more than 1000 calories a day. i dont eat junk food or drink soda. i dont eat big portions of carbs or anything else really.
i dont understand how i weigh so much! somehow i gained 10 pounds.. last year i weighed 120 and for the most part i looked the same as i do now (i didnt get any taller either)
when im in jeans and a tee shirt my legs look good and so does my stomach so i really dont understand! does anyone else have this issue?
Height makes you gain weight. Imagine taking a horizontal slice (sliver) out of your body, one inch thick, and weighing it. It'd probably be about 10-20pounds.
Also, you could be big boned. Look at my pic, would you guess I weigh 230lbs?
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i am going to be a freshman in high school this year and i am starting to panic, will someone please help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Don't forget to capitalize and use question marks ^_^.
There. I just raised your GPA!
Good luck.
This is for all you kiddies without older siblings.
High School.
If you haven’t been through high school, or don’t know someone who’s been through high school recently, here you go.
Early start-
If your school offers Spanish in the seventh and eighth grades to get ‘half credits,’ don’t fall for it. It’s bullshit. You’ll waste two years when you could have spent one earning a credit.
AP classes-
Same goes for AP (Advanced Placement) courses. They’re a good way to save money, but other than that, they are bullshit as well. You’ll spend 2 years earning one credit. Once you get in college, you’ll have credits flying left and right and realize you wasted your time with AP classes.
Many colleges don’t even except AP classes.
Language-
Learn to speak Mexican or German. Latin is hard, even for the smart kids. French is harder than Spanish and you won’t get to use it as much. Hell, Mexicans are invading us as I type. They are refusing to bother to learn our language and expecting us to use our tax money to translate and print out pamphlets in Mexican so they can understand it.
Skip a year for language-
Don’t take your language class during your freshman year unless you plan on taking it for four years. You’ll probably only need two years of foreign language to graduate, but three are recommended. Take Spanish on your second, third and fourth year. This way, you won’t have a year to forget everything before college starts.
Alternatives to PE-
See if you can work with special kids instead. That’s what I did, and I adored them. They are freakin’ awesome. If I saw anybody picking on them I would kick their ass.
See if outdoor-ed is offered for PE credits.
/Running sucks. Avoid it at all costs.
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Friends and Girls
Once a cheater always a cheater. If a girl cheated on someone, she will cheat on you. If she cheats on you, dump her and never give her another chance.
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If you have an annoying person in your lunch group, realise that he continues to be annoying because you aren't treating him like a friend (because he isn't) and realise he's trying to get back at you for not treating him like a friend. I know it's just a repetitive cycle, but that's what's happening. Neither the annoying one or the group realises it's happening.
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Girls are a lot of fun.
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Girls can and will ruin best friendships.
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Girls can and will break up the lunch group.
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Girls are emotional. They also cry with they're angry sometimes. This baffles me.
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One of your friends will likely end up being a homosexual. This just happened to me. Even my most anti-gay friends admitted that they believe everyone is born bisexual, and you choose to be straight. Incourage them not to flaunt their gayness.
Drugs-
If you find out some random person smokes weed, don’t tell on them. As you get older, almost everybody will be talking about drugs right in front of the teachers. The teachers can’t do anything about it and everyone hates the person who tells.
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If you hang out with people who do drugs, you’ll do them too. I can’t stress this enough. Don’t ever think you’re too good to do them. You’d be surprised. Trust me. I’ve seen too many momma’s boys and goodie goodies fall into the trap. I've been curious myself, but have not done anything.
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If your friend starts smoking weed, he’ll try to get another friend to smoke with him.
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Smoking in itself is not very bad, but weed is a gateway drug. I’ve heard many many people who smoke weed say that they will never try harder drugs. Gradually, throughout the year, they end up trying ecstasy or mushrooms.
Homework-
You probably won’t finish it all. Try your best and don’t sweat it. Learn which teachers you can BS answers on.
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During the final span of your final year in High School, you'll probably start slacking. Don't worry about it.
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My mom told my dad three days ago that she wants a divorce. My mom is unhappy and our family is nothing but fighting. My mom told my little brother who is 13 about this today. he is taking it pretty hard. He is also blaming me when i have nothing to do with it. it rally upets me because my brother is saying this whole thing is my fault. well my dad wants to do counsling. he thinks he can change everything but he cant. my mom doesnt want to live like this. so im supose to move out with my mom and my brothers supose to move out with my dad. Im not sure what the question in this is but ive never moved before. my dad mentioned couple years ago that he was going to leave and me my mom and my older brother cried about it. my little brother was to young to understand. im just looking for advice please help
It's very natural for your brother to blame the wrong person. As you said, he's taking it hard. People often ***displace*** their anger when dealing with extream emotions. He'll realise it's not your fault later.
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DISPLACEMENT
When things that would directly satisfy the id are not available or if they include unpleasantness, we may shift out emphasis. It can result in intense longing, fantasies. Displacement occurs when an instinctual impulse is redirected from a more threatening activity, person or object to a less threatening one. ( e.g. Angry at a person you can't yell at, yell at little brother)
The innocent becomes the victim.
MORE INFO
http://webhome.idirect.com/~kehamilt/ipsydef.html
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I'd see a counselor for sure. What's the worst that could happen. Even if you don't need it, it might help your little brother for you to be there.
Your dad should move somewhere close by. It's very, very, very selfish for a parent to move away in the event of a divorce.
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A day before Easter, this guy said he wanted to be more than friends with me, but I had a boyfriend, so I told him we could be friends with benifits, and we
were pretty much boyfriend and girlfriend, we did everything together! So, eventually I dumped my boyfriend for him! So then, we were pretty much really boyfriend and girlfriend. But recently, my friend Jessica, she's like, my bestfriend, asked him out, and I guess he said yes, so then, him and I became friends with benifits again! And that was okay with me, except for that he told me he doesn't like Jessica, and He only wants me in his life, he told me he is in love with me and he is going to dump Jessica for me! I told Jessica everything, I mean EVERYTHING! She wasn't mad, only upset! She is a good friend, and she understood that she couldn't be mad because I had him first! But in my school, I'm really popular, and she is kind of a Geek! Nobody likes her, and she hardly ever gets any decent boyfriends, and I get whoever I want, whenever I want, pretty much. But since she finally has a really hot guy, i don't want to hurt her but taking him from her, but really i had him first! but he's gonna dump her, and i want to go out with him, not only be friends with benifits! and he feels the same, but she is in the way of everything! him and i are in love, you could say, we both love each other, and he dosnt have feelings for her like, at all, so what do i do?!?!?!?
He's playing both of you. Look at it this way, if you had a friend with benefits without your boyfriend knowing (which I assume is the case and is also another issue altogether), then your 'friend' was somebody who is the type who is willing to go behind people's backs in relationships.
If he loved you, he would have never started dating your best friend.
You're going to lose your best friend if you keep this up. She says it's ok but it's not, especially for a girl who has a hard time getting dudes.
Best friend's x-boy/girlfriends are pretty much off limits if you want to maintain your friendship.
If you date him, he'll cheat on you too.
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WELL my friend is way over weight...and she wears a 2 peice, and she looks really sick in it. She's really just embarassing herself by wearing it. How do i tell her this!? Or should i just let her embarass herself?...Help..its really sick!!
You should tell her. This happens all too often and girls tend to have no clue. Break it to her easily. Or, you can have a fat dude break it to her.
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For the past few months, I've been feeling sad very often. I'm 15, female, and I guess I feel sort of alone. I constantly think about death, how I don't have many good friends, and how I don't have anything I really need to be happy.
I'm also on a diet, I've lost 20 pounds, because I think I need to be skinnier.
I guess what I'm asking is, am I depressed? And do I need some sort of help? My mom knows how I feel and she is always lecturing me about it. I just want to know what I can do to not feel this way.
I and many others have been through the exact same thing. Depression really SUCKS! Mine lasted about 6 months to a year and most people go through a couple in their lives, so don't think you are alone.
Two things that help depression are walking and getting out of the house. A simple walk around the block can be freeing and relaxing.
Try hanging out with friends. I don't advise getting into a relationship with any guys though because a breakup could cause a relapse if it happens too soon.
You can also try meds but take caution and read about side effects. Wellbutrin is supposedly great and has very, very minimal side effects. The only one I know of off the top of my head is increased sexual satisfaction. So that's definantly a bonus.
Good luck, message me again if you need anything.
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what is better for you regular or diet soda?
and is margerine or regular butter better for you?
me and my friend are debating over this.
Well, your soda question has been answered, so I'll do the butter one.
Margerine is BAD. Science has shown Margerine contains dehydrogenated fats. That's the stuff that gives you heart attacks.
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ok well im 32 inches around the waist and im 13/f 132 pounds i want to be 27 inches thats my goal
if i do 50 crunches 4 times a day
and do a ab workout or 2 on the on demand every day
when will be the first time i see results?
and when do you think i will reach my goal?
and one more thing i want my legs an thys smaller
what if i speedwalk everyday for and hour will i loose some weight in my legs and thys? and if so how much?
I'm not saying you're concidering doing this first part, but it's just a precaution and things you can warn your friends about.
Well, starving yourself isn't the answer. When you starve yourself, you lose weight too quickly and your body releases chemicals that make you smell HORRIBLE. Oh yeah, and your body eats away your organs.
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Now as far as exercise; there are sooo many diets out there, and most of them work about the same. Treadmills are bad for your knees, so I'd recommend an elliptical running machine, or a bike. Either way if you want to lose (fat) weight, it needs to be cardio exercising. Weigh lifting mostly just builds muscle.
Unfortunately there is no way to lose weight in a specific area. Your body will lose it all over when it burns fat.
Right now what I'm doing is going every other day on an elliptical machine. You can look them up on Google image search if you don't know what they are. It's good to do cardiovascular exercise for about 30 mins at a time.
Oh yeah, I just learned that Gatoraid is a life saver. Seriously, there was an immense difference when I worked out with and without Gatoraid. It gave me enough energy to keep going for a while.
Junk foods around the house need to go. It's always good to have healthier alternatives. If you have junk around and easily accessible, you'll pretty much find yourself eating it.
Hope this helps, good luck! I'm doing the same thing as you right now.
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Is mastrubation a sin? (religiously)
Many people refer to the story of Onan to show that masturbation is a sin, according to the Bible. However, God told Onan to impregnate his dead brother's wife. When he was having sex with her, he pulled out before he ejaculated, and God killed him.
Many people believe God killed him for wasting his sperm. I and many others believe God killed him for disobeying the order to impregnate her.
Also, lust is a sin. So if you're having impure thoughts while masturbating, it's a sin. You aren't alone though.
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ok
how do you make those holes with the little horizontal strings patching across in jeans?
i've heard sandpaper. and a cheese grater.
any other ideas and stuff?
also, what about making edges in actual cut hole sint he jeans all fuzzy and frayed?
thanks
If you want destroyed jeans, you have to earn them. Go free running and fall and scrape your knees. Go jump out of a car on the high way and get run over a few times.
People will think you are one bad-ass quadriplegic.
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ok well i have a band myspace and im not a band or singer i accidentaly turned it into a band myspace but i dont like it i would really like to have a regular myspace again is that possible?
please help im dying here
i rate high
If you're dying, call 911. Perhaps they'll have a myspace help line.
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I just bought tall boots, and I'm interested in how they feel? Like, do they work like half chaps with more grip? and how long does it take to break them in? (i'm leaving for sleepaway camp in week, with riding, and i wont be able to ride with them at my lesson barn before i leave) thanks!
If you want to know how they feel, put them on.
Do they have half chaps with more grip?
More grip than what? Try them out. I don't know the brand or the shoe...
I'd imagine they'd break in as quickly as any other shoe.
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My Best friend has had problems with an eating disorder and with cutting for some time now. She is in therapy and recieving treatment for both, however she still sometimes relapses and doesn't eat or cuts. Her boyfriend seems to think it is apropiate to say things to her when she doesnt eat like "If you don't eat tommorrow then I'm not going to either" Or if she ends up cutting he cuts himself. I think that he is making her feel worse when all she really needs is support... What should I do...Opinions? Advice?
Opinions.
I think that's really funny.
What a great boyfriend.
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i have heard different things and i could use some good strong opinions (not flames, dont leave me bruised and battered) on bisexuality from a christian standpoint. i fear i may actually have to read the WHOLE Bible (LONG!) to form my own opinion to be honest. i just know alot of ppl interpret the Bible differently.
thanks in advance
Don't listen to other people who answered and said the Bible doesn't say anything about homosexuality.
Leviticus 20:13
If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth with a woman, both of them have committed an abomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them.
This was later changed in the New Testiment and God says that Homosexuality is a forgivable sin. You can be homosexual, bi, or lesbian, but you shouldn't act on it.
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When I turned ON my ipod mini, i didn't even need to hold the button down, i just pressed the button and words came on the screen. does that mean i didn't turn it off good enough?
Oh yeah, you need to turn it off really good next time. Teach it who's boss.
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Okay, to start things off, my cat is a little on the weird side. She doesn't sit on people's laps or anything. She's just ... weird. But my problem is, my cat won't poop in her litter box. She'll pee in it, but she won't poop in it.
my two questions are
1. What's the cause of this?
2. How can I fix it.
If this helps, she is 9/f, a purebred persian, & we live in Georgia. Oh & i've had her since I was 2
Thanks!
Tape it to the litter box so it can never leave.
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