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how do i get over it and what does she think?
hi, i am 15 and recently had an abortion with the abortion pill, i did not want to get rid of my child but i know in the long term it was the right thing to do, ever since i had it i feel horrible, i cant sleep and i dont feel like eating. the only person i have told is my boss nikki as i have a part time job and she has been great, but every time i txt her when im down i just feel like she is gettin pissed of with me, i dont no why. i was just wondering if anyone could give me advice on 1. how to get over my loss and get on with my life and 2. tell me how my boss will be feeling (people who have helped someone through an abortion would be best for this bit) thank you so much x
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Well i think its better that you had the abortion.Think of it,your just a kid...would YOU be able to take care of one when you ARE one yourself???Your kid would need advice and you wouldnt be able to give it any cuz youre in need of it yourself.This kinda teaches you a lesson of having protected sex next time or not to have it at all when your 15.I think your boss is getting annoyed cuz mabey youve been talking to her too much about this and she advised you many times and you dont listen.I know its hard.But you have to move on with your life.
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I haven't helped anyone through a abortion. I've been through one. I was 17 and am now 24. I have yet to "get over it" you never will. The only thing you can do is just move on and take comfort in knowing that when your time comes, your child will be waiting for you. I miss mine all the time, to this day sometimes I cry myself to sleep or will be driving down the road and a song will come on that makes me think about it and I'll start crying. I'm not tryin to depress you anymore than you already are, I'm just telling you from one person to another...It's hard. Compare it to that of your mother or sister dying. You will NEVER get over that, and there will be times when you are sad. Try talking to a counselor maybe just to get some of your feelings out in the open. I wouldn't advise mixing personal problems with your work. This could lead to disasterious problems for you should you ever get on her bad side and she want to leak out information about you.
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You will never get over the death of your baby, because death is often something that stays with you forever. People who perform abortions or sell the pill never tell you about people such as yourself who are scarred for life. Abortion in an industry that cares for nothing besides money.
Only time can alleviate how you feel.
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I encourage you to go into counseling. I wouldn't get pregnant again until you are ready to have a baby. Don't let this keep you from having a baby in the future though.
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This is a tough thing to get over..but you need to tell yourself this, you are 15 years old and still have a whole lot of finding to do before you can be ready to have a child. Would you have been able to support your child? Would your child have suffered because they didn't get to have everything they wanted? Are you going to be able to give them a great life, where you can protect them? Just knowing that you were unprepared to handle the life of someone else should let you know that you made the right decision. It's not something you are going to get over, but know that you did it for the right reasons and when you do have a child, you'll be able to be the best mother you can be. I don't know how to answer the latter, but if she has to keep repeating the same thing to you, she may be frustrated because she doesn't know what else to say to you. If you can't talk to anyone about it...write about it. Writing is a great way to get things out of you and once you start writing you will start thinking more clearly and you'll see why you had to do what you did.
Good Luck, I really hope you can pull through this.
-Teacup
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