Okay so I'm 16/F and a sophomore. My boyfriend is 17/M junior. We've been dating since halfway through the summer before my freshman year. Ever since we've been together we've always been crazy. We both drink and party and he smokes (pot) occasionally but usually not. However, it's different now. He is an extremely talented quarterback and pitcher and this year a bunch of colleges have their eyes on him. He has chosen not to drink or smoke or party because he can't risk getting caught and ruining his chances in a D-1 school. And I have definitely cut back too. But I still wanna party, for like, the social part. I definitely don't get smashed anymore but I do drink when I go out (I also have a sober ride and friends with me). But lately my boyfriend has been getting mad at me. He says he doesn't feel comfortable with me going out without him by my side (I guess I never have done that before) but I can take care of myself and control myself. He says he doesn't like it cause he's worried some guy is gonna get me extra drunk and "take advantage of me". Being 5"5 and a 100 lbs it doesn't take much to get my hammered but like I said, I haven't gone past tipsy and mildly drunk for a long time. And I don't go out often, most of the time I'm hanging out with and it's not like there's a party every weekend. I'd say it's only once a month or two months. I think it's mayb him just missing being able to get crazy and what not... But I don't know. We fight about it a lot but it's the only thing wrong with us. I really love him and we both see us lasting a long time but I'm not doing anything that affects him and I like going out with my friends! What should I do??
Hello,
To start off I'm against drinking and smoking anything, because of my family's past expierences but I'm not the type to judge. I'm happy that your boy friend has a good chance at doing something he loves, and that is good at. It's really hard to find good careers in this economy, you should really support what he's doing now because it's a big improvment. You need to respect his wishes and not go out so much without him, he obviously cares about you. It's true that someone could take advantage of you, even though you say you can take care of yourself, and you can control yourself, sometimes you can go over that amount, and make a big mistake. Things happen. I understand that you like to go out with your friends, you still can. I suggest when you go out bring your cell phone, call him every so ours to let him know your alright, or tell him to call you..sounds childish but do you really want your boy friend to worry about you when your our partying? When you love someone, you have to be even on things. Listen to your boy friend, he just wants the best for you :3
I hope I helped,
Emily
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i was never really a slut. i was expierenced but never slutty- then i went from 0-65 in so short and started being rally slutty and now everyone hates me. i dont know what to do. im so upset at myself and i dont know why i do these things even.
how do i stop?
how do i change? and make people stop talking.
Well, to start off people see you as what you make them see you as, so if you have slept with diffrent guys, and your not in a relationship with them or if you use guys for your satisfaction that makes you seem like one. I know girls who "seem" slutty when there not.
Don't be upset over this, just take a deep breath and relax. It shouldn't matter if people dislike you, do you still have close friends who care about you? If you do that means, not everyone hates you. Plus people start rumors and start things, so you don't need everyone loving you, being liked isn't a important thing. If you have close friends who care about you, thats all that should matter.
Just start over, anyone can. Don't do anything with any guy unless you feel like you love this person, most girls classified as "slut", or "whore" are girls who don't realize that guys have feelings.
If you do things like that because you feel unloved, stop everything and realize that letting guys use you, doesn't do anything for you. You don't gain confidence, it makes you feel worse, it makes people think your easy, when your not. Just think before you act, people always say this, but its's the best thing you can do, like I said don't do anything pyshical or even just kissing with someone unless your in a relationship with them and you truly care about them.
I hope I helped,
Emily
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I'm 15 and I'm pregnant. I know it's not ideal. I know it's a bad situation. I'm not happy or proud of what I did. It's something I know I have to deal with though.
I told my mom two days ago that I am pregnant. She was really mad at me and told me that we'd get rid of "it" soon enough then.
I tried to tell her it's not what I want. I want to take responsibility. I know it's a hard road. I don't want to kill my baby or "get rid of it." I want this baby and I want to do my best with him or her.
My mom says I'm being stupid and on Monday she's going to call the clinic to schedule an appointment to have an abortion done.
I get where she's coming from, but it is NOT what I want to do. I want to give birth and raise my kid the best I can. I'm not perfect. Nobody is. I just want to try my best.
They always say it's 'my body and my choice' but I feel like my mom isn't giving me a choice here. It's my mistake and I want to do what I think is best. It's my baby I am carrying. I don't want to have an abortion. What do I do? How can I get help so she doesn't make me get one?
Hello :3
Well, I don't believe in abortion and its absoulutly wrong, either you take up the responsibilty of being a mom or you put it up for adoption. It's a living thing, and its growing in your stomach it deserves a life. All you can do it talk to your mother, and try to convince her or put your foot down and say you rather take care of it. It's not really your moms choice to make, its your baby. She IS your mother though and she does have some say in it. Your only 15, my mom wouldn't let me kill my baby..and I'm the same age as you..she wouldn't do something like that. Talk to your mom, do your best to convince her. I don't think they will let you get an abortion without your permission. I respect you for wanting to step up for your actions. :) Your mother should be proud about that.
Good luck :3
Emily
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17/f
im fairly thick down there, and Im planning on being intimate with my boyfriend....what should i do so that its more smooth? i cant get a wax but how should i go about shaving so that theres no razor burn, etc.?
Hello :3
Well, waxing is the worst thing you could do. You could start by trimming with scissors, and than finish with a clean, not used razor and shave the way your hair grows in. Remember you don't really need to shave all of it, not all guys want it completly bald, do what makes YOU comforable xD
I hope I helped,
Emily
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See at the moment I really like this guy Ryan we've known each other since last summer and someone told me he liked him which I could tell he did the only thing we did that summer was talk and just have the best time togther how we met is this group thing in the summer where we all met up everyday now that it's over I've liked him but now I can tell he doesn't like me anymore but I see him every day in some classes which I'm a freshman and he's a sophmore we like never talk anymore which makes me really sad now another girl from the summer group likes him but she goes to a diffrent school. And we talk sour him which at the moment the girl and Ryan keep talking through text and calls so after yesterday which I was crying I decided I let him go or a while then maybe later in the year bci think we have French togther next half so I'm having hope that one day we will talk again and it won't be awkward do you think he'll ever talk to me like he use to and like me again??
Hello :3
I think you guys will talk again, guys are strange. They have diffrent ways of liking someone then us girls, so if he liked you I still think he would like you now. Even though you guys don't see each other, you need to try to contact him some how. Maybe he didn't think you liked him anymore..and tried to move on from you. You never know with guys..try to talk to him again and if he doesn't like you anymore its okay, you can always find someone else. :3
I hope I helped,
Emily
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i am 14 and my boyfriend is 18 about to be 19. he is a senior and i am a freshman..... my family does not aprove of the age diffrence.i do not no what to do ab out it. Because my mom wants me 2 break up with him. but i dont want 2..... i realy love him! should i listen 2 my mom or follow my heart?
Hello :)
Well, My boy friends a senior and i'm 15 and he's 17. A age diffrence there to, but my mom has gotten used to the fact of us being together. She wasn't at first, but let your mom meet your boy friend..if you really love him, show your mom that he's a nice. It will take time, but things will eventally work out. Stay with him, if you feel you really love him, don't let him go! XD
I hope I helped,
Emily
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Okay... I have a question. I am fifteen now, but I was fourteen at the time, and my bf was sixteen. When we were dating I was what you would call "whipped". I basically let my bf do whatever he wanted, except when he asked for a hand job. I kept telling him no, no, no. But one night we were hanging out and making out on the couch. We were getting pretty into it and all of the sudden he just pulled down his shorts, grabbed my hand, put it on his you know what, and started moving my hand with his hand. It happened so quick, it took me a second to realize what was going on and when I did I pulled my hand away and started crying. I never even talked to him about it after that... but now that were broken up it keeps coming back to me and I don't know why. It wasn't that bad was it?? I don't know what to do... why is this bothering me so muchh???
I'm sorry this happend >.< First of all he's not a good guy and don't ever assoicate with him ever again. He doesn't like the others said respect you..and thats a key in a relationship respect..when a guy cares about you he doesnt pressure you into anything, he waits until your ready so it will be an amazing expirence. It keeps coming back to you because its something new to you, diffrent and you weren't ready for it. Evenutally you will put it behind you, won't forget it thats for sure but don't worry there will be better guys out there!
once again I'm sorry..>.<
Hope I helped
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I have been talking to this girl online for awhile now. She is really nice and kind even though she lives a few states away from me. I really enjoy chatting with her almost every evening. She has been a good friend to me.
Well, I am starting to have these feelings for her. I know she is real and is who she says she is so please don't go on about how she could be a serial killer posing as a teenage girl. She has been completely honest with me and there is so much about her that I really like and want.
Is it wrong to have feelings for her? She has only been an online friend to me even though I've had these feelings starting for a little while now. Should I tell her that I like her? Should I try to turn my online friendship into a relationship? Even if I don't pursue a relationship with her should I still tell her that I'm developing these...feelings?
Thank you.
Well online relationships...can start into something great xD It doesn't matter that she lives a few states away, long distance relationships can work. I met my boy friend..from a mutal friend of facebook, and we've been dating sense January 5 >.< I met him and I've never expierenced anything so great!
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I need help!
I met a guy and we really like each other.. I've only known him for about 4 weeks but I'm in Germany visiting my parents. (I've been here for about two of the weeks I've known him for.) We talk on the phone everyday and he says he wants a relationship with me when I get back in three days. Well I was talking to my cousin on the phone and told me not to trust him...Because she heard he was a whore...She also said in that same conversation she wishes I was single..
She was over at my sister's house one night and told her, "My ex didn't know I slept with him." but then switched it to, "I mean talked with him." (let him be the guy's name) My sister told me all of that.
It's terrible cause I'm all the way over here and I can't tell what's going on. I called my cousin and asked her if she had slept with him and she was like, "No!!! Why would you think that??" and I also called the guy and asked him and he got really upset and started saying stuff like, "No baby, I promise I didn't do it. I would never do anything like that." and he kept asking me, "Who told you that?" and he was also like, "I don't want anyone but you, I'd never hurt you like that. I seriously only want you." He also said that my cousin isn't his type. (Comforting...) After we got off the phone together I called my cousin to talk to her again... and he called her while I was on the line with her and was like, "Where did she hear that from?" and was yelling at her. I can't help but think they are both lying to me. I told him to stay away from my cousin because I think she is trying to break us up out of spite (she's done it before to other girls, I just didn't think she'd do it to me) and he said he would because he doesn't want anything to mess this up.
I'm just so confused. I don't want to give up on this guy. I don't know if just my cousin is lying to just break us up or what. Can someone help me pleaaaassse???
Hello..I'm sorry about you being away from whats going on..its probably really stressing, but I feel for you. I went threw this stuff before, and I think what you said was right..both of them are lieing. The guy obviously knows your cousin, and him calling and yelling either sounds to me suspicious or maybe not? You never could know with this guy. You don't know him enough yet you know? Your cousin done things like that with other girls? Friends maybe? :/ She doesn't seem like the trustful type..thats just plan wrong, and if she is doing something like that, trying to break you both up you have to have a serious talk with her, and tell her that your her sister and thats very disrespectble. I don't know if I'm doing much help, but like I said I've been in this situation before and I honestly believe what my boy friend tells me, because he never really gave me a reason to not beleive him. So just go with what your heart thinks. Its worth the try..when you get back..see them both privately I would say, and make sure you get each of there sides of the story. Don't stress yourself out to much, you don't need that.
Good luck to you! I hope I helped..>.<
Emily
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17/f. My best friend is getting harrassed by a boy she very briefly new. They went on like 3 dates. One day, he started accussing her of this weird stuff that never happened. After that, hes been sending her texts like "fuck you" .."I just wante to let you know.. Your a fucking idiot." they dated in january, and he is still continuing this. Also, my friend recently had an eating disorder. (almost died) he was making fun of her for it. This guy is just such a jerk. His best friend dated this one girl I knew and he only dated her to have sex with her and cheated on her all the time that jerk found it "funny." he just isn't a good person and we don't know what to do to get him to leAve her alone.
First of all I'm very sorry for your best friend, people can be very cruel. Tell your friends to ignore the texts she doesnt need to reply to them. She needs to show the texts to her parents, and show the police them. You can get fined for that I think, they have a new policy for it? He needs to stop. I'm very sorry about your friend, with the eating disorder..my friend has an eating disorder and I understand. Show the authoritys, tell them this guys name and adresse..(if you know it) hopefully they will take care of it.
Goodluck,
Emily
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Lets call him Austin. Austin and I have known each other since 2nd grade. We only started being friends 2 years ago, in 7th grade since we were on the same bus. In 8th grade we became really close cause we were in EVERY class with eachother EVERY day. I started to like him nd what not. I acted really mean to him, nd him same way for me. I only acted that way as playing around. I'm not sure if he did too. I saw him at the mall on Friday and I was so close to telling him how I felt. Later that night I saw he was on facebook and I told him I was sorry for how I acted the past year. He seemed happy I told him that. Idunno if I should tell him how I feel or not. Please help me out! Thank yuh soo much! We are both 15.
Well thats good that you told him you were sorry, I think you should start off slow with this, try to make up for how your treated him in the past. You don't want to scare him by saying how you feel really quick start off slow with things. Talk to him more nicely, do some favors for him? Flirt a little and see how he responses. If you sense some good vibes tell him you've had feelings for him for a while now..- something like that. Just see how that goes and than make your move. Good luck!
-Emily
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Okay. I'm fifteen and once I told my ex boyfriend that I will NEVER get a hickey cause I think they are nasty and gross. Sooo... we broke up, long story, and he was telling his baseball team about this and then he said he'd give whoever gave me a hickey first twenty bucks. The baseball team does stupid bets like this alllll the time. Well now guys are trying to give me hickeys! Like two of them just came up behind me and started sucking on my neck! It was disgusting! Three of them have asked me to hook up and basically all of them have started texting me. One of them even said he'd split the twenty with me if I just let him give me one. I told my ex he needed to call this stupid thing off but he doesn't give a shit so... What am I supposed to do?? Please don't tell me to just "wait for it to blow over" cuz I don't wanna do that! And please don't tell to "go tell a parent or coach" because I don't wanna stir shit up. Thank you!
Wow overall I think this thing is very immature. Guys need to grow the hell up and stop fucking around. You need to stand up for yourself, and tell them off. They need to stop before things go to far. Do whatever you can to get them to stop, I really do think you should go to a parent about this because do you really want it to get worse? It won't stop until you or someone else puts a stop to it. Think about it? They won't give up until they give you that hickey, it can and maybe will get worse than that. Do something, tell a parent use self defense to stop it if you have to. I personally don't believe in vilonce but if something like this was happeing to me, I'd defend myself.
Good luck, and I hope I helped.
-Emily
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well when i was a school my best frand had a big crush on this dude she talk about him everydayhe was cute but i like never realy seen him in tht why intill she start talking bout him so we all got out of school its summerr//this happen last nite and my other frand thts a slut foreal said lets get on cami was like ok i knew she had a crush on him but i didnt know he was going to be there so we was all talking and all my shirts show my boobs and there big so her cam went off some way she never cam back so he asked me to show my beast so did olnt if he showed me somthing to but now i feel like a huge slut because my BESTfrand likes him i i know he told somebody cause ever one like my boobs//but i think i like him to
Alright first..please don't show your breasts to people on cam? It's wrong and you don't know whos watching. Some people can be able to record those cams..its happened before. Now think before you act again? You were very wrong for doing that, you betrayed your friend on that. Don't act on your feelings, your already in for it with your friend. I don't think anyone deserves a label of "slut, whore ect." Its wrong, you'll eventually get over people but remember everyone makes mistakes, and every action has a consequence.
I hope I helped,
Emily
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Okay , so i like this guy and hes in grade 11 but im in grade 8 , were great friends but idunno if he likes me . he gives me signs that he does but then again im not too sure . idunno what to do . should i ask him out , or let him to it ?
but theirs another problem , he has a girlfriend, its not going to work out though . His girfriend is a total slut .. she did stuff with my other giy friends . plus shes not that pretty . She kina look like a gorilla and hes soo cute . HELP !
Hello to start off I'm dating an 11th grader and I "was" an 8th grader. Now I'm a freshmen haha but yeah there is a LOT of judging you have to deal with when you date someone older than you like that. People don't understand the situation, therefor they judge. If your sensitve like I am it becomes a big burden on your part. >.< Just be careful. I really think you should hold off and wait, if he's with someone you do not want to come between that, it will bring a lot of issues into the situation and you do not want that. Just wait and see what happens, it might change for the best. Even though you know this about his girl friend don't go telling him it, or anything he needs to find out himself. Even though you DON'T think she's pretty, she could mean the world to him. :) So you never really know. Be careful and remember think before you act..what goes around comes around!! -
Hope I helped!
Emily
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13/f
I need help. I am so confused and dnt kno wat to do. I currently have 2questions up and this will be the third on this guy I like. His name is David. We've been best frends since 4th grade. I KNO for a fact that he likes me more than a frend bc he asked me out at the beginning of 6th grade. I Tod him no that I wasn't allowed. Wen I have had a bf befor.
So now he thinks I'm not alowed. Then we always txt each
other perverted things. Like me /"did you finish ur egg
project."/ him /"not even close"/ me /"urgunna get an F"/ him
/"ya an F in doing you"/. Then I walk home with him after
skul. I also go over to his house all the time bc we live
3houses away. I like him sooooooooooooo much. And he
knows I like him bc I Tod him in a txt. Butwen he asked me
y I liked him I told him bc he is funny. And he said he likes
me bc I'm funny and good l looking. His exact words. But I want him to ask me out so badly. But there a problem. My mom knows I lik him and she dosnt think that dating your nabor is very smart. And if we do become bf gf she wnt allow me overto his house bc shell think things are happening. So if we do goout I'll haveto hide itfrom her which will be very hard. Bc I tell her everything. So pls help me. And how do I ask him out. Thankyou in advance.
Alright Well I can tell that you two really care about each other and I really think you guys should go for it. Not telling your parents is really hard to do though, and if your mom does find out about it it could cause some very bad trust issues. :/ She might force u guys to break up? You don't want that. Talk to your mom about dating him, and that she can trust you not to do anything. Compromise on something, be honest with her tell her the way you feel. Don't hide it from your mother? Ok.
To ask him out,just take a deep breathe and ask him you've been friends for so long it shouldn't be that hard XD OR text or something..in person would be better.
Hope I helped!
Emily
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Well ... i've known this boy for 5 months and since i met him i've liked him so much. Hes amazing , everything i've looked for in a dude.
But i dont know how to tell him i like him.
Everyone else can see i like him but he cant see it at all ...How do i tell him i like him?
There is many ways to tell him you like him. You could always tell him in person..but if your on the shy side like me..I'd say to write him a note saying you have a crush on him XD Or have your friends ask around..and see if he likes you. The best way to tell him would be on you own..like threw texting, phone email fb..myspace? Make sure your not sounding creepy when you tell him you like him though. haha Say something like "I think your really cute, I've had a crush on you for a while now. ;)" You could leave a note in his locker..many ways. Smile, at him flirt make eye contact ;p
I hope I helped!
Emily
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im, rissa i am in the seventh grade and i am 13 i like this boy and i know for sure he likes me. But i am sort of shy when it comes to that sort of thing i mean. I have only had one bf ever. another problem is that this gurl that i used to be friends with just broke up with him. and i really am not sure if i am falling head over heels for him or if i just wanna be wih him because i know he liks me. Yet another problem i went out with his cousin and he lied and broke us up because he wants to be with me. i like jus forced myself to get over him and now i rite here again. And i know that we will be a great couple but i just am confused. i have feelings for him but i can't affor for my heart to be broken
Thanks for asking me a question ;p Well go with what your feeling you know? I don't think it was right for him to break his cousin and you up. Very self fish of him. :/ If you really care about him and you like him, you should give him a chanse..listen to your heart..and your first instincts there usually right you know. Just be carefull you know.
I hope I helped,
Emily
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I like this kid and I feel like he likes me but I've never had a boyfriend so I could be wrong. When I walked in the cafeteria the first few weeks of the second quarter he looked at me until I walked to my table which was behind him, so I would break the stare. I feel like he looks at me a lot when he sees me. My friend and I stay after to work on a project for a class we have together and he would come into the library and she said he was looking at me the whole time but I don't know if he was or not because he was clear across the Library. He's supposedly a very outgoing guy, he has a lot of friends that are girls. Do you think he's kinda liking me or at least thinking I'm attractive? If you think so why won't he talk to me if he's so outgoing? Thanks!
Its a good chance that he might like you XD Looking and making eye contact is a really good thing. You can't really tell if he thinks your attractive or not..if you don't really ask him. Just smile, and look back at him. Welcome him maybe he is to shy to talk to you because he likes you? A lot of guys I know are like that. XD I say talk to him simply say hi. Or write him a note! Don't worry over it..just take things slowly XD
I hope I helped
Emily
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There is this guy I have my eye on. I'm in 7th grade. Some what pretty. We talk and stuff and mess around. But he is going out with my best friend!!! So I know this is going to sound soo stuck up but is there anyway I can get him to like me, because i dont think she is good for him. We were doing a school performance and him and i were backstage hanging out and it was dark and he reached over and held my hand and scooted closer. and asked if i had a bf. I thought he liked me... what should i do???
Please Don't do anything stupid, for two reasons. One you will have a bad rep as a "backstabber." Two You probably will lose your best friend by doing things like that. Do you want to lose your friend? I have been backstabbed like that before, it's not fun..or fair. He chose her ..not you. He might have feelings for you..So what you don't think there right for each other..maybe they won't but let them break up on there time. Don't try anything because I gurantee something bad will happen. Just be his friend.
Hope I helped
Emily
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Female,13.Hey , umm I like this guy and I flirted with him and he flirted back, but when I asked him out he wasnt single!!!! So I was crushed. Then next semester, he still wasn't single and he started flirting with my play sister and his play brother started flirting with me so then a few months after that, my new crush asked my play sister out and said yes. Now she isn't single, im single, my ex crushes arnt single, and im the only one ,and another one of my play sisters in the clique, are single. So should I be jealous of them who have bf's and gf's?
No you shouldn't be jealous of them ;p You can't help it if guys aren't available or aren't interested yet. It's fun to be single! You can be free and you don't have to worry about the issues that arise in relationships. Don't worry about it the guy will come to you you know? You can't always fine them on your own...they have to find you. XD Just don't worry about it and don't concentrate on "I don't have a bf, but everyone else does." That will just only bring you down. Just relax and don't worry about it.
Hope I helped!
Emily
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