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Life is confusing and mistakes are only a part of human nature, no one is perfect and sometimes the right answer isnt always clear...but, when you find knowledge and understanding, its what you do with it that defines your character and who you are as a person.For myself, Ive made a lot of choices in my life, good and bad. Yet, the experiences and the lessons that have come from them have taught me to be who I am today, and without the bad times or wrong choices, I wouldn't be the person I am today or know the things I do. Pain and suffering Is something life gives you because it brings out the strength in your character and shows you what you're made of.
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ok so i have the choice to move.. so should I stay at the school I'm currently at, where it's easy (for me at least) and I'm considered pretty smart since it's kind of a small school.. only 1000 people.. (i guess that's medium) But I don't really think anyone there is fun.. I've been here all my life and I'm kind of bored with everyone. We don't do like anything though (well in some classes) and we can get away with like a lot of stuff.. but idk, people there are just so different from me. we don't have stereotypes or anything though, everyone's pretty chill, but i just don't socialize with them beacuse i know them all and they're all blah except for like 3 people, lmao.
Or should I go to another school, which is -really hard and very strict- but where I'll be popular (well, probably?) and i think i could make a lot of friends there because i've met a few people they're and they're pretty cool. I mean, maybe I'll be good at that school too, but there's 2000 people there and they're all kind of smart.. so I probably won't have a high class rank or anything like I do here.. i don't really know what to pick.. and this school -does- have stereotypes.
You only have one life so you better make the most of it. Do you want to live bored with a lack of interesting people that dont even have similar interests as you just because its easy? Believe in yourself! If you want a good mark you can get it no matter what school you're in, you just have to work for it. I think applying yourself a little more instead of being so bored is a good thing anyway, and at the same time you'll be reviving your life by giving yourself a challenge and a chance to be happier and make meaningful friendships. Steriotypes exist wherever you are, School can be a good experience too, its not always bad for everyone. You shouldn't let stereotypes or the risk of someone judging you keep you from making a choice that in every other way will make you happier. Who cares if one person doesnt like you, everyone's not always going to love you, but for that one person that is a hater, there's a million that are "lovers" and willing to be your friend. The haters always end up alone in the end anyway so you'll be having the last laugh on them. Chances are though, that no one's going to hate you and that you might just miss out on the opportunity you've been waiting for if you don't take it. If worse comes to worse, your old school will always be available for you to go back if you decide you don't like your new one. You have to make the most of your life because you don't want to have any regrets and you don't know when its going to be your time to go, so live it to the fullest and if your unhappy, change your life so that you are happy again:)
I'm 5'4 and I weigh 109. I wouldn't consider myself fat but I don't have a flat stomach. When i sit down it is huge! I naturally have a really small frame i wear like anywhere from 00-0 in pant sizes. I just need to do some ab workouts. Hopefully it wont be too hard to achieve. Since it is summer I want to get a nice flat stomach so i look good in a bikini. Any ideas or pointers to how i should approach this and what to do?
Im only 5 ft, im tiny too but I dont like to get too small or under 105 and im just 5ft. So, Dont do anymore cardio, that because you don't need to lose weight, too skinny's not good your perfect size right now, But I know you want definition not to lose weight so, the first thing about working your abs is to work your core muscles from the inside and then work outward. I like to work out(you know where that little pouch is for most girls)that one first by lying on my back with hands layed down beside me and then put your legs together and straight and start lifting them up and down occasionally holding them (close to the ground but not on the ground)for a couple minutes (if you want to get all the stomach muscles lift your shoulders off the ground and hold your legs straight and of the ground at the same time, live a v shape) and then continue going up and down till you can't take it anymore. Then take a break and repeat if you want. In order to tighten up the sides and get rid of love handles, lye on your back again and put you legs together as if you were sitting on an invisible chair and then bring your knee up and touch it with your opposite elbow and your fingertips just touching the sides of your neck, do this back and forward to you cant take it anymore. The normal crunches will work out the outside muscles. The first evercise will make the muscle that sucks your stomach in stronger making your stomach flat,and the other two will give you your definition. Also, pilates is really good for getting your body beutifully toned, you can always take a class or buy a video to help you out. Hope this helps!
i met this guy this past week at a camp. we didnt talk much but we were both eyeing each other. were both kinda shy and im not used to the guy being shy. so first of all, i dont know how to act around him. also, i have issues trusting guys, i just dont want to get hurt. so how do i know if hes playing a game with me? and how do i get him back if he is?
Being hurt is hard, Ive dated a lot of assholes in my life, but if I didnt go through the pain or those stupid relationships I wouldn't be the person I am today. Those hard lessons are just the consequences of loving and finding the strength and power in yourself because once time has healed you come out a stronger and more confident person in yourself because you were able to get out of a bad situation all on your own. If you didn't get out of those situations than you would be wasting your time being sad and miserable when really, the dream guy is waiting around the corner for you, but, you decide to take a different road. What Im trying to say is getting hurt is a part of life and sometimes you have to go through the bad to get to the good. Now, If I assume that you mean, is he flirting with you and how do you respond? Then this is my answer, if i miss interpreted you're question Im sorry.
hmm, shy guys can be a little difficult especially when you're shy too, I know from experience because my current boyfriend was shy and I wasn't used to that and I was too shy to go approach him first. He's not shy anymore now that he's with me. But anywho, eye contact is always good because it lets him know that your interested too. Most guys after that would probablly come up and start talking to you even after that, but he won't. But if he does, damnn you good:p SO, you're going to have to smile at him (For a shy girl, dunn worry its a small smile- you can do it!) Do that only when you think u know for sure he's really checking you out, then next time you look over at him and catch him staring at you...smile a little more to let him know that you're not going to be a
b!tch and that your actually a nice person who would be approachable. If he is still shy and doesn't bite on that one, play it slowly and start unobviously trying to entice him in a way to come over and talk to you, what I mean by that is go do something around him and (if the circumstance is right and its not too obvious) make sure you're go close enough to him that he would be able to talk to you from where he was standing and you can still hear it, hopefully he'll take that as an opportunity because you know inside they really are dying to talk to you they just can't find the courage, just like how you feel in a way about being too shy to approach him. But, you see, girls can grow balls sometimes faster than guys can because of course were smarter:p So, take it as a challenge and a unique experience for this time that you might just have to do the mackin if you're going to get him to feel comfortable enough to tell you that he's feeling you. By the way too, after the first smile they should slowly get bigger and more encouragable the more you catch him looking. If you do finally find the courage, go up to him and start talking to him instead. Im sure he'll be relieved that you did. Good luck and I hope you're able to break his shell!
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My parents are getting a divorce shortly mainly because my dad is 38 wanting to be 20 again. I have a bestfriend that comes around alot and she thinks my dad is hot and he knows that. He says that she is very attractive and so on. He text her all the time. Me and my friend work together and my dad will go in and talk to her then leave without saying a word to me or he will go in when im not even working like he has for the last 2 weeks according to my friend.
The other night i was pretty drunk and my friend and i were talking to my dad. I laid down on the floor and dosed off and i hard noises coming from my friend ( like her and my dad messing around ) after my sister came in the room i got up and went to the bathroom and started crying. After 10 min my friend came to check on me and i asked her if she was messing around with my dad and she said "no, i would never do that ___ i would never do anything to ruin our friendship". And of course i believe her she my bestfriend.
Lately my dad is very attached to his cell phone every time it chimes i know its my friend.He sleeps with the phone right next to him most nights and if you touch his phone he flips out. Well tonight he left his phone on the table so i snooped and i looked thourgh his pictures and i found one of my friend naked (from the waist up)
IM so hurt by this i dont know if i trust her shes lying to me. We're supposed to be bestfriends. Shes tells me she annoyed by my dad but that pictures proves that thats a lie. I dont know what to do anymore. I dont want to tell her i was looking through my dads phone and found this. I'm Graduating tomorrow and shes going to be there we are supposed to move in tomorrow as in get an apartment.
Please help im falling apart over this
thanks
Your absolutely right for being upset! Your dad is acting completely innapropriate as your father and as a respectful adult. Your friend is no better than he is either. She knew how much that would hurt you and she still did that...thats your dad...and she's supposed to be your best friend?? They may both be adults but there are still unwritten rules and they broke them. Its one thing if your bestfriend hooks up with an old bf of yours (even that's bad) this is worse, and its even more outrageous that theyre putting you in a wierd position. Although I am usually one to say age is just a number, but in this case, your dad should know better than that and he should act his age and be a romodel for you not your friends booty call. I think you need to confront your dad and tell him that what he is doing is hurting you and its one thing to be going through a divorce and dating other women (which is hard enough on you already) but its a whole other thing to be separating with your mom and turning to your bestfriend as a substitute. In a way, he is taking advantage of your bestfriend for his own selfish purposes to make himself feel better or something? Its completely wrong of him especially when your parents aren't even divorced YET. Even if they were, youre his daughter and your feelings and well being should come first not his sexual desires. Its also not fair that he is jeapordizing you and your friends friendship. Nonetheless, your friend is just as wrong for doing that knowing that you and your family are going through a hard time. I think you need to tell her how much her actions have affected you and then re-evaluate whether or not she is a true friend to you if she makes choices like that at your expense. Im sorry for the pain your suffering through and I hope in time everything will be resolved, but I think you should definitely let them both know that what they did is wrong and that its not acceptable and they need to start being accountable for their actions and the pain it is causing everyone.
under my eye about an inch below, there a small red circle. its quite clearly visible and when looked at close theres a small red dot in the center with these zig-zaging red lines coming out of it. its quite small, not even the size of a cent coin, but close. I was punched very hard in that part of my face about a year ago and i think it might be a burst vein or something. just curious cuz its not going away. 13/m
those are called annoying spider veins, they don't go away for a really long time, I had one under my eye too for most of my teen years and then out of no where it dissapeared. When I went to the dr i asked about it and he said it would usually go away on its own (which thank god it did) but if it doesnt then you always can get it removed with a laser by a dermatologist or something. Your skin is very sensitive especially under and around your eyes so treat your skin good and try not to get punched in those sensitive spots:p
Okay, i have a close friend and we'll call her 1 and i have another friend who's not as close but we'll call her 2. Both of my friends go to my school. 2 was coming over my house that day and 2 and me gave 1 a ride home. I didn't invite 1 to come with me and 2 because i hadn't spent any time with 2 in a long time. The next day i noticed right away 1 wasn't talking to me. 1 was still talking to 2, but the next day 1 wasn't tallking to me or 2. About a week later 2 called 1 and a few days after that 1 and 2 were talking again, but me 1 was still not talking to me. 3 weeks past and me 1 was STILL not talking to me!! Then came the last day of school..The last bell rang and we went to the front of the school like we do everyday and alot of people we usually stand with had started crying. I was one of those people and so was 1 and 2. 10 minutes later i hugged 1 and we started crying even more than before, we both said sorry over and over while we were crying. Now we're talking , but i still am not sure exactly why 1 stopped taling to me. Do you? if you have any idea, let me know!![All three of us are girls and we're all 14.]
You should ask her and talk to her about it to see exactly why. BUT, she probablly felt left out and unwanted. If you guys are all friends with eachother then why shouldn't you all be included? Time can still be spent with #2 but at least your not ditching #1. It would be different if #1 and #2 didnt get along but they do. Its important not to exclude anyone because then feelings get hurt, jealousy can come, and it can really actually hurt your relationship with them as you experienced the next day when she wouldnt talk to you guys. If you guys are eachothers friends then you should enjoy eachothers company together. Why not? It will only make you guys tighter and more bonded as a group. There is always lots of other times where you will be able to do things with #2 alone and with #1. But, if you're all together and you're dropping one off even when they want to still chill with u guys, thats kind of being mean because you're all friends right? #2 probablly felt even worse because she had no idea of the reason why you wouldn't ask her to come with you guys. Anyways, its good thing that you guys are friends again and next time have fun together (the more the merrier)
If you are talking about your best friend and your boyfriend knows her, and asks "Oh does she have a boyfriend?" Do you think it would just be conversation or that he's interested? And how do you deal with jealousy from this? Should I ask if he likes her? & if so, what should I say..?
In addition to what everyone said, you shouldn't worry because he would definitely ask someone else and not you his girlfriend. If anything, some guys (their jealosy issues) like to know if your girlfriends have boyfriends because then they don't have to worry that if you were hanging out with your single girlfriends they would be "influencing you" to pick up guys or be open to guys picking you up (living the single life is fun and flirtacious) Thats just some insecurities guys have.
How long does it take to receive something for a court date.
you mean a supena? it can take a couple of days to a couple of weeks or at least whenever I had them it did. But then you have to wait a really long time until the court date is actually set. Takes a while for lawyers to get their cases together. It pretty much comes just the same as if you mail any letter, there's no special rush on them because the actual court date isnt going to be for a while depending whatever the case is about.
There's this guy at school that I like I went out with him once and then he asked me out again I never got to answer him and the next day he had a girlfriend. I'm his friend and everything and we play badminton together, he got dumped by his gf yesterday and he was really sad I want to ask him out but I dont even know if he really likes me. What do I do.
Well then, if he's already over her, although you cant entirely believe it because he still probablly wants to save face and say he doesn't care when he does, but you know him best and if he is already looking for someone eles then you better make your move before he moves on to the next undeserving girl.
okay so i get all the signs of pms but arent they the same signs as pregnancy?
like i eat peanut butter and i get moody
but i have a weird discharge and its not blood or like anything but its like a brownish color.. then sometimes it looks like theres a little blood in it.. and me and my boyfriend were sexual last weekend but we didnt have sex.. but he fingered me... is it possible that he may have had cum on his hands and now im pregnant?
or does it mean my periods coming because its been going on for like 5 days and i feel like it happened after me and my boyfriend did stuff.. and im scared.
Well, sometimes periods arent always the same and they're different for everyone. Some periods you can have heavy discharge and they'll last for a longer amount of days and other periods will be light and last 3-5 days. Some periods you get really bad cramps other periods you dont. Some periods aren't always right on time either. Get what im saying:) Your period doesnt always have to be just a normal straight red colour, sometimes its normal for girls to have a brownish red period, or even a pinkish red period,even blood clots (clumpy blood) is normal, its still your period, and thats probablly what you just had for your last five days, your period. Im more than sure that he didn't get you pregnant by fingering you, maybe if he let his whole load go in his hand and then stuck it up your vagina right away which I doubt even happened. There would have to be enough cum for him to even know it was on his hands. Not all sperm that he ejects is able to penetrate your egg. But anyway, back to the point, stop worrying your probablly not pregnant.
If you still have further concern about your discharge then the next best thing to do would see your dr. But I really wouldn't worry about it.
I accidently hurt my friend's feelings over a picture I head on my cell phone. When I showed it to 3 people she sent me a text saying "Why the f*#$ do you have a picture of me on your phone?" and she has hated me ever since. I have tried to apologize many times but all she has ever said is why do you want to be my friend so bad and that's just plain wierd. She is a 15 year old Sophmore and I am a freshman at high school. I see her as somewhat of what I want to be, a great soccer player. She has made Varsity since freshman year and I just want to be as good as her. I dream about my mistake every night and that it becomes fixed, but when I wake up it is only a memory of what I want. Should I just forget about her(even though I see her twice a day and it's hard to do) or should I try something new to get her back?
First of all, never compare yourself to others you are who YOU are and you can make yourself be a great soccer player and all of what you want to be on your own. A truly admirable and great person is what they make of themself and their own character. I have played soccer at a national level and a few girls previously on my team are on the Canada team now. I did that all by myself and so can you. Just because you idolize that girls soccer ability doesnt mean she's a great person or a good friend. Now, unless that picture was shown with the intent to embarass her or something so vulgur that if it was you you wouldn't want it shown, then yes, you did something not right and your actions to make amends are the right thing to do (yet you should let her cool down before speaking to her rationally) But if it wasnt with bad intent, then she totally acted out of proportion, even if a person didn't like having their picture taken or the picture you showed was just an unflattering picture (which we all have), a real friend wouldn't end the friendship over something so stupid. They would simply say please ask me next time to show this picture or just please dont take any pictures of me unless you have my permission and they may be a little pissed off but not enough to call your friendship quits. And if she can't accept an apology for something like that then what does that say about her character? She sounds a little conceited when she's asking you why you want to be her friend sooo bad. A friendship is something that should be valued on both ends that means if she was your true friend in the first place she would try to work it out with you. So far, you have done all the right things that you can do and if she wants to continue to act immature then let her be that way and don't give her another thought or dream because now its her loss if she doesnt want to fix your friendship, especially over a picture, then replace her with a better friend that values your friendship and isnt so crazy. What you should do is work on the things you want for yourself and finding meaningful friendships (not shallow ones) When you're young, you start out with tons of friends but as you get older youll notice some friendships get weeded out because they weren't true friends or there wasnt enough meaning in your friendship to make it last, in the end you begin to see who your true friends are and she doesn't sound like one of them. Friendship is almost like a marriage, it should be through thick and thin unless they betray you in a way that is unforgivable, but a picture most will say is forgivable and if she wants to hold grudges that's on her. Dont let her get to you anymore because now she's the one who is being nasty, NOT YOU! Live your life and dont worry about it and if she decides to forgive you that will be on her own time.
17/f
my boyfriend and I are both virgins but he has performed oral sex on me. Am i at risk for STD's?
is it possible that either of us has one?
and do guys know when they pre-cum? because i always worry that he has some on his hand and then touches me.
if you guys both are for sure virgins then you're not at risk of getting an std. If it were another story and your boyfriend had previous sexual experience with a person who had an std like herpes and then performed orally on you you could be at risk of getting it, but that's not the case so dont worry. Just be careful in the future with whoever you're with and make sure the person is tested and clean before you get sexually involved. Other than that, you guys are alright and untainted virgins so enjoy your first time together and just remember to protect yourself:)
As for your other question, its better to be safe than sorry because as much as they think they know if theyre cuming they can never be 100% sure especially with pre cum and ending up pregnant isnt exactly somethin you want at your age.
My hair is very curly, but my bangs are straight. Idiotic straight. Like, they curl once at the scalp and then fall exactly pin straight across my face. It probably happens because I used to iron my bangs staright. But I did the rest of my hair too! Why is it happening? Pretty much my only options are to straighten them again or gel like there's no tomorrow. It's ugly and it doesn't belong. How can I get my bangs to curl like the rest of my hair? (P.S., I don't want it to look too unnatural, and our curling iron has a bigger rod than my spirals. Help!)
well, my hair is curly and my bangs are always wavy no matter what I do unless I dont comb them out. I would recomend that after you shower or whatever, and your hair is still semi-wet take your bangs apart from the rest, put in a little leave in conditioner and twirl your finger around your hair (as if your finger were a curling iron, hold it there for a little bit and although it sucks you have to be patient, and then pull it out so your hair takes on a loose curl. That way theyre still technically small curls and will dry that way at the same time and can be styled in a way that you want. Every persons hair is different especially when it comes to curls but since your hair is curly its more prone to keep a curl. Hope it works for you, if you dont like the whole finger thing, another thing you can do but you have less control over how the curl will turn out but just take a pencil and curl your bang around that and then clip the pencil with a small claw horizontally so you get a spiral curl.
The past 2 times me and my boyfriend have been having protected sex..(with condom)we have both been finish, he usually goes to the bathroom to clean himself up with absolutely no problems. But the past 2 times that he's done that and he's noticed that the sperm slided off alittle onto his testical area with the condom on (he got soft). we are both extremely worried that we got sperm on me. He says he KNOWS that it was around my vaginal area but didn't go inside. But we both washed off really well. Do you think I could be pregnant? (I can't get it off my head)
BREATHE EASY, dont get too worried, your most likely not pregnant and if you were that would be some pretty invincible sperm he has. The only way you're going to get pregnant is if those babies were shot out and swimming up in your vagina and they weren't. Even if a little came close it doesnt matter as long as its not IN THERE. Plus, when a guy does cum in a girl, not every sperm is able to penetrate the egg (in other words, some are duds, but its important that you keep being protected and if a condoms not good enough than look to get started on birth control so you can be even more worry free.
one of my students just found out that the guy that she likes is not interested on her,,,she is sad and disspointed. I have told her that she is pretty and she will find someone that will love her.
What can I do to make her feel special?
Also I am afraid that she ends up with a jerk...
you know nice girls most of the times end up with jerks....
Life is learnt best through experience. Life would be so much easier if there was a sign that read potential asshole alert on their forehead, but there's not. Being with jerks are all part of finding whats important to you and the type of guy you want in your life. In order to get the good you have to weed out the bad. Dealing with a few bad boyfriends sucks but is actually very empowering to yourself because you are able to learn what you're made of and how much you respect yourself. If you choose to stay with a guy that treats you wrong, then you are obviosly going to learn an important lesson, its not worth it and that being happy and loving yourself is way more important than being stuck with someone who makes you feel like shit. Once a girl comes to the point where she does leave and she learns that loving herself and putting her needs first was the best choice, then shell start making wiser decisions when it comes to future boyfriends. Its all part of a process that we all go through, the best thing to do is just what you did, be supportive of her and let her know that she's worth something and that the right one is out there and that's all you can do.
my boyfriend wants to finger me, but im nervous because i don't completely shave down there, i think its uncomfortable. do guys really find it that repulsive if a girl isnt shaved? guy responses appreciated!
Honestly, its up to you. Guys have preferences just as girls have preferences. Some guys like a bush and others don't. Do whatever your comfortable with and if he doesnt like it then he isnt going to have the pleasure of pleasuring you. In addition, if you do decide to shave down there then, 1. Its only uncomfortable in the first few times that you shave it. After that, your skin becomes less sensitive and is able to adjust without any discomfort 2. It cant always be shaved clean or else you'll have razer burn and thats unpleasant. Give it a couple days to grow and then shave it again. 3. Once you get used to shaving, it can actually be more comfortable than if you kept your bush because there's no hair to get in the way or tickle your skin. 4. Shaving down there is actually proven to be cleaner than having a full bush. Ex) although this is far fetched, if a guy had crabs that you slept with, you wouldn't get them because they can only live where there is hair. Moreover, its not always just about the girl shaving down there. If your going to pleasure your man its up to you whether you like him with a bush or not and if you dont then why cant he shave his too? My bf does 4 me:) Feels better on your skin. Ultimately, if you decide against this, then meet him halfway and just trim the hedges once in a while so your not growing a garden that's out of control. Good luck!
are there any branches of christianity that allow premarital sex or that are less strict about it? what about sex when you're engaged, is that ok?
Sex is okay as long as you're in a loving and committed relationship, and you're smart about it (protect yourself.) God expects us to have sex,we are mammals, and you dont see the animal world having to stand before an alter in order to "do it" Gods not going to punish you for doing what is in you instinct. It is also okay to be religious and have your own beliefs about God instead of complying to what someone tells you you should believe. I love God and I know he put us on this earth to live life and learn from it. He didn't give us these desires if he was only going to punish us for them, I don't think God is really that hateful, he loves us and most of all he's all about forgiving not condemning. Nonetheless, he didn't create marriage, the church did, God put us on this earth and obviously he expected that we continue the human population or else what would be the point. Most of all, God want us to enjoy life and sex is enjoyable if you're are smart about it and don't abuse the privilege (don't become a slut and protect yourself from becoming pregnant if you're not ready to have a kid). ON top of that, would you really want to marry someone and they end up sucking in bed or they do some really wierd groaning or cry when its all over, or something else that is a complete turn off and then your stuck with him the rest of your life and you miss out on the good stuff? That's not fair and Im sure God wouldn't want to see you suffer.
Ok so i might be a little crazy sometimes just being myself.. but does that mean i don't deserve a boyfriend? I'm 16 years old and i've never kissed a guy, gone out w/ a guy or anything.. it's not that i don't want to ... it's just that i guess the right guy hasn't come along. I've had 2 major crushes and thought for sure the last one was the ONE but.. that's a long story.. In the end im still single. What's wrong w/ me? I mean im decent looking.. i have an awesome sense of humour and have ALOT in common w/ alot of my guy friends and stuff. I don't know if just feel like a reject...
Dont worry, that first kiss and all the rest will come. You can't always think its because they DONT want you. SOmetimes, its because you are so beautiful that guys are intimadated by your looks and feel theyre not good enough or they are going to be rejected by you even if that's further from the truth. Guys fear rejection too. Or they think that because youre so pretty, that you must be a snob or have a boyfriend already. At your age too, guys are still developing their game (picking up girls) when you start to get older it seems like guys start falling at your waist side. Believe me, i used to think that too. So in the meantime, be patient, and if you notice a guy checking you out, toss him a little smile to let him know your approachable and interested.
me 16/ bf 17
well me and my boyfriend have been to dying to have sex for a while, but we don't know when we should. and i'm afraid to get pregnant and he's afraid of getting me that way.
we have protection, but does it really help? would we have nothing to worry about if we did use it?
and without protection, when would be the absolute best time to have sex without getting me pregnant?
thanks in advance.
note: i don't want ppl saying we shouldn't do it. i know we probably shouldn't, but it's our choice.
Getting pregnant before we are ready to have kids can be a girls worst nightmare. But if you want to have sex and you dont want to get pregnant then it depends how much protection you are willing to use. Where ever you live, there are always way of getting birth control pills which are highly effective as long as you take them properly as directed (after your period everyday at a certain time) is the best way. If you don't want your mom to know there are ways of getting birth control pills discreetly but you have to find which places where you live will help you. On top of using the pill, at the same time your man can use a condom (not a 25 cent condom you find in despensers :P ) for the best protection possible. Taking the pill is more effective than even a condom, but together, theyr'e like 99.9999999 effective. Also, the pill DOES NOT protect you from std's, so if your bf has been with anyone prior (but it doesnt sound like it) the condom is better protection against sexually transmitted diseases. If you choose to start being sexually active, make sure you always know your partners history and if he's clean. A lot of times, guys can be skanky bcuz they think getting a lot of girls is what it's about (especially when there in there immature teen years) yet they contract std's and may not have any symptoms and then end up unknowingly passing it on to you...so BE CAREFUL, but other than that, if its the right time and your with the right guy, sex is awesome.
most girls probably would love to have a DD cup but i hate it! i hang out with a lot of guys and they never shut up about them. they grab them unexpectidly, everything! even the girls always talk about them.i try to go along with it but i cant anymore! my mom thinks im depressed because of it. how do i get them to stop?
#1. If they're really good guy friends they will have respect for you and not grab your boobs (unless a special someone has permission.) You're not a sex object for them to touch whenever they want especially if YOU dont want that. 13 is a hard age because girls and guys will still be immature with all those ragin hormones but when you get older all the boob talk will finally wear out, especially when those girls develop boobs of there own and start to understand to a certain degree what you have to go through. You cant let what girls say about your boobs get to you beUcause they are problly jealous that they are not as stacked and they don't realize the negative things that you have to deal with like sore back, wrong attention from creepers, or even finding shirts and bras that will contain them. THose girls when they're older will probally end up pay a couple g's just to get what you have. But that's not the point, to get them to hopefully come to their senses, ask them why their lives are so boring that they have nothing else to do other than oggle and talk about your breasts? They most likely will be at a loss of words after that. Unfortunately, its a hard age but, just be confident in yourself and if the problem persists as you do get older, you can certainly have a boob reduction to whatever size you see desirable. Good luck:)