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playin the guy game
i met this guy this past week at a camp. we didnt talk much but we were both eyeing each other. were both kinda shy and im not used to the guy being shy. so first of all, i dont know how to act around him. also, i have issues trusting guys, i just dont want to get hurt. so how do i know if hes playing a game with me? and how do i get him back if he is?
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Being hurt is hard, Ive dated a lot of assholes in my life, but if I didnt go through the pain or those stupid relationships I wouldn't be the person I am today. Those hard lessons are just the consequences of loving and finding the strength and power in yourself because once time has healed you come out a stronger and more confident person in yourself because you were able to get out of a bad situation all on your own. If you didn't get out of those situations than you would be wasting your time being sad and miserable when really, the dream guy is waiting around the corner for you, but, you decide to take a different road. What Im trying to say is getting hurt is a part of life and sometimes you have to go through the bad to get to the good. Now, If I assume that you mean, is he flirting with you and how do you respond? Then this is my answer, if i miss interpreted you're question Im sorry.
hmm, shy guys can be a little difficult especially when you're shy too, I know from experience because my current boyfriend was shy and I wasn't used to that and I was too shy to go approach him first. He's not shy anymore now that he's with me. But anywho, eye contact is always good because it lets him know that your interested too. Most guys after that would probablly come up and start talking to you even after that, but he won't. But if he does, damnn you good:p SO, you're going to have to smile at him (For a shy girl, dunn worry its a small smile- you can do it!) Do that only when you think u know for sure he's really checking you out, then next time you look over at him and catch him staring at you...smile a little more to let him know that you're not going to be a
b!tch and that your actually a nice person who would be approachable. If he is still shy and doesn't bite on that one, play it slowly and start unobviously trying to entice him in a way to come over and talk to you, what I mean by that is go do something around him and (if the circumstance is right and its not too obvious) make sure you're go close enough to him that he would be able to talk to you from where he was standing and you can still hear it, hopefully he'll take that as an opportunity because you know inside they really are dying to talk to you they just can't find the courage, just like how you feel in a way about being too shy to approach him. But, you see, girls can grow balls sometimes faster than guys can because of course were smarter:p So, take it as a challenge and a unique experience for this time that you might just have to do the mackin if you're going to get him to feel comfortable enough to tell you that he's feeling you. By the way too, after the first smile they should slowly get bigger and more encouragable the more you catch him looking. If you do finally find the courage, go up to him and start talking to him instead. Im sure he'll be relieved that you did. Good luck and I hope you're able to break his shell!
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It is a dilema, I know. You don't want to get hurt, but you don't want to be alone either. so how do you trust someone? Well you just don't let them go too far. In the beginning, each person in a realtionship is on their best behavior. So you spend ENOUGH time together to get to know each other. Bad guys, or guys that just want to use you, won't be abel to be good for say four or five months. (depending on how often you see each other) If he is just interested in using you, he'll get tired of waiting and go find someone easier. There are always easier girls that guys can find when they just want sex and don't want to be in a committed relationship. Only time will tell if he is a "keeper" or not. There are so many girls today, and maybe guys too, who wish that they had waited a few weeks or months more, before they gave their heart to someone, only for him/her to leave when they were most vulnerable.
As far as not being shy. the best thing I have found is to ask people about themselves. Most people love to talk about themselves. Since you hardly know him, you can ask him if he has any brothers or sisters....what does he like to do with his best friend.....what musice does he listen too. etc, etc.
See how much you have in common, that is one thing that binds people together...the more they have in common. Despite how the saying goes....opposites do NOT attract.
Michele
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