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First i would like to state i am a m/13
Amd i am terribly sorry to everyone who has been answering my ?s. That i keep talking about my best friend who i have a major crush on and she knows it. Anyways...
Ok my best friend know i like her and when we talk about the boys she likes i sometimes ask her "but what are looking for in a guy" she tells me now somtime in the the conversation she always says seriously "Well maybe one day i will just go out w/ you"(something along those lines anyways) Now is she hinting something to me(she has clearly satated she has no crushy feelings for me. so what does this mean.
Is she lying to me when she says she doesnt like me
Does she want to go out w/ me
If she does want to go out w/ me how do i ask her
This is my most important ? yet
And i would just like to say thanks truely and deeply for all the people who have/will help/helped me out.
Much love, thanks, and prayers for you all
Carpe Diem
Next time your talking about guys and she says something along those lines you just ask "Will you go out with me?" if she says no you can stop wandering. Honestly though if she says she has no crushy feelings for you and is saying taht she might go out with you one day she is playing you. Its not nice but alot of girls do it they keep you wainting and wandering so that just incase they want a bf your an obviouse choice ts about knowing what you can have and knowing this is kind of like a boost to your confidece. I know you may be think that your firned wouldnt do that but In plain truth that just might be the case girls need to know they have options.
Im a single woman (no kids - one dog) recently moved to the area, dont know anyone here. How do I go about meeting Mr Right? How can I actually meet someone who is Genuine, honest, kind, honerable, intelligent with a sense of humour?
Ive tried online dating sites but nothing has come of that. I dont like to go out on my own.
Ive been told that Im attractive, funny, kind, caring, intelligent but if anything that seems to put guys off.
Im not desperate to find a partner - infact Id rather be on my own than go out with someone just for the sake of it. Its just that it would be nice to settle down at some point in time.
Any advice would be helpful
Guys arnt just found on a site or in specific spot they are all over dont be so overally concerned on this issue but it would be smart to open yoru eyes a little bit and look at that cute guy in back of you at the grocery store, Take time to talk. You recently moving is actually perfect because you can easily start conversation by saying things like "Hi, i just recently moved here and i was wandering if you knew aplace near by that i could get something to eat" Look at his hand....is he married no ring then ask if he would like to join you say that your thankful for his help and would like to repay this favor by treating him to a meal.
My boyfriend of eight months nearly always wants sex. I've got a strong libido too but it bugs me that he will try to initiate sex every time I enter my bedroom. Sometimes we have guests over, or it’s the middle of the afternoon and I have other things to be doing. Sometimes he'll start tugging my clothes off while the door is still open! We can't even sit through a whole movie without him trying to undress me.
I'm sick of feeling guilty when I shut him down. And He always acts so hurt by it! But I have other things to do with my life besides sex. Does anyone have any ideas how I can make him see that this just isn’t appropriate? I know he loves me and isn’t just in it for the sex, but it’s really pissing me off.
For guys sex is different then we se it. Guys their way of connecting emotionally is through sex but if you feel it is not a noraml amount he wants there are definitly some possible answers such as he may be a sex addict there are such things (believe it or not) I know it sunds silly i thought so too but its actually possible its when they are obsessive over sex. on a less serious note it could just be that you need to put him in his place have you tried sitting down and talking to him saying that you feel he is overally obsesive over sex. Sya you enjoy sex just as much as him but that you realize you cant have it all the time tell him he needs to realize this too, you dont need to have a long lecture about it a quick talk is just as equally effective.
I've have a really close guy friend who I just found out is moving to another province.. We've been friends for almost 3 years and I know that he cares a lot about me. I'm 27 and feel that he may be the love of my life.
I'll be seeing him next week before he leaves, he's giving me his computer so we can still email each other.
What would be a good way to let him know that I am interested in him as more than a friend? I don't want to get too emotional or freak him out. But I feel like I am in love with him.
He's moving becuase he got a job in the Alberta Oil rigs and the money is too good to pass up.
Does anyone have any ideas?
No matter what you always say what your feeling its something i learned a long time ago. It will be too late when he moves away so tell him before he goes. tell him you think you love him and want more then a friendship say that although you hate long distance relationships youd like to try dating once in awhile to see if it can work and if it does well then you will take that turn when it comes up. You can always change living arangments, maybe rent a place down there if you think its getting serious.
So. I'm with this guy, and him and I like eachother quite a bit. More than average teenagers, we're not just going out just to go out. But the thing is, his mom is not for us because we live about 45 minutes-1 hour away from one another. And told him that she's been trying to break the two of us up since the very beginning. And so him and I decided to break up, but realized that's not what we wanted, so two days later we got back togeter. And he's not gonna be supported by his mom about him and I until he's 17 (In a year). So I'm not sure if we should be together or not. But everyone says we should. And him and I love eachother very much so I don't think I should end us. Although I only see him about 2 times a month every weekend. So what should I do?
if you see him 2 times a month and you still have strong feeling s to him then power to you dont end something yournot completly sure you want to end If you love him and you still love him even though you only see him once in awhile then thats okay because that means whatever you guys have is real dont end something that good and definitly dont doubt it.
Hope i helped
Amber
hey heres my story:
im 18 yrs old and in love with a 24 yr old man! my story starts like this, hes my manager at my job and iimediatly had an instant crush on him but me i dont have that much confidence in myself so when he satrted to show intrest in me i panicked and backed way and brought in a freind to go for him, but the only thing is that the friend is actualy me! the real me that i would like to be but dont have the confidence to be! i made up her name and a whloe life for her(me).and called him pretending to be this person! everything was going so well and my emotions got stronger and the more we talked the more we had in common! i ended up fallin totaly head over heels in love with him and decided id tell him and low and behold he felt the same way! and of course he wanted to meet! i didnt know wat to do! i thought for days and days as to wat i should do and finaly decided i should tell him the truth! that the women he was in love with was me!.... well when i told him over the phone he seemed fine and didnt wanna talk about it just wanted to put it behind us and told me that he could never trust me agian! and im the type of person that trust is important to me and it broke my heart to hear that! so anyway the next three weeks passed by and evything was fine he was nice and called me to talk like friends he invited me to places with him and stil comnfided stuff with me! we were all cool then he hit me with a song he had wrote! he had origianly wanted me to hear it but my comp didnt have speakers so he sent me the lyrics! it was amazing lyrics it touched my heart but he didnt say that i was for me! so i read it he imed me like 20 times asking me if i had recived it and wanted my reaction! once again i panicked and retracted my emotions and played it as if i didnt understand the message he was trying to convey! like i liked the song and wanted to know who the artist was (knowing that he wrote it). he immediatly signed off! then greated me at work with a big smile the next day and asked me once again if i had recived the email! again i backed away! and now so di he! he wont talk to me as much anymore and insist on makeing me jelouse with the other female employees! meanwhile im standing hear with all these feelings and dont know wat to do! im in love with him so much it hurts i cant take it anymore he keeps telling me that my apolagies just arnt enough! Ali can u pls tell me wat i should do! it hurts to have these strong feeling twords someone and not be sure that they feel the same way! i want to go back to when i was the real me!( wich he named lola)
sincerly,
lola( the real me)
Aww You should be confident seems like your lack of selfesteeme is ruining your life. stand straight and realize he wouldnt have done all this if he didnt feel the same way. This is what i wnat you to do next time hes alone you walk up to him and just be confident throw cares away and stop worrying what people will think. Say you still love him and that your tired of being afraid and would really like to see him that weekend. BE CONFIDNET THERE IS OSMETHING HE SEES IN YOU AND LOVES NOW SEE IT FOR YOURSELF AND LOVE YOUR SELF. As long as your you thats all taht matters, There is no real you You are always you just sometime you finally get the gut to be confident and dsay whats on your mind. stop refering to your self as you and the real you. You are you and never were anyone else.
I'm 17 and I've been dating my boyfriend for 6 months! I adore him so much! I took his virginity which I promised myself I would never do! Sometimes I think about breaking up with him because of stupid reasons but than I think about all the good things about him! I love his company and the way he treats me but I just don't know how I really feel about him! lately all he wants to do is sexual things and I've talked to him about it and he said he would calm it down, but I have yet to find out if he will! I really don't know what I should do! I also have another twist in this! I am talking to another guy! Like he is fun to talk too but he is totally crazy and I would never think about breaking up with my boyfriend for him! I just like to talk to him. Ever since I started talking to this kid my boyfriend has been asking me all these questions about him and like if he should fix what he is doing in the relationship! It so overbearing and I don't know what I should do! Please help me! I'm so lost! p.s I don't want to break up with him!
that seems liek a normal relationship he is probably getting worried caause your talking to another guy. Honestly i think you should talk to your boyfriend more like try forming the type of relationship you have with this other guy. Tell your boyfriend he has nothing to worry about but you would like him to chill out over the sexual things tell him youd like to form a relationship where you talk more and that he makes it hard wen all he thinks is sex. Tell him that you and him have talked about this before but that you havnt seen any effect from it.
Ok so i just called my boyfriend, and all of the sudden it feels like i cant even connect with him anymore. (I'm 13 and hes 16) I called him and asked if he was going to the football game Friday nite, and he said probably not. I was trying to hint to him that I was going and that I wanted to see him, but he would'nt really talk. so i lied and told him I needed to do my homework so I could get off the phone w/ him. What do you think we should talk about?
people grow about will only make things akward. Hang out iwth him more and you will have more things to talk about dont hint be direct. This is my favorite topic because ive been through alot of it When i was 13 i was going out wit 16 and 17 yearold your a very smart girl for doing the same but the whole age thing shouldnt effect your conversations dont be afraid to be direct just cause hes older, they like that....Say heyy come to the football game with me i want to chill.
theres this boy and he liked me last year and asked me out.i told him i was taken but i would still like to talk to him.i broke up with my boyfriend over the summer and he knew about it.then he agian asked to go with me.i told him that i see him more s a friend.now is the new school year and my friend Diane thinks this boy is kinda ugly.i dint think he's ugly and neither do my friend Brittany.now i kinda like him and he's is still trying to go with me.even though looks arent important to me at all i dont want my friend Diane saying shit about him or me. should i just forget her and go for it or do you think a friends opinion is important
No not weird just confuse say you were confused but now your set straight dont worry about it he will understand
Ok well whenever im well riding down the road in the car right guys ALWAYS wave at me and look at me i guess im a real head turner not to brag but they do and whenever i go to school no guys i guess have the curage to talk to me and it piss me off i mean i really really want a boyfriend that will treat me right i just got out of a reltaionship and it was great but aprently he found someone he liked more i guess and i really miss him but see im trying to find a guy that well can fix my heart lol but none of the guys will talk to me what am i supost to do i mean i think about this all the time i mean whenever i hear a song like a guy singing about a girl i just wish that i could find a guy that cared that much about me again
Help please
no offense lol but i just love hearing questions that relate to something ive been through and have overcome. Its the same thing with me and theres only one way to handle this You say that the guys r to shy then confront them. If theres no one in your school that seems to be worth your time look for a hot guy elsewhere. I recently elarned dating guys in your school is not the smartest idea so Now im going outwith guys who are in a different school. You odnt really have to look hard guys are everywhere just open your eyes a litle more teh next time a guy waves at you and you ahve time stop and say something. I can recall a tiem where i was to shy to walk over to this guy and talk to him and i decided to pretend i new him i was like god you look so familiar is your name andrew and sure enough it worked. Confidence is everything You cant expect guys to do all the work. Be confident and stop to talk...If you try this your will find it works.
thank you SO MUCH for the help. just one thing- i don't know if i'd wanna get a 'new boyfriend' just to make my ex jealous. i'm not really like that. and there's no one i would be able to hook up with, plus i'm not the best at breaking up with people... but anyway, talking to my ex sounds like a great idea, but online he doesn't really answer me. like i said, it takes awhile for him to respond my IMs. and he hasn't been answering my emails... i hardly see him in school. is there some other way i can let him know i still like him? would it be a bad idea to ask one of his friends to tell him? thanks again!
The new bf thing isnt about jealosy its about seeing if its possible for you to feel the same way for some one else but if your not comfortable with that thats okay and im glad you sent a message cuz then my recent advice wouldnt have helped much. Alright The whole friend thing i guesse is okay i mean if you think his friends are the type to not mess up your owrds but keep in mind to keep whatever you tell them simple tell them you have something to tell your ex that is important and involves him and that you would liek him to im you would be a good way to handle it becasue then the friends wont get involved and wont no more then needed hopefully your bf will im you online.....If this doesnt work. have you tried notes its not always good to have what you say in writing but if your in a desperate need that is always a choice. If he has a cell leaving a message is okay too but keep in mind that he can use the note and ur message and show others which can be embaressing. I hope i helped.
alright, my boyfriend and i broke up just this past summer. we were entering a new school and thought our relationship wouldn't work out... and apparently i wasn't the kind of girl he was looking for. still, he said he'd always love me. but anyway. school's started and i haven't really met anyone i'm interested in. then my ex- it feels like he's been purposely ignoring me lately. in the hallways, i see him, but he doesn't look at me. it takes him like 5 minutes to answer a question whenever i talk to him online, so i don't even bother anymore. and he hasn't responded to any of my emails. he always would. awhile ago he told me he was gonna ask out this one girl, but according to all my friends, he never did. now my other friend told me he's already going out with someone i don't know. someone new. i still like him, and i wanna let him know that, but i don't know how. he said he'd always love me no matter what, even if he got another girlfriend. i've been trying to talk to him but he just doesn't seem to care. please help me- should i let him know how i feel? or should i get over it? thanks to anyone who's willing to help.
OH MY GOD I CAN SO RELATE!! FORTUNATLY I GOT THROUGH IT AND NOW I CAN TELL YOU HOW!Alright first off tell your ex that you still love him and ask if he still loves you and would want to try things agin?
there is this guy that i swim with everyday and i like him alot. he is really nice and funny. he also constantly looks at me and gets in the same lane as me everyday. i dont think this means that he likes me, but is there anything i can do to get his attention? i really want to hook up with him, but i dont know how to get his attention without looking stupid. please help!!
Well it is obvious that he notcies you, either as a friendor more can never be certain but if you want attention make it known not so much that you seem like a geek but enough to make it known that you notcie him to.Make eye contact nd then look him up and down this action shows that you are interested nd then smile at him and continue your laps its important not to talk to him yet wait till th next time you see him. The next time you see him walk over and intruduce yourself not ill energetic just be calm and then ask for his name if a convorsation is rolling that well say alright im gonna continue my laps talk o you later. You dont wnat to be sitting in awkard silence and you dont wnat to annoy him. If the convo isnt going great thats fine because now your notcied and he wont be shy and he proably will now come over to you and talk to you say hi and believe me things will beruning smoother...
ok i like this boy so much and so do like 5 other girls and he likes 3 of us so what can i do too get him too notice and like me more
Jo Ann
This is definitly something i know hwo to do..First off the big thing is if the 4 other girls r ur friends if their not good cuz then the possibilities r endless. Flirt tons Confidence is everything if you act like your hot he will have to take your word for it. Chill with him if your too scared to ask to chill suck it up its how you get what you want, You simply say that youd like to catch up with him one on one nd if hed like to go to (wherever its cool to hang out in your town) thats it..its not really that ard ify ou no what your doing main idea is be confident flirt and hang out iwth him
Good luck
Amber
ok well i have a bf that iv been gion out with for about 3 months,im not sure wether to stay with him or not,i mean all of my friends are telling me to brake up with him and try out some other gies,but i love him and sometimes i dont i have no clue what to do,pleasse help me!!!
Dont dump him, If you feel like you wnat to then wait a week and see if you feel the same. 3 months is quiet awhile and with that you may be getting bored you may not realize that but its either that or your not seeing him enough. If its that your not seeing him enough you should A) see him more B) Experience new things Hooking up, handjobs, Fingering....Etc If its that Your getting bored try seeing less of eachother and experiencing some bases together. You should go hang out with other couples too. hope i helped, feel free to send me messages so that i can help you in any way. I know what im talking about when it comes to this specific catagory
Now everyone is dating really young and having boyfriends when their 13. i'm 13 and have had a couple of boyfriends but guys are just plain jerks sometimes at that age. most girls are crazy about dating young but older girls that have waited say that it is worth it to wait to date until your older. does anyone have any opinions on the topic?
Its not set on your age its set on how you FEEL i know it sounds islly but its true i didnt start dating till i was 14, I had Boy friends but Boyfriends were considered Hanging out at school. Go with how you feel if you feel your ready then go for it if not that perfectly okay. Also a little off topic you dont have to be dating someone to Have your first kiss with them you can go hang out with a group and hook up with one of the guys, i hope i helped and if you need any help with any of this type of catorgories feel free to ask Ive been through it all. Im 15 and have had 17 boyfriends i know every type of guy imaginable im here to help.
ok i think im kind of bi but im not really sure and to afraid to say anything to anyone, my boyfriend of 2 years told me that gay people are gross and if i was ever gay that he wouldnt like it because he wouldnt want me to leave him for a girl but i told him i wouldnt if i was gay but he said it would still be gross....and on top of that almost all people i hang around with are gay,but i cant even tell them or anything because they consider me there "straight" friend...and they would all think its probably weird also if i said anything...what should i do???
Okay first you said you THINK your bi....Wiat until your sure to tell anyone. If you are sure tell your boyfriend if he doesnt except it then its his problem cause its apart of who you are explain taht you cant become bi and that you always were and that if he ever cared for you you were the same person as before as you are no. Then tell your say it to each of them sepretly tell him your bi. Say that its important that you have their support since you boyfriend isnt being so supportive with his gay people are gross coments.
so i'm selectively mute and i'm trying to be more outgoing i guess. i feel like i'm annoying my boyfriend..like i'm not a really good girlfriend or anything. i call him every other day and talk to him but not so much like everyone else. We talk on AIM and stuff but i don't know what to talk to him about. We have similar interests and stuff but it seems like i can't keep up with conversation. We haven't been going out for long but i worry a lot so yeah... i'm not all that open...and i need help on that. Can you give me ideas with conversation and ways to be more open with replies? i just don't want to say something wrong heh...
I know you odnt want to open up but if your in a relationship its essiential talk about hwo you feel always say how right now your insecure and talk about what you like to do and what type of music you like what your doing at that moment that your talking to him.
I'm a fourteen-year old female I have a girlfriend that I really love but never see. When she talks about sex, she reminds me of my rapist so we haven't had sex yet and I don't think I want to. Every time we talk about getting together she talks about sex, but she writes me poetry and she's really loving. She's suicidal and I feel like protecting her. She hasn't come out to her parents yet and I think she feels safe with me. What should I do? She sort of creeps me out, mostly because she cares about sex so much. I'm a virgin save for my molestation when I was 7 through 8. I don't think she gets that I'm touchy about it, no pun intended (dark humor, sorry). I used to cut myself but I stopped, and she still wants me to. I told her I stopped and she asked me why not. She still does. Her mom's always on heroin and she does pot. I want and don't want to dump her at the same time. Should I break up with her?
You say you love her so no i dont think you should, but firsttell her how if she keeps talking about sex and oesnt respect the fact that you are sensitive on this isue then you shouldnt be with her in that sort of relationship but you will always be her as a friend and like a sister tell her that no matter the relationship you will always carte andbe there for her. if she does respect your wishes of no longer speaking of sex then you should stay with her.
this girl just turned 16.. her name is Olivia.. we met b/c she goes to my school and we've been good friends and we made each other laugh and had a pretty fun and good relationship but then she broke up w/ her freshman b/f.. and we started talking.. and we had late conversations on the phone and talked on AIM alot. The problem is.. i can't say I'm in love w/ her truly if she doesn't talk to me in person.. she treats me like ne other friend when I'm around her but on the phone.. we're good.. and i asked her about it and she told me we just need to get to know each other better. Her best friend is giving me feed back on how she likes to flirt... and she went on a one on one "go out"... it wasn't supposedly a "date".. should i give this girl a try or just stop it?
-Hewitt, 14, TN
Dont leavei t all up to her this talking in person if your not happy with it you do the talking make it btetter if you to are more then friends feel free to act like it walk over to her and wrap your arms around her then that night on the phone ask her if that you doing that made her uncomfortable and if she was okay with it? if she says no then ask her self is it relle that important to you if its not then forget it. If it is important then shes not right for you move on go for someone who you can have a better relationship.