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My boyfriend is driving me up the wall!
My boyfriend of eight months nearly always wants sex. I've got a strong libido too but it bugs me that he will try to initiate sex every time I enter my bedroom. Sometimes we have guests over, or it’s the middle of the afternoon and I have other things to be doing. Sometimes he'll start tugging my clothes off while the door is still open! We can't even sit through a whole movie without him trying to undress me.
I'm sick of feeling guilty when I shut him down. And He always acts so hurt by it! But I have other things to do with my life besides sex. Does anyone have any ideas how I can make him see that this just isn’t appropriate? I know he loves me and isn’t just in it for the sex, but it’s really pissing me off.
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do what i do, tell him you get it when i want it!!!! ask and beg then you wont get sit back and wait and you will be fine.
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For guys sex is different then we se it. Guys their way of connecting emotionally is through sex but if you feel it is not a noraml amount he wants there are definitly some possible answers such as he may be a sex addict there are such things (believe it or not) I know it sunds silly i thought so too but its actually possible its when they are obsessive over sex. on a less serious note it could just be that you need to put him in his place have you tried sitting down and talking to him saying that you feel he is overally obsesive over sex. Sya you enjoy sex just as much as him but that you realize you cant have it all the time tell him he needs to realize this too, you dont need to have a long lecture about it a quick talk is just as equally effective.
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Heyy , your totally right you do have better things to do with your life then just have sex so dont do it. Like seriously maybe you think you like him a lot , but maybe he is just using for the sex. But don't give it to him. make him suffer. you know whats right and whats not. Maybe you should talk to him and tell him that you want a relationship that is other then just sex and getting naked. Tell him in a nice way that you want him and you to be together for a while but dont want to have sex all the time.
I hope everything turns out good!!!!!
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There isn't really anything to do except slap his hand, and be stern.
I'm a guy, and I've done that many of times. It's just ... nature. Men were put here to plant their seed.
Just lay out the ground rules for him.
Tell him if he's as persistent as he is now, he'll lose what he already gets.
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Let him know you enjoy having sex with him, just like you said in your question. But, tell him you dont like having it every second, but that you still enjoy it, and only want to have sex when times are right, and not just out of the blue. Hopefully, he will understand and be considerate about it. Good Luck!
~Brina
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hmm well you should tell him your not ready to take your relationship to that level and if he cant understand then hes not worth the time. if he really wants to be with you he will understand that your not ready. if i was in your situation, i would just slap him and say its not happening ok! but thats just me. hope i helped!
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your boyfriend is like some of the males in a relationship, they always want sex. but you are doing a good job in the abstinence part, however tell him that you dont want to have sex, you might already have done that, but dont do anything to make him think that your trying to turn him on.
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