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i have a orange env and on the side of it i have this place where you can plug a cord into it. im guessing its for music importing. it says micro with some weird things on it. if there is a cord to import music where can i get it? and for how much? or does anyone know if its for something different?
I have a silver ENV, and yes its for a memory card. You can purchase a music package at the verizon store for about 30 bucks. http://www.verizonwireless.com/b2c/store/controller?item=accessoryMart&action=viewMusicAccessories&model=Capable%20Devices&make=Music%20Accessories%20and%20Memory%20Cards#Best%20Value
If you have any more questions feel free to drop one in the inbox. :)
does anyone know the name of the one italian song played in the lizzie mcquire movie? please i really want to know thanks!
http://www.stlyrics.com/l/lizziemcguiremoviethe.htm
go there I'm sure you will find it. Its the soundtrack from the movie.
13-f
during the school year my friends started to ditch me and talk about me and be horrible friends. as bad as they are i cant help wanting them back when theyre gone and i always feel like a loner. how can i get over them and move on
Well they are not worth being your friends are they? If they hurt your feelings, and ditch you, they aren't the type of people you want to associate yourself with. Try making new friends, and I know that is so much easier SAID than actually done. I assume you're in middle school, which is a difficult place to make friends. Because middle school is the queen of cliques. You're almost in highschool, and believe me when I tell you; it gets better. Try joining clubs, like book club, or going to summer camp, meet new friends, so you won't feel so lonely. It doesn't matter if you feel like a loner, its okay! To move on, just realize that you are a better person then they are. Realize you deserve to be treated with respect and kindness. Remember.. "The only way to have a friend, is to be one" - Ralph Waldo Emerson
okay, so this guy & i were i guess "hooking up" for awhile. & me, being dumb & all, got attached. i'm not sure i REALLY have feelings for this guy, but i do like him, yanno? the thing is, i know he doesn't like me, he just wants to keep playing the hook-up game, & i don't play that. i'm really not sure what to do. this guy is really not that great at all, & he tried to fucking get with one of my bestfriends, i mean, how does that? anyways, i don't want to be attached to this guy, but i am. what do i do?
oh yeah & i'm fifteen, if that helps.
Well for starters.. I don't see what you COULD like in this guy, since it seems you two have only a 'sexual' relationship. If claim to not play the hook up game, but honey that is exactly what you did. And that is why he wants to keep playing it. Obviously, since he tried to hook up with your best friends, he clearly doesn't have feelings for you, he just wants sex. You're young, and you have so much going ahead of you. Just end it, the feelings will vanish once you've found real love. Not shallow love. Honest, I promise. It will be hard to get over him at first, because of how intimate you were with him. But its just one step after another, and realizing that you deserve better.
are flirtatious girls... undateable? i have an extremely flirty personality.. i cant really help it. its just who i am.. but often guys are like "i see you as a girl i can hook up with... but never anything serious" i am SO sick of being everyones random hook up.. even if i dont hook up with them, i still feel so dirty? i mean i dont do random hook ups but guys still think that they can get away with stuff like that with me. how can i get guys to take me seriously in a relationship without changing who i am?
thanks in advanced
No we are not un-dateable. Flirtatious people, are often very open and people friendly. In a relationship flirting is obviously necessary. But, at the same time you need to control yourself. Show guys that you can be flirty, yet calm and collective (unless you are incapable of that..haha) Show them that you can devote your time to them, and your attention to their needs, rather than talking up every guy around you. And I agree, "hook-ups" it sounds dirty, because it is dirty. Any person who hooks up, isn't really.. "flirtatious" I would go more with promiscuous. You know?
Overall, you don't have to change you. Just remember to listen to the guy and once you're in a relationship; focus on that person. Show him that you are a deeper person, more than just "sex".
My right lymph node is swollen, but thats not all. I have a canker sore on the right cheek of my mouth, it hurts really bad. Is there anything i can do to prevent them from coming back when they leave? i know that to get rid of them you use one part maalox and one part benedryl, but how can you prevent them?
Thanks,
Gina
Yeah, like the person before me said. You cannot prevent canker sores..really. Sometimes they are a result of stress, so try to keep calm. I find that if you take salt water and swish it around in your mouth like mouthwash helps. Do it before you go to bed, and it will dry out that spot and it doesn't sting, and it makes it feel much better. Try cankaid, or orajel, those numbing gels - they help A TON! To numb the pain, until it fully heals. And overall just be careful what you eat until it goes away.
lately ive been having such random dreams about this guy who i used to be friends with.
we havent talked in about a month though, we have just gone our seperate way. i know that i miss him a lot, but im not sure if he misses me.
my question is why do i keep dreaming about him? could that be a sign that he may be thinking about me too and that we are going to make up? please help
Dreams usually portray your subconscious, things you push away in the back of your head.
The mind is tricky, and its hard to know sometimes what things mean. Maybe you keep dreaming of him, because you miss him so much, maybe you're thinking about him a lot, because... you regret how your friendship ended, or why it ended in the first place.
I wouldn't go so far, as to say its a "sign" that he maybe thinking of you to, the only way to know that is to ask him. If you did something wrong, apologize for it. If you didn't and the friendship just ended because people change.. there is not much you can do about it.
If you want to be friends with him again, make it happen. Get in contact with him again, start talking and trying to be there for him. :)
I know things will work out if they are meant to.
for about 2 years now i haven't been able to feel the emotions im supposed to. i know what im supposed to feel cos its there in my head but i cant feel it in my body and heart.
for example last night i was sad and crying a lot but didn't feel sad i just felt normal like numb.
it works the other way as well. like your supposed to feel happy but i still feel numb.
my thoughts are happy and i know im supposed to feel happy but im still numb.
it scares me a bit that ive stopped feeling all these emotions.
i don't know what to do about it either
call it numb, emotionally stable, heartless or what ever you want.
but i want it to stop.
i want to feel again. even if its pain or sadness.
I'm not positive, but it could be depression?
And maybe its not, the only way to know for sure, is to go to your doctor and talk to him about it.
I know its easier to ask online for people's help, then facing up to a physician. But the truth is, if you do have depression or some mental illness, or just something physically wrong with you, the place you'll need to end up with is the doctor in the first place. And it would be so much simpler if you just went there first.
Sometimes, things in our brain don't connect right, or something causes things to not react to things, and its all very complicated, and a doctor would know what to do. And maybe prescribe a medication, therapy of some sort?
And maybe you know you are not depressed, but still - this is not a normal thing. Its better to rule out something serious first.
Good luck :)
ok so im a freshman in highschool
and my boyfriend is a senior
and yesterday he came over and stuff
and he asked me if i wanan go to his prom with him and i of course i said yes
but im like freaking out now cuase my parents dont really see me like the type of girl to have guys over all the time and do that stuff when i really am and if they find out hes a senior idk what their reaction is gonna be and im scared to tell them. and idk what to say
cause it would be differnet if my brothe wasnt a senior also and if i wasnt only a freshman so i really need help on what to tell them and stuff
because is less then a month away
and normally on prom night you go to a hotel and yeahh hah
and i know there not gonna let me do that soo
im hoping they will say i can go but i need help on what to say to them
Well.. I think you should tell your parents right away, and get it out there. I don't know if your brother goes to the same highschool as you, but I'm pretty sure your parents would want to find it out from you - not from your brother that you are dating a senior. I'm not going to lie either, the age gap between freshman and a senior is not a BIG deal, but the mentality is completely different, boys are slower to mature, that is true, but I guess what I'm trying to say is be careful. And if your parents do let you go to prom, just don't go to a hotel afterwords. Its not that hard not to do. Just because everyone "supposedly" does that, doesn't mean its the right thing to do. For prom, just keep in mind, you're only a freshman, you don't want to do something you'll regret, because it will follow you, your whole highschool career and could really do some damage.
Be careful, and best of luck.
Hi,I realy have bad hair prblem's, everytime brush or shower my hair and i slide my fingers through my hair some come's out, especially when i'm combing my hair taking out the tangle's.And it's really freaking me out,i've tried practicaly alot of different shampoo to solve the prooblem, but nothing.thank you
Okay, well first step. Don't worry! I've had that too. Did you know my hair stylist told me that on average people lose like 100+ strands of hair every single day. Its most likely because you have dry hair, what I suggest is buying a really good/strong deep conditioner and put it in your hair every such and such a time. To make sure it doesn't dry out too much. I know dove has a new line out of hair products for damaged hair, that couldn't hurt your hair, but make it better. BUT if you use flat irons or blow dry your hair make sure when you wash your hair you USE conditioner otherwise its way too dry. Or try a flatiron spray before you use it, it your hair so it doesn't get as damaged. If you need any more help like specific shampoos or deep conditioners I would be happy to do some research and look up some really good kinds. But I have class soon, so I'll work on it when I get home from school today, if you want, just send me another message.
i need some songs about a girl who wants a guy, and he wants her too but they cant have eachother thanks
haha the only one that comes to mind so far is..
'skater boy' - avril lavigne
if i think of more, i'll let you know :)
If it's not too...big of a commotion or problem for you, could you tell me about a funeral you went to?
I'm going to my friend's grandma's funeral and it's the first one I ever went and I have no idea what's going to happen, what it's about, and not really sure what it is except that it's something that happens after someone dies.
P.S, do you HAVE to wear black? Not to be disrespectful or anything but this is just how i see it: "If I died, I'd like everyone to wear colourful clothes, to kinda celebrate that i moved to heavon in the afterlife"
thanks
I went to three funerals in my life.
For my grandpa, grandma, and Kyle. The one that hurt a lot was my grandma's I was SO close to her, but yet so young, so I didn't grieve the right way, or understand it even completely. Kyle's was so hard too, it was last year June 16, 2007. He was in a car accident, he went to my school, we didn't talk much in highschool, more in middle school. But nonetheless, he was an amazing person, this funeral was so hard, pretty much the whole school was there, they showed pictures of him, had students his best friends talk about him, his girlfriend talked, his family, it was super hard. ..
Funerals are so hard, make sure your friend grieves, and let her know you're there for her. She needs that. At a funeral, sometimes they have open casket, or closed casket, meaning you can look at them,, and obviously.. they are no longer alive, so its sometimes really hard to deal with. Every funeral is different, its a service in memory of a person, talking about their life, their accomplishments, what they've done, what they have meant to others, its kind of saying goodbye, it all depends on the person.
You don't have to wear black, but to be respectful I would wear something appropriate. I feel its probably easier for you to go to this than your friend, because you didn't lose a loved one. Also, the way you look at life is different then some, tons of people would want to say that.. and be like woo hoo celebration, "i've gone to heaven be happy" but.. a lot of the times people are way too broken to even try to be happy. Its a huge healing process, just be respectful and be there for yoru friend.
How do you know when someone doesn't want to talk to you? How can you tell that someone wants to say something but they don't because they're scared of what you might say or think. How can you help someone to just let go?
That has always been relatively easy for me, because I'm super perceptive. Meaning; I can pick up on the things unsaid, not in a creepy way. But I can just tell when somethings wrong when no one says anything, for the longest time I thought everyone could tell, but not everyone can.
Watch the persons body language, their posture, how they speak to you, if they are giving you eye contact, their hand gestures, if they are paying attention to you..
If they have something they want to say but don't because they seem scared or something, just keep a look out at the things I mentioned above, it works for both, if they DONT want to talk to you, their posture will pretty much show it, and if they have something they want to say, but just cant bring themselves to, they may.. start to say something and then hold back, prod them on. Sometimes people just need a little push.
15/m
Ok, so there is this girl I like and she is basically a year older than me.. But we're both sophmores. I like her alot, but we basically "travel in different circles". But we have known each other for about three months now, and we just started talking like a week or so ago. But we've had the same conversation going for the past week.
The bad thing though is, that she is SO freakin gorgeous and im a nerd that has no chance with her, even though we have SOO much in common. She is basically the girl version of me.
Any ideas on how I can get her to like me?
First of all, how do you know she doesn't like you? Girls usually wait, or at least want the guy to make the first move. Well actually that depends on the girl. But nevertheless .. strike up conversations, get to know her better, sooner or letter then get the nerve to ask her out. The worst thing she could say is "no", and thats all. Or she could surprise you and say yes. Don't ever downgrade yourself, don't label yourself a nerd! Then it gives other people the right to call you that, and I'm sure you're a beautiful guy inside & out. If she's a truly great person, she won't not date you because you're 'nerdy' or for; stereo typical/shallow reasons you know? And if she does, she's not worth your time.
And.. as for ideas to get her to like you? Care for her, be interested in the things she has to say, but don't try to hard, if you guys aren't into the same things, sometimes it just doesn't work out, always pay attention to what shes talking about, open up to her about your life.. just be yourself.
so my boyfriend and i broke up (the reason why is WAY to long to explain) and i broke up with him, then we got back together, and the next day he broke up with me. anyway i was so mad at him for so many reasons, and i still get mad when i think about it, but at the same time i want him back. he broke my heart and i still want him back. whats wrong with me? how do i get over him?
thanks SO much for ur help
People have problems letting things go. We don't like change, even if things suck now, sometimes its even scarier to change it to try and make it better. I'm sorry your relationship ended on a sour note between you two. As you said you were angry at him, I suggest writing down the reasons why, and then look at them, and see if they are all justified. A relationship takes two people in order for it to work, and if you can see what you both were or were not doing in each problem.. maybe it will show you why things didn't work out. Relationships take A LOT of work, but its something you want to do. Anyways... take time hanging out with your friends, read a good book (or more), get him off your mind, and focus on family, and other things before you had him. There is more to life than that, and sooner than you know you'll find another boyfriend, who will treat you like you should be treated. :)
Alright so I was at a party roughly a week ago and I hooked up (as in made-out) with a college freshman named Brian. Then he went and hooked up with one of my (not super close) friends Jen and I didn't care at all, I don't get attatched to people, especially boys, that quickly. He apologized alot and told me that I was the one he wanted to hook up with, yeah cheesy I know, and even funnier, supposedly he told Jen the same thing. He messaged me on Facebook the next day to say he was sorry again, and I said it was ok. I didn't think he was that into me at the time. SO, yesterday he texted my friend who was having all my friends over and said he wanted to come to see ME. So he came and I was completely DRUNK and I think I kissed him 3 times but I'm not even sure if I really like him! So now he wants me to call him and I'm not sure what to do. He SEEMS sweet and nice but its sooo sketchy how he hooked up with my friend. heeeelp. haha.
I don't think you do. If you only kissed him when you were drunk.. or at a party. I dont know, it DOES sound sketchy, especially if he said the same thing to your friend. You know? I would use your best judgment, you'll find someone better, and you won't have to guess if you have feelings for him. ;)
I might have the lyrics all wrong, but I think it goes..
"he wanted a baby boy, someone to go fishing with, but when that nurse walked in with a pink blanket, all those plans change. She had him wrapped around her finger........"
&& another part
"16 years later, shes falling for the senior football star......"
sorry its not much help, but all that is in the beginning of the song, and I had to get out of the car && didnt hear the rest.. THANKS!
I just googled the lyrics you gave me.
All-American Girl
by Carrie Underwood
If I want to get a job as a waitress at a restaurant, who do I ask about if they are hiring?
Also, do people usually take the job spots on weekends or weekdays? Days or nights?
I'm still a student in high school so I have limitations like I can't work during the day and may have clubs after school, so maybe nighttime would be best during weekdays or not at all. On the weekends, Sunday mornings and Saturday nights may work. Does that sound reasonable?
This would be my first job. I have no prior experience. Hopefully I won't screw up the interview? What questions would they ask?
What restaurant would you recommend getting a job at?
How do waitresses get paid? There's a monthly salary and in addition, your tips get pooled with other waitresses and waiter's tips and divided?
Does anyone have any other tips on how to be a good waitress?
You should call the restaurant, and first ask if they are hiring. Usually the person who ever answers the phone will know, or can ask someone who will know if they are hiring.
It all depends when people take them, its what the manager/boss assigns you, usually if they are nice, sometimes they work with your other schedule. But if you have too many other obligations, getting a job might not be the right time for you. You are less likely to get hired if you have so many other things that hold you back from when you work. Its not that its 'reasonable' its that everyone has to take their turn at work. No one wants to work on a friday night, but eventually you might have to. Especially at restaurants, filling in for people, etc. Everyone has to do their part.
They would ask you about your previous experience, in your case; none. When you are willing to work, for how much (minimum wage), etc. Its all pretty easy stuff, depending on how high of class the restaurant is.
What restaurant would I recommend? I don't know where you live, so I dont know what are available. It has to be someplace where they are hiring.
Waitresses get paid very little, when it comes to an actual paycheck, their real pay is the tips. At the restaurant I work at, the waitresses keep all their tips and they don't pool it with others and they don't have to divide it. Its just how it is. It may be different where you work though.
Tips on being a good waitress.. I know a lady that works with me whos been there for like 20+ years. She has tons of regulars, and people like her because she's easy going, laid back, patient, friendly, kind, calm, and just over all a nice person, she jokes around, and isn't acting all stressed. Just remember to smile and be happy, your tip is also based on how you treat the customers.
Hi! How did you get the pretty colors on your profile!? I haven't been able to figure it out yet! Could you help?
Thanks
Abigail
I hope you figured this out before, but I'm so sorrry it took me this long to answer this. I didn't even realize I had something in my inbox. I clicked the "Column settings" and it lets you choose colors and such :)
ok so my sister is 10 (i have 3 sisters thats just the youngest) and she has a crush on a 12 year old that goes to school with me (i go to a house school and thats a place were people of all ages get home schooled at some one eles house) and he says he likes her too and he wants me to set her up with him what do you think i should do we dont live with our parents but my little sister lives with me and she is the only sister that lives with me i take care of her and all so it dosnt matter what our parents want us to do so if that helps she tells me everything we love eachother i just dont know if shes too young even if its in a very public place so what do you think
I don't know how old you are.. but old enough I assume to take care of siblings. So, you know- I don't really see a huge problem with the age at all, and since they are young, it probably won't last (you know what I mean). Just make sure he's a nice person, and not one of those... creeper boys that want to take advantage of younger kids. Its happened, if you haven't heard of that ten year old that got pregnant and didn't even realize she was, and the father was only 13! Its outrageous. Anyways.. over all, I really don't see a problem with it, they are close in age. And it won't be too serious I hope, just keep watch over them, make sure they aren't doing anything inapropriate.. and if things get bad, or you just start to feel uncomfortable with it, end it. Overall do what you feel is best for your little sister :) Take care, and if you have anymore questions, feel free to ask.