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Way out of my league...
15/m
Ok, so there is this girl I like and she is basically a year older than me.. But we're both sophmores. I like her alot, but we basically "travel in different circles". But we have known each other for about three months now, and we just started talking like a week or so ago. But we've had the same conversation going for the past week.
The bad thing though is, that she is SO freakin gorgeous and im a nerd that has no chance with her, even though we have SOO much in common. She is basically the girl version of me.
Any ideas on how I can get her to like me?
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Ok. Hey. I know it seems wierd getting advice from a girl, but I can really give you suggestions. For one, you can start dropping hints that you like her. If she ignores you, then that means she doesn't like you that way. If she like you, just ask her out. About the traveling in different circles, try sitting by her at lunch or inviting her to your house. It really helps. Trust me. Good Luck!
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Just because you are a nerd, doesn't mean you don't have a chance with her. Do you consider your self attracting in any way? It has been three months so far so at least you know information about this girl. You have a lot in common with her--good start. And the age shouldn't matter. This is a good start; talking to her. Let her get to know you. You can always spot if this girl likes you, only if she hides it. You can't make a girl like you. Be patient with her and slowly win her heart. You can't rush into things so be a gentlemen about this. Just keep on talking to her even though the conversation is the same...slowly change the subject. If you really like this girl, be patient. If you have a lot in common, there should be tons of things to talk about! It has only been a week so just see what happens and hopefully things will progress. GOOD LUCK!
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Woah, I guess there is someone like me out there!
but in my case, I like a guy who's 2 years older...who's pretty shy/reserved and nerdy, too. But just because he's "nerdy" doesn't mean anything. I don't know if he's got ALL the girls after him, but he seems way cool to me, and we have so much in common. I think the fact that he's smart, a little quiet, and has a lot of unique interests is something to be admired! The thing is, I really like him, and I don't think he even thinks of me as anything more than an acquaintence (we haven't even talked in person since I was in 3rd grade - I used to like him, but then we hadnt seen eachother in 6 years and now it's very awkward to see him! So we've only talked online - grr...) My point is: she might really like you, too, if you've been talking, and just because you see yourself as "nerdy" doesn't necessarily have to mean it's a bad thing - I love nerds! Many girls will respect and be attracted to a guy who's smart and nice. Anyway, I'd work up the courage to talk to her more, not about anything too life-changing, serious or dramatic...just keep with small talk at first, and then you can delve into a more personal discussion after you've hung out a few times and gotten to know eachother.
I really hope this advice worked, because it's kind of the advice I need for myself at this point too! Haha....good luck. :)
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My best friend/Ex boyfriend were in a similar situation in 8th grade.
Our math teacher forced us to sit next to eachother and through that, we started chatting and he was wayyy out of my legue. He was the kid that no one liked, and I was on the Higher end of normal (not popular, but almost.. sorta the kid whoe's friends with every1)
Anyway, we started to get to know eachother and we realized we were a lot alike. Sadly we lost contact after 8th grade until the summer of 10th grade, then after we started talking more and more, i asked him out and to my surprize he said yes!
Since our breakup we did a lot of talking about our relationship and looking back at what worked and our flaws and just everything. He told me that he had always liked me from the beginning which is really sweet.
Just get to know her and be your self and soon, if you feel the chemistry and she hasnt asked you out yet, then just GO FORIT!
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Oh My Gosh,
I like a nerdy/shy boy who is 1 year older than me. Find out what you two have in common then make some conversation about it. How do you know that she is out of your league? Maybe she really likes you and doesn't have the courage to admit she likes a "nerd". All you can do is try. Find out what she likes and take an intrest in it. You couls always ask her friends for advice. Now you tell me how to get the nerdy guy I like!
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First of all, how do you know she doesn't like you? Girls usually wait, or at least want the guy to make the first move. Well actually that depends on the girl. But nevertheless .. strike up conversations, get to know her better, sooner or letter then get the nerve to ask her out. The worst thing she could say is "no", and thats all. Or she could surprise you and say yes. Don't ever downgrade yourself, don't label yourself a nerd! Then it gives other people the right to call you that, and I'm sure you're a beautiful guy inside & out. If she's a truly great person, she won't not date you because you're 'nerdy' or for; stereo typical/shallow reasons you know? And if she does, she's not worth your time.
And.. as for ideas to get her to like you? Care for her, be interested in the things she has to say, but don't try to hard, if you guys aren't into the same things, sometimes it just doesn't work out, always pay attention to what shes talking about, open up to her about your life.. just be yourself.
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