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there is this guy i like and still do even though i found out that he doesn't feel the same way about me.and it really hurts because when one of my friends told me my heart sank and i just felt down today.well today after school we had a valentine's dance and everyone was there with a bf or gf except me and i felt so bad i can't think of anything to do without thinking of him and asking myself what i may have done wrong.please help me get my mind off the boy because i can't stop and it's driving me crazy and my self esteem is low and now it's lower so I don't know what to do.thanks on advance (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Monday when you go to school fix yourself a cute outfit and make yourself all pretty. Not for that guy... but for a chance (um, not a chnace with that guy). When you feel depressed walk around in the campus... things happen. I was upset about a guy and I looked all pretty that day... I took a walk outside... and I met my current boyfriend out of randomness.
Take care. I hope you feel better soon. ~Blessed Be...
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ok um i dunno but i like this guy and i talk to him like "alot" and he usually flirts with me he has a girlfriend but she is really sweet and still thinks that i should go for him. i really wann tell him that i like him. when he flirts with me again, should i tell him? and how do i say it? thanx i will rate u
~shy girl (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
WHAT?! His girlfriend??? Thinks you should go for him??? ...Seriously?! Sorry, a little shoicked here.
Well since he ALREADY has a girlfriend I do not think you should go for it. I am sorry, this is just my opinion. Maybe he is just messing with you when he is flirting... he does not really mean it. And if he flirts when he has a girlfirend... if you get with him he probably will do the same thing with other girls if he ever losses ionterest in you.
I am not trying to make you unhappy. I do mean well and am concern that you do not make a mistake like the one I porbably made. Those things repeat themselves. I am not saying he will loose interest in you... but if he does... he will be flirting with some other girl. Even if he is a nice guy.
Take care. You can do better than a flirt. My best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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i`m confused...for 9 months now i've been trying to get with this guy and well...i've been thinking...when i finally go out with him i'm gonna lose a lot of things. I`m not gonna have the fun of TRYING to get him...it's like i want to go out with him sooo bad...but then when i finally do-i have something to lose?...is this a normal feeling??? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
We all tend to have these feelings from time to time. Well if you are paranoid me you ahev them ALL THE TIME. However, try to focus on the positive things. ...Once you get him you will be all... a coupple... you'll hold hands... have a first kiss... have to give eachothert cute presents on Chirstmas/Valentine's Day/birthday. It's going to be fun and exciting, I promise. If you think positive the other feelings will start going away.
Take care and be good! ~Blessed Be...
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im 16 and havnt had a period for just over a year.im not preganat cos i dun tests.i cant have cancer so young can i?i stopped having them about a month after losing my virginaty.i havnt got std cos i ahd a screening.wahts wrong i started like when i was 13.neone know?plse help swn cheers xxx (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Maybe because you are stressing out. Sometimes when we stress out or change sertain habbits like eatting-sleeping patterns our periods delay.
However, if too much time passes you will have to go see a doctor. Meanwhile, try not to stress too much.
Best wishes! ~Blessed Be...
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Okay, so I know this guy named Josh and I really like him. But, turns out a whole lot of girls are interested in him also. I wrote him a note telling him how I felt and he wrote me back saying he was talking to someone else and that we could still be friends. But, I want to be more than just his friend. What should I do??? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Mayeb YOu want to be more than friends. ...but apperantly he does not. I am sorry to say this but all you can do is move on. ...However, once he sees that you are not showing him any special attention he will start liking you. Maybe you will have already found someone else by then though... For now, do not show him any special attention. Be hard-to-get. Maybe that's what he wants. ...But if he said he has was talking to someone else... maybe he has a girlfriend already. Anyway, TRY to move on. Just try.
I wish you the best. ~Blessed Be...
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i was going out with this guy john secretly (i broke up with him though) b/c my friend alexia said taht if i went out with him then she would turn everybody against me. i didn't think that was fair so i went out with him secretly. but she found out and so did the whole school. i denied it but john didn't. everyone beleved me. but then my friend set me up and alexia was on the line listening. now she is REALLY PISSED at me. she is hella mad and might drop me as a friend and turn the whole school against me. she even said she was thinkn about it. i dont know what to do b/c SHE WILL turn everyone against me. she's already done it to some people. i just really dont know what to do. im not blaming anyone but myself. Please what should i do??!! (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
No, DO NOT blame yourself. SHE is just childish. She cannot get her way so she does something against you? Try not to let her get to you. Do not focus on making HER like you but on being a decent person and everyone else will like you no matter what she says. If nobody has a reason to believe something bad about you then they probably won't.
I am sorry I cannot offer much help. I hope it works out for you. Take care! ~Blessed Be...
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Well It's almost Valentines Day.. and I have no idea what to get my boyfriend... I've asked him for some suggestions and he just keeps telling me he doesnt want anything. What would be something good to get him... We've been going out for 5 months... Hope someone can help... Thanks (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Write him a poem... or... a make him a mixed CD with songs that he likes and remind you of him. Be creative. As long as it comes from you its the perfect Valentine's Day gift.
Good luck! ~Blessed Be...
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I'm falling for a really good friend of mine, Chris. He likes me also and we talk about dating.. we've kissed and gone on a few dates already. In June I'm moving back home to texas for college and I was wondering if it's really a good idea to date him when I'm leaving in 3-4 months. I think I know the right answer, but I'm torn and curious as to what everyone else thinks.
Thanks, I rate. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
I do not see anything wrong with it. However, if you have a phobia of falling deeply in love with him and then having to leave him and you think you will never get better from not seeing him well then no. But that is too drastic. However, there is nothign wrong with dating a persona nd having fun and being together even if it is only for 3-4 months. However, just make sure he is aware that you will have to leave. Maybe HE is the one with that weird phobia. Otherwise, it is really okay to date him.
Hope it turns out the way you want it to! ~Blessed Be...
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17-f so i have this really good friend...a guy...and we've been friends for three years. I love spending time with him because hes just about the funniest person i know. We have a lot in common too and now since we've been friends for so long he knows me really well. Anyways for a while now im beginning to think that he likes me. I dont like him that way. How do i tell him that i dont like him without actually doing it. And if i need to tell him outright...how do i do that without hurting him? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
You THINK that he liks you... I don't think you should say anything until you know for sure. You don't want to look weird either. What you should do to make it clear that you do not like him as anything more than a friend is be aware of how you act with him... you might be flirting without even realizing it. Start giving him as well as yourself some space... introduce him to a girl... You know, that type of hints. I'm not saying to be a bitch... just be a friend. No more, no less.
I hope it all works out! ~Blessed Be..
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Im 14.. i know .. a little young to be in love. Anyways.. My best friend (ex boyfriend) is movin back to tennessee then joining the army. he promised me he would be back for me .. but i'm goin to miss him so much! I cried my eyes out when i found out he was going. Hes been kind of a jerk, and he said its because he didn't want to break my heart when he told me. We've talked about it.. and ive done alot of crying.. im really depressed.. Im not suicidal depressed..but depressed..
how do i get him off my mind. he was my first love and i want him to stay here with me.
I dont want to hear that im too young for him or anything like that.. i just want to know how to make the crying stop! everytime i think of him.. i remember all the fun we had together and i start to cry again.
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Hi Sweetie,
You are never too young to have feelings. I understand that you are depressed-you have every reason to be depressed. I am terribly sorry that you have to go through such a loss. The process of moving on will be difficult... but very much possible.
First of all, since he has notleft yet, spend as much time with him as you can. Don't think it like "he's going away and this may be the last time we see eachother until I don't know when" but just spend time with him... enjoy the time you spend together.
Once he has left cry if you feel like crying. Let it out of your system. Take time... get your space... sleep the day away if you don't feel like doing anything else. This phase should only be for a short time. It's the phase when you allow yourself to be sad. Slowly start trying to do something else... get distracted... go out with friends... go watch a movie. Don't be too quick because if you don't let the feelings of sadness out they will always be inside of you. After you have been sad, and tried to be happy, and your effort is not good enough because all you want to do is stay home and feel sad, start forcing yourself to go out and have fun. This is just an example. Just remember to get the tears out of your system first. I promise the actual healing will only be done by time itself.
My best wishes for you! Take care! I hope you will be happy again ! ~Blessed Be...
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I was just reading through your answers and...that's a load of crap. How dare you say 'blessed be', a Pagan and Wiccan term, at the end of your questions yet call any Pagans who ask questions Satanists? You don't know what you're talking about. Pagans don't worship Satan. I fully expect you to reject this question so people can't see how misinformed you really are, but I thought you ought to know. Grow up and get your facts straight.
Pagan is actually any religion that DOES NOT believe in God and has more than one god of their own. Are you saying that Hindu's and Sikhs are Satanists? Because they are classed as Pagan religions. Exodus may say 'Thou shalt not suffer a witch to live', but have you ever considered that that means evil witches? Pagans are not evil.
Just because you don't believe in God doesn't mean that you are evil. You're a horrible prejudiced little girl and I hope that, for the sake of the people around you, you grow out of these petty beliefs that you and only you are good and right. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Well I guess I should read through my answers carefully... I did say something like that once, however, I do not recall how I said it but... if I said it a harsh tone and you have taken it the wrong way I sincerely apologyze. I meant to say Pagans do not necessarily worship Satan, however many people believe they do. I just wanted whomever asked that question to be aware of that... there is really nothing wrong with being aware of what others think. I did not try to disencourage Pagans... simply to point out an opinion. It probably was not my place to have done so.
I do not think that not believing in God is evil, and I am very sorry that you would interpret so. I think it is quite rude how you made such harsh conclusions about me in such a manner. I am being mature and I hope that you do not take ANY of this the wrong way or act immaturely upon it, I am simply expressing my opinions and thoughts, which are not necessarily true, perhaps I am misjudging you as well, but from the little that I do know about you, this is what I have to say. I really do not mean to judge you but I am left without a choice. You are the immature "prejudice" child. (At least you have acted like one the very instance you submitted those negative thoughts to me). Perhaps in some ways I am too... but you have pointed my faults without even taking anything I had to say in consideration first. And then you accuse me of horrible things.
And what if (this is a what-if, I really do not feel any hatred towards Pagans) I dislike Pagans and I think they are Satanists. That is my life. I did not post a question in the site... I was not asking for advice to my advice. I was offering advice. If you do not like it-DON'T READ IT. Do not focus on the ignorance of others but be positive and enforce your own life with ease. You are nobody (and neither am I) to judge someone else, much less to condemn that person. I have judged you, and that is another fault I shall add to my list.
Once again I do apologyze if my statement made you (or anybody else) unhappy. I did not mean to make it sound that way, I guess I will try to be more careful in how my words come out next time. (As for the what I wrote, I will look back to my advice and fix it.) I do appreciate you telling me this for it makes me aware of my faults, which I take full responsibility for. Still, I do wish that you consider what I have adviced you.
Take good care, and my best wishes! May you find the happiness you lack... that will fufill the gap in your soul... ~Blessed Be...
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i told her how i felt and she got really pissed off at me. i was talking to my other friend about it and she said that she wasnt mad of what i told her but in all actuality her boyfriend really liked me. i feel bad but really happy at the same time. i feel sorta selfish being happy about it but she got what she deserved. didn't she? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Well you're happy right? If you are happy then that is all that matters. I promise iot was not selfish... just because it makes you happy does not mean its greedy. Your hYeah she got what she deserved. AND YAY YOU ARE HAPPY!
Well take care and ~Blessed Be...
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I have liked a guy for a year now. And as we all know, Valentines day is coming up. My school is having a Sadie Hawkins Dance in honor of it. I really want to ask this guy but Im not sure how. Im so nervous...Im friends with him and some people say they think he likes me. But know one knows for sure. Please help. I rate high :) Thanks. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Yes. Unless he has a girlfriend there is no reason for him not to give you a chance. However if he says no well then you move on and you get courage to ask aguys out... what I'm trying to say is that you should defenetly ask him out because if you don't you'll wonder what could of happened and... you won't move on eassily.
(p.s. With the whole Valentine's Day thing you have a good chance of him saying yes)
Take care and hope it works out grreat! ~Blessed Be...
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Well there is this girl i like and we are really good friends and i want to ask her out but i dont know if her parents let her date im in 8th grade so i dont know if i should ask her out i dont want to make our friend ship all akward please help... (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Go for it! ...But be careful with your approach. Like... walk her to a class... when you two are alone you can say something like, "hey, I think you're really cute" (don't say "hot", "cute" sounds a lot cuter. Or "pretty". "Beautiful" is kind of... cheesy) or "I like you" and then say "I was hoping you'd give me a chance and... be my girlfriend." Maybe at first you guys will only be hugging and holding hands and stuff AT SCHOOL but it'll get better from there. A date-date like taking her out somewhere... I personally think you shouldn't ask that yet. Maybe she can have a boyfriend but she can't date. The guys I have been with all have asked me to be their girlfriend before actually asking me out on a date. If they would have asked me out on a date I would have said no and they would have thought I didn't like them.
I hope it works out for you two. Another approach would be a cute valentine's day gift. Anyway, take care! ~Blessed Be...
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well i have a friend and these are her problems: B.O., dandruff, doesnt brush her hair OR teeth, has a big belly AND doesnt know about any of this. how can i help her without being really mean???? please help! ill rate 5s for answers that dont piss me off!
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Hi Sweetie,
Hmm... well try different approaches. Maybe... you can suggest giving her a make-over. She won't suspect a thing. And while you give her a make over maybe you can give her tips to "look better" and your tips will "coincidently" be helping her not-so-attractive features. If it doesn't work then offer to be a friend and have a "friend-to-friend, no-feelings-hurt, for-your-own-good" conversation. Maybe you can make her not feel so bad and see if she has any advice for YOU as well and take turns giving each other advice.
Hope your question is answered with some helpful advice. Take good care and good luck! ~Blessed Be...
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ok well i've been hearing from friends that my bf is goin all out for valentines day. like were goin out to eat and then movies and then he has something for me. and im nervous bout the whole thing. cuz i don't know exactly what were doing yet. i mean should i be nervous? its the first like real date we will be going on. cuz we usually just came over to each others houses. so should i just get over it or should i be nervous? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Should you be nervous? It doesn't matter because if you ARE nervous you will be nervous even if I tell you not to be. Well its okay to be nervous... it just depends what you do about it. If you feel so nervous that you wanrt to puke and stuff well then you may want him to hint at what surprise he has... but if you just feel nervous because you don't know what to expect, but you can handle it pretty well, then you're OK.
Take good care! Hope everything works out! ~Blessed Be...
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i am like madly in love with my best friend. we've been friends for about 5 1/2 years. he's the coolest person ever and he is so nice and so cute and just generally amazing. pretty much everyone says he likes me too but i'm sort of afraid to say anything or make the first move. and if something does happen, then im afraid to loose the great relationship that we already have. help? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Before you decide on what you will do you will have to decide on what is more important to you. Is... your feelings for him stronger than... your fear of being rejected.... would you rather not loose him as a friend... or would you rather be his gilrfriend...? Those are just example questions you should consider. If you decide that you cannot risk your friendship by making the first move and making it clear that you like him you might want to get a friend to encourage him to ask you out... and if he likes you back he defenitely will. Of course, thats risky because he may not do it even if he likes you for the same reasons you don't do it. Anyway, if you decide your feelings for him are a lot stronger then I suggest you communicate your feelings for him and ask him for a chance to see if a relationship would work out. If he's afraid of loosing you as a friend try to send him the message that you want to be friends no matter what.
Good luck! ~Blessed Be...
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ok this is a really long story. Ill make it short. I use to be friends with these 3 girls. They are like stuck up girls really who are not popular or anything but they think they are. Well they said that i got on their nerves and that they really dont want to be my friend anymore. So like a regular person I was hurt. I was the one who helped them meet each other. So I got upset and decided that I was going to hang out with my other friends. One friend told me she was sorry but i was mad. I said that it was stupid that they all ganged up on me all at once for no reason and even talked behind my back about it. She said that the other two girls said that I got on their nevers because i put ketchup on my chikin. so that made me more mad. Then this really big fight happened and we are no longer friends. I even told her that i was sorry because it was acctually my fault a little because i yelled at her. She started to tell lies that I had said i was going to kick her ass and she got her mom to call the school and stuff so that i didnt look at her ( stupid she rides me bus) every time i pass by her and the other girls try to make me mad and I had told her that there was no way that i was going to get mad because God did not put me on this earth to try and impress her or anyone else for that matter. I think that made her even more mad. now i dont now if i should tell her that i was sorry or if i should be mad... i feel like i am a push over. what should i do. (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Do neither. If you are mad scream at a pillow or write a letter or... diss them on the internet. Don't actually go cuss them out because that's how people say things that they later regret and stuff. But do not apologyze either. ...Unless you want to apologyze for your temper. But don't apologyze for making them mad or for the entire situation... none of it was your fault. Anyway, if you DO decide to apologyze for your temper say something like "I'm sorry I yelled and was angry... I should had acted much mature." But don't say things like "PLEASE BE MY FRIENDS AGAIN!" THEY need to apologyze to YOU, AND they need to EARN your friendship back. Otherwise they aren't worth it. Don't be mean to them... if you are polite to them it'll hurt them worst to see what a great friend they lost. But don't go out of your way to be nice... that just looks desperate.
My best wishes!!! Take good care!!! ~Blessed Be...
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(13/f)My friend, Amy, got me together with a guy called Wayne as a joke because nobody likes Wayne. But I started to really like him. I could tell him anything. He was my best friend. However, he can't stay out of trouble and I found out his grades are really low. So I broke up with him. Now he says he wants me back but he won't change to meet my standards He says he'll try but he doesn't put forth much effort. I told him I just wanted to be friends but it's hard for me because I'm not over him yet. I still want to treat him like a boyfriend. What should I do? (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
If he really likes you he has to put effort into things from him part. He may not quite understand that though, so you will have to make it clear that you want him to be more focused. You're goimng to have to treat him as "just-a-friend" for a while and give him some space (although he may try to follow you around and call you all the time). Once he sees you're serious and that you care about him enough to want him to have good gardes and stuff and that its the only way to get you back he will do it. Once you start seeing him TRYING to get better grades then you can start getting closer again. Just don't demend too much... just ask him to "try" to stay out of trouble. If he doesn't... tell him to "try" harder. The key is to NOT say "do it" but "TRY to do it". Hehe. He'll do it.
My best wishes!!! Take good care!!! ~Blessed Be...
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ok well im a little overweight and when i wear tight shirts you can see my stomach ... so my question is, is there ANYTHING i can do to temporaraly make your stomach flatter. i thought of duck tape but that would hurt like a mother but i want to wear a cute outfit tomorrow but it is pretty tight on me. but i am going to work out every day after school and tonight so PLEASEEE answer ASAP!!!! thank you in advance and i will rate 5s to almost anyone :) but i need your help cause even my mom calls me fat
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chubby lil me
pS i asked this before and you deleted it but please dont this time i really need some answers and this is not a joke question (link)
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Hi Sweetie,
Been there... feeling chubby... yeah, I still think I'm chubby (because I am) although everyone else says I'm thin. I know how some thin girls say they are not thin and they really are... I'm not. I just "look" thin, which is completely different. I used to wear corsets underneath clothes. That would help you "look" thin. A tip for future clothes: wear black. It makes you look thin. I'm not telling you to wear like all-black and stuff. Just a black shirt everyonce in a while. And when you buy colorful clothes buy the loose type. A friend said wearing necklacess helps people seem thinner... you could try that too.
My best wishes! (p.s. If you try to loose weigh try not to diet by eatting less... diets don't work. What does work-and I know this from experience-is excersice. Go up and down stairs for half an hour for like three days a weak or something... take the stairs instead of the elevator... walk home instead of riding the bus... these are all ideas. I ate because of anxiety... if you eat a lot it may be that... and maybe you need to work on that). Take care! ~Blessed Be...
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